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"We make war so that we may live in peace." -aristotle"If you judge someone right away, you will not be able to learn to love them."
I'm Hayley, I'll try to help you as best I can. I'm 18, and a senior in high school. I like art, music, and clothing. I'm a vegetarian abd have been consistent with it for four years. I have two dogs a westie named misty and a Maltese/poodle mix named mally. I know a lot about dogs because any time
my dogs get a scratch, I research and call the vet haha.
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where can i find a fifth grade grad dress
Sure, their are a lot of places! Limited too/justice makes some cute dressesfor younger girls. American eagle, forever 21, Delias, urban outfitters, free people, those you will probaly be an extra small-medium if you are only in fifth grade. Other places like department stores like macys, dilliards, jcpenny all make nice dresses.. Also, I remeber the childrens places and gap made some cute clothing for younger girls. If your more into some more expensive brands, neiman Marcus is very nice. But quite pricy.
Hope I gave you some good ideas:)
thanks for your advice. ive been told that before but its just hard. and to tell you the truth since ive never had a boyfriend (...or given the guys a chance) im a liiiiittle bit scared.) i know it gets easier later when you actually are used to haveing a boyfriend but i dont want to wait. im scared but anxious and these 2 things do not mix well with me. it really sucks and then i get depressed because my friends are all lovey dovey with their boyfriends. makes me envy that kinda connection they have. ahhh i hate my liiiife! haha just kidding, but it does get a little bit depressing sometimes.
Once again, I really know exactly how you feel. I remember some of my friends had boyfriends and I was so jealous, I wanted a boy to look at me like the way they looked at them. I had so many expectations. I thought they should be like those really romantic guys in movies. I remember getting kind of sad too. I distance understand why I couldn't find this perfect guy. I always thought "oh I know I bet the perfect guy will be in a coffee shop and I'll know he's the one" haha. I went to this little local coffee shop for a month straight. And I met a few guys there, and for some reason I'd push them away. They were either too smart, too artsy, too into themselves, too silly, too old, etc. Just excuse after excuse I would make. Some other advice I'll add is just wait. Don't really go looking. Love/relationships happen so fast. It's just when it's meant to be, it's meant to be. And once you get pretty involved with someone..it's very hard to get out of.
Good luck:)
Im 16. female. my friends have bfs. its killing me because i have been practically begging for one. im not desperate though, i mean i have standards and stuff. my friend calls me picky and i know i wont be able to find a perfect guy...but i dont want a perfect guy, just somone who is perfect for me. i just want one so bad. it seems like a juvenile problem i know, and i know i have plenty of years ahead of me for that but this yearning wont freaking stop! i want someone to love me and make me feel special. but there is no one around me that i want. so...i guess what im trying to ask is either how to get rid of this empty feeling i have and depression, or something. i dont really know. (ps. ive been asked out before. ha i kinda made it sound like no guys have ever liked me but they do. i just havent liked them back.
I know exactly how you feel. I never had a boyfriend for a really long tine because I invisioned this perfect guy. I would
only like guys who were lanky, tall, dark hair, green eyes, and pale. Oh an I preferred if they were artsy or musical. ..I know there is that kind of guy out there..but their are not very
many and not many guys fit that criteria. So basically, what I'm saying is stop trying to find this perfect guy. When someone asks you out next time, say yes. Just see what happens. I was set up with this one guy and I did not want to go on the date at all. Like fifteen minutes before he was suppose to come I was thinking of saying I was sick. I ended
up going and I'm completely in love with him now. He's the exact oposite of what I've wanted. Blonde hair, blue eyes, and a soccer player. Don't judge people right away, you never know what couldn happen:)
A couple of my friends always tell me that im so gorgeous and they wish they looked like me n stuff... yeah, its flattering but it makes me feel uncomfortable and a lil guilty or something. should i do something? or what can i do so that i wont feel uncomfortable... thank u
I know what you mean, but it's best to say "oh thanks, but your just as pretty" or "thanks, I love you eyes..how do you make them look so pretty?" don't ever put yourself down though, just always say thanks and return a compliment. That's what I do!
