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My bofriend can be a dick sometimes and sometimes he can be lovely to me...
My boyfriend paul has been acting very mean to me lately, one minute he is snapping at me telling me to go away and the next he is being the sweetest person on earth to me. Some of my friends are saying I should dump him but my best friend is saying that he really loves me and I should try to work it out with him. I really don't know what to do so some advice would be great!
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Hi I think that you should ask yourself this question first-Do you want to be with him?-if yes (on your own it's your life not your friends life)-if yes then I would agree with your best friend. You should try to work it out and the best way to do that is by talking to him (openly tell him to sort his behavior out as without any offense he behaves like a 5 year old). By the end of this conversation you should know:
why he behaves in this way
what can you do to help him to control his emotions
does he love you? you said that your friend said that he does, really? how does she know that? ask him and then you'll know what you're standing on
If he acknowledges the conversation then you are on your way to working things out between each other.
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You shouldn't put up with a guy who snaps at you to go away. Why is he doing this?
I think you should leave everyone else out of this and go talk to him yourself. Tell him that you don't like it when he snaps at you, you'd like to know why he does. If the reason has to do with something you do, then tell him you'll work on that yourself but you don't deserve to be told to go away. If he agrees to stop, then fine. If he ever does it again, you need to think twice about your relationship with him because that's not treating you right.
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A lot of people have problems in there relationships all u haft to do is talk to him he could be having trouble with something just sit down and talk to him go get food and a movie and just spend as much time as you can and just talk about stuff that's what I did in my relationship and now we are engaged and he doesn't randomly scream at me anymore so take my advice
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Before doing anything hasty, do what your best friend says. Talk to him! Tell him he's being such a dick when he is-- it may not be your fault. Maybe there's something going on in his life under the surface that can change his mood very quickly. Tell him not to take it out on you! Give him a chance to explain or change; everyone has bad moments in their life, and Humanity cant be expected to be sweet all the time.
Or perhaps that's just Paul. Maybe he has this quickly alternating personality and you're just beginning to notice- You didn't say how long you've been together.
Whatever happens, just bring it up. You may be able to help if its something that is annoying him lately. Or, If he doesn't ever change and his snappyness gets too bad, and his sweetness doesn't match up to it, then you can look to your friends and ditch him.
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