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Hello! I am studying esthetics at an Aveda Institute after spending years in retail. I am proof that nothing turns out how you think it will, and that's a good thing. When you think you've got it figured out, you don't. Life would be boring otherwise, right?
Makeup, skincare, and psychology are my passions and I'm also happy to give advice on relationships, particularly for teenagers (so many things I wish I could have told myself a decade ago!) I'm happy to help fellow abuse survivors as well.
I'm a diehard SF Giants fan and also enjoy watching the Sharks and Niners. Addicted to music, especially The Gaslight Anthem. Oh, and my name is Krista. :)

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Well um heres a photo of me im the one with the medium lenthg browin hair with the white head http://coookiieloove.piczo.com
band well I dont see my self as a pretty girl like others i look at the mirror adn want to break it to be honest i need help i want to know what will make me pretty what make-up honstly i just want to look at my self and say hey i look pretty today but i never do please help

That makes me sad. There are so many people out there who aren't pretty, and you are but you don't appreciate it. You have a great smile and pretty, sparkly eyes.

If you want to look better, have your eyebrows thinned, maybe a little natural blush and a sheer or clear lip gloss. You really don't need much...you're one of those people who has this natural beauty that will stay with you the rest of your life. Okay, that sounded cheesy but you know what i mean (i hope).

It sounds weird, but I always feel prettier when I've done full makeup.

Also try a different hairstyle...maybe with side bangs, but honestly you look great the way you are.

i'm going to a teen night at a club, and i don't know what to wear. where can i go shopping at the mall?

what stores should i go to?
HELP! i'm expecting to dance and make out with guys, so i need to look good

14/f

Wear comfy but cute jeans you can move in, and a cute top, maybe a halter, tubetop or corset-style. If you're tall, wear sandals. If you're not tall, wear a pair of cute (again, comfy) heels.

Try Charlotte Russe, Forever 21, Wet Seal, or Macy's.

Here's an example:
1 This shirt: http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=Casual+Tops&product%5Fid=2033792721&Page=all
These jeans: http://wetseal.com/productdetail.asp?mi=1100&size=&style=37386429&color=942&token=
These shoes:
http://wetseal.com/productdetail.asp?mi=1700&size=&style=37096083&color=400&token=

TOP IDEAS:
http://wetseal.com/productdetail.asp?mi=1000&size=&style=37556358&color=10&token=
http://wetseal.com/productdetail.asp?mi=1000&size=&style=37523879&color=10&token=
http://wetseal.com/productdetail.asp?mi=1000&style=37527013&size=&color=385&token=
http://wetseal.com/productdetail.asp?mi=1000&size=&style=37384913&color=10&token=
http://wetseal.com/productdetail.asp?mi=1000&size=&style=37365202&color=380&token=
http://wetseal.com/productdetail.asp?mi=1000&style=37329426&size=&color=400&token=
http://wetseal.com/productdetail.asp?mi=1000&size=&style=37142209&color=10&token=
http://wetseal.com/productdetail.asp?mi=1000&size=&style=37142209&color=10&token=
http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=Dressy+Tops&product%5Fid=2034843426&Page=all
http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=Dressy+Tops&product%5Fid=2034967266&Page=all#

If you're going to be wearing a top that shows your bra straps, wear a cute bra, please! No white or tan. Black is okay, but if you have something red or lacy, that's a lot cuter.

JEWELRY IDEAS:
http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=Jewelry&product%5Fid=1034537696&Page=all
http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=Jewelry&product%5Fid=1033427006&Page=all
http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=Jewelry&product%5Fid=1033427006&Page=all

Have fun!

What are your opinions on Gauchos (the pants) ?

For something like a family christmas event, they're cute with a sweater.

But most people look bad in them, and they're definitely on their way out.

Personally, I have a pair I use for dance practice and not much else.

okay, my boyfriend is in JROTC, and he invited me to the military ball, but i'm not really comfy wearing like the dressydresses you have to wear to go to those, im VERY modest, and also, hes shorter than me, so i wouldnt be able to wear heels, what should i wear? any ideas? i cant tell him i dont want to go because i dont want to dress up because he's really excited that i'm going and i couldnt do that to him. i need HELPPPPPPPP!

greattlyyy appriciatedddd

Okay, here's a website that should help you:
http://www.prompartydress.com/military-ball.html

I recommend going with a simple dress in a pretty color. Examples:
http://www.prompartydress.com/party-dresses/f3958vneckeveninggown-p-442.html
http://www.prompartydress.com/party-dresses/f3958vneckeveninggown-p-442.html
http://www.prompartydress.com/party-dresses/p4091promeveningdress-p-308.html
http://www.prompartydress.com/party-dresses/k5170promdress-p-301.html
http://www.prompartydress.com/party-dresses/k5155bridesmaidgown-p-325.html
http://www.prompartydress.com/party-dresses/bb7005eveningdress-p-271.html
http://www.prompartydress.com/party-dresses/y1045-aloha-party-dress-p-513.html
http://www.prompartydress.com/party-dresses/n271christmascocktaildress-p-464.html
http://www.prompartydress.com/party-dresses/k6039eveningdress-p-395.html

Try wearing a matching shawl or scarf or you feel too bare.

