I'm Victoria. I haven't been on this site in a while. If you have received advice from me before and liked it, please feel free to ask more questions.
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A father finds his son praying at night. 'God bless Mommy, Daddy, and Grandma. Ta ta Grandpa.' The father finds this odd, but doesn't think too much of it. The next morning the grandfather dies. The father remembers the night before, but doesn't say anything. That night, the son prays, 'God bless Mommy and Daddy. Ta ta, Grandma.' The father hopes that nothing happens to the grandmother. Sure enough, the next morning the grandmother dies. At this point the father gets really scared. That night, the son prays "God bless Mommy. Ta ta, Daddy". The father stays up all night long, frightened. Early in the morning he goes to the doctor to make sure everything is fine. When he comes home, his wife is waiting frantically in the driveway and yells "Honey, come quick! The milkman just dropped dead on the porch!"
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"Cowards die many times before their deaths: the valiant never taste death but once. Of all the wonders that I have yet heard, It seems to me most strange that men should fear, seeing that Death,a necessary end, will come when it will come."
-Caesar Act II line 31-37
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" So our stories have made you sad, you tell me. Yes, this I can understand...but tears are not the right response. For every painful story there is one of beauty, one to learn from...You must never forget the art of enjoyment, otherwise the pain of survival will crush you."
-Gasper, a guerilla with the Guatemalan National Revolutionary union.
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I'm 15, a virgin, I've never had oral sex, I've never even made out with a guy before. Sometimes my vagina has been itchy and sometimes I have alot of clear discharge (or sometimes it's a little yellow) and sometimes it smells a bit funky. I'm not sure what's the matter since I've never had sex before or ANTYHING. If this there is anything wrong with me, does it sound like it could lead to me not being able to have a baby? I've been really worried ever since I've seen a movie like two months ago and that's got me wondering. So as you can see this has been for like three/four months problem. Is it even a problem? PLEASE HELP! (link)
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You have a yeast infection. Were you on antibiotics around the time the symptoms started? You can either go to your doctor and he'll tell you to get Monistat, my friend says that should clear it up within a week or less. My friend Emo Kid says its not your fault, the antibiotics kills the good and bad bac a, which causes it, which can lead to a yeast infection.
Mad Love,
Victoria and Emo Kid
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I really like this guy...but idk if he likes me back. He had a girlfriend who he REALLY liked...and i still think he likes her. I cant make him like me or anything...but it just really breaks my heart :(. Wut can i do? (link)
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You can't make anyone like, LIKE you. Dating is a mutual thing, you should talk to this guy yourself and figure out yourself how he feels about you. Because if you hear it through the grapevine, it only cause more trouble. I think as painful as it may be, this whole not knowing thing, if you talk to him and figure out each others feelings, you may find some sort of serenity.
MAd Love,
Victoria
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how do you spell trans-am like that? transam? it looks kind of wrong (link)
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I think you could spell it either trans-am or trans am. What an odd question...?
MAd Love,
Victoria
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I'm 22/m and my sister just turned 16. We're very close with one another and usually can share anything. Recently, however, she has become more sexually explorative, which is fine, but now seems to be obsessed by it. She told me yesterday that she wants to hook up with this 19 year old freshman in college that I know. They're not dating, but are considering getting to know each other. My sister used to be so righteous and moral and I feel that she's going to just end up hurt with this new sexual discovery. She's thinking about getting ahotel room with this guy this weekend. What should I do? I don't want her to get hurt and frankly, I don't want her to turn into a slut. Thanks =Concerned Brother= (link)
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You should have her talk to girls who did whst she did and ended up geting hurt. I think she may need to see the situation first hand in order to understand it. Have you also tried talking to her? She may get defensive, but let her know that you love her, and don't want her to ge hurt. I'm 16 myself, and I know what its like to have my eyes on older guys, but I also know the laws, tell her that this guy could go to jail if he messes around with her. Sex is something to be taken seriously, and it looks like shes not taking it seriously enough. If your sister has ahd this major personality change, you need to find out what the problem is and try to work it out with her. And whatever her decision, you should be her big brother.
MAd Love,
Victoria
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i've been going out with this boy for like 6 months now, but my friends want me to stop going out with him and they the ones who wanted me to go out with him in the first place.they say i'm spending to much time with him and i hardly get to see him.
I need advice (link)
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I think your friends might be jealous. You need to sit down and talk to them, but that also depends on what your defintion of "what you hardly get to see him is" You also need to talk to your boyfriend about all of this, seeing as how this involves him, too. Don't dump your friends, patch things up and work them out.
MAd Love,
Victoria
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Hi!!
