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16 female. See i go with this boy lets call him antione. But before i got wit him i was talking to this boy lets call him demario and i just can't get him out of my head. i know im not really over him, but i have a boyfriend that i really care about so why am i so torn between the two. I don't even know if demario still has feelings for me like that. But i still can't let him go, everytime i see him its like i can't breathe and that scares me cause i don't feel that way with antoine. I don't know what thats supposed to mean. Antoine is so sweet, he has been getting on my nerves a lot lately but to be honest he treats me very well. he treats me like im the only one he will ever want and it hurts me to doubt my relationship with him like i do. even if me and antoine don't work out im afraid that i'll never find anyone that makes me feel the way demario does and treats me and loves me the way antoine does.
how do i get over this feeling and move on with my life.

hmmm...i think you should make a list. put their names and all the good things about them, and all the bad things about them: like who respects you, who does things for you, who likes you back, who you're happy with.
if you wanna know how demario feels, ask him. or pay more attention to what he does and says and how he says it when you're together. you will most likely be able to tell:) hope i helped:D
*Diamyn*

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OK guys please answer this.. girls u can help too...
for v-tines day i think im getting my bf...
sliky boxers... cologne... and maybe like a movie gift certificate?
is that totally stupid???
if so tell me... and also can you guys give me some ideas on somthing to get him!!
thanx in advance!!!!!!!!!
**Sammie**

Thats really good. That'll be good, especially if he likes movies. I never really bought my b/f anything, but he mentioned he wanted a necklace chain. I don't know if yours will like that.
*Diamyn*

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ive been dating this guy for 6 months.. he's been feuding with his dad for longer than i can remember. last night him and his dad got into a huge fight, and he cant stand his dad anymore. he decided to move with his mom in indiana (i live in illinois). i can't stop crying.. he just said goodbye to me and he's leaving tomorrow right after school, and i never see him at school anyway. what am i supposed to do to stop crying? me and him are going to continue to date but i can't stop crying and thinking negatively. help me please

:( That really sucks. I have a very similar situation now. I cried day and night in the beginning of January until I couldn't anymore. I thought I shouldn't cry so much, but crying realy helped me. Now, I can go to sleep without wetting my pillows.
So, it may help to just cry all of your emotions out. Hope it helps some.
*Diamyn*

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hey! firstly, i loved your column!
secondly = my problem!
okey, so this is the deal..i met this wonderful guy this summer, but he has a Girlfriend. Anyway, we spent 6 weeks together and we made out, held hand and all that (IT WAS WONDERFUL!) please dont tell me what i did was wrong, i know it was but i dont care because i love him, i really do. And he's told me that he loves me too. We made a deal yesterday (he's been with his GF for about 2 years, and he says he loves her too) he said, he doesnt want to cheat on her anymore because he loves her but if the feeling is right-something could happen between us this summer. And i was like: what do you mean? and he asnwered: well, im going to have my place all to my self this summer soo..who knows what could happen between us!? ;) anyway, i live in japan and he lives in america so we only see eachother during the summer. Hmm,i don't really know what my question is..im just so cofused..i love him so much, and i miss him..i really dont give a damn about his GF (i know i sound like an evil person, but i really really really love him, i cant help it.)Is there anything i can do to get over him? should i even try to get over him? should i sleep with him? (he's 18 and im 14) what's gonna happen between us? ( sorry, i know you cant answer that question) he's just so amazing i dont know what to do. Alot of guys like me here in japan, but i dont like anyone of them im just soo stuck on joshua.
Help! please?- mariana

thanx:D
now to your question... i know you really like him, but think about this: if he has a g/f, and he's still talking to you and holding hands and everything, if you two were to go together, then who's to say he won't do it to you?
And the fact that you two can't see each other everyday only adds to the reasons i wouldn't recommend you two going any farther.
Now, you could spend time with him at his house, but the decision to go all the way with him is totally yours. If you don't wanna get hurt, I suggest that you don't.
I have the same problem with getting over boys, but the best piece of advice I can offer is to cry. When i couldn't see my b/f for a year, i cried until i got all my feelings out. I cried every night until I got it all out. Now, I can't remember the last time I cried. But just let your feelings out. Don't hold them in.
Well... I really hope i helped you out any:)Come back if you need anything else:P
*Diamyn*

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I was wondering, what's hooking up, because my mom's always talking about it (she's 29, i'm 10) and i think it has something to do with having sex, but i'm not sure.

