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Okay here's the story, me and my bf have been together for over two years now and it's getting to the time where I need to decide on a college there this is one college that I was looking into because it had a an excellent animal sciences program but it isn't exactly close and I would have to live on campus. He told me that he couldn't handle me being far away and if I left that he would break up with me. Now there is a school closer to us that I could go to but then I'd have to pick a different major. So wait I am trying to figure out is should I go or should I stay?

Your situation is difficult, and you have a big decision to make. Its between your boy and your future. I would leave it at that, but I will say further. First of all, I dont mean to be offensive, but if you guys really had a good thing going on, and he really cared about you, he wouldn't mind you being far from him for your education. When someone cares about another it goes further than the present, but also the future. I understand how it would be hard for him to accept, but in the long run, whats going to do you better sweetie? I know its hard. I want to point out something - while you're relationship with him may not last - your degree/qualifications from college WILL last, infact I will go as far as saying they will secure your future if you plan on working hard enough at college. Follow your heart - whats more important to you? What do you want to study, and go in life with what you pick to study? If animal sciences is a passion for you, you shouldn't have to reconsider it...what if you regret it? Be strong, be smart, and follow your heart. Good luck.

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What are some quick and easy things to do to pass the week quicker? I have a huge event i am so exited about Saturday and i need to Pass up Thursday And Friday fast! What are some easy fun ideas? Let me know.. Anything I dont care games, websites, things to do in your room, im not pickey just times slowing down after a FAST week!!!

-Xo-Thanks-oX-

Well, what kind of person are you? What do you like to do? If it works for you, then buy a pin-board or something like it, find pictures of you and other things you like, your school schedule or whatever and just like anything, and stick them on the board and put it on your wall. It'll personalize the room more. If you've already done that, make a 'memory' box. Find an old shoebox, design the outside of it with pics [again, either of you, or celebrities and things you like] and on the inside, put things in it. More pictures, or after each party, date, school event, or somethign you want to remember, put something you got from there in the box. Also, save notes from people and cards and stuff. Hehe. Call people, that sure does blow a lot of time. Re-organise your room. Read a book. Good luck, and I hope your event goes well.

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Is there a limit on the amount of keywords one should put in each ad?
Is it best to put ALL your keywords into one ad or do many ads with different categories of related keywords in them?
Advice on maximising CTR on campaigns?
Thanks

We covered Ads in a school course this year, and we learned that you should try and make something that entices people by making some sort of promise or encouraging something good, inspiring good action, etc. Duh xD, I think you know that, though. But we also learned that too many words isn't good, because the first thing the eye is attracted to is pictures, not words. Catch my drift? So more picture, less word. It also depends WHAT you're advertising. We had to make fake ads and I made a charm bracelet ad, and the only words I had were 'Keep memories close', then under that the product name/company/ie [thats very important, make it stand out], and then right under that, a little catch phrase: Do it in style. It was simple, but eye catching. I could go on and on about Ads and how they work and what they do and what each and every thing on the Ad could trigger in the human mind and all the stuff and yeah, but I think I've bored you dead already. Heh. But if there is anything you want to know, feel free to ask me. Good luck.

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Ok so I'm in 8th grade and there is this 7th grader at my school who has a HUGE CRUSH on me. He's also extremely sweet and the nicest person to me and always wants a hug everytime i see him. He rates a day as good or bad by if he talked to me that day, then it's a good day. But it's starting to get annoying hugging him all the time. But if I tell him this he would be totally crushed. How do I tell him we need to hug eachother less? THANKS!!

I think hugs are special. So tell him that his hugs are special to you, and that thats why he should save them for special occasions and such, that way it means more to you, and so it wont start getting less special when he hugs you everyday. Its nice that you care about his feelings, its really sweet of you. Good luck.

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Me and boyfriend have been going out for 5 months and 17 days. I guarantee im in love with him and hes the ONE. Im only 13 (goin on 14) but i honestly love him. The only problem is... my parents. They think im too young to be in love and everybody else says that too! Its sooo annoying and just wish they knew how me AND my boyfriend felt about each other. Thanks bunches...

