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I'm a mom of two, who has had her share of problems, and likes to help others with their own. I love helping people, and knowing that I can make a difference. I can't help with everything, but I'll always try to make people smile and just feel good about themselves. I've had more than my share of family drama and problems; what with my parents coming from two different and clashing cultures. I've also moved around a lot and had to deal with changing schools and all the trauma of making new friends and fitting in. I'm good with questions about friends, relationships (love, family..you name it), tough decisions, technology, and other weird random questions.I'm a great listener, but I make sure to understand both sides of the story as well.
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HI Advicenators :)
Okay so i have to get my wisdom teeth out IN EXACTLY A MONTH my mom just told me today.(she just booked it) I am pretty much terrified right now! I dont know what to get..the "shot" or the "gas" id rly prefer the gas b.c i hate getting shots in my arm..eww it grosses me out! But can any of you tell me which is better (expirenced answers are probaley the best) I really need to know, and can you tell me how long it will hurt after, and will it hurt while in the process. Im so scared i think ill cry..Thankyou.
im a huge baby, and i got both; gas and shot. lool
and you don't feel a thing during the surgery, especially since your knocked out..haha. i dont even remember getting home. i woke up and im on my couch.
i remember it was REEAALLY painful afterwards though, i could barely move my head, and there was an awful taste in my mouth for a while.
but u get awesome painkillers for the pain, and i actually ate the second day.
dont be scared though. you wont feel a thing until after its over, and then the pain doesn't really matter, because it will eventually go away.
i remember i was terrified too, more than terrified..so i completely understand.
oh the pain usually lasts around a week, and then u start feeling a little better. my suggestion for you, though, is stay home that week and just rest in bed. i didnt, and i'd come home and crash from the pain.
so yaa definitely take a week off to recuperate.
Good Luck! :):)
after my dad died his side of the family completely abandoned us . leaveing my mom to do everything.
she has a lot of stress to deal with and im not sure how to help her. ive tried helping out with cleaning the house but i just get in the way.
and my little 9 year old brother is just makeing things worse. i dont know whats going on that little head of his but hes giving my mom big ass head aches. hes failing 4th grade. wich is like the easiest grade. and hes leaving all of his garbage every where. and is constantly doing stuf wrong.
weve tried everything to help him and i swear none of it works.
if any one has any sujestions PLEASE tell me !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
he's probably going through a really hard time, and probably misses his dad alot. but hes at that age where its not really cool to show your feelings. so its affecting his work, and he's acting up (by leaving his trash everywhere) to perhaps get attention, or just as an outlet for whatever he's feeling inside.
and remember fourth grade is the easiest grade for you, but hes only 9, and its allnew and probably a bit difficult and challenging for him.
you should just try helping him out in his work, sitting and talking with him about whatever topic he brings up, and just give him some sympathy and attention.
but don't spoil him either..be nice with limits.
Ok, this is really a question about my homework that i have no idea how to do. How much force does it take to stop a falling object? Our teacher told us that part of the answer was "enough" but i can't figure the rest of it out
to get it to stop the force has to be equal to the force of the falling object. the falling object technically isn't applying any force..think of it as freely falling, therefore the only force existing there, is the force of gravity pulling it down. so the force to stop it has to be equal to the force of the gravity pulling it down, but in the opposite direction.
thats if im remembering my physics correctly.
I have no piercings what-so-ever; I got my ears done in 2nd grade and they closed so i re-did them myself because my dad wouldn't let me get them re-done. He won't let me get anything pierced. I've been begging for months. It's seriously unfair. How can i convince him to let me get my lip pierced?
sorry to say, but no father wants their daughter or son to come home with their lip pierced. so i honestly dont think there is any way you can convince him.
ok well i'm in grade 8 and we have to learn about the human body but not puberty just like the cells and stuff and i was wondering why? like we're just learning about our body but nothing to do to our body or anything like if we learn about puberty we can make things better for ourselfs but we're learning about cells..
you start small, and then you get into the bigger stuff...i think i was in 9th grade when we learned about puberty, the reproductive system, and everything that came with it.
I have dreams about the same kid everynight, no matter what.
He's in it , like 6 out of 7 days a week.
Is that weird?
and Another thing, I had a dream about this random boy who Ive only had one dream about and the day after that dream, he came up to me and told me I was in his dream the same night.
Is that freaky or what?
