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Q: does anybody know of any sites like clubpenguin.com? but doesn't cost money?
www.imvu.com
www.webkinz.com
or just www.clubpenguin.com and dont buy the membership

Q: Well, heres the thing. I love a lot of different stores, but in my school its like, preps=hollister, emo= hot topic. sad,but true. i HATE it. i love both of those stores,but it seems like you cant be more than one! and, i know im going to wear them together,but can someone give me an example of an outfit? thanks ;;]
hollister jeans
hottopic red/black plaid skirt over the jeans
hollister sandals
hottopic red/black ninja turtal shirt
hottopic choker
hollistar necklace
haha i have that outfit i got hollister from my friend and i had to wear it around him so i wore it with hot topic too actually looks good together

Q: I lost all my friends 3 years ago, made new ones BETTER ONES! but i keep thinking that if i still was friends with those biotches then would i be happier? i know my new freidns are nicer but there not as popular or cool, i love htem so much more then those girls and i no there much better then those girls but i keep having second thought which i shouldnt bc my new friends are the greatest. what do i do to get those stupid unhearrd of thougth out of my mind. my old friends were so mean to me! they dumped me! all bc i did somehting by accadent and whatvever!
that JUST happened to me~i was in the popular btchs~they started hateing everyone but them~they mainly hated my (now)bff~they always said he was a btch and a dork~i went with him instead and they dumped me to~now i noticed how mean they are and how everybody hates them~now everytime i see them we just hate eachother just that turned all the preps and goths against eachother in my grade~for advice i give you forget them youll get alot more friends and better friends~you will really see the difference and how mean and how btchy they all are~if you notice that you will forget about being their friend~i have never noticed how much i was missing out on~i have true friends now~stay away from them if you like your best friends more stay with them~...they regreted it all now im the one that held the group together so their falling apart but tryin to stay together just to fight with me~i was never a real prep~now our group ~the goths~ are starting to become the most popular out of the hole grade~you will like your life alot more now~hope i helped

Q: I'm thinking about getting two birds (probably love birds or parakeets) in a couple months or so. I'm really excited about it and am already starting to think about names for them.
I'm probably going to get a girl and a boy- but can anyone suggest any cute boy/girl pet names? Something in pairs would be great (think Romeo & Juliett, or Bonnie & Clyde sort of thing) Thanks!
jack and jill
mac and cheese
peanut butter and jelly
well i want 2 dogs and thoes are some good names id use well the normal ones

Q: 16/f so there's this guy that i really like... i'm about 80% sure that he likes me... i used to be 100% positive... but latly i don't know... well anyways me and him were supposed to get together over the weekend but he stood me up... and never called... so i decided to ignor him and just blow him off... but i really like him and it really makes my day when he hugs me or anything... but i don't want him to think that he can ever do this again... so what do i do? how can i teach him a lesson while being close to him?
just tell him~i really love you but i hate it when you just blow me off...do you still like me? or is it because you dont like me anymore.
~hope i helped~

Q: Ok, I'm 5'8, weigh about 138 pounds and am 16 yrs old. I exercise 5-6 days a week and burn about 400+ calories each time I work out.

I'm trying to lose weight, and right about now I'm eating around 800-1,400 (at the absolute most) calories per day. Is that too much? Should I cut out more or add more? I have no idea!
you need to eat more calories i think because when most people go on diets or count calories the lowest it usually 2000 to 2500. also it is better if you eat alot but healthy than to not eat much and not healthy. the more you eat it makes your metabolism faster to burn calories naturally. try eating 5 very small meals a day.
hope i helped

Q: my daughter is 13 is she to young to get caught by me kiss with a guy but hes her best friend. shes never had a boyfriend. also she cusses and flips people off and just talks with her friends about sex humping and rapeing just perverted. shes just turned 13 shes shy and gothic which i hate it what should i do for her and all that stuff should she be doing.
my bff is a guy to and we kiss. thats our main conversations with my friends. i curse and flip people off. why would you hate your daughter? just leave her alone its normal.

Q: i can't do this anymore.

living and all the crap that goes along with it.

I don't want to live, but I can't bring myself to commit suicide. So i'm stuck in-between life and death. and i hate it. i hate having to be alive. i bet things are so much better when you're dead.

don't ask me what my reasons are, and don't say anything like "oh things will get better" or "don't kill yourself" or anything liek that.

I can't do anything at all.