i was anorexic. i then suffered from BED (binge eating disorder). the doctor explained to me that it was because my body was trying to "restore" all the nutrients it had lost. when i was anorexic, i lost about 30 pounds. Then, i gained about 15 back total, and i felt really good. that was my ideal weight, told by how my body felt, the doctors, and my bmi. i was put on birth control because i lost my period and with the birth control i gained 15 pounds more! right back where i started :(.... the issue is that I gained it purely because of the pills. I eat VERY healthy and exercise every day. the doctor explained to me that it was a shock to my body because it had such little hormones and this was like excess to it. but, now i'm trying to lose the 15 again.. because that is where I feel good. i'm not anorexic anymore, so i'm not gonna do anything crazy. but, i find it hard to stick to a "diet." I get emotional and scared. But, even though I eat healthy and exercise regularly, I can't lose weight because my body is already use to that. I need to stick to something that will "shock" my body into weight loss mode. Hey, i'd be happy with the first ten pounds lost. i just need to stick to it... that's all. any ideas on how to help me stick to it without getting those negative feelings? i know the only reasons i get them is because i'm scared of how bad i felt when i was sick... any advice is helpful. thank you.
My friend had a really similar problem too. She tried lots of diets and it didn't really work. So, she went to a nutritionist. If I were you that's what I would do. They will be able to make a great diet designed for you!:)
I'm 5'4" and 165 pounds. 16 years old. I wanna work out this summer and eat right. Please give me tips and stuff! I wanna train for Volleyball season (Fall) and Soccer season (winter) too. Thanks!
Eat nothing but fruits and vegetables and very little protein. Drink lots of water and exercise but running/walking/jogging four miles. You will lose a pound a day.
But you want to lose a lot of weight and I usually only reccommend that diet to someone who wants to lose 20 max. So maybe eat a little more protein. You won't lose as fast, but it's healthier.
I've done this diet and it works great!:)
how do you negate the munchies from weed?
i get so hungry and i hate eating when im high.
how do i control it?
Actually, I think your on the '3rd stage' or thats what I call it. I used to get high all the time, & then I got so bad, I would just eat everything in my fridge, & I gained like 10 pounds. So, when I didn't want to give up smoking, I locked my refrigerator and cabinets..but that was bad, and you should probably just try to cut down on smoking. I don't smoke anymore, because it was just a stupid teenage phase I went through, & wasn't worth gaining 10 pounds. >.<
this might be kinda long so bear with me :)
i have just realized that the main reason why i dont get along with girls my age and dont even get any of them, is not because of me, its because of how they are. i realized that american girls are pretty much sluts, stereotypical, materialistic, insincere, self-centered, and only care about a guy with eitehr a full-on sixpack, or a guy with a ton of money. (Sorry, american women, that's just my opinion.)
i know this might not matter to me, or it shouldnt, but im only 16 years old and in high school, but i've dont some traveling to different countries to see what its like, and what people are like. I went to thailand last summer and all i can say about the people, wow. The men are so patient and calm and peaceful, the women are even the same. they are sincere, always smiling, and always helpful instead of just giving you attitude and scoffing in your face and rolling their eyes.
I went to england and the people there are so civilized. its so different that its unbelievable. The brits dont talk out loud and dont have attitude and dont confront random people in the park about whats bothering them. Its really comforting to be around them, same with Canadians.
i KNOW that you guys might think im being superficial, and kinda stupid like (everybodys different, nationality does change anything) but teh truth is, it does. All of the TV shows in america like, the real world, jersey shore, rock of love, and all of those reality shows influence american girls to dress like the people they see on tv, AND, act like them. Where as in England or parts in Canada, the tv doesnt broadcast so many graphic things as they do in America, And its not only TV, its the radio, music, movies, etc.
i'm actually considering moving to england or to ontario after i graduate high school next year for this reason, just to be in a betetr surrounding, instead of being scared to death in my southern california home wondering if some crook is gonna break into my car.
Again, SORRY to you people who think this is directed to you, its just my opinion. i know this was long, but i appreciate some advice, and some comments. And dont try to talk me out of moving out of the country, ive thought long and hard about it and made up my mind. Thank you!
I'm from America. I've lived here all my life, and I am not materialistic (or I try not to be.. because EVERYONE is too an extent.), I'm not a slut, stereotypical (try very hard not to be, and do a good job at accepting people, unlike you...), i'm certainly not insincere, self-centered, & i'm not really even attracted to guys with 'six packs' i actually find lanky guys more attractive. & for money..well, i'll admit, i don't want any ghetto gang guys from the hood, & i want someone who is as intellectual as me so we can relate..but after that, i could care less.
Don't you think you are being a little bit stereotypical yourself? How much of America have you seen? Have you ever been out of California? And visiting for a week doesn't count..
When you travel to other countries, of course people are going to be welcoming & nice! How do you expect them to act? When you see any foreigner you usually just act like that.. its kind of like a reflex, I suppose.
