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My brother may kill himself over love! PLEASE HELP!
Hey everyone,
Usually i dont come here unless it's a TOTAL emergency--sadly this is one of those times. My brother, Dustin is in love with this girl, Samantha. Now, my brother lives in Lousiville, TX and she lives in Houston (it's 6 hours away). But Dustin dosent do long distance relationships because he cant see her in real life, he cant kiss her, he cant hold her, etc. So he feels that he cant go out with her. Now, Samantha and her best friend told him that Dustin is Samantha's only reason to live, and she'll probably kill herself without Dustin. So Dustin, NEVER cries--and he's crying. Dustin tried to cut himself last night, but couldnt because his blade wasnt sharp. So i ask of you all, wtf should we all do? I mean, it's a life or death situation for both of them, and i dont want ANYONE dying here, so it's really hard for me to figure this out on my own. If anyone can help me,or anything to help me with, Please reply and/or IM me on AOL/AIM at silverwolf1561. Thankyou, SO much!
<3
~Jill~
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some of the answers you got i was not happy with.
"Does he think that 'being selfish' enuff to "Kill Himself" is going to solve anything ? Has he even thought of how that will make Sam feel, or the greif he will cause your Family over this..for that matter ? He sounds like he is looking for Attention, and if Sam is not there, he surely is 'getting all the attention' he is calling out for."
you might have had the same reaction. selfish enough? looking for attention?
it seems to me that he is so upset over this that he may not be thinking clearly. does he know that you know everything? try talking to him. she may or may not be serious, but, yes, tell him that if he cares for her, he should realize that killing himself will only cause her more pain and that the only way to keep her around to eventually feel better will be to live. also, remind him of everyone else who cares for him. remind him of how your family and his friends will feel..just has the person about said.
try talking to him right away and keep an eye on him. if you are absolutely positive that he is okay, then just watch him. but you should really tell your parents no matter what. they should also know to keep an eye on him and he may even need therapy.
he'll get through this. i'm sorry that you are so scared, with good reason.
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How old is he ? It may not seem relevant to most, but it 'kinda' matters what age range.
Most teens experience this. Loves of our 'temporary' Life seems like this is ALL we are really Living for, b/c..really, in a Teenager's life, having someone have 'love for us' is all we really HAVE !
Does he think that 'being selfish' enuff to "Kill Himself" is going to solve anything ? Has he even thought of how that will make Sam feel, or the greif he will cause your Family over this..for that matter ? He sounds like he is looking for Attention, and if Sam is not there, he surely is 'getting all the attention' he is calling out for.
He has SOOOO Much more to live for. Long distance relationships are built on "Strength", and if he feels like he's not STRONG ENUFF, then he should consider some thearopy. He is going to have obsticals in his life that he feels hurts him or feels like he cannot handle HIS WHOLE LIFE! That is why it is called LIFE !!
Keeping in touch with his 'gurl' when he can is all he can do, Technology is something else these days! When he has a chance, visit...or visa-versa.
He should be focused on SCHOOL & Future, not suicide.
Not to sound unsympathetic or cold, u guys...
but Dustin...seriously, Get a Hobby !
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Truth could Hurt..but it's True.
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depending on how old that girl is i think she will be just fine without him. let hime no that. she is prob only saying that so that he wont break up with her. maybe he can convice her to just kinda make it more casual. like not date but promise not to see other people and still talk alot online or on the phone or whatever
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I think this is grounds for parental intervention. This is not safe, and it's not right. Take the advice or leave it, but you'd be doing them a favor. It's out of your hands really.
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long distance realtionship are hard but if they both got love for each other( it sounds liek they do) they can make it work. to be honest with you i am in a long distnace realiton were i get to see my boyfriend once a week or once ever 2 weeks and it has been 6 months and everythign is going great. it will be hard not to see each other often but they can make it work. tell me to at least try it. because in the end everythingat happens will be for a reason. and hopefully everything will work out for you and your brother..
*~Stephanie~*
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Hey Jill,
Your Brother has no reason to do what he is doing. I know PLENTY of people who live a long ways from their boyfriend/girlfriends and they are depressed sadly. You should just have a talk with him ASAP. Ask him if he thinks that they are any more girls out there that are right for him and if so you could help him find one. But it's not worth killing yourself over someone. He apperantly needs help. Not Mental Help or anything. But somone to talk to. Just keep all sharp objects away from him and try to help him keep his mind off of her. Cause it's not gonna help if he does kill hisself. That would make it worse.
Hope Things Get Better.
-Green Days American Idiot
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