I can't even get a boyfriend- which is my main reason for wanting to commit suicide. everyone is automatically unattracted to me. I'm not even kidding.

I'm "obese" and i hate it. I can't even help it because I work out every day and I eat the right amount of calories. But i'm still fat and that won't change. it never can. I have a problem.

I'm not a christian- I don't believe in any god and i never will again. i'm not a satanist either. i'm an atheist.
read the whole thing no matter what. i say it how it is. i know many who did and was going to go suicidal. i was still am mortally deppressed. i was going to commit suicide and i would. ive never had a bf. drink tea it makes your metabolism faster and lose some weight naturally. but just listen well read thing will never get better unless you try hard as you can. im just getting over deppression but still am. go cry your eyes out scream let it all out dont stop. go to a rock screamo concert dono why but it helped alot. dono how old you are but get in a group of people who are all deppresed. i was going to go suicide the next day because i couldnt take it at all. i know im only 13 but ive done or been through it all. i thought nobody cared at all about me i was alone with absolutly nobody for about like 5 days till i met them. they saved my life. they came over to me because i was screaming and had scissors and was gona. one of them that same day had her sister go suicidal she cryed her eyes out. but i can not cry i never could. then she was about to kill herself but didnt have the nerve. i was even before i knew then i realized her sister who thought nobody cared about her i didnt even think anyone did but everyone else cry and some wanted to die with her. but i have a very dark heart but i didnt kill myself because of one person i met the same day but i knew her sister a week before. if you kill yourself they will realize that everyone has atleast one person who cares i thought i didnt at all and if you die others might get deppressed and wana kill their self to and cry the rest of their life. i have been through to much death and suicide and im 13 only in 7th grade at a catholic school sadly. im not saying dont kill yourself but if you die others will probly die to even if you never even thought thay cared or even really knew you at all. you would just be another deppressed person dieing. think you could become a person who will find a cure for cancer and save thousands of people i know it has nothing to do with your question but i asked questions just like yours and thats one answer i got because in my profile i had find the cure because 11 relatives died from cancer and 7 recovered and 8 other people i knew also died i never thought i could find a cure i think im nothing at all in the world but if i wasnt deppressed and wishing to die i could have saved thousands of people who didnt want to die in the time i was wishing to die. i could have saved 26 people i knew from ever getting cancer and most of them from their death because they loved their life even tho they knew the could die the next second but still lived their life. i just want others to realize people care about you and you can save alot of happy lives then you will be happy too.

Q: I need red(preferably liquid) eyeliner for prom. The only place i can find with red eyeliner is Hottopic. I'd rather not have to order it online, but if it's necessary, I can.
If you know of any stores or websites that carry good red eyeliner (for a fair price) please let me know!
Thanks!
you could go in hot topic and get it the ones in the malls have it i bought some there or clinique or sephora or sejai or walgreens or hot topic they all have it but only sejai and hot topic and clinique have liquid red.

Q: oh my goodness. my period keeps flowing so fast, it wont stop. I have to keep changing the pads. does anyone know any ways to make it stop or go slower.??? I heard eating chocolate does i think? Is that true, or are there other ways?
exercising does make it lighter but longer~ so you could exercise or bigger pads or a pad and tampon

Q: i have thick, straight, heavy hair, and i was wondering how to get it to look naturally curly. i've tried scrunching after showers, but it turns straight right away because it's naturally straight and because my hair sort of weighs the curls down because it's so heavy. it's past shoulder length, though if i cut it it'll still be heavy. are there any products, (no curling irons because i have so much hair it takes FOREVER) that i can use to get to look naturally curly? kinda wild, relaxed curls. thanks
you could get a perm i did i have the same kind of hair ive had it for 2 years now it stays long

Q: whats the best plant for use in a house without much sunlight?
chicks and hens~or~mini bansi plant~or~you could just use fake flowers lol

Q: 14/f
I know this is kind of gross, but is it weird to have hair growth on your stomache?? And what can I do to get rid of it?? Without waxing it, or lazor hair removal. And shaving is such a pain is there anything that will get rid of it for good???

