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What does it mean when someone is relentless about seeing a pic of you.You finally give it to them and u ask for a pic of them an they give you an excuse like when we finally meet you can take all the pics you want of me What's Up With That? (link)
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i'm guessing this is someone you met online.
and it doesn't sound like a good idea.
hopefully you haven't given out too much information about youself. i would seriously stop talking to this person.
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15/f
Ok... this really is for guys only but if girls want to give an opinion. I just have a question... why do guys not like me. I mean... every girl in my class that is so annoying and so holding a leash on their boyfriends has a boyfriend but not me. And you're probably thinking that i just want to go out because everyone else is. Um... no. I just want that special relationship with the right guy is that too much to ask? Guys just don't like me for some reason, though. I'm not that bad looking.. im not that skinny but not that huge. I have an awesome let loose personality. I'm into stuff like action, comedy, a few chick flick but it's limited... and I love going to games and stuff... idk.. why am i still single? (link)
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aw, really. stop worrying about it.
i was exactly like you for the longest time.
NO ONE liked me. most of my friends agree with me: once you stop wanting a boyfriend, he'll just come to you.
you're probably thinking "yeah, yeah, but can't stop and i can't wait."
but if you really aren't looking for that advice..do you hang out with guys out of school?
as your parents if you can have a movie night with a few guys and girls. make sure they aren't couples though. watch your favorite movie that guys would enjoy..or just one everyone wants to see. make sure there is at least one guy there you are interested in. just be yourself, laugh and have fun. if you don't hang out with them after school, they feel like they don't really know you..and they don't like to go out with girls they don't know. so just stop wanting a boyfriend..and look for guy friends that could eventually develop into a relationship. all of my boyfriends were friends first...even if it was jsut for a short amount of time.
good luck! if you need anything else, feel free to drop one in my inbox. =).
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OK, see I'm going out with this guy...and he's really really sweet and nice and everything, he's what I think every girl would want. BUT the only thing is...he's not good looking....at all I guess...he's not like the ugliest person on earth...but he's just not cute at all. And like I'm afraid people at my school will make fun of me, because you know, Blue Valley..think about it..girls here..we judge...what do I do? Do I dump the guy? or do I keep on going out with this guy and ignore everything?
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keep going out with him as long as you truly like him. you said he's not ugly, so why would people make fun of you? as you said, he's what every girl would want, so consider yourself lucky that you don't have a beautiful jerk. you hav e a regular, amazing guy.
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If some guy says you're both dating, but not officially going out [boyfriend/girlfriend], then does that mean you're single or taken? (link)
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you are single.
it means that you go out together, but you aren't a couple.
it's real dating, not "will you go out with me?" middle school/common high school stuff.
it means no commitment, but there is a chance of there eventually being some. =).
have fun.
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okay i asked a question about being on advienators, people have been saying thing that i didnt find appropiat. Well...people answered the question i asked...they didnt answer it very nicly, most people called me bad things and it hurt my feelings but one person gave me really good advice about it, his name was dangernerd. he helped me relize this site is NOT for children i am 13 and i should be mature enough to handle it, so i am really sorry to anybody i affended, but i still dont know if i should stay on the site, because, now everybody hates me. i need help, what should i do? please i need answers. Merry CHRISTmas!
"kiss kiss"
~3frances
ps. sorry agian (link)
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don't take anything hurtful that people say seriously. some people see an opportunity to say something witty, but mean, and just forget that there is a real person reading it and reacting from it. don't think to hard about staying on the site. when you need help, ask a question. when you feel like it, you can read people's questions and if you feel that you know how to answer them, go ahead.
just a couple tips:
1. work on your spelling and grammar. it doesn't need to be perfect, but you need to put some effort into it. i don't capitalize all the time, but correct spelling and punctuation do help.
2. you don't have to put your name at the end of your question. i know you probably did this time so people will know who is apologizing, but if you put your name on your other question, you really didn't need to. most people can't see who you are when you post. if you get mean answers, at least you know that they don't know who you are. it's all meant to be anonymous.
about your spelling:
it seems like it can be helped. you actually can spell. you just make careless mistakes.
advienators - advicenators
appropiat - appropriate
nicly - nicely
relize - realize
affended - offended
agian - again
out of all your mistakes, only "affended" looks like it was actually misspelled, not just typed too quickly.
i also notice that you don't use apostrophes for your contractions, but i don't think people really care as much about that.
just read over your questions before you submit them and fix whatever mistakes you made and you should be fine here. everyone is welcome and the majority is very nice.
have fun! =).
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ok i dont know if i should get something for my parents on christmas and if i do what should i get them (link)
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kill two birds with one stone..get them a gift certificate to a nice restaurant and tell them to go out together.
i figured everyone else covered everything.
but also..any movies they like..or music.
if you want me to list more, let me know in your feedback.