Where I am from, & I'll admit, I grow up in a very rich community, but all of my friends, don't do drugs, don't have promiscuous sex, & are probably some of the nicest people i've met. I really don't know too many people in my school (my school has 3000-4000 kids, one of the largest schools in the state.) who are even all that bad. Are there people in my school, like the ones you described? Yeah, of course, like they are in all communities..
You really can't judge all of America by one small place you live in. Also, think of all the positives America has. Whenever we have foreign kids, (a girl from Italy even sits at my lunch table) they always say how great America is, and how they hope to move here. We are so much more advanced in medicine and technology.
I just don't understand how you can make up these conclusions when you're only sixteen & really haven't seen much of America, & the small tourist places you went on vacation.
Also, your only 16, you really can't act like you know so much, when you haven't grown up yet, & really experienced a lot of different situations.
For the tv show, yeah I agree. I loathe MTV and all of its programs. Did you know they find the worst trashiest people they can find for their tv shows? So, for the tv thing, yes I agree.
But, I mean if you move.. what will it really solve? There will still be superficial, slutty, mean people where ever you go.
However, if you find this magical land where everyone is nice & loving, them please let me know, because I'd love to live there.
Some other cultures may be better, but just remember, they have there disadvantages as well, and you should make sure you are aware of them.
If you do decide to move, move to Denmark, I love it there. :)
Good luck, with whatever you choose.
17/f
Do you guys think that it's worth it to spend $110 on a watch that you're in love with and will most likely wear every day? I will be spending my own money on this.
Thanks :)
oh my god, yes. i just bought a 600 dollar purse yesterday, i really liked it, so its worth it. ;)
Okay, here's the deal.
The prom dress of my dreams only had a size 2 left in stock, which I bought.
..I'm a size 4.
I can fit into the dress, but it's slightly uncomfortable.
Prom is in early June and I need to slim down to a 2 by then.
What can I do?
I have no access to a gym / exercise machines.
Also, my schedule's pretty crazy at the moment; I get a LOT of hw/studying and don't get home from school until about 6pm.
I've considered walking home from the train after school (~3miles) every day. Would this be enough or should I do more?
Eat nothing but fruits, vegetables, and a very, very, small amount of protein, for as long as you desire. You will probably lose a pound a day. & walking home from the train would be very beneficial. also, drink lots of water. if you think that is too hard, then you could also just cut down all the junk food, and still try to follow that diet, but it just won't come off as fast.
i've done it before, it works. :)
I went out with this guy in 8th grade for a few months and we really liked each other. I don't remember what happened but I broke up with him, let's call him Jim. Freshman year was the first time Ive ever fallen in love. We dated for a long time, we'll call him bob. Bob broke up with me because it was gonna be summer and we wouldn't have any contact due to the fact that my grandma doesn't like him. We ran into eachother a few times after and everytime we would end up making out whether we were taken or single. In late October I ran into him and we were both taken but we hung out alone for like an hour, we ended up making out and he told me how he still loves me and he wants to get back with me. I ran into him on Friday (we both are taken once again) and he's friends with my boyfriend Jim, well now ex. We were with a group of friends an Bob kissed me and told THEM how he's still in love with me. He told me he wants to hang out with me but I'm not sure because both of us love each other an who knows what will happen..now back to Jim, we kept in contact since 8th grade (I'm a sophmore now) and he told me he used to always tells me how he loves me. I went back out with him again for like a month and I broke up with him on Friday night. He was "depressed" and he's been trying to go back out with me this whole weekend. Well today I found out he already has a new girlfriend! Now there's one more guy.. Before I went out with Bob I had feelings for another guy, I'll call him Chris. He had feelings for me too but I had more feelings for Bob. While I was dating bob, Chris liked me on and off. We were best friends for a little over a year. We would talk everyday and he'd call me every night. We started growing apart when I got expelled from our old school and we barely talked. I haven't had a long conversation with him for like three months. Lastnight I was on myspace and he randomly sent me a message. We were talking for a few hours and now he wanta to hang out with me. I'm so confused about all three guys. I font know what to do anymore :( Im kind of mad at Jim, I rarely see Bob even though we will always have a spark. When I'm with him it feels as if it's only the two of us and nothing bad could happen. It's weird. And I'm just not sure about Chris. I don't have a specific question I just need advice on what to do with all three guys..
Just go back with Jim. Throughout the past 3 years or whatever, it seems you just keep going back to him.. might as well try for a real relationship. If your family doesn't like him, then have him over or something to meet the family, & show them how great he really is.