Hooking up, as far as I know, can be one of two things: having sex or becoming boyfriend and girlfriend. You have to listen to how she uses it to find out which she's talking about, but it's probably sex. Hope i helped any:)
*Diamyn*

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i've been having a really tough time with gettig over my ex boyfriend because he was everything to me- but i Need to move on- no question about it. SO theres this new guy and i like him and he likes me a lot too. But somtimes he's shy and i want him to like open up. The reason for this is because he's never had like a realy gf! which is different, but its not like he's a geek or anything, he could've gotten plenty of girls but he's never really liked a girl that much.. he's kinda picky i guess. So should i go and try this guy out? cuz he's so fun to be around.. maybe it will make me stop thinking about my ex. What about this shy thing tho? Help please =D thanks so much- i'll rate

Nothing helps to get over your ex like a new guy.
I think you should definitely talk to him about you two hooking up and since he makes you happy, you won't think about your ex so much.
About the shy thing... don't rush him now, since he's picky. Wait a while, then tell him you'd really like it if he opened up some. Since he should REALLY like you by then, he'll try, so he could keep you happy, just like you would do for any good b/f:) hope this helps:D
*Diamyn*

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what do girls look for in guys. It doesnt really help me because im a guy looking for what qulities like only girls answer please

I prefer guys who are tough, that can protect me, but sensitive and sweet and gentle when we are together. I like a guy who can make me laugh(not childish), but has a good sense of humor.
I like a guy who's not afraid to show people he cares for me, even if he has to do it in front his friends. And I like a guy who would do for me what i would do for him. Does that help any?
~Diamyn~

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Okay im 15 .. and i like these two guys .. tha first one lets call him Joe ..okay well he goes to my school .. and hes a junior(im a freshman) well our lockers are right next to each other so thas sorta how we met but then we started talking,talking bc i became "close friends" with his friend (lets call him) Steve .. well me ans Steve just have sorta drifted away .. but me and Joe still talk alot !! n we talk online n everyday at school .. and i like him alot .. hes 17 .. soo hott and is soo sweet to me!! we just sorta click i guess.. hes so awesome .. and then tha other guy lets call him Bob .. well i met him about a month and a half ago from my two bff's ..Well we have all hung out together a few times and me and Bob talk online all tha time n see each other about every weekand(hes a freshman too but goes to another school) .. so every weekand me and my friends go to these local concert things .. its just basically a whole bunc of local punk/emo bands and they play .. its really awesome .. well me n my friends have been goin every sat. night for tha past month .. well this comming up saturday .. i invited Joe and Bob .. and they are both sorta thinking like im guna be there n we can get close or flirt or hook up or w/e .. which we prolly will ... but i dont want like Bob to think like we are guna make out or anyhthing bc then Joe is guna be there and vice versa .. i dont want to hurt either of them .. Me and Bob talk ALOT and we both like each other and know it.. but me n Joe .. well i like him ALOT and i think he knows it but im not sure how he feels about me .. I really like both of them .. Bob has a great personality and is SOOO sweet .. There are so many things i love about him .. but then Joe hes so hott ..and nice and sweet..n i like alotta things about him too .. and i told my mom that i liked both of them but she keeps insiting that i should forget about Bob and just keep persuing Joe !! but i think she thinks that bc hes older and his family is way rich ... so im not sure what i should do about this upcomming weekand .. Pleae help ? I rate 'XoX

hmmmm....:)
interesting. i believe that you should follow your heart on this one. Who do you feel more strongly for? I think, to put your fears to rest, you should ask Joe how he truly feels. Even though you don't wanna hurt their feelings, you can't have both, so I suggest you go w/the one you could picture spending time with for a long while. Speaking of time, I know it sucks to have a b/f that you don't see everyday, so that's another point for Joe. In the end, i would definitely pick Joe. You shouldn't really care about how much money someone has, because thats totally superficial. But choose wisely.
Hope I helped you out any:)
*Diamyn*