Thanks.
use nair its a lotion thats removes hair its at walgreens and walmart and other places like that

Q: Okay well my dog is 6 years old and since this whole food thing has happened we are worried he might be sick from it. In recent news they just revealed that it had been found in dry dog food also. Well we had been feeding my dog IAMS, which was recently pulled off the shelf. We got that bag of dog food 3 weeks to a month ago. And he just through up. But he has threw up before and it could also be because we were on vacation for the weekend so we gave him food & water and put him in my bathroom since itd be better than a cage and its bigger. So do you think it could just be axienty because we were gone or could he have that disease from the food. Also what are some of the simptoms of that food disease. Sorry if this was alittle confusing.
i think its the food some dogs died from it bring your dog to a docter soon

Q: 14/f

This girl in my class, is writing a book. Well.. let me show how I found out first.. lol. ok, one of my best friends, Hillary, sits next to this girl morgan in math. So, hillary saw these two pieces of paper, & they had my name & a bunch of other peoples names [everyone in my homeroom to be exact] & then next to our names was a different name, so my friend hillary asked her what that was.. & shes like.."Oh, i'm writing a story" & then later on that day, at lunch we were all talking at lunch.. & hillarys like.."Yeah, morgans making a story about all of us in homeroom" & then i was like.."thats kinda creepy? haha" so then I decided to ask her about it.. so I went over to her.. & I was like.."So, I hear your writing a story..whats it about..?" & she goes.."Its a murder story." & I was like...."ok?" & then I asked more about it.. & shes like "Yeah, its kinda like saw.. where everyone kills eachother, & each person, I'm gonna have them get killed differently" & then I was likee. all freaked out .. like wouldnt you think thats tottaly weird if someone is writing about how you die??

Well, it gets better. haha..now, she decided me hillary & this other girl.. are all gonna get tortured in the school basement, & then we die.

WOULD YOU BE CONCERNED?

& if soo.. what would you do?
Should I tell my mom? Shes good friends with the assitant principal.

btw. shes like a total goth.

& i don't have anything against her or anything for her to even do that to me! i actually am friends with this one boy whos super cool,but hes like emo. so its not like i'm ever even mean to her...
She is not phsyco. no dont tell your mom or people who work at school its not the schools business. leave her alone. gothic kids just wonder. im gothic im freaky its fun to scare people. but you shouldnt be scared. death doesnt scare us. i write about death so what. some people like my stories. i did the exact same thing changed the names and all. its expression. a way to get it out . she told you about it so it wont be bad. it fine. just dont tell the school everyone will turn against people probly you or whoever tells. because if you make her mad it will be crazy. leave her alone. shes not going to kill anyone so its not hurting anyone.

Q: everybody in my school thinks i am emo or gothic.
so i dress black/red sorta different the others , look on the ground often , don't make eyecontact , mostly am sad (but that's just cause i hate the school and i'm lovesick lately) have naturaly black hair and naturaly white skin. yeah okay and i admit i hate myself , and hate my life blablabla
but does that make me emo?
cause i never thought about it that way
well by what you said you seem gothic or emo. but if you dont think you are your not. have you had suicide thoughts. if you did you probly are but you dont have to be. gothic is like suicide all black or dark or white and frills lace chains peircings hair colored crying your eyes out always and deppressed and rock screamo and soft music and the hate of preppy nicey nice people. cussing in about every sentence rape. never careing. hating everything but loveing your only friends. emo is like blood and gore. suicide and cutting. deppression bright colors or black and red violent and never careing. whould die without friends or is always alone.
but jewelry tells everything. for jewelry spikes chains chokes. your not unless that describes you. hope i help.

Q: One of my best friends just can't seem to get a date. Because of this, he is extremely depressed...and it's been getting worse and worse. He gets frequently depressed, sometimes even if the tiniest thing happens, and as a result, he punches walls, he verbally lashes out at my boyfriend, goes into his room and listens to depressing music...and sometimes he has even talked about suicide...he even says his family has a history of this kind of thing...

My boyfriend and I have talked to him over and over and over again, but nothing seems to help...most of the time when we're talking to him, he just ignores what we're saying and gives us cynical comments. Even if what we say cheers him up, it just happens all over again within a day or two...We're running out of things to say to him.

When the talk of seeking help comes up, he just plain refuses to see a therapist...

I am in desperate need of help...Anything, please...