Keep Chris as a friend, and make sure you tell him you just want to be friends. Bob is just upset that you guys broke up, and probably doesn't understand the sudden break up (if it was out of no where.) & just give him some space, he'll get over it.
or maybe, if that doesn't sound like a good idea to you, maybe you should just kind of distance yourself from all three, & decide which one you can't imagine being without. :)
good luck with whatever decision you choose!
Okay so i really need help on how to make my make-up look natural but also really pretty. It's mostly for school and at my school we're not allowed make-up so we have to wear it discreetly. Also there are boys at our school and we don't exactly want to look bad for them :@ x help!! So just any tips, good sites, good types of make-up... anything!!
Thanks x
When I first started wearing make up, my mom took me into dillards & to their Lancome counter. They can do all your make up (for free.) & then usually, you pick things that they did on you, & buy it. I LOVE Lancome make up. Its a bit pricy, but in my opinion worth it. Their powder foundation, is like the best stuff ever, if you ever need foundation.. I've tried like every kind, when I was younger & went through puberty & theirs is by far the best. They have a wide range of eye shadows (that stay on really long), great mascara, great eyeliner, great blush, great lipsticks/lipglosses. Also, Chanel lipstick is really great too. Clinque has some okayish foundation, in liquid form. Clinques stuff is a little cheaper, and its pretty good, not as good as Lancome, but if your on a tight budget.. it'll be ok. Also, when I'm low on cash, I use cheap eyeliner from walmart. I think its maybeline.. & if you get the kind that stays on all day, its good. Also, if you have an Ulta near you, they have great cheap/semi-expensive make up. its like a sephora, only more reasonable. Also, I don't have a mac near me.. but I heard their make up is great. So, if you have one.. I would consider checking them out too.
Also, if maybe you want some tutorials on how to apply make up, if you go to youtube.com & type in how to apply make up for school.. there is like 7 pages... haha.
have fun! :)
i know what your thinking... "is this chick stupid?" but hear me out. me & this boy were messing around & he was fingering me. then he started rubbing his "head" on my vagina. he told me i was too tight to even go in ,but through out the time i guess i kinda got a little loosened up or whatever. he said that "only the head was there." no idea what that meant. i just kept telling him to please not go in whatever he did. i don't wanna lose my virginity at 15. so did i just have sex? :/ i wasn't meaning to go that far. OH & he was cumming while rubbing it on my clit. so could i get pregnant? he told me no. idk.
please help . :(
I was going to say exactly what dear abby said pretty much. All I really want to add is you are most likely not pregnant. It sounds like this is your first time doing anything sexual & aren't very educated with this. But please remember there are ways to protect yourself, like the pill, condoms, morning after pill, etc. Our world is over populated enough, so be safe:)
Okay, so last night I may or may not have had sex.....but i just woke up and had my period i was just curious if there was any chance of pregnancy would i miss this period or would it be not until next month? thanks a bunch =)
Your not sure if you had sex? Usually girls know that. I know I do, wasted or sober. So, you might not of had sec then.. But if you did, there is still a chance you could be pregnant. Get a pregnancy test, and find out. Always use protection!:)
18/f
with 18/m
How ridiculous is it for two 18, almost 19 year olds to move in together in our own apartment? We've been dating for a year and a half. I have problems with my parents but they seem to think there's nothing wrong but its bothered me enough that it stresses me out when I'm living there, so I spend 90% of my time at my boyfriend's house. Anyway, he wants to move in together but I feel like my parents would flip...I KNOW they would flip out. I was just wondering from an outside point of view, do I have a valid argument or is moving in with a teenage boyfriend completely ridiculous?
I wouldn't say it's the best idea. I mean I'm 17 (18 in 2 months) and I can imagine living with my boyfriend. When I first saw your question, I was like "yeah go for it, sounds fun!" but then when I really thought about it, I was like no I couldn't do that. First of all, if you did move out.. How responsible are you? I mean can you handle paying bills, buying groceries, etc. Personally, I couldn't haha. I mean I'm responsible.. But not that responsible. My one friend and her best friend got an apartment together and they forgot to buy so many little things like kitchenware and toiletries. Also, moving out isn't going to bring you and your family closer together.. I don't know how much importance that is to you, but something to consider.
Also, what are your plans for your future? Or what are you doing now? Are you in college? Do you plan to go to
college? Do you and your boyfriend both have steady decent paying jobs?
If your not in college, and you plan on it.. I strongly don't reccommend moving out. College is so expensive and living at home would allow you to save up some money.
If your not in college, what kind of jobs do you guys have? I mean if your working at mcdonalds or minimum wage.. I dint think moving out is in your best interest.
I think the people below me covered everything else.