I'm 16 but still in year 11 and I desperately want to move out. I have a job with a regular income (not huge but it's enough) and quite a bit of money saved up. Me and two of my friends want to move out and rent a house somewhere, but we don't know if anyone will rent to us!! Even though we're over 16, we're still in school and you can't get a full-time 'proper' job until you've finished year 11, so does anyone know if you can rent houses - and if you can, if anyone is willing to rent them to you! - before you finish year 11? Or will we have to wait until July, when the school year ends, despite our age?
Thanks loads! (link)
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You have to get legally emancipated in order tomove out and support yourself, or else the landlord could get in a helluva whole lot of trouble renting to minors. I know how it feels wanting to move out, but you're 16 and you can't work full-time, you're not going to bring in alot of money anyways, not even between the both of you,it would be hard to live off of that. Even if you do have money saved up, you have to plan everything out, but no matter what, you're still a minor. I don't know how the laws work out where you are, but...You have to wait until you're 18. MAybe you guys could just spend the night at each others houses, or move in with a friend, thats what I'm doing, but if you're doing this to show how responsible you can be, try other methods of showing your responsibility. Save up for a car, but until then, either emanicpate yourself, or sit tight until you're 18.
MAd Love,
Victoria
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i have a naturally quiet voice, especially when singing, any advice on how to sing louder? i have to sing in fron of judges ina couple weeks and thats one thing i would like to work on (link)
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Open your mouth wider, and make sure you use all of the breath in your diaphrgm, but be careful not to sound too breathy, but I'm sure you know that.
MAd love,
Victoria
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Hey, I'm a really good student and everything, I'm also real smart. I'm in a gifted school, but I'm just not motivated. I really need some motivation!! thx =) (link)
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If you're gifted, you should grasp it, very few people are extremely gifted. Not to brag, but when I was young, I was gifted (And I still kind of am), but it was never properly nurtured, my mom couldn't afford to send me to a school for the gifted. I'm smart, don't get me wrong, but there was som much more I could have accomplished. If you have this wonderful opportunity, I suggest you take full advantage of it. There are many people who love to be where you are. Think of the wonderful things you could do with your gift.
MAd Love,
Victoria
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Are there any ways that your hymen (sp?) can be broken besides sex? Like using tampons, fingering, etc? And can a doctor tell if its broken or not just by looking@ u down there? (like check ups andstuff) (link)
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The hymen is a thin mucus membrane that covers the opening of the vagina. There are many ways it can break, like playing sports, horseback riding, and yes tampons and sexual intercourse, as well as fingering. I'd doubt the doctor would question you about it, because the hymen can also wear away due to menustrating ( it tends to do that if you've been menustrating for more than three years) The only way a doctor or anyone would know would be by looking "down there". For some girls,it hurts when it breaks, other girls don't feel anything. Like when I first used a tampon, all I felt was a little bit of pressure and that was it, but some other girls hymen is so stiff, they have to go to the doctor to get it broken (ouch!)I hope I told you what you wanted to know.
MAd Love,
Victoria
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what are some really good stores to find name brand things that arent to expensive?? (link)
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Outlets. or an off the rack store, thats what we have here for Nordstrom, I personally don't go in there, but its the same stuff. And alot of second hand store have brand new stuff that people just don't wear then donate.
Mad love,
Victoria
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I am jewish, people tell me all the time that in their religion there is a trinity of some sort. My question is how can Jesus, The Holy Ghost, and _________ make up G-d? I dont know the third one either.
I'm just a little confused.
~Nokomis~ (link)
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The third is the Father, but I don't understand the concept, its really odd to me, but then again, I'm a witch...
MAd lOve,
Victoria
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when someone calls you on your cell phone and it says "ID restricted" is there any way to find out who it is? cause sometimes i get prank calls. Like if you called the operator would they tell you. (link)
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Its usaully a telemarketer when that comes up. To have them to stop calling, go to www.donotcall.gov. It really works, thats what I did.
MAd love,
Victoria
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13/m
hi,
i've taken the whole am-i-fat testing and stuff from different websites, and they all say the same thing, that i don't weight enough. i don't have an eating disorder or anything like that. my doctor i guess knows about this, but hasn't really told me to do anything. so... what can i do? i eat until i'm full, and thats it. please don't say "eat more!". i'll rate you if you give extremely good advice, give extremely funny advice, or give extremely bad advice.
yours,
the thin one (link)
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If you don't have an eating disorder and you eat until you're full, you're fine. Don't worry about it, you just ahve an extremely fast metabolism, I know alot of people like that. I guess your doctor has also realised that you're fine, but if you still have worries, ask him. Those online tests aren't always true. I think you'll be just fine, don't worry.
