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Im young, so I haven't experienced everything yet, but I'll try to help.
I am 18 years old, studying A levels in sixth form. I've watched all the dramas of school and family life happen around me though.

People say I think sideways... so if you don't mind that ask away.

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my boyfriend told me he cuts and i dont know how im saposed to act. should i act like it doesnt bother me or should i do somthing else?im a 12 yr old girl and i am so confused!

Act worried OBVIOUSLY! Tell him to stop it- ask him why he does it. It is not healthy and it is SO not how to get some attention. Its often seen as a way of directing pain elsewhere.
Comfort him for whatever he's going through- help him to stop.

OTHERWISE
If he's just cutting for the sake of it (I knew someone who did that. no joke. Only little cuts tho so it was kinda stupid.) ditch him and don't waste your valuable time on a drama queen!

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100 talent of silver is worth how many in todays us dallors

http://wiki.answers.com/Q/How_much_is_a_talent_of_silver_worth_in_dollars#slide=2&article=How_much_is_a_talent_of_silver_worth_in_dollars


1 silver talent = $10,760
100 silver talents = $107,600

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I got taken to a link to a website that had a "[number] cams unlocked" thing. Well I researched more about it and I guess it's a scam thing where it unlocks your PC camera? Well here's the thing.. I was on mobile. Did it still unlock my camera? I'm scared that it did. Help ASAP please

I had something like this and yes if it is unlocking your camera without your permission it is a scam. I'm no tech expert, so maybe google it more for further information. My only recommendation is put some duct tape or something over the camera- my scam took a picture of my sister who was watching a music video at the time and accused her of watching porn! Pretty weird. The site wouldn't go away at all and I had to reboot my computer. I also read about a girl who was being watched through her webcam- sooo watch out. That kind of sneaky hacking skills are out there.

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So, my younger sister (She's only eleven years old so she can't have an account) is writing a fictional book, but can't decide on a conflict. The story takes place in a magical land in the sky (it's on Earth but nobody can see it because they use magic to hide it), similar to OurWorld if you've ever played that game. The main character is a girl named Sky, who is about ten years old. Anyway, I think it's a great idea, but she just can't come up with a problem or conflict for the story. Any ideas? Thanks.

Okayyyy just gunna brainstorm quickly;

The magical land in the sky gets threatened by our world on the ground because they have some magical powers up there we don't? How is the girl involved?

Maybe they've never seen a plane before and it comes flying through the world destroying houses because the pilot cant see it through the magic? They tried to make sure it wasn't in the way of planes, but sometimes...

Maybe Sky meets some bad people and follows the wrong crowd who use magic for bad?

Something precious to Sky gets stolen. She searches the whole of the magical world for it, meets various people who give her clues/help on the journey ... and she learns some dark secrets about this land on the way.

Maybe there's some FORBIDDEN LOVE- amongst two sides at war- between someone on Land and someone in the air. (like in Romeo and Juliet?!) Maybe Sky is their messenger (like in The GoBetween)

Maybe ALL of the above in one epic novel?

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I am really hoping to encompass the whole pinup glam look! I think it is beautiful, lady like and mysterious. I am looking for simple hair & makeup how to's & websites with apparel but I haven't had much luck.

Please & thank you :)

Aaaaah its amazing ikr!
This chick, is the bomb:

http://www.youtube.com/user/Thecherrydollface

Watch watch watch

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I have been practicing a few monologues I found online. But every time I do, I consider more and more what it would be like to actually audition. I have no idea what to expect. I guess this question is for anyone who has auditioned maybe? I know Bella Thorne uses this website so hopefully you'll see this, Bella. What should I expect other than 10 pairs of eyes on me, watching my every move, and then taking pictures of me? I know they ask for a specific type, or they let me do whatever. How can I mentally prepare myself for that pressure? Thank you to anyone who answers. I'm 16/f.

Nobody is really sure exactly what casting directors are looking for when they are looking for actresses! Sometimes they have something exact in mind, or sometimes an auditionee can change their mind by doing something that works with the part.
The only way you can mentally prepare yourself is to practice to perfection to minimize the stress. Be polite, show off your talent and best features. When they take pictures do exactly as they say- if not, just smile- not to much though so your eyes are closed.

