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Ask me anytime. I have had my fair shares of family issues, as well as good at solving relationship problems.

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Fifteen, female

Does anyone know any songs about a girl and her ex guy friend?
About hating him, or missing him - either is fine.
HAS to be ex-guy-friend. NOT boyfriend.
OR of a girl liking her guy friend.

Either pop, alternitive, rock, or dance song.
The only country singer I like is Taylor swift, but if you think theres a country song I would like, go for it.

Please refrian from mentioning extremely popular songs. If they're popular, I've most likely heard of them.

I'm in the same sitatation...and I love the type of music you listen too :) This is what I've been listening to help me :)

Forever & Always - Taylor Swift
Now That We're Done - Metro Station
Learning to fall - Boys Like Girls
The Kill - 30 Seconds To Mars
Risque - Cute Is What We Aim For(LOVE this song)
Alive - Black Eyed Peas(*..tune!)
Meet Me Halfway - Black Eyed Peas
You Could Be Happy- Snow Patrol(Lovley Song)
Naive - The Kooks
Breakdown - Forever The Sickest Kids
Breakeven - The Script
The Man Who Can't Be Moved - The Script
Always attract - You Me at six


Hope I helped
Most of these are pop punk/indie
Every song has pretty good lyrics I've connected with

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i'm 19 years old, female. my cousin is 17.

me and him are really close. we hang out all the time and just always have a good time together. the dumb thing is that people think that we are dating! uhm hellooo? he is my COUSIN. people keep telling me, "you need to stop hanging out with him, people are starting to think you two are dating" and tonight my uncle was like youre not dating him are you? and i started laughing because how rediculous is that? and he was like see you cant even look at me and say youre not! i was like honestly, do you think i would ever ever EVER do that? its not like we flirt with each other, thats disgusting. we're just always together. whats so wrong with that? apparently there is something....

Don't rise or react to the comments other people say otherwise it looks like they've touched a sore nerve. He's like a blood related best friend :) Who cares what other people think. Sometimes people hang out because they have a good connection! Just forget what they say, you know the truth, he knows the truth - doesn't matter what anyone else says, no matter what you do, someone always picks on eachother for something, yours is just your friendship with your cousin. Just ignore them.

Sadie :)

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Hey, today I just got a boyfriend! Im really hapy! But, also I didnt want this to happen... He's moving away on Thursday. People say that if your 13 you dont know what love is, or you cant be in love.. But I really think im in love. Ive liked alot of boys(never had a boyfriend though! Just had a crush!) and I liked them, But this guy... He just gets into my thoughts!! Im trying to be strong, Im trying not to show that im sad, so that it wont make it any harder on him... Its so hard. Im really trying.. I really am. Please help me! I need advice!

Wow, this is really tough on you. I fell for a guy this summer, and it was like a long distant thing, and lets just say I got really hurt and felt as sad as you probarbly feel.

Okay - so he is moving. Make the most of these last days, and do you know what? It's ok show him your sad, it's okay to show him how you feel, chances are, he probarbly feels pretty down about it too. It's not natural to just smile and pretend you're pretty fine - when someone you love is moving and you may not see him again. Be yourself!

Make the most of the time you have, he's your first boyfriend. Kiss, take pictures and just have fun. I really understand where you are coming from - whatever you do , when he goes - keep in contact - be be friends, because that's all it will ever be. We tried to be something, and it just didn't work. It didn't feel the same, he found someone else, and it pretty much hurt when he told me he didn't like me as much, and he likes someone else.

He probarbly feels as down as you are. Spend the time together. enjoy it, have fun - otherwise you WILL regret it..for a long time . When he is gone, you are going to think about him,you are going to be down - but just situate around your friends and have a positive attitude because things will get better I promise. I am going through the same thing, you just got to make the most of the time you have and if you need to talk - that's why you have friends. I remember crying hyterically for an hour with my best friend :( So yeah, it may sound like it's goning to make you miserable but its called honesty. PLEASE inbox me for anything else, if you need advice I'd be happy to help

Sadie

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i was at a party and got slightly tipsy. there was this guy, whom i met for the 1st time at the party, who clung on to me during the whole time i was at the party, practically looking after me *like not allowing me to drink anymore, and kept talking to me the whole night*. then after that he hung out at my living room the whole night til morning while my roommates were around. the whole night he kept teasing me, and frequently forwarding his head towards me when i got bemused, and hugging me softly. he even put me to sit on his lap while we were watching movie. *i know, it is weird because we've really just met* well, i've never even been kissed so i ddnt know if he was trying to kiss me. he never made a move on me or something. and when morning came, he silently went bk home so my roommates wont think it weird of us spending all night on the couch.
question 1) does he sound like he's interested in me? because it has been 2 days since that night and he never called. *i ddnt call him too*
question 2) well, we're in the same university. so if i happen to stumble into him, how am i supposed to react?
i kinda like him and would like to spend time with him again.
im an 18-yr old asian studying in the states. and the guy's american.
-sorry for such a long question-

This happened to me, EXACTLY this summer.

