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Boyfriends sister :S
I've been with my boyfriend for 7 months now (I'm 15, he's 16), he has a little sister aged around 9 or 10 and an older sister about 20. I get on with his older sister, we've got no problems. But, I've noticed that my boyfriends little sister is always wanting attention from him. It's only recently starting to get on my nerves, because we do get on.. most days. Idk, one day she'll be all nice to me and in the 'i hate my older brother' mood and leave us alone, the next day she's like always around us, like if we're at his house.
Today, I went swimming with my boyfriends family, so obviously me and him had to watch his little sister. And she acted really differently. Like, she was hugging him and she was like 'No, he's mine!' So I was just playing about with her and argued back. But she got all serious and just kept on generally annoying me, which she hasn't really done before.
Another thing is when she is in the 'i hate my older brother' mood, she's always sucking upto me. For example, she'd always argue againest whatever my boyfriend would say, but if I was to argee with him she'd change her mind and she just always agrees with me. So like, I really don't know if she's jealous because we spend so much time together? (I am his first long term girlfriend, and he's mine) Or I don't know if she's doing it on purpose?
Sorry if it's long, but thanks :)
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I would say, she loves her brother and doesnt want someone else (you) to take away their special friendship. She'll suck up to you because she wants you to like her, be almost impressed with her in a way.
To work around the situation, don't sink to her level or mentality - suggest to herr parents or your boyfriend if you could take her out shopping or somewhere, just so you guys can have a little bonding time, she might treat you better/like you better if she got to knw that you're not spiteful enough to steal her brother away from her. Do something with her that will include her, NOT exclude her. Maybe a picnic with you,her and your boyfriend.
Maybe if you get some advice from the older sister, she might be able to help you. She seems mature enough to know where you're coming from and not get offended by you being slightly annoyed by the younger one.
There are many ways around it, but you just need to sugarcoat a lot of things with this young girl. Try to be her buddy.
Hope I helped
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I think the reason why she gets in the "He's MY brother!" mood is because she's afraid that you're trying to take him away, in a sense. She sees that he gives YOU all the attention, and she gets scared that he's going to stop giving her attention all together (even thought he obviously won't.)
I think the reason why she tries to suck up to you is because she wants you to like her. The two behaviors go hand in hand; she thinks if you like her, then her brother will continue to like her and give her attention.
She's young, and doesn't understand that he can love and spend time with both of you, so cut her some slack. Just be nice to her, and when she gets possessive of your boyfriend, say something reassuring like "Yes, he IS your brother and he loves you very much. But he's my boyfriend and he likes me, too. He loves both of us."
-Laura (17-f)
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