I hate to have to repeat what everyone else has said - but you're not truly in love until you're fully grown up, fully experienced things enough to know what you're talking about. At thirteen, you have your whole life ahead of you...you have at least thirty years to go before you get old. You have ten to be mature enough to say I'm in love. At thirteen, there's these measly things called horemones that control you - yet you think its your heart. ALL teenagers in a relationship say 'he's the one' and 'I cant move on without him', but what IS the ONE to you? What is love? Whats he to you? What do you guys have thats gonna make it last forever? Does he feel the same? and five months is nothing, thats really short. Sorry to put you down, but come back to me in four years or five and then you can say he's the one. You'll probably mature enough by then to know what love really is. And when I say that I mean what is it when you feel 'love' for someone? People confuse dependency, friendship and love all the time. So while you're in a relationship enjoy it I guess, but dont get hung up on it.

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Okay, there's this girl who is supposed to be my friend. Well, let's say she doesn't act like it. She calls me "idiot", "fool", and a bunch of other names. She's also (according to the guy I used to like) asked the guy I liked out, and I trust the guy I liked because I've known him for a while. She knew that I liked him. She also tries to make me look stupid and bad, because we're on the same sports team, and she'll throw the ball in a weird way and I can't catch it, then she'll say "What an idiot!" or something like that. I'm sick of it. Should I just stop being friends with her, and if so, how?

Thank you so much in advance. I'm sorry it's so long.

This girl is insecure, and taking out her insecurity on you, since you're her close friend. Making you look bad infront of others makes her feel good about herself. I think you should stop talking to her, hard as it may be, because you are BETTER OFF WITHOUT her aroudn to put you down. Friends raise one another's spirits and their role is to be there for you and never disrespect you, and this one is going beyond breaking what a good friend is. Anyone with an attitude like hers does not DESERVE friends - why should you put up with her shit? Either tell her to set her standards right, or walk away for the best. Good luck.

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I cheered competativly for 5 years, I don't like cheerleading anymore so I refused to tryout for my middle school squad. My mom and I battled for 2 weeks about this, but I won and its to late now to turn in the forms. Now no one will talk to me in my family, and if they do its some sarcastic or mean remark to make me feel stupid. Sorry for the length but i need help, i dread goin home after school everyday now!! Plz help, I'll rate high :)

You should tell you're family that they need to live in their life - not yours. You have the right to make your own decisions, to make up your own mind about what you want and dont want and what you like and what you dont like. In the end, everything you do should be something that you feel you're doing for yourself and not others. Tell your mom, and your family, that you understand that they feel like you could have went somewhere with cheerleading, but that if they cant accept your decisions then they are being selfish in a way. Ask them what the hell it has to do with them anyway. I'm serious, you shouldn't even care about it if thats the way they're going to act. Good luck.

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I really really like this guy named Brian. He's so great and we've been good friends, since 2nd grade. He told me he likes me, but he just wants a break. We danced and hung out at a dance last month, and we had a great time. We started dating then, and we just broke up the other day, because he said he thought of me more as a sister figure and not a girlfriend. I'm totally beat up over the situation, and I'm really not sure what to do. He tells me that he wants to have sex with me (which i wouldn't do, and i think he's joking) he calls me pretty all the time, and tells me he loves me. =( What should I tell him?

I think that this guy is a bullshitter having fun. The only positive thing I see in him is that he see's you as a sister - thats really saying something there, it means you guys can be good friends. But if he keeps on saying things that someone in a relationship would say, then you need to talk to him and ask him what his deal is. Tell him he is confusing him and yu would like to know where the hell you stand with him. I feel lke you still want to be friends with him, so do that, but if he keeps acting weird then its not worth all the trouble in the end, is it?

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I have a major problem with giving speeches in front of the class. This week I am the only one left to do my speech, but I don't thick I can. I start to shake, and I can't talk right. I've tried looking over people's heads but it doesnt work. What can I do to get rid of this fear?

If you know what you're talking about, you should have no problem at all. I shake too, but my voice doesn't. Its all in how you convince yourself to go about it. Dont read too fast, calm your nerves. This is like, what, five minutes of your life? Tell yourself that they've all done it too, and it'll be over soon. Smile, and try to make it interesting by using a colorful tone. Look around the class as you talk, at your classmates, and try not to laugh. See the reason you're nervous is because they're all looking at you, well why not see it this way: They're looking at me, so while I have their attention and a grade to ace, I will make the best of my time to try to achieve the task at hand and do a good job by being informative.

