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I'm a 19 year old female, dating a 16 year old boy -
I need some advice:
I'm a 19 year old female, and I am dating a 16 year old boy. He will be 17 in July, as I will be 20 in October. We have been dating a few months now. I don't know if we should be doing this. I've received mixed opinions from those around me. Some have said to continue dating him, as we have feelings for each other, and that age is just a number. Where as others have said they don't believe it's right, or moral.
He doesn't think like a 16 year old boy. He doesn't even live with his parents, or even family for that matter. He works, lives on his own with roommates. Has his own car. Everything.
If you need more details, let me know, but I think this should be enough for you to help me.
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I don't personally think age matters, but that is just me. Age difference can, however, have major effects on your relationship. I think if you really care about this boy & want to give the relationship a try then do it. Don't do it for him, do it because you really care about him & want to have a future with him.
I understand the whole more mature for his age, because I was like that. I have not lived with my mother since I was 15-16, I grew up way before most teens did. I am already happily married & have had a lot of life experiences for my age, so age doesn't matter to me.
You can't base your opinions and actions on what others think/feel, it has to be what you want. If you want to be with him, be with him, if you don't, don't. There will be challenges along the way, but there are with any relationship.
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I really don't think that age is a big deal. A boy I was seeing was 19 and I am 17. I think you should just do what you want, if you said you were like 23 and he was 16 then I would have thought differently. But really, that isn't a big age gap, & I think you should continue dating him.
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The straight answer would be whether he lives on is own or not it's illegal.
However, This one is up to you after all he does live on his own etc. It's about what you like and want despite him being on his own etc. Remember that he is only 16 and probably has a lot of growing up to do yet alone is still in the dating around stage. Most 16 year old's are not ready to settle down and commit themselves into a relationship. This is were I say if you want a man you might want to look elsewhere. Also, for the age part if you DO decide to stay with him remember there are always those people that are going to turn there heads and stare there really is no way to completely avoid that.
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As long as you are both happy, the age difference is no matter. It is only three years and the only thing that people have issues with is that he's still considered a minor, but three years will not matter when he's 18. Grit your teeth through all the negative things people say and do what makes you happy. Good luck!
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this is my opinon...
do what you want.
who really cares about what other people think? If you really love him and like him and want to spend time with him, then don't let other people's thoughts get in the way. Just because some people might not think its right, doesn't mean you need to listen to them and make them happy.
you need to do what you want. I know thats technically considered selfish.. but its only selfish if you are hurting other people in the way.
If you think its wrong, then dont do it. stay friends. but if you don't care about age, then be together.
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