If they ask you to redo your speech in a certain way, do it. They want to know if you can take direction, and maybe youre giving them an idea.

Go to plenty of auditions- that's the best way to become an actress. Audition for everything! Including drama schools! Anything is a good start.

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Alright so i live in Pakistan and i am 15 years old. I like a guy in my academy in my class it's been since 3 months i guess...
He always used to you know stare me and tease me....and help me in any way he can. He is like this only with me...(he liked me but didnt made it obvious) the point is that because of asian culture we cannot be friends..my parents dont mind that i will be friends with boys but they dont know him and they dont trust him (so you can see it is hard for me to explain them everything)
Okay so the main point comes here one day i was going he stopped me near the staircase ALONE !!
And asked me that can we be friends ??? Alright he is my crush i wanted to be his frnd but i was queit and shocked...he went from there without saying anything.
I told my sis about it and she told my mom -.-
She was angry but didnt said anything.. Then what hppnd is my mom went to my teachers and told them all the situation (she didnt tell them his name) so you see everything got worse....
He knew his compalin came etc but he was normal with me like before.....and now since 3 days he is totally IGNORING me out...(he told everyone his father is coming to the academy to check his progress so he was little tense about it too though he didnt came maybe he is like his father is coming so my teachers wont complain about him) he stares me but he ignores me and it really kills me...shud i talk to him that we can be good class fellows and sorry for what happened the past whole week or i should just let him ignore me :(.....(keep in mind we both are under observation by everyone)
I dont know he was normal after what all happened and i was too we both were going fine but idk what happaned with him...so what shud i do ?? Write him a letter talk to him and explain things or just let it go (but i feel sorry for him)
P.S his cousin who is in my class was staring me today and helped me twice with my work (he never did that before) and was smiling like an idiott.....is it connected something with my crush ??? :/ because today my crush was ignoring me but his cousin was staring me and smiling at me and helping me with my work.......but before my crush used to do this...(my crush was staring me today but as i mentioned above IGNORED me)
Kindly tell me what to say to my crush..shud i explain things to him or not ? ( i feel sad for him and miss theway he used to rease me and all :( )

I don't know about Asian culture and not being friends with boys but.... nah. In this day and age, its perfectly acceptable (at least in the west) for a girl your age to be friends with a guy! Esspecially if you like him.

Explain to him everything you've explained here and ask him if its alright and then maybe you can start a friendship. It'll be okay. Perhaps try to explain the situation to your mom and that being friends with a boy doesn't equate to... well... more than that!
(maaaaybe leave out the bit about how he's your crush)

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So my period came on September 5th. I had sex with guy #1 my ex boyfriend on September 14th but he DID NOT ejaculate in me, and we've been dating for some time. And has been having unprotected sex, and I have not gotten pregnant. I had sex with guy #2 which is my new boyfriend on September 17th and he DID ejaculate in me, and that was the only time. I went to the doctors and they said the day I conceived was September 19th and I'm expected to have my baby June 12. 2014. Which one is the father? Need help please!!!

Its probably guy #2.

He did ejaculate in you, and it was closest to the time you conceived, which is two days later.

Sperm can survive in the womb for about 3-4 days (I think) so yeah. September 19th, it actually found an egg, so to speak.
Guy #2

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I feel like I'm growing up and I'm going through a transition in which my values are changing. I'm starting to feel extremely distant from my friends who I once loved dearly, especially my best friend who is in the process of taking on a new boyfriend. These friends who 4 months ago made my entire life a joy now make me extremely angry and frustrated to the point in which I can't be around them because it gives me too much anxiety ESPECIALLY when alcohol is involved. I spend a lot of time alone but when the couple things I rely on besides people fail me, like music, my world falls apart. I also had a recent death in my family of someone I was very close with. Being away at college has been something I could rely on to escape the anxiety I feel about this family situation but right now I feel like there is nothing to make me feel better. I'm drifting away from my friends and I feel like a failure at life. Right this second I feel like I have nothing. It's not just my close friends that give me anxiety but people in general. When I get upset it surfaces as anger, frustration, and anxiety, probably making me an unpleasant person to be around. What should I do about all of this?

Firstly, Everybody changes, its just a fact of life.
You may not be changing so much as to be actually different- I mean, you may be still grieving over the death, thus affecting your music, and people aren't coming through for your at this difficult time, thus making you feel bad.