It gives off a sense of responsibility. Good luck!

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There is this girl named Rachel. When we first met, 5 years ago, I couldn't stand her. But I was her friend because my friends really liked her and wanted us all to get along. Well two years ago I mentioned something about not liking our principal (I have good reason too)and she just exploded at me. She started screaming, "Hannah! You don't need to judge people like that! Judgment is 1 of the 7 unforgivable sins. If you don't stop being evil your going to hell!" Well I got mad and yelled back that she was an idiot and some other stuff *cough*. Well that was two years ago and we resolved our issues, darn those stupid friends of mine, and tried to become friends again. Well now out of no where she has been bad mouthing me and my mother, shooting me hateful glares, make rude comments right in front of me, and declaring that my mother is unfit to teach. Its very annoying so I sent her an email telling her to just leave me alone and be done with it, but she won't stop! How can I make her leave me alone.

Damn you've got a bitch there haven't you? Well, you seem like someone whose not afraid to speak their mind and defend themselve, so walk up to the bitch and ask her to stop. And for God's sake dont make it a circus show just take her aside and tell her that what she is doing is uncalled for and that she, biblehugger and all, is comitting a basic sin. Tell her to back the hell off and shut her mouth. If she doesn't stop - its time to bring out the guns, sister. Do the same to her, or openly tell her that she can take her evilness and childish comments and shove them up her annoying ass! There. Damn she made ME angry >.>. Good luck with it!

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HOW do i become more outgoing?! I want to get more friends and be funny,instead of a shy good girl!! can anyone help? thnx!

Hm. It might be hard at first, but you have to try and be easy to talk to, and have an open mind. Talk to EVERYONE. And then - be the one who starts things. Like weekend activities. Maybe you could invite people to your house before going out, or plan a trip to the pool or something. If you're the one with the details, people will ask you then right? Having a good sense of humour comes with being confident, so if you believe in yoourself and accept everyone as they are you should be fine. And try not to leave people out if you can.

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Ok...
I am 13 years old and i look 17
boys like my body i hate it
i dress like a guy and guys (i talk to) think its hott


am i weird or what?

Yeah. Aren't you like so weird? If you were fishing for compliments, or an agreement, or to just show off about it, you're gonna get what you want.

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WELL I have sex quite often without protection to my fiance and i think i may be pregnant.....or had a miscarrige!
i have been getting really bad cramps in the morning and diarrea as well....my period is not expected till the 7th of the month(sept) and i got it in august so it would have had to been this month it happened! i went to the bathroom yesterday and i started bleeding i thought it was my period so i acted like it was however i only BLED a little and then it stopped . its only the 23 so thats like 2 weeks early!
could i be pregnant or could the cramps be a misscarrige??
PLEASE HELP THANKS!

Well, I think you should go to a doctor and get that checked, that is the only way you can find out for sure. And if you don't want to, buy a pregnancy test. But I think you should go to a doctor.

If it turns out that yer pregnant...congratulations to you and your fiance in advance!

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I have all different kinds of friends in such, but i hang out with 2 of them more. Im not a girly girl( and im not a lesbian) i hate wearing skirts and dresses and i really dont lyk really preppy people tha wear houchie skirts and a half a shirt, but maybe tha's juss some of the girls that go to my school. I just don't understand why people wear that stuff when you know its unconfortable. Why wear high heels to school them you could be confortable. THey only dress like that to get guys attention. I don't like cheerleaders either they annoy me. I'm kinda skater and like to do things that girls normally don't do or arent that good at. Me n my best friend r crazy at those kinda things and fit in real easily with the guy crowd. Every place that i go i always get mean looks from preppy girls cuz i don't dress lyk a brittany spears wannabe. Why do you think people corner me cuz im skater and not a barbie doll?