All I can say is think with your head and just ask him. Straight up honest.

Because for me, this summer, it was the first boy who took an interest me and stuff, and he kissed me, held me etc etc - turns out to him, he just wasn't as interested as I was.

So ask him - Do you like me? I got the feeling you did, but I'm not sure. Don't be nervous asking him - it's not like your telling him what you feel, your just asking him how he feels.

Think with your head not your heart. You'll only get hurt. I was infactuated with this guy, but he just didnt feel the same - and that rejection is pretty painful. So ask him how he feels, decide between the two of you what's going to happen, and DON'T take it any of it TOO seriously - chances are, he isn't. So if he does like you, see eachother often etc etc, just don't take it serious, have fun, get to know eachother, just don't get hung up on him :)

Sadie, 16yrs :)

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it goes give me a run all around its a sure fire way....then its like once upon a midnight theory or something like that.. what song is that?

It's called "Run Around"

And there are two versions/artists who've sung it

-Blues Traveler
-Sister Hazel


Hope I helped :)

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My friend told me that she is gay and I do not want to be friends with her anymore. It's not that I don't like her as a person but I cannot grasp the fact that she has become a lesbian. Just months ago she was dating men and now she is claiming homosexuality. I don't like it and the entire thing makes me uncomfortable. I'm trying to avoid her now more than ever since she has confessed her sexuality to me and I feel that I need to just tell her to her face why I no longer have interest in our friendship. How should I tell her? What should I say? I don't want to come off as cruel by saying, "You're a homosexual and that makes me too uncomfortable to continue a friendship with you," but at the same time I think it sounds most appropriate because it is the truth.

I know it isn't fair of me to not tell her why I have been avoiding contact with her. I know I should tell her but I'm not sure how I should go about this. I was thinking a neutral setting would be most appropriate but I don't want to embarrass her if she gets upset in some form.

Does anyone have experience with this or any ideas of how I should handle this matter? Thank you.


You have a friendship. Think about it - she thought she could trust you because you are her friend and that you would judge her, but you've done just that.

Just because she is a lesbian does not mean she fancies you, or infact every other woman out there. You should be happy the fact she is happy, that's what friends do. They support eachother. Why don't you just talk to her about it - I am sure she will understand that you're wierded out by it, it takes a while to adjust and accept new things.

Being lesbian is normal to her, you dont see her rejecting you because you are straight.

If anyone should end the friendship, it's her. You have no right to reject someone who has done nothing wrong to you. You shut out people in your life who have hurt you or done wrong, not someone who has the decency to be honest with you.

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is there a way to cut out the begining of a song and keep the rest?

Hi :)

"Audacity" In My Opinion I don't recommend - I just didn't know how to work it, so I downloaded
"WavePad Sound Editor" - which works best for me.

I thought it's best to have an option, incase audacity isn't easy to work for you.

Hope I helped

Sage :O)

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what are popular songs nowadays that you can dance to
(slow dancing or fast, upbeat works)
any ideas would be great (:

Any Lady Gaga Songs & Black Eyed Peas Songs Are Great :)


If You Want More Of A Pop- Dance-Music - Calvin Harris Is Good (The Song "Girls" Is A Good One)

Evacuate The Dancefloor - Cascada (I LOVE this song)**
Sweet Dreams - Beyonce
Sugar - Flo Rida
Kiss Me Thru The Phone - Soulja Boy
Number 1 - Tinchy Stryder Ft N-Dubz
Untouched - The Veronicas
Bonkers - Dizzie Rascal
Release Me - Agnes
Confusion Girl - FrankMusik
Hush Hush - Pussycat Dolls
Right Round - Flo Rida


Some Of These You Might Not Know, As I Live In The Uk, We Have Different Artists

Sage :)

I Wrote Down What I Love To Rave/Dance To

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I've been with my boyfriend for 7 months now (I'm 15, he's 16), he has a little sister aged around 9 or 10 and an older sister about 20. I get on with his older sister, we've got no problems. But, I've noticed that my boyfriends little sister is always wanting attention from him. It's only recently starting to get on my nerves, because we do get on.. most days. Idk, one day she'll be all nice to me and in the 'i hate my older brother' mood and leave us alone, the next day she's like always around us, like if we're at his house.
Today, I went swimming with my boyfriends family, so obviously me and him had to watch his little sister. And she acted really differently. Like, she was hugging him and she was like 'No, he's mine!' So I was just playing about with her and argued back. But she got all serious and just kept on generally annoying me, which she hasn't really done before.
Another thing is when she is in the 'i hate my older brother' mood, she's always sucking upto me. For example, she'd always argue againest whatever my boyfriend would say, but if I was to argee with him she'd change her mind and she just always agrees with me. So like, I really don't know if she's jealous because we spend so much time together? (I am his first long term girlfriend, and he's mine) Or I don't know if she's doing it on purpose?