MAd Love,
Victoria
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I can't wake up in the morning. My bus comes at 6:45, and I've been waking up at 630. is there anything i can do to get more sleep? i usually cant fall asleep until 12 (link)
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Are you eating things with alot of sugar and caffine during the day? You may have to change yoyr diet if it comes down to it. And some people just naturally have insomnia, like my mom, she can go 3 days straight w/o sleeping, I've seen her do it. Or, its just that you're growing up, and your body needs more sleep. Has this just started happening? If so, it may just be puberty taking its course. Also, set your alarm earlier or have someone to wake you up.
MAd love,
Victoria
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ok so i've started using tampons and sometimes they leak so i take it out but when i do it hurts like i havent left it in long enough.... i dont know what to do get bigger ones or what
pleez help!!! (link)
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Don't get bigger ones, they hold more bacteria. My friend Rose says you're probably putting it in wrong. Are you putting it in at a 40 degree angle? Its not suppossed to hurt when it goes in or comes out. MAybe you're taking them out too soon, also.
MAd Love,
Victoria
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what is the "Kegal Excercize???" Im confused..I hear people talking about it but I never know what it is specifically...please help! (link)
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The are exercises for the vaginal muscles to make them tighter.
MAd Love,
Victoria
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at school, its sooo annoying! i am so good in every subject...EXCEPT american History. i study so hard but i just cant do it. i got a 65% on my last test and my highest is an 80...but i always get 50's and 60's on them. my friend doesnt even have to study and she gets 90s and 100s. what can help me study more and learn/remember the stuff? (link)
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What helps many people is to do an outline of the chapter. Its easy to read, and the columns going straight down make it easier to grasp. Also, don't try to cram stuff into your head all at once, that doesn't help at all, because when you get ready to take a test, your brain overloads, and you forget stuff. Don't stress over it too much.
MAD Love,
Victoria
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I'd love to hear your proof,but thats so not true in the BIBLE no mosaic books or w/e which ive never herd of, does not say ne of that stuff that you sed.i just want you to no that hell and heaven and God are very real,and if yu decline that Jesus died for you,then you will go to hell. (link)
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Read Isaih chapters 13 and 14. Tell me what you think. How dare you come to me and hassle me about religion. I don't mind dabating about it, but thats something that you email me personally about. I'm very open about religion, and discussing it, but who are you to tell me I'm going to Hell? And if you're gonna argue with me, you need to keep up with proof I can put my hands on. Don't just tell me that some guy died for my sins. I don't mean to offend you, but you don't hold up a very good argument. First of all, most of the christian holidays originated from pagan sources. You need to do your research a bit more. I advise you to check out this website, don't worry, its a christian website: http://www.nisbett.com/holidays/pagan_holidays.htm
Until you come up with a better argument, stop putting messages in my inbox. Give me some actual proof. Its Christians like you who give good christians like my friends bad name. I wish you would stop putting your religion on me. I never ever went to anyones page and said "Christianity is wrong become an atheist or a wiccan."
MAd Love,
Victoria
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I'm a chick.. I always stay with my best friend when she is home alone.. latly she has been asking me to experiment with her.. we have made out/french kissed.. you know, nothing "down there".. but she asked me if I ever wanted to experiment "dowthere" so we did.. just fingering.. but now she wants to emo.. what the fuck do I do?!?! (link)
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You've already gone the distance and done everything else; so if you feel comfortable with yourself and with what your doing, go for it. There is nojudgemnt or pressure. Like you sai' you are experimenting.You also have to think about whether you will become a lesbian from this experiment. You know, if you really like it. Like I said do whatever makes you comfortable.
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ur wiccan???that's actually really bad,i have so much proof to tell you that all of what u sed is wrong and that God DOES exist..just give me the chance!wats ur sn? (link)
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Yes, I am Wiccan. I know alot about the Bible, not to toot my own horn, but...The reaon I'm wiccan is because I don't believe in any of the Abrahamic books, i don't mean to offend, you, but hear me out. The way I believe in God is different. I think we have it all wrong. I also believe that you don't need God to be a good person. I don't believe in Hell, I don't beleive in creationism, I don't believe that Jesus was
"The Son of God". If you have actually read your Bible,or Holy book, you would see that its degrading to women. I am not a piece of property. If you read your Bible, you will find that it tells you to do such things as bash the heads of bebiesin and rape women and kill all the men of the village. if you don't believe me, do some reading in the Mosaic books, when I get the time, I'll give you the exact scriptures. I think that people should uphold morals, not this "God" we can't see. I'm not saying I don't believe in God, but i think God wants us to figure out things for ourselves, and not put everything on It. And if you think thats bad, I'm sorry, I can't change that, I think it was wrong of you to come and force your religion upon me. I may not be grown, but I'm level-heade and very mature, and I'll ask you in the nicest way possible; Don't harass me about religion. I'm not trying to be rude, but I get that alot. I think that maybe, I could show you proof instead. You'll get the same response from others like me, I don't mind answering your questions, but don't shove religion down my throat.
Mad Love,
Victoria
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