The first thing you should stop doing is labelling people. Are you a soup can? I don't think you are. Labels are for soup cans. Now after you forget labelling people barbies, preps, and skaters, you will hopefully remeber that everybody is an individual. I don't dress in skimpy clothes either. But my best friend does, and she is so far from girly. If you're nice to everyone, then they'll be nice to you too. Start being nice to EVERYONE. And don't label people. Be confident, and be nice to all, and whoever isn't nice back, well tough shit for them. And some of those girls might dislike you because you get to hangout with guys more, so if you want, you can maybe invite the preppy or whatever girls to hang out with you and your guy friends and your best friend. Or just start being nice to them. Say hi in the halls, or just smile when they make a rude comment. Be the bigger person! I respect how you say you don't like dressing like a houchie, and I understand how you feel about getting mean looks. You say you don't understand why some girls dress like that, well its because that THEY find that kind of outfit comfortable, or just because a lot of girls like to dress like that for girl power or whatever and to get guys attention. Like it or not, most girls first priorities are guys. Which is pretty sad sometimes. But you stay strong, dress how you like, and just ignore those girls or smile at them and wave when their mean to you!

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ok well i'm going back to school from my summer break soon and I want to wipe out my old reputation and make a big impression. What's the best way I can seem confrident and make lots of new friends?

If your old reputation included hanging out with friends you dont want anymore, and doing bad/things you dont want to do anymore, and dressing in one style or hanging out with one type of people, then do the complete opposite. Get yourself a new look maybe, don't ditch your old friends, but hang with them less, and walk up to people you know but never really used to hang out with and make friends. Seeming confident isn't about being mean or pretty as the media makes it out to be, but its about being nice to EVERYONE, and talking to everyone, and not making yourself seem superior to others. You can change the way you used to treat people, even if they reject you at first, try again. You shouldn't give a shit what people say about you if they dont like the new way you got things going on, its your life in the end and what you like is what is important. Making friends comes in many ways. Sit next to different people in class, and at lunch. Be nice to new people. Talk and hang out with people you usually just used to exchange pleasantries with. Join clubs, sports team, and being on student council, year book committee and stuff like that is also fun and works lots of opportunities to meet people. Good luck and I hope you get what you want in the end!

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Me and my friend really want to get fit, is there any good dances that keep you toned?

Aerobics [spelling of that I'm not sure] works wonders. And you could also buy work out aerobic video tapes. Those are fun for a group to do together. But be careful, and dont stress yourself out.

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i'm going into highschool as a freshman and for a couple of years now i haven't been doing that good in school. i used to be an honor student and then i got hit with depression really bad and my grades fell to C's D's and F's and i always had A's and B's. I've been struggling since last year to get my grades up because i want so badly to become a doctor and i can't get my grades up. my delema is that if i keep struggling i want to hire a tutor for myself. normally i don't care what people think about me but i'm not sure what people would say if they found out that i had a tutor. i don't want to feel stupid. what should i do to make myself feel better about this?

Hey, you should't give a rats ass what people say! Is caring what they think for however long it is your gonna have a tutor worth a lifetime of regret because some ignorant teased you? I hope not. Its wonderful to hear you want to be a doctor! You see, I think just encouraging yourself, and telling yourself that you can do it will take you there. Look inside yourself and see just how much you can see yourself leading a succesful life. Tell yourself that in the end, only you can convince yourself that it works for your benefit. Even if anyone teases you and makes you feel stupid, its not worth not becoming a doctor because of a couple of remarks from people who will most likely be serving your coffee later in life! I really, really hope you hang in there, and be determined that you can do it, because its worth it. You know you can, just see how badly you want it. Compare having a job at McDonalds for a living, or being a doctor? Some people wouldn't choose the latter...but since you do...go for it, for for it and make the best of your life in the future!

Good luck, stay strong! If ya need anything, drop me a line =).

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what are some jobs you can get that are good paying without going to college?

Don't not go to college. Its simple. There are so many reasons to do that. And I think you could be a secretary or a pet watcher, and if thats not for you, its McDonalds. Its not degrading, but do you really want to live on tight money? Think of it this way - a degree works wonders. If your planning on living without much spending and just little things and all that, then don't get a degree....but it does work for your benefit in the end. You know, my best friends mother didn't finish college. And then she got a divorce from her husband, and she had to move back in with her parents. She's 35. And she's miserable. But, if you had a degree, you would have a well-paying job, and you can be assured that you won't have that much trouble finding a job. Its for your benefit. Is skipping four years of studying worth a life time of regret? I would hope not.