It scared me alot
Thanks 14/f
thats happened to me before. me and my best friend both dreamt the exact same dream the exact same night. we were both in the dream. that was the first time, and then it happened again with my boyfriend.
as for dreaming about the same kid, all that means is he/she was probably on your mind before you went to sleep. you're probably unconciously thinking about him/her.
but dont worry...dreams dont usually mean anything. they're basically just reflections of our thoughts from the day.
so i have a boyfriend. he loves me and tells my im amazing/gorgeous/beautiful and everything a girl loves to hear on a regular basis. we've been together over a year. he says he loves my body. the thing is, i dont love it. at all. i mean yeah i have big boobs but thats about it. im overweight (5'9" about 251 lbs, size 18 pants and 3x shirt). im completely disgusted with my body but somehow he finds me beautiful and almost has me thinking maybe its true. but how do i see myself the way he sees me? i believe that he thinks so but im just like "ugh...why?". he wants me to be self confident but its like i just cant. im ahnee on advicenators if you want a pic (its small though)
you're really lucky. you found a guy who knows that looks aren't everything. who sees the person inside, and realizes that thatn is what makes you beautiful.
i know this isnt helpful, but be happy.
you need to realize (just as your boyfriend did), that you are beautiful because of who you are inside...not because of what you look like or what size clothes you wear.
but if you really can't overcome the way you feel about yourself, then maybe do something that will boost your confidence. go exercising with your boyfriend...eat healthier...with the exercise and healthy diet you'll start losing some weight and you'll gain your confidence in yourself.
but still keep in mind that it doesn't matter what you look like on the outside, even if you lose the weight, your still the same beautiful person on the inside. :)
I get absolutely no respect from my younger sister. We are only one year apart (I am 16; she's 15). All she does is give me smartass comments when I try to be nice or give her reasonable advice on something (when she asks for it). She never mentions me to her friends. Her friends don't even know I exist. She doesn't mention me on Myspace. She is always claiming to everyone we are not even sisters and deletes all of my comments. I am always seeing sisters saying "I love my sister even though we get those fights". I wish my sister would do something like that, ya know? Like I want her to be proud I am her sister, but she is embarrassed of me. She also says rude remarks to me when she is around friends.
Also when we get into fights my parents tend to take her side over mine (ironic because I am older than her) and I will admit I can start it and make up ways to aggravate her (but who doesn't do that?) however she does the same thing but it's always her word over mine. There are times my parents either stay neutral or take my side but it just always seems that my sister is "better" than me.
She also shows no expression of love for me (as sisters, of course). I will say "I love you!" and she will just say "OK, so?" And it hurts me so much. I can't even answer to myself that she even really does love me deep down because she gives out no emotion towards me except such hatred and angst. She is a tomboy so I guess that explains some of it, but I wish she would be more open and more respestful towards me. I am not asking for total worship or anything, but I am asking that she would be more respective and nice.
I need advice on how I can deal with this! Thanks.
me and my youngest sister had that same problem. when you grow older you tend to realize how important siblings are. but when you're younger you don't really see that. its as if your sister/brother is just there to annoy you and aggravate you and make your life a living hell.
but you should definitely talk to her about it, and if you dont think she'll listen, then tell your parents and they could talk to her about it, or sit down as a family and discuss it together.
(14/f)[warning: some people may find this question absolutely absurd.]
I've been good friends with a guy I'll call "A" for a couple of years. We ended up switching to the same school, so at the begining of the year we became even closer friends because we knew no one else at our new school. The thing is, now that people have come to know him, there's a lot of girls that litteraly follow him around the school. For example: My friends and I (including A)eat lunch in one of the hallways at school. For the first few weeks we were the only ones there. Now though it's almost impossible to talk to "A" because of due to the absurd amount of giggling girls(20 or so at the last count) that now go there on a regular basis(all of them sitting as close to A as humanly possible, makes it hard to move in the hallway.. sigh).
Oh, I should probably mention that no, I'm not paranoid :P. As soon as he leaves the hallway, some of the girls remark stuff like "Oh my god!!!Did you guys see that! He LOOKED at me, he sooo likes me!!"then proceed to follow him to wherever he went.
So I'm still deciding whether I should be feeling sorry for him or try and knock some sense into him for not noticing. And how would it be possible to at least diminish the amount of fangirls at lunchtimes(besides screaming"BOMB!") Any ideas?
lol :) im sure he notices, i just don't think he minds. most guys would die to have a bunch of girls adoring them...and thats what he has. im sure eventually he will get bored of it, or they will get bored of him. you just have to wait it out. i mean you can't really tell them to stay away from him..unless you want him for yourself, as in boyfriend.
but it doesnt seem like you like him that way.
you could always find another place to eat and sneak your friend there.
So this year, in my class.. I have my friend, Terry and this girl, Katie.
Terry has been my friend for almost 3-4 years. We were at the same middle school so she knows me.
But this new girl, Katie... is really weird.