Sorry if it's long, but thanks :)

I would say, she loves her brother and doesnt want someone else (you) to take away their special friendship. She'll suck up to you because she wants you to like her, be almost impressed with her in a way.

To work around the situation, don't sink to her level or mentality - suggest to herr parents or your boyfriend if you could take her out shopping or somewhere, just so you guys can have a little bonding time, she might treat you better/like you better if she got to knw that you're not spiteful enough to steal her brother away from her. Do something with her that will include her, NOT exclude her. Maybe a picnic with you,her and your boyfriend.

Maybe if you get some advice from the older sister, she might be able to help you. She seems mature enough to know where you're coming from and not get offended by you being slightly annoyed by the younger one.

There are many ways around it, but you just need to sugarcoat a lot of things with this young girl. Try to be her buddy.

Hope I helped

Sage :0)

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17/f: I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months, but lately I've begun to feel insecure about our relationship. I think it's because this summer, he has met a lot of new people at his workplace, while at mine, there's no one around my age whom I can really talk to. He told me how he hated being around people who are lazy and irresponsible, but now he's friends with a lot of them. I'm glad that he's comfortable with them, but I'm starting to feel like I want to be with him more than he wants to be with me. I don't know if I'm thinking too much, but it seems like before, both of us made an effort to remain close despite our busy schedules, and lately it feels like I'm the one trying more. Also, I'm not a jealous person by nature, but I feel kind of threatened because he has told me about a girl at his workplace who seems to be interested in him. I trust him, but I know there are girls who don't care that a guy is taken. Her friends also work there and they might try to push them together because obviously I'm not there to do anything about it. He said that he told me because he wants everything to be open between us, not because he was interested in her or anything. Sorry that was long, but bottom line is I feel insecure and I'm just wondering if my insecurity is reasonable or if I'm worrying too much. Thanks!

I would call it slight insecurity - but no girl can help that. All of us girls have had a heartbroken or been hurt in the past - of course we are going to doubt our relationships or our partners at some point.

I would say you are also worrying a bit too - He is your boyfriend and you guys have been together for a while, you need to be able to trust him. There is no reason to doubt him because he has never hurt you. In a lot of relationships some girls can get parnoid and drive their boyfriends insane with their incessant jealousy. DON'T get like that, please! You'll give him a reason to go out and hurt you , because you hurt him by not trusting him.

I can understand your doubts, but he's just made a few friends, it's summer and he is most defintly entitled to enjoy himself. Focus on your career and your relationship, not his actions and his friendships.

It only feels like he hasnt put in the effort to see you because you feel like the outsider - You don't get to share him all to yourself, and you don't have a good working enviroment like he does.

If you are concerned, you should confront him - tell him how you feel like you havn't spent a lot of time together, he should understand since you guys are in a relationship!

Just let it go, he's made new friends, and you will too. You have no reason to get insecure - he's with you for a reason - because he has FEELINGS for you, not this other girl. You should trust him ebcause he seems very honest - he didn't HAVE to tell you about this other girl did he?

Just remember he is with you because he likes you. Simple. Tell him you want to spend time with him since you havnt seen him as often as you would liked. TRUST him, he trusts you. Meet him from work so you guys have more time together.

Get a friends opinion, they'll know you both enough to give you more usable advice than I can give you.

Hope I helped,

Sage :0)

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What would you rather have as a kid, a boy or girl? And why?

Boy.

Girls are bitches and madam's!

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alot of girls are asking me out and i like some of them but i dont wanna go out with them...dunno why..ive never had a gf but 13 ppl have asked me out this year, why dont i want a gf??am i afraid?

also, what do u do when your REALLY bored at home?

Maybe you are afraid, if you are questioning that you MIGHT be, then the chances are there, that you are scared. If you are afraid, you shouldn't be. You've been asked out thirteen, this means, that to quite a few girls, youhave a likeable personality and probarbly quite attractive - you should have confidence. There is a reason why they like you.