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I'm 16, and my dad still treats me like I'm a "little girl". My mom and I, we get along so well, because she treats me like a young adult, but my father raises hell whenever I ask him to do ANYTHING. We see a family psycologist, and not even that helps. He's just so effing stubborn. I tell him allll the time " dad I'm not a little girl anymore", but it just doesn't get through to him. I know he's going through this "phase", but isn't over 3 years a little much? I am an only child, and a model, and I know he hates to see me take pictures and wear clothes that expose my stomach and it's just a lot to take. He tells me I have no future because I failed one year of math with exelent effort, and that I'll never make it. He puts me down and makes me feel so effing shitty. It's like he wants my respect, but he doesn't give it back. Any advice at all pllease.

thank you

I have the same problem with my own dad. He thinks I'm still innocent and know nothing. But what you need to do is fight for your rights. Actually go a little over the edge to show him that you're not little anymore. Whatever it takes. Because it just takes that much to crack some people at times. But don't you ever throw a tantrum and start crying. That is not mature. And you are trying to prove that you ARE mature.

But there is positive things to your dad. You say that he knows your a model and studd. If he really was that all over protective about you, he wouldn't have let you become a model, or to make things less severe maybe gave you hassle about it more than he does.

What you need to do is sit down with your dad and explain to him that you are going to make it, and that if he respects and believesin you he'll support your decisions in life and know that you'll make it. Tell him putting you down does not help. Tell him that you make an effort, and that should be good enough for him.

I think you are just fine right where you are at this point in your life. But now you need your dad to start thinking that.

Good luck, my best wishes. If you need anything, just ask =].

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Hey! And thanks ahead of time ^_^ Might as well get the usual stuff out. I'm an 18 year old female from Chicagoland and I have a boyfriend (*gasp shock*) named Marc who is 21.

Marc and I met about 3 years ago online, and even though we lived rather close, we didn't meet up until June of last year. We started dating theoretically (meaning we were open to each other about having feelings for each other, but were both in relationships) in January of this year, and officially dating in March. We've been together since then, have never had a single serious fight. In addition to being each other's lovers, we're also best friends.

We've never had any problems to date, though we both knew in August, I was going off to college about 5-6 hours away, and he was spending a semester in... Japan. We both knew it was going to be hard, but that we loved each other enough so that it would not be a problem.

The night before both of us left, we talked about *dundundun* our future together, namely, marriage. We both agreed that we are definagtely not ready for marriage, but would like to establish SOME kind of future.

When Marc gets back from Japan in December, he goes back to his own college (all the way ibn Minnesota T_T), but after that, he graduates in May. He has plans to go to Grad School, but wants to save up some money first, so he was planning on taking off school for a couple years and work to save. To make a long story short, we decided upon him moving down here to where I go to college and getting an apartment that both of us can pay rent on and live together.

Now here is where the advice comes in. Marc and I truly believe thsi is the right thing to do. We've lived together before (in his house at college for a couple weeks in April of this year, and on and off throughout the summer), so we know each other's quirks and that we're compatible and whatnot. We both love and trust each other enough. BUT, I would really appareciate an outsider's opinion of things.

Also, although my parents met and love Marc, I don't know how they'd feel about me living with him, and I'm pretty much deathly afraid to bring it up to them. Any ideas on how to do this to make it easier?

Sorry this is so long, and thank you again!

I think its great how both of you have your lives well planned out, and its good to hear you have such a good relationship. =). Hope it lasts. But on to your question. You say that both of you are ready and have made up your minds and trust each other and knoq quirks and whatnot, which is definitely a plus...duh. And I hope that if you two ever have a serious arguement it doesn't lead to someone getting asked to leave the apartment.

Just had to say that for some reason. But moving on, when you tell your parents, maybe you should have Marc around too. Tell them that both of you are mature adults and you've thought this out well. Explain to them and tell them how much you trust each other. And besides, you say that they love Marc, so I think that that will help things a lot.

Well, good luck and I hope things continue to work well for you!

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