As for shoes, find a pair of NICE flats:
http://www.payless.com/Catalog/productdetail.aspx?ItemCode=55746&ProductColor=Bronze&Width=Regular&TLC=Girls&SLC=GirlsCasual&BLC=GirlsCasualCasual
http://www.payless.com/Catalog/ProductDetail.aspx?&TLC=Womens&SLC=WomensSandals&BLC=WomensSandalsTrendy&Width=Regular&ItemCode=55603&LotNumber=052572&Type=Adult&Popularity=25&DescriptiveColor=Bronze
http://www.payless.com/Catalog/productdetail.aspx?ItemCode=55575&ProductColor=Black&Width=Regular&TLC=Womens&SLC=WomensCasuals&BLC=WomensCasualsTrendy
http://www.payless.com/Catalog/productdetail.aspx?ItemCode=55870&ProductColor=Silver&Width=Regular&TLC=Girls&SLC=GirlsCasual&BLC=GirlsCasualCasual
http://www.payless.com/Catalog/ProductDetail.aspx?&TLC=Womens&SLC=WomensSpring&BLC=WomensPromoNatural&Width=Regular&DescriptiveColor=Gold/Satin&ItemCode=55814&LotNumber=053576&Type=Adult&cm_id=coloritemgraphic

Make sure if you get your hair done, it isn't on top of your head, and avoid short dresses, and you should be fine.

Have fun!

Oh, and by the way military balls are very dressy- no skirt-and-top outfits- so nice jeans are completely NOT acceptable.

Hee hee, sorry about the title =)
Anyway, my ipod froze today. It's one of those 5th generation ipods (it has 60GB, it's the one you can put movies in). It came with a booklet when we bought it but I kind of lost it (I'm responsible) sso I don't know what to do. I want to turn it off/restart it so the battery won't waste anymore. How can I turn it off/restart it? What am I supposed to press?
P.S. I tried pressing the play button for a long time but nothing happened =(
Thank you for your time.

Plug it in to your computer using the USB cord and left it there for a while. After a few hours see if it's working. If it's not working, call your local apple store and make an appointment to bring it in.

Good luck!

I dont know if I believe in a God anymore. It just doesnt seem real. How do I figure this out and stop being confused about it all. Also, my friends believe in God.... should I talk to them about it? Do you think they would be upset with me if I didnt believe in a God?

There's a difference between believing in the churchy, religious God and the spiritual God. Chances are you might be doubting the existence of all the "miracles"...everything jesus did, a lot of stuff in the bible. Keep in mind that's not what matters! If it doesn't make sense to you, you're not going to hell for disbelieving a little bit. You need to figure out it yourself and not be biased by your friends' opinions. What do you believe about ghosts, the spirit world, psychics, reincarnation, the afterlife? Do you believe in predetermined fate, the idea that everything is meant to be, or do you believe that you control your own life? That's the stuff you need to figure out. The thing about god is that he doesn't need you to believe in him...he already knows he exists. This is probably just a phase, but I wouldn't recommend seeking out your friends' advice. Chances are they will make ineffective arguments that will make you more confused. Don't worry about it, it's not something you need to decide right now. Give yourself a little time, and you'll figure out what you believe.

And just so you know, I'm not coming from a Christian background (i'm an atheist) so I'm not trying to convince you to go to church or whatnot. Whatever makes you happy is what you need to do.

ahh i heard this song yesterday and loved it but idk what it is. its a slow song and the beginning is like "hold on, hold on" and then a lil bit later it says "shine on". sry thats all i got but i only heard a very brief part of it!

That's "Shine On" by Jet, from their new album "Shine On". Next time, try typing it in the Itunes search box first though!

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Go screw yourself. It's pretty obvious no one else wants to, if you have nothing better to do than copy and paste codes all day long. I mean, come on, don't you have ANY friends? Even like chat-room friends? God, that's sad.

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Screw off. Seriously. Your links don't work, moron.

I Tunes Dics recordings not found when trying to burn a disc?????