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okay i dont really like to read but i am going to give it a try do any of you recommand a good book i was reading some book today it was "A Child Called It" and i loved that book so do you know any more books like that and if you havent read that its about a child being abused plz help i rate 5s (link)
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try The Lost Boy and A Man Named Dave. that will bring you through his whole life. there's also a book written by his brother. i think it's called A Brother's Journey.
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ok well i asked the question about were ic an get layouts well thanks for evryone who answered but now i found the layout i want and it doesnt work. it isnt only that on i have tryed it form other sites but the layout doesnt work can someone help me out. (link)
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tom posted an announcement you can see on your homepage. he says that html and stuff hasn't been working lately, but he is working on fixing it. that's probably your problem. so, just wait it out and try it again later.
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How do you know if you love your bf/gf or not? Becuase I have feelings for my boyfriend but I want to know whether it is love or just a crush (link)
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well, sarah.
i don't know what love is.
but i love you.
=).
but actually. i think when you love someone, whether it is your boyfriend or not, you just feel good around them. if they are having a problem you want to be there. maybe it is a strong caring? you feel comfortable around them to say whatever you think (even if its about how brass players are the best kissers =P) but you also can get butterflies.
that is all a complete guess though. =P.
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Hey everyone,
Usually i dont come here unless it's a TOTAL emergency--sadly this is one of those times. My brother, Dustin is in love with this girl, Samantha. Now, my brother lives in Lousiville, TX and she lives in Houston (it's 6 hours away). But Dustin dosent do long distance relationships because he cant see her in real life, he cant kiss her, he cant hold her, etc. So he feels that he cant go out with her. Now, Samantha and her best friend told him that Dustin is Samantha's only reason to live, and she'll probably kill herself without Dustin. So Dustin, NEVER cries--and he's crying. Dustin tried to cut himself last night, but couldnt because his blade wasnt sharp. So i ask of you all, wtf should we all do? I mean, it's a life or death situation for both of them, and i dont want ANYONE dying here, so it's really hard for me to figure this out on my own. If anyone can help me,or anything to help me with, Please reply and/or IM me on AOL/AIM at silverwolf1561. Thankyou, SO much!
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some of the answers you got i was not happy with.
"Does he think that 'being selfish' enuff to "Kill Himself" is going to solve anything ? Has he even thought of how that will make Sam feel, or the greif he will cause your Family over this..for that matter ? He sounds like he is looking for Attention, and if Sam is not there, he surely is 'getting all the attention' he is calling out for."
you might have had the same reaction. selfish enough? looking for attention?
it seems to me that he is so upset over this that he may not be thinking clearly. does he know that you know everything? try talking to him. she may or may not be serious, but, yes, tell him that if he cares for her, he should realize that killing himself will only cause her more pain and that the only way to keep her around to eventually feel better will be to live. also, remind him of everyone else who cares for him. remind him of how your family and his friends will feel..just has the person about said.
try talking to him right away and keep an eye on him. if you are absolutely positive that he is okay, then just watch him. but you should really tell your parents no matter what. they should also know to keep an eye on him and he may even need therapy.
he'll get through this. i'm sorry that you are so scared, with good reason.
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alright so this guy that im like totally head over heels in love with knows i like him..and he got me a really pretty braclet for christmas but yesterday right in front of my face he asked out my friend!! and she said yes and she knew that i realy liked him..what do i do...i wanna get back so badly and not just sit there ...help!
ill rate 5 (link)
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hmm..that doesn't seem right.
worst possible situation: was he using you to get to your friend?
best possible situation: maybe he thinks of you as a really close friend, so that's why he got you the bracelet.
does he know that you like him? does your friend even like him? sorry, i'm just completely clueless about this. leave me some more info in your feedback and i'll try my best to help you out more!
YOUR FEEDBACK:
he wasnt using me to get to myfriend cause there already kinda cloase, he knows that i like him and my friend yes does like him but i liked him before she did and she told me i could have him.
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hmm..she really should have asked you if it was okay first. maybe you should talk to her and ask her nicely if she remembers that you like him. let her know that you don't want to start a fight, but you are really upset because you like him a lot. he seems to be kind of a jerk. he obviously led you on..which he was probably aware of. maybe he is that kind of guy who wants all the girls to like him.
feel free to add to your feedback or drop one in my inbox if you need anything else. =).
