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i hate my best friend
So lets see I don’t really hate her but I hate how she treats people
But before I get to that you should know that I don’t have many friends, and that I would say it is because of schools I’ve been to in the past where I was treated like absolute shit and my best friend was my super slicer (razor blade), but im not like that anymore but out of all of that came me not trusting people thus why I have no friends..anyway I hate my best friend because shes sooooooo judgemental of everyone and everything and I used to be just like that last year and I think that’s why we got along so well because im not like that anymore and I don’t want to be friends with her anymore because of how she is, but she makes me laugh and I know that when you get to know her shes a good person, but I know that I cant stand her judging, but if I stop being friends with her ill have no friends and then well yah I don’t want to go back there. SO WHAT WOULD YOU DO because im lost…and please if your going to just judge me dont say anything please.
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you should talk to her about it, dont just stop being friends. work with her on helping her to become less judgemental. and also try to make a few new friends as well, open up a bit. :)
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I used to be that girl - the judgmental one. It didn't work out for me. I am much happier being myself and allowing other people to be the complete idiots they are. ;)
Here's what I'd do. I'd let her know that being harsh with people all the time just makes you feel bad. It doesn't change the world. Others aren't going to suddenly see your/her point of view and change their attitudes or dress better or whatever it is she thinks they should be doing differently. Meanwhile, the negativity depresses and frustrates you, so you've decided to try to be more positive. You'd like her help. You'd like her to say only kind, helpful things most of the time. You can complain/berate only 3 people (or whatever) per day, and only to each other, in private. You want her to tell you when you're being judgmental or negative. Tell her what you hope to accomplish by this (more friends, reduced stress, fewer facial wrinkles, etc.) and see if she will come around to your side. Let her know that she's your best friend and you want to be best friends for a long time. Most people who are overly-critical of others are very, very insecure and want to know that you aren't looking at others and seeing others as somehow better than you see your friend. Tell her all of the things you like about her and your reasons for wanting to remain her friend.
And if she can't stop hating, drop her as kindly as you can. Probably you'll be able to make more friends rather easily without her around. Chances are, she already has quite a few enemies. My advice, though, is not to talk bad about her to your new friends. Just say you were growing apart and you needed a new perspective.
Good luck.
Sabine
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well, if you want to have friends i would stay with her cuz she's your only friend.... as you say....but if i were you i would get into sports and stuff and give people a chance! You have to get over not trusting people and start to try because not everyone is mean. once you make SOME friends.... then don't be friends with her.
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i've been there girl! its like between a rock and a hard place. i had a best friend like that. i stopped being friends with her. because i couldn't take her judging all these people who were like nice and stuff and its like wtf ya know? then when i did i had a lot more friends because i didn't have her critizing everyone that i would say hi too and stuff, you gotta follow your heart and what you think will benefit you more, that's the best advice i can give ya
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