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Ok I've liked this guy Steve for two years.. I think about him nonstop, I swear I haven't gone a day without thinking about him, and when I'm not around him, I find myself anxious and thinking about when I will see him next. Steve used to like me, and I thought he still did like me, but now I'm not so sure cuz now I see him flirting with all these other girls and it makes me soo jealous. I feel like I can't be happy with anyone but him. I've been asked out by other guys, but I said no because I only like Steve. And I even had a boyfriend, but I broke up with him cuz I couldn't be happy and I couldn't stop thinking about steve. How do I let Steve know I like him, in a suttle (sp?) way? How do I get him to be mine without scaring him off?

Well, there is no magical way to get him to like you all over again. But you could tell him EXACTLY how you feel, and he might start hanging around you more and more. Then, you should feel a lot better knowing he's in your life in some way.
As for telling him, just be straight out with it. Don't keep throwing him hints and keep dragging on about it, because he may get scared a little and think you're obsessed, and he will run from you then. Hope i helped any:)
~Diamyn~

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See i like this kid hes mad nice funny mad cute .. u kno ,, he got it all .. but i am in a relationship .. and i dnt no what to do ? what should i do .. thank you ! xoO*

I think you should let him know you're interested(so he won't wander off) but let him know you're already in a relationship. Maybe he'll wait for you. If he does, especially for a long time, he should be a good boyfriend. Hope I helped:)
~Diamyn~

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There's this guy who i really really really like (lets call him Jo), but Jo told me that he really liked someone else and only wanted to be mates with me. However he's still been flirting with me and today he wasn't even bothered that his "crush" was there. He looked really chuffed when i laughed at his jokes and i caught him watching me. But later on his friend Bob and i were being really friendly and when i looked over at Jo, he looked kind hurt and gave me this really funny look. Later on I was talking to him on msn and he wasn't as friendly as usual. So i guess the question is do you think that he's maybe starting to like me and what do i do? Thanx, soz this is so long

Claire xx

I definitely think he's changed his mind about being only friends. It might be because he realized he realy liked you.
Tell him you know he was angry, and let him know that you still like him a lot. Hope I helped you out:)
~Diamyn~

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ok, everytime i start to like a guy, i tell myself im not good enough, and i wonder why any guy would want to be with me. im 14 and have never had a real boyfriend, but i desperately want one. and when i finally do start to think im good enough for the guy, i woory about what his friends and my friends would think... i just dont know what to do...

:( don't EVER tell yourself you're not good enough for someone.Most guys you'll meet won't even be worthy of your presence. Even though you may be desperate for a b/f, pick wisely for someone who will treat you good of course, so you won't feel so bad for yourself.
Don't worry about what others will think. That will not help you at all. Worry about what's best for you and what will make you happy.
Hope everything works out!:D
~Diamyn~

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This is mostly to the females out there: What is the most romantic- meaningful gift you've ever received?

I got all these one Valentine's Day:
a very good picture of him, a kiss on the lips, a good hug, a cute little red teddy bear, a box of chocolates, he spent the day at my house, and he took me on a date later that night. Not much, but it's cool:P
~Diamyn~

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My mother just got married, though we've been living with him and his daughter for a year or two. Recently I've realized what a bad person my new stepsister is (evil stepsister!!) but I have to live with her until I go to college (two years). I told her I didn't like her flat out, but I still have to deal with her on an almost daily basis. What can I do to make this less painful?