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Here's the story. I'm 15, female, and don't know how to ask my parents if my boyfreind can come up to my grand parents house with me over winter break? My mom, sister, and I are all going up to my grand parents house and I'd relly like if my boy freind could come up with me over winter break in Febuary. I don't know how to ask my mom. It's nit like we'd even have to sleep in the same bed if my parents didn't want us to because my grand parents have a big house with plenty of beds. Only my mom and sister will be coming so it will be a little easier without my dad there. Please help. (link)
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just say "hey, about February vaca..i was wondering if [boyfriend's name here] could come along. you can all get to know him better and i think it would be fun. he can sleep [come up with any idea BESIDES even in the same room as you. that will just blow it all for you.]" however you ask should be fine. you don't even have to bring up sleeping arrangements right away. my mom usually asks..well where would he sleep? right after if she is considering it. also if you would usually hang out with your sister it might be a good idea to say that you will hang out with her still. good luck!
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In the last 15 months since my bf has been with his gf, he has poured out his feelings for me, came over, talked smart about wanting to "do me", mentioned dumping his gf 5 months into their relationship, wanted me to call him, wanted me to come to his work, ditched the 1 he so-called "loves" to hang out with me, and wanted to have sex with me.
The night we hung out(him and his gf were broken up at the time) he begged me to let him "stick it in". I said no to him, and he kept asking like 4 more times after. I just kept saying NO. We both said that we still loved 1 another.
The next night he tells me that he went to his (ex's)at midnight-3am to "talk" and then he said he fell asleep. (imagine that)
We went out for lunch the next day (i owed him) then i didnt hear from him anymore after that. I finally contacted him 5 days later, and he tells me that i made him realize just how much he loves "her".
So i try talking online to him and i can tell that hes just not the same as he was days earlier.
I kept asking why he wanted to have sex with me sooo bad, and he says he didnt! He says that he just wanted to see if ive changed, and if i was easy. I told him that wasnt true because he kept asking me to do it, and he kept talking about it days be4. He keeps saying that he was just testing me, and that he wouldnt have done it if i would have said yes!
Everything that he has done, he has given me gay reasons for why he did/said it. He says he told me all those things because im so gullable and that he really didnt mean them. He told me he came over because he just wanted to talk to my dad.
Then after that night he begged me to do it, he tells me "sorry things didnt work out for you, i know you have feelings for me, but its just not gonna work out for us"!
Im not the 1 whos made any of the moves here, HE HAS! So why does he throw all this in MY face acting like im the 1 that was trying so hard to get him back or something?
Im not the type of girl to have sex, especially with some1 that i still have feelings for just so he could hurt me even more by running back to his little ho!
(We did everything, just not intercourse).
The girl hes with now had a bf at the time him and her had sex(their 2nd night) he never hung out with her be4 that, and barely knew her.(shes a 15 year old nympho, started when she was 13)
He never wanted anything to do with girls like that until he got in her pants. Then he would brag to me on how long they did it and what they did.
How could he have the guts to say everything and do everything hes done to me, without any heart feelings whatsoever?
What exactly were his intentions?
I rate 5s for sensible and logical answers.
I would love to have the guys opinions, so i can understand what goes on in their twisted little minds!!
Thanks! (link)
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ugh..i don't even know him an i hate him.
the kid is a jerk, to say the least. don't even waste your time. i know it is hard, but you have to try to, not forget about him, but learn from it and move on. you can find a much nicer guy guarunteed.
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19/m
Ok I have been going out with my girlfriend for a little over a month. a couple days ago i was hanging out with one of my female friends and she pretty randomly kissed me. i pushed her off of me almost imediately, and we talked about it afterwards and were ok with it now and are still friends. here is where it gets a little more complicated. this is a girl that i used to have very deep feelinfs for. i wouldnt quite call it love, but it was close. i never told her, because she was for various reasons unavailable and i got over her. then i met my current gf and fell for her. now my gf knows that i used to like this girl, and she was ok with me being friends with her. now my worry is if i tell her what happened shell be uncomfortable. i know she would never try and forbid me from handing out with her, because she is one of my best friends, but i know it would make her feel uncomfortable. now because of an age difference (my gf is a little older than me and my friend is a bit younger) they will most likely never meet on their own so my gf would probably never find out. so my question is, should i tell her? (link)
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definitely tell her. any girl would want to know even if it was something small and meaningless. honesty is important in a relationship that you want to last.