Our class is Biology.
And since I had to retake .. I'm aware of all the things we have to do. Katie.. is a baby about it. She won't touch things or work with us. I'm quite tired of doing things by myself. She often comes into Terry and I's group.
She's annoying sometimes, assuming everything about everyone.. and she doesn't even know me.. and she talks about me like she does. It just bothers me.
So in this lab before.. she didn't know what she was doing and I was trying to explain it to her.. but she was messing up our slides. So I took over and Terry said at lunch.. Katie said she hated me?
I didn't really care because I need good grades this year. And if I have to do things myself, I must do so. After that I let her lead the group and we had this drawing thing to do.
She made us start over 3 times so I took the paper home and did most of the work. She got mad at me. Even though I left work for all of us to do.
I may sound mean. :I
Terry stole something off of Katie. I was laughing at Terry because she's a funny person. The whole stealing thing wasn't my idea. So Katie noticed her missing things and while I was laughing at Terry.. she thought it was me! She called me a bitch and came up to me cussing me out. "Give me my fu*king things!" so Terry put the items on my desk under my bag. And I would not move because obviously it looked like I stole it.
And my word against hers.. is poo. So Terry took the blame and Katie still seems to hate me? She said she was sorry but I know she somewhat hates me.
I don't know what to do.
I work well with my friend Terry but not someone that doesn't pay attention in class and almost destorys our experiments. We have this egg project and we had to leave an egg in a beaker full of vinegar. Yeah? Well she takes out the egg and just.. throws it onto the table when the teacher said not to 3 times. And if there's a crack.. we can't continue the lab.
We told her not to touch certain liquids and then she got skin eating liquid on herself.. and she blamed me! I don't know how she got it on herself because we all touched the same beaker. (There was a blister)
I don't know what I'm doing wrong. She's annoying me and my friend now.
What can I do? Do I sound like a bitch or something?
you dont sound like a bitch, but you do sound like you're a bit of a perfectionist. which is completely understandable, seeing as this is the second time you're taking the class, and you want to get good grades. maybe you should try assigning everyone something to do before starting the lab, and give her something easy to do (something that would be hard to mess up). Some people are not that great at socializing with others, and she could be one of those people, which might be why shes so annoying. And also, even though you're not wrong, apologize to her while explaining that you take this class really seriously because its your second time, and you want good grades. Like you said, she doesn't know you, so maybe if you explain things..you guys could work things out, and who knows maybe she'll end up being a really close friend.
Hello-sorry this may be long--will rate though
Well to start off I'm 15/f and sadly never had a boyfriend (that was real and truly "love") or a real relationship. And recently at school (I'm a freshmen so I'm meeting all these new people) but it almost seems like when I met a new guy I get a lil crush but then within a week or so I'm over it. Well, err I want to say Wednesday of last week my friend came over and we called some boys. (We called two boys one being my friend and the toher being her friend who's also friends with mine) So anyways all of us talked for awhile. And I was like hm my friends friend (the guy who well call Bob) seemed pretty cool. SO we went to the movies together him, my friend, and 2 other people, and me. I sat next to him we kinda talked thoughout the movie..he bought me a drink..and that night i was like slap happy. I had a really good night with him and the rest of my friends. So the next day which would now be Saturday my friend came over again and we called them and we talked. Then later that day he called me back on MY phone (usually he calls my friends phone) and him and I talked for ohh about and hour or so which i reallly liked. And then later that day I met him, "bob", at a school (which i had my father drive me too and pick me up from lol) and him and 2 of his friends and i hung out. And then from then on we've just talked like once on facebook. But see I don't know wether I like him for real or weather its just me being stupid wanting a boyfriend so ticking myself into liking him. And I want to call him but I read in CG! you should wait for him to call you...and ahh! I don't know what to do. Him, my friend, and another boy are hopeuflly hanging out this weekend. But idk what to do or how to tell if I like him for real or if i'm being stupid and faking myself into liking him cause hes just reall sweet. So if you could please just give me a little advise or something??
Thanks for reading and caring about my stupid boy problems =P
i dont think its possible to trick yourself into liking someone. and it seems like you like him, and you guys get along..so it wouldnt hurt to hang out alone, and see if you like him as much as you think you do. also..call him! most of my guy friends and my boyfriend say they like it when a girl calls them first.
how come everyones attracted to blonde boys??
I'm not attracted to blonde boys, im attracted to the dark-haired guys.
but to answer your question, everyone has their preference, theres no straightforward answer as to why people like who they like. they just to..simple as that.
