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13 yr old daughter
my daughter is 13 is she to young to get caught by me kiss with a guy but hes her best friend. shes never had a boyfriend. also she cusses and flips people off and just talks with her friends about sex humping and rapeing just perverted. shes just turned 13 shes shy and gothic which i hate it what should i do for her and all that stuff should she be doing.
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ok. first off, the flipping off is probably inappropriate. i mean, i do it too, but i know its wrong (plus i dont use it meanly, just messing with my friends) but the thing is all the stuff she is doing is normal.. shes venting, hormones are going crazy, peer pressure, theres really nothing you can do about it. if you punish her for offensive behavior all she will learn is to do it when you arent around. and the gothic thing? i dont understand why thats a problem. its just a style. its the same as dressing preppy or generally happier things. you should leave her alone. now, if shes cussing out you or authority then thats another story, and it needs reprimandation... but as long as shes not mouthing off to elders or hurting anyone theres really no problem.
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omg!!!!!your her MOTHER and your on this website askin teenagers what you should do?ok...look shes your daughter,you have all the right to do anything you want to her.You talk to her and tell her not that you dont like it when she does this stuff but that you dont WANT her to do this stuff.Your daughters gonna end up losing her virginity and its gonna be your fault for not talking to her.The problem with most teens nowadays is that they think that NOOONE understands them or cares about hearing their problems.The way your daughter dresses all dark and gothic resembles the way she feels inside,how can you not notice that.You need to be like her best freind,ask her who her freinds are and what they talk about.Go down to her age and be like her if you want to communicate with her.Your daughter probably doesnt tell you anything because you dont even care to ask.You gotta change before its too late,one day your daughter will do something really bad and itll be too late for you to stop it.
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my bff is a guy to and we kiss. thats our main conversations with my friends. i curse and flip people off. why would you hate your daughter? just leave her alone its normal.
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I think that the question on the right called "my friends (id die for)my life my mom" I think that it would be huge help.
good luk with your daughter I hope all works out.
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That's all normal. Don't worry about it. You have to let her be who she wants to be, or she'll devote her life to being the exact opposite of what you want.
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I am no parent. I have no idea what it's like to have a 13 year old daughter & I could not imagine the hell you are probably going through. All I am going to say is step things up a knotch & get down her throat with stuff like that before things get worse & out of your control. Teach her none of that is tolerated. She cusses, flips out, even THINKS about having sex = she is not seeing her friends, she goes to school, she does her homework & she goes to bed - no questions asked. That's all there is to it. Yes, your 13 year old is going to go through a phase where she's trying to find herself. She's going to change her style/appearance, she might sneak out of her house, she's going to talk back & not want to have anything to do with her mother - that's absolutely normal. But there are certain things that are unacceptable & as long as you keep an eye on your kid, buckle down on her & guide her in the right direction, she'll turn out okay. That's how I was raised: "You obey the rules or your life is pretty much over." I like to think I turned out pretty good - no, my parents did not have me by the neck my entire life. Infact, I CHOSE to be the way I am because I was guided in the right direction. All I'm saying is: you have hope, just lead her to the right decisions now.
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