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Well me and my boyfriend broke up about a month ago and I still love him a lot. But he's going out with another girl. Im still crazy about him and I really want him back. Should I wait around for him or try to move on? ..Oh, and I've heard from a bunch of people that his girlfriends gonna dump him for his best friend which is really low and I wanna tell him but he'll just get mad at me and say that I'm just trying to break them up so I can get him back.. should I tell him and risk the chance of losing our friendship but keep him from getting hurt or should I not tell him and keep our friendship but have him get hurt? Thanks in advance.. Kellie (link)
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well, no matter how it happens, he is going to get hurt. possibly even more if you tell him, even though you have good intentions. not only to find out that that's what she's doing, but to know that everyone knows, but him.
he's moved on, so it's time for you to do the same. i've seen girls wait years for one guy..and it never works out. dating while your young is supposed to be to get you to be with different people so you know what you want in a relationship later...in addition to all the obvious stuff. think about it..there has to be something you didn't like about him that you would like in a guy.
for example, my ex drove and i can't yet. we went out for 4.5 months and he always came over my house because it was "easier". i felt like i made him a huge part of my life..but he didn't let me into his. in the whole time we were going out..i went over his house 3 times. that's sad.
on the other hand, my boyfriend of over a month makes me as much a part of his life as i make him of mine. i've been over his house many times and i'm inviting to do family stuff like decorate their tree and such. it's just wayy better.
that's just an example. there must be something similar you are looking for..even something small. let me know in your feedback! i'm curious. =).
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I have a freind whoes my guy freind, and kinda avoding him. like for a month since he had a Gf. and this summer we closer we ever was. well thing is I 2 year older then him, he 18 and i am 20. well thing is i still want talk to him and i still having feeling for him, but this is that i don't want tel him i sad bout that he had gf and told me that he hase gf and wanted be with me.. well thing is I i try to spell right and corret my grammer it hard . i am deaf and hard for me try make since, any one give me ur email u reall help me, couse i know on here they strike on spelling... I not best speller in world, plesase help me, (link)
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i don't ususally give out my email, but you can contact me right on my page if you would like. =).
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I wanna come up with something cozy & comfy but cute for tomorrow. Any interesting style tips?
Thank you :) (link)
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any sweater and jeans and an oversized necklace is what i always do when i'm too cold to get dressed. i feel like i'm still in my pajamas and i'm nice and warm..but still feel cute.
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Okay, first of all, 18f. Second, some background - there's this guy who had been confusing me, teasing me, making fun of me, and being kind of a (good-natured) asshole to me for about two months. Somewhere along the way, I developed a crush on him...weird, I know. He's different, though. Guys aren't usually able to confuse me like he did. He's intelligent and interesting. That's like, exactly what I need in a guy.
Thing is, he kissed me the other day, and completely gave away the fact that he liked me the night before when we were hanging out...so I didn't exactly push him away.
So I like him, he likes me. That's a big problem for me. I got out of a fairly long term thing in like mid-October, and pretty much decided single was the way to go for me. I've always been kind of a loner and I've felt trapped in relationships before. I didn't like that feeling. I'm almost afraid to end up in anything complicated like a relationship with him 'cause - for one thing - I dont want to lose the friendship if it ends badly. I don't want to feel stuck, or tied down right now, at all. That's totally not what I need.
However, it's a mutual crush. I mean, what better grounds for a relationship?
I just don't know what to do, because I want to be with him but I'm afraid of that trapped feeling, and all that. I don't want to go back on my word to myself (I said I'd stay out of relationships for a long time because I was sick of the complexities and the confusion and drama they always ensue), but if that's the case, why do I want to be with him?
Argh.
My first instinct is to run away from my feelings/from him, but consciously I don't want to do that. AHH. I guess I wanna know what you guys think I should do.
Please lay off the chatspeak/all-caps. Both of those are extremely obnoxious. If I have to read your answer more than once to understand it, you're not getting a five.
Thanks =) (link)
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i say you should go for it. just talk to him first about how you feel. if he doesn't know already, let him know how you feel about him, but also about your fears. why let a potentially good thing go?
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Alright so basicly i just got out of a relationship and got my heart broken. Im ready to go out meet new guys hang out with guy friends and all that! How can i make myself out there and meet new guys? how can i show guy friends im single and something they should be interested in.. what are some things i could do? I really need this!!!
thanks
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don't go out there acting like you are looking for a boyfriend. just go out looking for friends..but flirt. if you flirt with a guy it shows that you are interested and may interest them. if you go out acting like you are looking for a boyfriend, it shows..and its a turn off for guys. just don't rush into a new relationship until you are sure you are over your ex. have fun!
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Yeah i know this is like really random, but i was just wondering, how do you guys feel about the store Abercrombie and Fitch. I was reading about it online and so many people seem to hate it!!!
i don't really shop there that often but i was thinking of getting some clothes there for christmas and i was just wanted to know some of yall opinionss on it (link)
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you know what? it doesn't even matter what people think. if you like the clothes, get them. the people who don't like it are people who are anti-preppy. i think labelling all together is stupid.
it's known for being expensive, so if you've got the money, go for it! or even just treat yourself to a couple things. and always make sure you check clearance cause you can get some really cute clothes for a way smaller price.
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