But yeah, these are questions you should ask yourself, and i mean if you are very wealthy & don't care about your relationship with your family, then I would consider moving out!
Hope everything works out:)
I need some advice:
I'm a 19 year old female, and I am dating a 16 year old boy. He will be 17 in July, as I will be 20 in October. We have been dating a few months now. I don't know if we should be doing this. I've received mixed opinions from those around me. Some have said to continue dating him, as we have feelings for each other, and that age is just a number. Where as others have said they don't believe it's right, or moral.
He doesn't think like a 16 year old boy. He doesn't even live with his parents, or even family for that matter. He works, lives on his own with roommates. Has his own car. Everything.
If you need more details, let me know, but I think this should be enough for you to help me.
I really don't think that age is a big deal. A boy I was seeing was 19 and I am 17. I think you should just do what you want, if you said you were like 23 and he was 16 then I would have thought differently. But really, that isn't a big age gap, & I think you should continue dating him.
I can't seem to find the perfect bra, or even a really good fitting one. I'm a 34D and I have spent so much money trying to find a bra that fits well. Obviously, I need a good supportive bra and something that has good coverage so I'm not spilling out all over the place. The bras that usually come in my size, are sort of.. old fashioned and like what my mother wears. I just can't find something that's youthful but with support and coverage. Are there any brands that anyone has tried and loved?
Victoria's secret, aerie, and dilliards all make excellent bras.
Hello!
I want to get a dog for my children to grow up with but I need a dog breed that is safe for kids and hopefully one that doesn't shed.
Is there such a dog?
Thank you!
Mostly all small dog breeds do not shed. I have a West Highland Terrier, and she is really playful and cuddly. She does not shed & is great for smaller children. Also, medium sized dogs live the longest, & you don't have to worry about them getting weak or sick as much as big & tea cup dogs do.
The only time I would say my dog wasn't 'safe' is when she was a puppy and teething, but of course, that goes away.
Good luck. :))
This guy i know likes me he told me but i wanna move up he wants to hang but he is like shy what do i do im not the most chatty person you will ever meet? help we text easilyy all the time but just we never talk to each other in person?I really like him and wanna date him?
Hang out with a group. Have him bring some & you bring some. Bring some that you know are outgoing and not shy. That will make things sooo much easier.
I've had a crush on my English teacher since the beginning of the school year. She's really attractive and smart. I've been flirting with her pretty much since I saw her and she finally started flirting back with me.
I was staying after class so she could tutor me some. I'll admit I was purposely failing things so that she'd request I stay after class for extra help. One thing led to another and the last few tutoring sessions kind of became make-out sessions. I pushed her to do it with my flirting though.
Last friday we actually had full-on sex. We didn't use a condom either so I'm slightly concerned about a possible pregnancy issue but I don't know how the hell to bring that up to her! It was the best sex of my life but I know it was wrong because she's my teacher. I want to be more than just her student or her sex buddy though and I'm not sure if I should pursue this into a relationship, remain sex partners, or let it die and try to forget about her (doubt that will happen).
For legal reasons I won't say my age or hers but there is quite a span between us. She, obviously, knows my age and I know hers. I keep getting erections in her class now and can't stop thinking about her. I am wondering if I should even try to quit school so that I can be with her but that just sounds absurd to me for some reason. I feel so confused about this whole situation now.
What do I do?
My friend kind of went through something a little bit similar. We were 17 and it was last year, and he was our math teacher. All the girls thought he was gorgeous, but my friend was like in love with him. She would get bad grades and such to spend extra time with him, to make a long story short, they made out a few times, and then she didn't know what to do, & ended up just dropping the class.
That is what you should do, or switch schools.
I'm sure she is not pregnant, she knows what she was doing.
I don't think you can really form a healthy relationship with her. You didn't say your age, but the younger you are, the less chance of that happening.
You need to stop doing this stuff with her. Its really wrong & she shouldn't have done that.
I personally think you should tell on her, but t he chances of you doing that, I assume are unlikely. I really hope you didn't tell anyone about this, because they will most likely tell, or tell someone else that will. If you care about her at all, you will get away from her.
DO NOT quit school, that would just be ridiculous. Even if you did, & you started seeing her, someone would find out, and she would stil end up getting in trouble. I'm assuming you must be 16 or older because you are able to drop out of school. I'll admit I liked my math teacher too, and I know its hard to resist things you can't have. But its really for yours & hers best interest to just end this relationship. What has she said to you about things after? I think you should talk to her about asking her for help for getting out of her class.It's really the best thing to do, other then telling.
Good luck!