Thank you.
That Gothic Chick
well im deppressed and gothic. do not say a therapist. i hated that more than anything. when they tried to get me to. i went crazy and got violent. ive had suicide thoughts and told my friends. their gothic to. i just made new gothic friends and im alot happier and ive not had suicide toughts since i met them. get him some friends that would understand it better im not saying you dont. but they helped me more then you can imagine. they saved my life. dont be with your boyfriend as much around him that also made me very mad. ive never had a boyfriend. get him friends that are going through it before anything else. just stop talking about it if he starts to get mad at all or looks down alot the main thing i say to do is make friends with some gothic kids but it depends on what kind. and it will save his life trust me im going through all of that. and if you try to cheer him up and it works for a day hes not totally deppressed my other friends couldnt cheer me up. dont be so nicey nice but not xtremely mean we are really rough with eachother. but get him gothic or deppressed friends first. i hate it when people are so nice. no offence. just trust me.

Q: Is it normal if your straight to have dreams like your gay? And your a girl.
Please help.
everybody does at a time its fine

Q: how do i tell my mom about my period??
mom i just started my period.
she will understand shell know what to do. she is a girl.
~hope i helped~

Q: I hate my family. There all a bunch of #$@%&*$#(@%^(#&^…everytime I get on the computer..they always suspect I’m doing something wrong like..i’m on myspace or aim or e-mail….my dad always think that…everytime I’m on the computer he’s always saying “ o are you on myspace or aim or e-mail…and I get angry b/c I’m not and he always suspects that and it gets on my nerves and when I say “NOOOO!!!” he says “ yea rite your lying to me” then I get mad and say “WHAT THE HECK!!”…Why’d you ask if you don’t believe me!!”…. Then my mom is just a bigger annoying one!! she’s always nagging to me about my grades…. I try my hardest but she never accepts it!!…. She’s always saying “if your trying your hardest…your grades would be higher”…I hate talking about my grades b/c my mom is always like look at everyone else…their grades are high, why can’t you be like them…everytime she says this I feel stupid, and I wanna just ignore her…then she says you never want to talk about this but look at your grades!!!…. Then I’m on aim sometimes and then she comes and beats me because she thinks I’m talking and not doing my hmrk…. When really I’m talking to a friend or my cousin to get help…but she never believes me…then I get beat for noo reason…and everytime she gets mad she always talks about my grades..And says print your grades out and let me see them…then there bad grades then she gets mad at me more…sometimes I wish I can just kill myself (no joke)…but then I say no bc don’t want to die in pain(if there was a easier/ painless way of dieing I would do it)…it’s really getting close to me doing that…I know I won’t ever do it but I really wish I can …sometimes I just tell my mom that maybe I’m stupid and this is the best of my ability but she never believes me….sometimes I wish I can hurt her really badly emotionally w/o hurting myself physically…I just can’t stand her…sometime I wish I can just run away….and we also have this neighbor who is he biggest momma’s boy ever…he listens to his mom and everything he’s like the “perfect son”…he makes my life even worse…b/c my mom will be like “look at his grades and look at yours he has better grades than you…he’s in all honors classes and your not!!…you just in 2 classes”…and this makes me feel even more stupid…and I’m really bad in math and my mom makes me go to this tutoring class for math every Saturday morning…and he’s there…b/c everything I do he has to do!!…and he does his hmrk every single day and asks questions and be a good student… then he makes me look bad….then I don’t get anything we learn in that class so I asks questions and sometimes she’ll get aggravated b/c I’m not getting it..and then we’ll take a test and I’ll maybe miss a lot and she’ll call my mom and be like she doesn’t do my hmrk(maybe b/c I don’t get it!!) and she missed a lot and she never does anything in class(she lies!!)…I try my hardest to pay attetion..It’s not my fault I’m stupid and don’t get it!!…sometimes I hate going home from something just cause it’s soo bad…I get in trouble or yelled at everyday!!…then my sister is the worst of them all!!….she’s sooooo annoying..she’ll always up in my business!!….i’ll be on the computer and she’ll always run out of no where and “check up on me”…then b/c she comes so fast then I get scared I then I think I’m doing something wrong so I have to exit out of everything then she’ll be “OOOO!!!….your on mypace/aim/e-mail!!!..i’m tellling!!.” And she’ll yell it so that my mom or dad can come can come and accuse me and be like “GET OFF THE COMPPUTERR!! YOUR NOT DOJNG YOIUR HMRK!!” Then I can never finish my hrmk…so then I have it sneak on at night just to finish it then my dad’s like…I know you were on the computer on myspace/aim/e-mail last night so you can’t get on today!!…then I can never do my hmrk…then that’s probably another reason that I’m not passing all my classes!!….then sometimes I’ll be on and my sis will come and then be like I no you were on something you were’nt supposed to be on..click on the history!!…then I’m like no I’m tired of you accusing me …then she accuses me for no reason with no proof and yells “OOO!!…mommy/daddy she’s on myspace/aim/e-mail..then my mom/dad comes and says CHECK ON HISTORY!!….then I do and there’s nothing wrong there!!…and my sis walks away saying I no you deleted it…I get sooo mad when they accuse me for no reason!!…I hate it!!….and everytime my sis and me argue my mom comes and break it up and she listens to my sis’s part of the story and not mine…so it’s like I’m the bad guy!!….it’s sooo annoying!!….then of course I get yelled at…..my sis has an attitude and she never gets in trouble she treats our parents with no respect…and she never gets in trouble!!…she scratches me and it leaves marks on my hand and my parents don’t says anything…but if I do something like call her stupid or push her down I get in trouble they always say you should know better she’s younger….I’m like what the heck!!….she’s 11 she’s not little!!!!…. And I’m not “allowed” in her room…if I stand by the doorway she gets mad and says “get out!!” then slams the door in my face….I don’t know what to do with my family..sometimes I wish I can just run away…and everyday when I go to sleep I wonder how it would be like if I was never born…..it would be the “perfect family”…I try to make everyday a good day but it always comes out bad..b/c of something I do…so I just gave up…I know it’s gonna be a bad day so I just go along with it…there’s no point of trying to make it a good day…..also I’m doing really bad in Spanish…and I pay attention in class and do my hmrk and go to tutorials…and I can’t tell anybody b/c if I tell my dad then he’ll tell my mom…and if I tell my mom then she’ll yell at me and I don’t want that anymore….so I have to keep it a secret and pray that I pass at the end…..