EDIT****:
First of all a 1 is NOT NECCESSARY. Your question is spelled wrong with horrible grammar and it's almost impossible to read, and it's far too vague.
Now, if you had been more specific, here's the answer: Usually that means your computer does not have the capacity to burn disks. Many computers don't have a CD burner and the only thing you can do is buy one and have it installed, but that will cost a lot of money.
If you've previously burned disks on your computer, try using Windows Media Player and see if that works. If not, then you need to contact tech support for your computer brand (google it, for instance "windows xp home edition tech support").

To burn a disk on Itunes:
1. Make a playlist with the songs you want.
2. Check the little box to the left of each title.
3. Insert a blank disk.
4. Click the Burn Disk icon in the upper right hand corner.

If you mean importing a CD onto your computer, try using Windows Media Player instead.

is it normal and stuff nowadays for teens to drink and do drugs...
ages starting at 13-14?

Where I live (semi-small preppy rich town, it sucks), yes, starting about 8th/9th grade.

for my friend i wanted to buy a cell phone locator for his birthday...its and inside joke so i know its not an amazing present. anyway i was wondering where i can buy one. what i'm looking for is something that maybe you can attach something to your cell phone and then if you lose it you can push a button and your cell phone will make a noise so you can locate it.

i know that many house phones have this. where if you push a button your phone will start beeping so you can find it.

thanks =]

Okay, I agree with the two people below me, but if you insist it's available at sharper image:
http://www.sharperimage.com/us/en/catalog/product/sku__SI676FUN

It's the only kind that I know of.

does anyone know a website that teaches you show to do things. like it shows how to do ur makeup and hair and cooking and lots more... thanx

The best one I've found is www.ehow.com .

What is a laugh-out-loud funny (yet approiate) broadway type song for a girl to sing?

Thank you.

Popular- Wicked
Take Me Or Leave Me- Rent
Over The Moon- Rent

OK i need all of your opinions! i have to write a story, and i'm deciding between two plots. I need as many opinions as possible please! thanks
1. about a girl, 15 or so, her mother died when she was very young, over the summer she is in a store and meets a woman in her 30's, 40's, the woman tells her about a place up the mountain where she is landscaping this whole big beautiful garden like thing. The woman offers to teach her to garden in return for the girl helping out. they start to do that and become friend. All the while the younger girl is kind of seeing this woman as a mother figure even though the woman isn't doing anything motherly, they're just friends. In the end, she puts too much trust in the woman, and is disapointed because the woman like goes away without telling her or something else bad that she knows a "mother" wouldn't do. And it's basically about that, just how when people want something so badly they see things that aren't really there. She wanted a motherly so desperately that she clung to anyone and was let down.

2. a girl in ny city, her mother dies and she finds an adress of a family member(she doesn't know any of her relatives) they live down south so she goes there to find them. She finds out that her "mother" is actually her aunt her took her away when her mother went crazy. So it's about her learning about the south and meeting family and getting to know her mom.

which should i do? i'm better at descriptions than big exciting course of events. which one is more original and crative, and what should i do? does the first one seem like boring, like it's been done before and is too disney, cliche, boring?

PLEASE HELP ME DECIDE

I really want it to be well written

Okay, I LOVE the first one. It doesn't sound disney unless you put a happy ending on it. I am on my knees begging you not to make it a happy ending because that would ruin it.

The second one is a teensy bit cliche, I think it would work better as a children's book. (Like ages 8-13)

Dangit, now I'm all excited about reading the first book. If you have a chance, could you maybe email it to me when you're done? Unless of course you're planning on getting it published...then just tell me the title!

I'm looking for love songs that are specifically about long distance relationships or missing someone that's far away or that's working far away or anything like that. Any genre, any kind of music really, I would really appreciate it.

Thanks!

"Home" by Michael Buble
Lyrics:
Another summer day
Has come and gone away
In Paris and Rome
But I wanna go home
Mmmmmmmm

Maybe surrounded by
A million people I
Still feel all alone
I just wanna go home
Babe I miss you, you know

And I've been keeping all the letters that I wrote to you
Each one a line or two
I'm fine baby, how are you?
Well I would send them but I know that it's just not enough
My words were cold and flat
And you deserve more than that

Another aeroplane
Another sunny place
I'm lucky I know
But I wanna go home
Mmmm, I've got to go home

Let me go home
'Cause I'm just too far from where you are
I wanna come home

And I feel just like I'm living someone else's life
It's like I just stepped outside
When everything was going right
And I know just why you could not
Come along with me
That this is not your dream
But you always believed in me

Another winter day has come
And gone away
In even Paris and Rome
And I wanna go home
Let me go home

And I'm surrounded by
A million people I
Still feel all alone
Oh, let me go home
Oh, I miss you, you know

Let me go home
I've had my run
Baby, I'm done
I gotta go home
Let me go home
It will all be all right
I'll be home tonight
I'm coming back home
(Lyrics provided by azlyrics.com)