I suggest you find something to do with your life- something new! Like a sport or join some kind of group where you can potentially have something new to focus on, as well as make new friends.
But don't just forget your old friends altogether; having a tough time now and again is a natural part of life. Soon enough, things will start looking up im sure. just keep going!

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I am a high school senior counselor and at the end of the month, I will be leaving to another school. I want to make a mix CD for my students that was inspirational for them. Does anyone know any good songs that I can add to their mix CD? Acoustic songs preferred but anything is worth checking out. We talked about a lot about being aware, being themselves, bad relationships, family, growing up to be who they want to be...so any of those themes are also welcomed.

Thank you.

Dunno about acoustics but these are good songs that have these themes:

"All Star" by Smashmouth

"Never tear us apart" by Paloma Faith (originally by inxs)

"Now" by Paramore

"Feeling Good" by Muse or Shirley Bassey

"Just the way you are" by Bruno Mars

"Bad Reputation" by Joan Jett

"Survivor" By Destinys Child

"Coming Home" by P Diddy

"A little Party never killed nobody" By Fergie and Goon Rock

"High School Never Ends" by Bowling for Soup

"Lose yourself" by Eminem

and if nothing else:
"Smiley Faces" by Gnarls Barkley. That is such an upbeat song!

Good luck!

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I'm failing math for the year with about a 50 average. Its about a third into the marking period. Our grading system is 64=fail. Only me and a couple of other kids are doing this bad. The other kids don't care if they fail. I'm in 7th grade and CAN NOT go to summer school. I feel really stupid asking for help with something so simple. I don't think its fair that they put me in a smart class when I cant keep up. If I switch classes then do you think I could pass? I always do the homework I just fail the tests.

Hunny, youre in 7th grade. Its not the end of the world yet! You've got plenty of time, and sorry to bring bad news but Math only gets harder.

I dont know much about American education, but is there any kind of final, end of year exam?

In England, many people fail the monthly, end of topic-tests and have to redo them or get bad grades on their report. Then, for the End of Year exam - GCSE, A Level or even just year 7 (7th/8th graders)- they go away, work hard and surprise everyone (I was one of those folks. Predicted a C, got an A. Yeaaaaaah boooooyyyy!)

If not, get those extra marks, just spend a little longer revising, and dont be afraid to ask for extra help outside of class. Its actually better to start now than to wait for the end, so forget what I said above, really. In addition to homework, you must revise the things you aren't sure of, don't redo what you already know! Practice questions and do at least an hours revision before testing yourself too. If you're really struggling to keep up, ask to switch classes, but to be honest, gaining that extra 15 to pass shouldn't take too much, just a bit more effort.

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I don't know what to get my dad for christmas . This is what he likes . He likes the georgiabulldogs duck dynasty and to read and to watch movies

Its obvious! A new book, or film, related to the things he likes.
If not, do you have any kind of in-joke with him? Any memorable past experiences etc etc? Find a present related to that.

For example, One of my friends always joked that she needed windscreen wipers on her glasses in the rain. It was a long time ago, but recently we got her just those- off of ebay, for not much money! It bought back some fun memories, and was a well received birthday gift.

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My boyfriend paul has been acting very mean to me lately, one minute he is snapping at me telling me to go away and the next he is being the sweetest person on earth to me. Some of my friends are saying I should dump him but my best friend is saying that he really loves me and I should try to work it out with him. I really don't know what to do so some advice would be great!

Before doing anything hasty, do what your best friend says. Talk to him! Tell him he's being such a dick when he is-- it may not be your fault. Maybe there's something going on in his life under the surface that can change his mood very quickly. Tell him not to take it out on you! Give him a chance to explain or change; everyone has bad moments in their life, and Humanity cant be expected to be sweet all the time.

Or perhaps that's just Paul. Maybe he has this quickly alternating personality and you're just beginning to notice- You didn't say how long you've been together.

Whatever happens, just bring it up. You may be able to help if its something that is annoying him lately. Or, If he doesn't ever change and his snappyness gets too bad, and his sweetness doesn't match up to it, then you can look to your friends and ditch him.

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I'm currently doing research on how England developed into a nation-state. Soon enough I will have to write a paper on this from the Roman Era to 18th century. However, I would have pegged religion as a key factor to the way in Which England developed, however, I have found out that this can not be a 'claim' in my paper.