14/f

sorry it's so long but i did'nt want to leave anything out...
thats like my life~thats why i like school sad i no but im not at home~i just got in a group of really close friends were all deppressed and hate life and were very rough with eachother~no body understands my life but them~get a friend thats goin through the same or similar things it helped me soo much~i was gona kill myself befor but my bff knew and saved my life~we were gona run away together but it never worked out~i also wondered what it would be like if i was never born~i just wanted to say about me first becaus your not alone~do they seriosly beat you?
~if yor life is seriosly like that there may be mor pain in doing this but it is so worth it
~one of my friends in my group was like that~
AAA. you could piss them off so bad(yor parents)by goin gothic i no it did for her she got to go to a therapist~ bc her parents didnt like her going emo but its perfecty fine to be emo and im gothic but were still great friends~but anyways at the therapist he asked about her brusis she said it was her parents and she can always come back to the therapist and if they ever beat her she should come back and theyd do something~you can decide if you want to stay with ur parents or not and theyd call every month to make sure everything was fine if she wanted~her parents are bette now and she has a sister thats 9 i even hate her soo much she nos it to~for you id say emo go emo~emo is EMOtional~the sign for it it blood and gore and cutting do not cut do not ever cut and me not sayin to do something that has to do with issues and life dont do it~she cut i never let her regret and it also hurt her SO bad and never went away~cry it works but i cant cry to save my life ive been through to much i cant even cry if you can cry yor life will turn out great~act deppressed if you arent already i am for real it totally changed my life in many ways~a group of gothic or emo kids are the closest kind of friends closer then anyone nos even thouh we try and kill each other not literally but its the closest kind of friends because they truely need eachother
BBB. tell them you are doing homework on the computer~getting help from somebody~your sister should go fuck herself haha im so nice~
CCC. for your grades study i sound corny i no but study infront of them study when you see them(your family)study in their face so thed kno and they have no idea what your going through so friends will mean the world i no alot of spanish i learned nothing from spanish at school just by a book and we went to mexico~i could help you
DDD. ~know what your going through i will always help especially you with anything ask me anything on your mind it would help you soo much trust me ~hope i helped~

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randomgrl777
-i dont change for people -my only fear is being hated again -i am extremely hyper at times and adicted to coffee -i curse way to much -i have a bad temper -in love with taking pictures -has had a very emotional life -im NOT emo or gothic but thats what everyone wont stfu with -i think of guys as better friends -id be gone without my friends -my old friends have put me threw way to much -i used to be one of the popular people but now i cant stand them but still talk -i love guitars -my favorite music is taken away forever -ill answer any question honestly just dont hate me for bein brutally honest

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