Here Without You- Three Doors Down
Lyrics:
A hundred days have made me older
since the last time that I saw your pretty face

A thousand lights had made me colder and I don’t think I can look at this the same

But all the miles had separate
They disappear now when I’m dreaming of your face

I’m here without you baby
but your still on my lonely mind
I think about you baby
and I dream about you all the time
I’m here without you baby
but your still with me in my dreams
And tonight it’s only you and me

The miles just keep rollin
as the people either way to say hello
I've heard this life is overrated
but I hope that it gets better as we go

I’m here without you baby
but your still on my lonely mind
I think about you baby
and I dream about you all the time
I’m here without you baby
but your still with me in my dreams
And tonight girl it’s only you and me

Everything I know,
and anywhere I go
it gets hard but it won’t take away my love
And when the last one falls,
when it’s all said and done
it get hard but it won’t take away my love

I’m here without you baby
but your still on my lonely mind
I think about you baby
and I dream about you all the time
I’m here without you baby
but your still with me in my dreams
And tonight girl it’s only you and me
(Lyrics provided by 007lyrics.com)

Don't Go Away- Oasis
Lyrics:
A Cold and frosty morning there's not a lot to say
About the things caught in my mind
As the day was dawning my plane flew away
With all the things caught in my mind
And I wanna be there when you're...
Coming down
And I wanna be there when you hit the ground
So don't go away say what you say
But say that you'll stay
Forever and a day...in the time of my life
Cos I need more time yes I need more time
Just to make things right
Damn my situation and the games I have to play
With all the things caught in my mind
Damn my education I can't find the words to say
About all the things caught in my mind
Me and you what's going on?
All we seem to know is how to show
The feelings that are wrong
(Lyrics provided by lyrics007.com)

Here is a long-distance relationship playlist:
http://www.fiql.com/playlists/long_distance_relationship_mix/
Scroll down and read the comments on that page, there are a few more suggestions.

what was the period in time when alcohol was illegal, like entirely. THIS IS NOT a homework question. we were just discussing it in class and i was just wondering if anyone knew when it was or anything about it. thank you.

Prohibition was in the 1920's. During this time bootlegging was very common and the drinking level actually went up.

sorr if it a little long but HELP!
AHHHHH! Okay my sister got an iPod nano and we listen to the same music so she just wanted to hook hers up to my computer. Well the ipod nano needs the new version of itunes so i was like okay ill download it. So now i just did and now i cant open it! When i do something comes up and says 'QucikTime version 7.0.4 is installed, itunes requires QuciTime version 7.1.3 or later
please reinstall itunes.'

What should i do!? where can i download QucikTime, will it give me viruses? If i re install it will i have loose all my music!?

I had the same exact problem. Chances are you may be clicking on the wrong Itunes icon- there are two now, make sure you're clicking on the one with the blue music note.
If that doesn't work, restart your computer and it should work fine.

Hello everyone. I am a first time flier and I am worried about the security check thing. We are flying with Southwest if that helps any. I know most of the rules and I've visted the TSA website but I'm still a bit confused.

1. Can I carry on a camera, my makeup, and my cellphone?

My main concern is make-up.

2. If I decide to put my make-up in my luggage (the luggage they throw around) and it goes through the scanner thing, and they see it, would they open my luggage, exposing my clothes and everything to take the make-up out?

3. If anything liquid or gel is in my luggage will they take it out?

4. If I dont want them to throw away anything or confinscate anything should I put it in my luggage?

5. I also read that the checked baggage screening can damage undeveloped film, does that include the memory card of a digital camera?

6. Also, what about purfume? That is flammable. Would they raid my luggage to retrieve that as well?

7. Could I pack an underwire bra in my luggage and they wont touch it?

Okay, don't worry about your regular luggage, you're allowed to bring liquids and gels in that. They will not raid it.
Camera and cellphone are fine but they must be off during the flight.
If you have liquids or gels in your carryon bag, including makeup:
- It must be in a container that is 3 ounces or less
- All of it must fit comfortably in a quart-sized ziplock bag. That's not the huge bags, they're shaped like
_
l l
_
Sorry that looks weird but what I mean is a tall rectangle. Not the freezer bags!

Don't stress about it. Make sure you push your carryon through the scanner before you go through the metal detector.

Have fun and bring something to do/read on the plane!

can i dye my blond hair with green koolaid and if so how do i do it?

My cousin Nicole had dark brown hair. She tried to die it red with red koolaid and it turned into this half-orange, half-purple, splotchy mess. She tried everything, including dye stripper and going to a salon, but it took FOUR YEARS to finally grow out.
Don't do it.
Go to Walmart, they have hair color and hair streak kits in all the colors of the rainbow.

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