You may not have been in a relaionship yet for quite a few reasons. Your hormones might have not kicked in yet. You might not find anyone attractive yet, you will in time. You may have just not found a girl you really like and connect with. You might just not be interested - having a girlfriend isn't the biggest exciting thing in the world, and the novelty wears off.

I'm sixteen, female, and for me, the reason why I have turned down guys and not dated is infact because I'm not interested, having a boyfriend is the littlest thing I care about, and I havn't found someone I really like yet. If you are going to go out with someone, make sure it's with someone who you really like.

Obviously these are just suggestions, I don't know you very well to say.

When your bored? Eat,bake,cook,paint,go out (bowling,ice skating,pic nics, museums), shop, visit friends, go on the internet, play video games (sims) and board games, excersise - swimming, customize stuff, get a new look, read, visit family, , go for a walk, paint , take up photography etc

Hope I helped, Inbox me for anything else.

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nice, intelligent, loves sex, and has a good body?

NO. She needs a little more depth than that. However its matter of opinion. People value different qualities.

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well i have been with my boyfriend 3 months and 3 weeks.& we have been talking about sex for awhile..& he said he is a virgin and says he wants to lose his virginty to me.When we were talking about sex i told him that i have never done anything with a guy but i LIED!i have been fingered before by one of my ex boyfriends.but i was ashamed to tell him i was.cause i would have never thought i would and i would tell people how much i hated fingering and that i would rather to just stick it in!& we might have sex soon and i dont want him to find out im a bit loose & that i lied to him!!!

will he find out if i have been fingered before,when he sticks it in???

If He is a virgin, then he obviously doesn't have THAT much experience and I highly doubt that he'll know that you're a bit loose to be honest. He would have to perform a lot oral sex to know that and he wouldnt think anything of it if you were a little lose because he trusts you.

I'd tell him you have been fingered, or done something with somebody else. If I was him, I wouldnt want to lose my virginity to a liar. Would you want to lose your virginity to someone who lied to you.

If he cares about you, he wont judge you. Don't be suprised if he gets angry at you for lying, but being honest and falling out makes you stronger together anyway.

I can understand why you lied, explain that to him - you didnt know if he would judge you, and since you trust eachother, you know the value of honesty and feel thats only fair.

He won'tfind out you've been fingered, but I think you do need to tell him the truth if you want your relationship to work.

Hope I hellped, inbox me for anything else

Sage :)

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Okay so I had cheer practice and I didn't want my discharge to gothrough, so I put a wad of toilet paper inside the lips of my vagina, which I've done before no problem. But when I got home my vagina was swollen are keeps discharging alot. What's wrong and what should I do?

Your vagina needs to breath, and using tissue paper stopped it from having air,and like the person below me said, if you were stretching obviously it was going to get red and rub.

Wear cotton underwear, use vagisal AND instead of using toilet paper, may i suggest PANTYLINERS. Pantyliners are for discharge. They are VERY thin, and small. You would not notice, or feel it at all.


Sage :)

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So, I'm about to sound completely messed up. So i need some help on this hah. Alright, so there's this guy Josh. He treats me like crap sometimes, he doesn't even care, but I've NEVER EVER liked someone SO MUCH as him. I'm like...addicted to this guy. I can't even explain. but all he really cares about is sex, and we aren't even dating. I bet he talks to other girls and blah but i like him a lot..and theres this other guy alex who is nice but one of those feminine guys? Who are really sentitive..but I have a feeling hes gonna ask me out tomorrow. And I don't want to get into that but he'd treat me better. AND THEN there was this guy DRAKE that I was talking to earlier this summer, we hung out and got really close, but now he doens't even talk to me or respond to my textes? And there's no way he could have found out about Josh. I really don't know. Should I stick in the single life and keep juggling this around? Or...? This is so fucked up ahhahaha its killllin me.

Josh is a prick and is the reason every girl out there gets so insecure because they get their hearrbroken by the likes of him.

So he treats you like crap, " doesn't care" and "he realy cares about sex" and you're not dating. Doesn't sound like a great guy at all, and I can't see why you'd find him so attractive when he has the charateristics of an asshole.

Don't waste your time with him, he'll only hurt you. I'm assuming it's only LUST with him and not true feelings, maybe I am wrong.


The second guy,
the feminine one? Sounds like a good boyfriend.Especiallly if he is sensitive, he'd be really considerate towards your feelings. HOWEVER don't lead him on if you don't have strong feelings, like the ones you do for Josh. That isn't fair. You can't force youself to like him you don't.

This third guy drake? Come off it! You hardly had any contact,and when you did you got on well. That's over now. He isn't speaking to you, so that isnt much of a problem, just let that go.