I would try to avoid her at all costs... keep my comments to myself and don't even try to help her.There's no guaranteed way to not see her for the rest of your natural-born life(i know you would like to), so just make sure she doesn't invade your privacy or go in your room or anything.(post signs) She should get the message. Hope I helped any:)
~Diamyn~

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ok hi. im a 13/f and ive been dating my bf for like idk 5 months and were really close.and well his ex girlfriend and me have became really good friends (they went out for like 10 months) and my bf always tells me about how he wants to be friends with her again (they got into some huge fight over nothing) and so i hooked them up to be friends again. so today at lunch when they saw eachother they gave eachother a look that waslike " i still love you" right in front of me i didnt kknow what to do so i just walked away.. i talked to her about it but she says nothing will happen and she'de never do it that to me... also my bf is knda known for cheating on his gf's.. so far he hasnt though...
WHAT DO I DO??????
luv...jealous and confused

Oooh...If they broke up over nothing much, then it's a really good guess that they still have feelings for each other. Even though he hasn't cheated on you yet, I'd keep a close watch. I don't think she would let that happen to you, though. Especially if she's a good friend.Just don't assume anything unless you saw it your own self. Hope I helped some.
~Diamyn~

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I've been dating my boyfriend for about 9 months now, we're in love, yadda, yadda, yadda. I've had this frind for about a year and a half and he's gay. He has a boyfriend and all that stuff but for some reason, my boyfriend is jealous of him! I spend alot of time with him, we go shopping once a week, all the typical things you'd do with one of your girlfriends or your gay friend. I've asked him before why he's jealous of him and he'd always say "I'M NOT JEALOUS!!" He gets in such a pissy mood when I tell him that me and Frank (the gay one) are going shopping. I don't know what to do about it! Can anyone help? His attitude is really getting on my nerves!

Its sounds like he has an insecurity problem, and you should sit and talk with him before thigns get worse. Tell him that its working on your nerves and that if he doesn't stop, you'll leave him. If he doesn't stop, you really might have to. There's no reason for him to do all this if he trusts you. Hope things work out:)
~Diamyn~

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I am a 16 year old female. Well i have been with my boyfriend for 3 months and at first everything was fine I was happy. Now its like everytime he talks or even if he just looks at me i get annoyed. I don't know what to do. I care about him a lot but i don't know why im so unhappy with him. Maybe its not him maybe im just trippin. sometimes i really want to be with him and sometimes its like why am i with him. I want to know should i break up with him or not. im not sure i really do care about him and all my friends think i should stay with him. but i want to know what you think. Please help. what should i do

This happened to me before. After 3 months, you probably really care about him, but it's just that you dont realize it right now. If you guys ever were away from each other for too long, you might get lonely and start to miss him.
Maybe you two need some time apart(no together, whatsoever) so you can figure out if you really care for him. If you're happier w/o him, then you might have to split:(
Hope I helped any.
~Diamyn~

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I'm trying to find piano sheet music for a song by Straylight Run.

Any ideas? : )

there's this site:

http://www.taborama.com/archive/tab.php?tid=76296&aid=3136&a=Straylight%20Run&t=Existentialism%20On%20Prom%20Night&i=1

hope that works!

or try this:

http://www.taborama.com/archive/tab.php?vid=96159&aid=3136&a=Straylight%20Run&t=Existentialism%20On%20Prom%20Night&i=4

it's not the same...:)

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anybody know where i can get guitar notes for playing on the song called brain stew by green day ?? like the sheet music for it so i can play it on my guitar

http://www.fretplay.com/tabs/g/green_day/brain_stew-crd.shtml

hope i helped any:)
~Diamyn~

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ok so i've liked this guy for like 2 years off and on. my best friend said that during the summer he liked me 2. well i guess i finally got over him by the end of ther summer and then he turned up in my math class, sitting right next to me. i find myself liking him again, and he always finds time to talk to me during p.e. , and for the stupidist reasons, does he like me?? (sorry about the length ) thanx

Good news!
I think he definitely likes you. When your best friend said he liked you, they weren't lying.
When boys actually give you the time of day, and they do it often, they really are interested.
Hope i helped!
~Diamyn~

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