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Why does he keep lying and doing this?
In the last 15 months since my bf has been with his gf, he has poured out his feelings for me, came over, talked smart about wanting to "do me", mentioned dumping his gf 5 months into their relationship, wanted me to call him, wanted me to come to his work, ditched the 1 he so-called "loves" to hang out with me, and wanted to have sex with me.
The night we hung out(him and his gf were broken up at the time) he begged me to let him "stick it in". I said no to him, and he kept asking like 4 more times after. I just kept saying NO. We both said that we still loved 1 another.
The next night he tells me that he went to his (ex's)at midnight-3am to "talk" and then he said he fell asleep. (imagine that)
We went out for lunch the next day (i owed him) then i didnt hear from him anymore after that. I finally contacted him 5 days later, and he tells me that i made him realize just how much he loves "her".
So i try talking online to him and i can tell that hes just not the same as he was days earlier.
I kept asking why he wanted to have sex with me sooo bad, and he says he didnt! He says that he just wanted to see if ive changed, and if i was easy. I told him that wasnt true because he kept asking me to do it, and he kept talking about it days be4. He keeps saying that he was just testing me, and that he wouldnt have done it if i would have said yes!
Everything that he has done, he has given me gay reasons for why he did/said it. He says he told me all those things because im so gullable and that he really didnt mean them. He told me he came over because he just wanted to talk to my dad.
Then after that night he begged me to do it, he tells me "sorry things didnt work out for you, i know you have feelings for me, but its just not gonna work out for us"!
Im not the 1 whos made any of the moves here, HE HAS! So why does he throw all this in MY face acting like im the 1 that was trying so hard to get him back or something?
Im not the type of girl to have sex, especially with some1 that i still have feelings for just so he could hurt me even more by running back to his little ho!
(We did everything, just not intercourse).
The girl hes with now had a bf at the time him and her had sex(their 2nd night) he never hung out with her be4 that, and barely knew her.(shes a 15 year old nympho, started when she was 13)
He never wanted anything to do with girls like that until he got in her pants. Then he would brag to me on how long they did it and what they did.
How could he have the guts to say everything and do everything hes done to me, without any heart feelings whatsoever?
What exactly were his intentions?
I rate 5s for sensible and logical answers.
I would love to have the guys opinions, so i can understand what goes on in their twisted little minds!!
Thanks!
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i would say just dont hang around with him anymore. he obviously just wants to have sex and nothing more. if he truly had feelings for you he would have listened the first time you told him no. no matter how hard it is for you you need to tell him off. go find someone who loves you for who you are and not just to have sex.
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Why are you still talking to this guy?
I mean, this is complicated and not being a guy I don't want to guess at his true intentions (but I would bet he doesn't even know what they are.)
But seriously, he keeps messing with your mind, pressuring you, 'testing' you, ignoring you and then jumping back in to mess with your mind some more.
Either he is being a jerk, or he isn't in touch with reality. Maybe both.
At some point darling you need to let yourself get fed up and STOP CARING WHAT HE WANTS!
Think about yourself: Do you like hanging out with someone who pressures you or 'tests' you? Do you like hearing about the sex with his ex-girlfriend? Do you even like him at all anymore? Do you really every want to speak to this person again? Because from your question, I canâ??t imagine why you would want too.
If you are truly fed up with his nonsense, then stop wasting your energy wondering what he wants. You will probably never really understand. Just move on, take care of yourself.
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ugh..i don't even know him an i hate him.
the kid is a jerk, to say the least. don't even waste your time. i know it is hard, but you have to try to, not forget about him, but learn from it and move on. you can find a much nicer guy guarunteed.
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hey
alright well i read that and this guy sounds like a major asshole. and seriously no guy would be like oh if you woulda said yes to lettming me stick it in i wouldnt have. maybe he liked you, but no matter how much it hurts i think he was just trying to use you and try and get over his ex. this has happend to me before and it sux i kno =( but you gotta get over this ass and find someone wayy better and when he comes running back to you shove it in his face because no one deserves that.
screw him let him go hang out with that slutty girl
feel better!
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