I was wondering if anyone who knows about the development of England as a nation-state would be able to give me a little nudge in the right direction: What made England develop the way it did/differ from other European countries at the time? I'm totally lost..

England! Im from there! I don't know what you exactly mean by nation-state, but what made us different from Europe? I learned some key events in year 8 history that might help you:

Firstly; In 15-something or other (Look this up) King Henry 8th could not divorce his wife. So, he broke away from Rome. He left the catholic religion and set up the Church of England! It severed us from Europe HOW IS THAT NOT A KEY FACTOR? Argue it!

Also look up the Tudors vs York

We differ from Europe as a nation state because we have "Countries within a country" Our country is the United Kingdom, or Britain, made up of England, Scotland, Wales and Northern Ireland. Before the Romans came to sort of unite us, each corner had its own customs and religions - Scotland had different royalty for a long time too- such as Celtics, Druids, Heathenism and Wicca. Vikings invaded before, bringing Nordic religions too.
Our language is made up of mainly German and other European invaders words. Particularly Anglo Saxon. It is such a varied Language, which has no structure, like German or French.
We don't have the Euro either, currency is the pound.
Don't forget too- there is a national identity- "Englishness" which is kind of like: Saying sorry to the person who ran into you, for example. All 4 countries do that kind of thing.

As part of the *industrial revolution*
(key word to look further into here I think?)
he Victorians expanded the UK into an empire- including Australia, India, Hong Kong and I think Canada at some point.
http://www.sparknotes.com/us-government-and-politics/political-science/nations-and-states/section2.rhtml

Hope that kind of helps give some background info?

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Hi I'm in high school and I want to be a boxer with all my heart. My mom isn't too fond of the idea and neither is my dad but he said he will support me. I do have a punching bag but I don't have any boxing gloves but I might be getting some for Christmas. I'm not very strong but I am tough and I'm willing to work. I've watch Muhammad Ali and man I think how amazing it must feel to be a legend and I know it will be lots of work but I think I can handle it and I just need some ideas on how to become an amazing boxer..like workout routine? Diet? Attitude? Hygiene? Thanks in advance..and advice is much appreciated. (:

I cant help you with the perfections of diet and routine of being a boxer but
DO IT!
GIRRRRRL POWAAAA YEAAAH!
Prove to your parents it was a good thing- even if it does mean you lose a tooth from some bitch in the ring. Best attitude to have is to pick yourself up after a loss and go straight back in for the attack to win!

Eat loads of protein- and do exercise to keep muscles lean and strong.
The legend goes that most boxers train by skipping, to keep them quick on their feet.
Join a club for more information, or of course, google it!

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my mother is going to jail for six months for forgery related charges. I am handling the situation fine because she will be back and her visit to jail might make her go easier on me now. Even though it is only six months, My dad asked if I want to visit her sometime because he said she would appreciate a visit and it could be interesting and an "educational experience" (What does that mean?)




also, my dad said I still have to listen to my mother when she gets out. I don't understand how he can do this. I mean like I said I don't hate my mom or anything and had a good relationship with her but now that she is a criminal, her telling what to do might be hypocritical




I have no problem with my mother and other than this misdeed she was a good mother but I don't know if I should subject myself to go into a jail just to see her for a while. Does anyone know what it is like there and how the visiting works? I am a 14 year old girl by the way. Also, what can we talk about in the short time we probably have? Also is it really going to be that bad for her in there, I mean she has six months of not having to worry about anything.



Ah sorry for not answering sooner! >didn't check this site for ages soooo sorry< But if you haven't resolved this yet here is my answer:

Firstly: an educational experience is an experience in life that teaches you things that you couldn't learn from being told or reading about it.

Your mother can tell you what to do with some things. She is only there for six months for forgery, not 40 years for murder. So don't take her advice when it comes to something similar to the crime she did... unless of course, she's made that mistake now and obviously learnt from it. Give her a second chance.
Yes you should go an visit her- imagine not seeing your children for 6 months? Wouldn't you feel abandoned and lonely? Don't let your mother feel sad. You can talk to her about anything- anything at all. It will be very easy to pass time talking to someone you haven't seen in awhile.
Understandably, A jail can be a frightening place for a young girl, but if it were me, I'd go. The guards are there to protect you, and I'm sure you'll be alright. You can then make up your own mind for how bad or good it will be for her. You'll learn something about life too while you're there.