Ok so I got on the depo shot just before thanksgiving. I skipped a period. And then I started one in late december. I have been bleeding for 3 weeks. At the beginning it was just brown spotting and now it is like a regular period. But just this morning I went to the bathroom and a large peice of something fell out into the toilet. It wasn't a blood clot it was bigger and not red..i'm not sure what it was. And then when I got into the shower a huge peice of blood[blood clot or whatever] fell out of me. It was a bit bigger than a toddlers hand. I don't know why it was so big. Maybe it was because of the depo. Please help!! I don't know whats going on.
I don't want to seem rude, but i doubt anyone on here has enough medical experience to help you. You should schedule a doctors appointment ASAP, and find out what's going on.
So lets see I don’t really hate her but I hate how she treats people
But before I get to that you should know that I don’t have many friends, and that I would say it is because of schools I’ve been to in the past where I was treated like absolute shit and my best friend was my super slicer (razor blade), but im not like that anymore but out of all of that came me not trusting people thus why I have no friends..anyway I hate my best friend because shes sooooooo judgemental of everyone and everything and I used to be just like that last year and I think that’s why we got along so well because im not like that anymore and I don’t want to be friends with her anymore because of how she is, but she makes me laugh and I know that when you get to know her shes a good person, but I know that I cant stand her judging, but if I stop being friends with her ill have no friends and then well yah I don’t want to go back there. SO WHAT WOULD YOU DO because im lost…and please if your going to just judge me dont say anything please.
you should talk to her about it, dont just stop being friends. work with her on helping her to become less judgemental. and also try to make a few new friends as well, open up a bit. :)
how do u get cleavage?
push-up bras can work..
my friend lets call her "S"
well she gets mad at me for likeing guys that she dosnt approve of and my last boyfriend dumped me because of what "S" said to him i felt like i was falling in loved with him but "s" messed up every thing
should i still be her friend even though she messed up whati had with him
it could be that shes a bit jealous of you, or worried about you. but what she did was completely out of bounds. she should not have went and messed things up between you and your boyfriend.
I dont think its worth it to lose a friend over that, it seems like your still young, so there will be many other guys. but you should definitely sit down with her and have a long talk. explain to her exactly how you're feeling, and maybe try to find out WHY she did what she did.
Im sure you guys can work things out. :)
I think I'm going crazy because for four months now I've been thinking I'm dying from various reasons. I have a headache I'll stress over it for a week thinking its cancer. I have pain in my neck and I freak out and think I'm having a blood clot. My chest hurts I think my hearts failing. I have some bruises I cant explain I think its cancer. I have a swollen lymph node and I think its cancer. I THINK...but in my mind I KNOW I dont have anything wrong. I mean I dont get these things at the same time they come at different times. I dont know how to stop stressing myself out over this because its...taking a toll. Every day something else makes me question my life and I'm starting to FREAK OUT. Please help me out here!!
like everyone else said you could be suffering from hypochondria. however, i went through a phase where i thought every little thing meant i was going to die of some terminal disease. i got over it by not reading symptoms for other serious diseases, not reading side effects on medications, and anything else along those lines. because when i'd read them i would relate to some of the symptoms and then freak out thinking i have some serious disease and worry that i would die. however, if you really feel like something is wrong with you, and it is bothering you. then you should go to a doctor, even if in your mind you know nothing is wrong. going and hearing it from a professional might ease your mind. :)
sorry this is so long..
15/f
I like snacking on vanilla yogurt covered raisins through out the day (instead of junk food). My question is, are they really anymore healthy than a chocolate bar or something along those lines?
Thanks!
funny..im eating vanilla yogurt covered raisins right now.. :D how odd is that?! and to answer your question, yes! they are much much healthier than a chocolate bar. of course it also depends on the brand you're buying and where you're buying it from. if its in the candy aisle then its probably not that much healthier, if its from a healthfood store or in an aisle not crammed with candies then i stick with my first answer, much better than chocolate and chips.
im only 13 and im so set on going to UNC (university of north carolina) ive had my hearts set on it since i was like 8.
to make sure that wen it is time to go to college that i get into UNC, what subjects should i start focusing on??
i got good grades so far and im a stellar athlete.
my 2 sports are basketball and soccer. which is also the sports there mostly known for.
The best thing to do would be to check out the University's website. Maybe try meeting up with people who have went, are going, or know people who are going to the University, and ask them whatever you want to know about the college.
for the most part, i straighten my hair everyday. in the morning before i go to school it looks fine, but then by like 2nd period[which is like 9:15][i do my hair by 8] its starting to get wavy. it wont stay straight for a few hours. is there any way i can fix this? thanks in advance!
ceramic straighteners work really well, if you aren't already using one. and there are hair products you can use along with a straightener to keep your hair straight.