I can't advise you WHAT to do, HOWEVER stay away from Josh, he isnt any good for you. Number 2 sounds like a nice guy, so even if you dont like him, keep him in your life because he sounds like a good friend. And the third one, dont waste your time. If he hasn't bothered to contact you, he's either a prick like a josh who didnt care that much or just damn lazy.It may have been nice whislt it lasted, like a summer love sort of thing. But that's it.

Stay away from them for a while may a suggest, give yourself space to think about

Sage :) Hope I Helped

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i heard that smothering your hair in mayonaise and leaving it on for two hours then after washing it rinsing it with viniger will get rid of head lice. Is this true?

I have HEARD about it - apparantly it kills the eggs - if a few people have heard of this method, then it's obviously been done. The only way to know, is to try.

The most effective way I've learnt to deal with them is to STRAIGTEN my hair. The heat "frizzles" them - just wash you hair after wards to get them all out since there dead :) OR just cover your hair in conditioner and use a nit comb :)

Hope I Helped

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I'm going to a festival from Friday to Monday and I'm trying to pack but I'm sure I've forgotten something. I live in the UK and it's going to be wet over the weekend. So far I've got clothes, wellies, sleeping bag, sleeping mat, tent, food, wet wipes, handwash, dry shampoo, plastic bags, cosmetics/toiletries, tissues, alcohol and a raincoat. Can anyone think of anything else I really need to bring?

Sounds like you've got it all :)

Just make sure you have a thick clothing - like hoodies, socks, coats and an UMBRELLA, I forgot mine at t4 on the beach! Did NOT work out well!

It's probabrly too difficult but if you bought a small safe, those do come in handy.

Bring a torch and batteries!! That is a neccesity!
Don't forgot toothpaste/brush and hair brush. I always end up forgetting them when I'm going somewhere.

It's a good choice that you're bringing dry shampoo - saved my life !

Plasters and Painkillers will come in handy :)

Hope I helped!!
Sage :)

Ps - Which festival? Glastobury? Redding?

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16/f

I apologize in advance if I sound really naïve for asking this

Have any of you ever just made out with a friend but then simply continued your friendship afterwards? Can you explain to me how such a thing could happen? Like, I can kind of get how it would start if the mood and setting were right, but then what about after you were done? Wouldn't there be a sense of awkwardness between you two, or an unanswered question of a possible relationship? It just seems like it would be really awkward after that.

You see, the whole idea of just making out with a friend and then going on with the friendship completely baffles me. I've always thought that making out was something special that should only happen between people in a relationship...I mean, I understand the idea of a hookup, but isn't that usually not between people who are considerably good friends?

The reason that I ask is that there is one particular guy friend that I have in mind that I know made out with one of my friends a month or two ago and they didn't even know each other that well [not as close as me and him]. That's what kind of got me thinking. We might be hanging out soon and I don't actually like him like a crush but there's some interest and I could do with a nice snog because I kind of miss it. I just don't want it to be weird between us afterwards because he's a really fun guy and I don't want us to not be friends after it because I feel weird. It's not that I'm uncomfortable with the idea of making out with him, I'm just uncomfortable with what might happen later. Any advice?

P.S. Sorry for the length

It depends on a few things really

- How tight you are as friends. If you're good friends, its not likley to ruin your friendship
- How you both value "making out". If you guys are on the same page, that its just a bit of fun, then you guys are likley to be mates after. HOWEVER , example - If you made out for fun, but HE made out with you because he REALLY likes you - thats where the friendship would get rocky because it meant something different.


You just need to make sure you guys are comfortable enough with each other, to make out, laugh it off.

When it happens to me or my friends, you know, just for a bit of fun - usually dares, it's no big deal. What it means to you, should mean the same to him. But if it means something different, thats where it goes wrong.

Take the risk if your friendships strong enough.

Ps - The only way it will feel wierd, is if YOU make it wierd. Behave around eachother as you would normally, it's not difficult, right?

Sage :)

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i want to lose some weight for going back to school and i was wondering what would be the best way is it as simple as exersise and heathly eating?
i am not that big a size 10-12 so nothing dirastic please!
xx

I was a 10, now an 8, due to SWIMMING every week, and when I had free time - just pop down there for a quick swim.

Jogging once a week for twenty minutes.

Having 5 portions of fruit and veg a day - an unhealthy snack each day ( ie - low fat crisps) & having an unhealthy meal ONCE a week (sat or sun)

Just don't deprive yourself of junk food, other wise you'll explode and just stuff yourself silly.

Swimming made me lose weight of my thighs, arms and particulary the stomach. I lost weight from my face by cutting back

Sage :)
My experience

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