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22/f I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years, and there's the very real possibility that we will be engaged within the next 1-3 years. His cousin is 24/f and engaged currently. We are all very close friends, and went out for a double date last night. During dinner she jokingly brought up the subject of me and my boyfriend getting engaged in the near future, then more seriously brought up how she has this prenotion that she will be picking out my ring with my boyfriend. She is a good friend to me, but she gets very jealous over rings, constantly comparing others in his family to her own. I know she would pick out something lesser than hers, and besides that I would prefer it if my boyfriend picks it out himself without her opinion, considering I want to wear something that HE absolutely loves. It's not about the ring size to me, but the thought of her influencing my boyfriend so that I can be another comparison really bothers me for some reason. Is it pushy for me to ask him to (when the time comes) pick one out on his own? Or to go with someone from my family instead? Maybe I am over thinking this? Thanks.

You may be overthinking it.
You're not even engaged yet but it seems his cousin was hinting at it to you both.

Maybe just tell him when the time comes that you want him to pick a ring, because its special to you that HE does it, not anyone else.

But at the moment don't worry so much just cross that bridge when you come to it.

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28 year old female.

I need help! I dont know what to do. Yesterday my boyfriend of almost a year used my phone to check his facebook messages. Well he left it logged on and I didn't realize it until I got a notification on my phone saying I recieved a message. Not realizing at first that it was his facebook I went to check. Immediately I realized it was his after opening the message but then I noticed my name and started reading. I discovered that he has been talking to this girl for quite a while telling her my life story my secrets and thoughts. I also discovered that he has been waiting for me to fall asleep atleast twice a week and sneaking over to her house. The after reading that message curiosity got the best of me and I decided to read other messages. Turns out he had sex with his ex girlfried/baby's mother the day we got together and on many other occasions. Once even bragged about doing it in the livingroom while I was sick in bed with the flu. He has been cheating on me all along. I thought he was different I thought he was the one I was going to spend my life with. I told him about reading the messages and at first he lied but then he told the truth. Meanwhile my heart is shattered! He broke my trust, he betrayed me, he freaking cheated on me. I have been nothing but good to him. I cook for him, clean for him, invite his buddies over and let them play video games while I bake them all cookies and fetch their beers. I try to never complain and always try to be the perfect girl for him. He has told me many times I am everything he ever wanted. But then he goes and sleeps with someone else. I love him but I cant stand to look at him. Everytime I think about him in bed with another woman I literally get sick. I have no family. I am basically alone in the world. He was the only person I have ever truly loved. What am I to do? Do I stay? I know I cant do any better and I should be thankful for what I have and I know that I am nothing without him, but inside I want to run away. I cant stop crying. Im so hurt. Please help.

-Heartbroken

What a B*stard! No no a thunderc**t!
>idk if its appropriate to swear on here, but what he did to you was verrrry bad.<

Listen to the other people, listen to me: Dump him. He cheated on you, and he lied to you and used you. He does not deserve you, do not give him a second chance.

I know it hurts now, but just try your best to hold your chin up and move on. You will not be alone forever. You are still young and you can go out partying with friends and eventually find a better man... You can fall in love again. This kind of thing happens a lot in life, and people DO survive and DO lead happier lives afterwards!

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texting what does VLFF MEAN

... I google searched it for you and got nothing.
I don't think that's a thing! At least, not everywhere in the world.
Maybe just ask the person who sent that too you?

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I have been a fan of the beauty part of Youtube and I really want to make a Youtube channel myself. I am afraid that I will be judged for it from my school and family but I still really want to do it! I am 13 years old. I need some advice. Thanks a lot!

GO FOR IT.
There are lots of people on YouTube and to be honest it is quite easy to be unknown and unrecognised on the internet so if you don't tell people, they wont know you're up there. It takes quite a lot of frequent updating, effort and advertising to get internet famous and have a lot of subscribers.
If you put yourself out there you will get some dislike, judgement and negative comments but just ignore them and do what you want to do.(unless theyre giving you some good critical advice)
You may also get some good comments which will boost your confidence!

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