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cutting: my boyfriend told me he cuts and i dont know what to do
my boyfriend told me he cuts and i dont know how im saposed to act. should i act like it doesnt bother me or should i do somthing else?im a 12 yr old girl and i am so confused!
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Most of the teens I have heard from who do cutting themselves, do so because they say they are depressed. When a person is depressed, they don't like how they feel and feel powerless to change the circumstances that brought them to feeling depressed in the first place.
There's a chance that your boyfriend is feeling some of that. It takes having trust in a person to confide in them so its a compliment that he feels safe enough with you to tell you.
I would let him know that I care lots about whats going on for him, so even if he tells me what he thinks is the problems causing him to cut himself, that its only a temporary diversion from and will not get rid of whats causing the problem anyways. So he needs to talk to an adult he also trusts who can help him to find a solution to his problem or counseling if needed. If his parents are the problem, then ask if he has an aunt or uncle or other relative who'd be able to help. But best is to tell a counselor at school because they are prepared already for these kinds of issues with kids and may have some suggestions for him.
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Act worried OBVIOUSLY! Tell him to stop it- ask him why he does it. It is not healthy and it is SO not how to get some attention. Its often seen as a way of directing pain elsewhere.
Comfort him for whatever he's going through- help him to stop.
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If he's just cutting for the sake of it (I knew someone who did that. no joke. Only little cuts tho so it was kinda stupid.) ditch him and don't waste your valuable time on a drama queen!
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