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I really really like this guy and ive never liked someone as much as i like him. Hes really sweet to me but much more experienced. He tells me all the time thats its cool that im a virgin that i should keep it and that hes not going to try to have sex with me. When we are kissing and he thinks it might go to far he just stops for awhile to cool off. He even checks to make sure im ok when doing just the little things. But im very confused one of my best guy friends hates him and tells me all the time that hes just going to use me for sex and then leave. The other night i was talking to one of my friends and one of his best friends and then he tells me that he thinks hes going to use me for sex because hes been having sex with girls and then just moving on. I asked him if he said anything if he had flat out said he was going to use me for sex but his friend said he has said nothing at all. So what do i do? is he using me for sex? I really really like him and i really trust him but its very hard when people are constantly telling me bad things about him. When we are together hes so sweet and honest he never pressures so how do i believe these awful things people are saying? do i talk to him? if so what should i say?
Don't say anything to him. I know exactly what type of guy he is. He's able to act all nice and perfect and sweet because he really doesn't care. He's just manipulating you and trying to go as far as he can, but the minute you start getting into deep conversations with him, he'll be gone. Either just break up with him without starting drama, or let him use you. But instead of just believing your friends maybe you should do some research for yourself. Are your friends trustable? This is something you're going to have to figure out on your own.
okay , well me and my boyfriend just got into this whole sex thing. well he's experienced for i am not. i lost my virginity to him like 3 weeks back but we had sex 2 more times and it feels like nothing to me no pain no pleasure.. is that weird? and because i dont feel anything i dont do much either which he doesnt like hes always on top doing the work and we kind of loose the moment because i dont feel anything.. and im such a rookie at it i tried being on top i have no clue what to do he laughs at me >.< and when he's on top i dont think he's enjoying since im not really into it myself. and how do you know if your tight or loose? and we've TRIED to have sex 3 times and i just lay there he does the work but it seems hes not satisfied he;s not getting any pleasure out of it? how can i make him feel pleasure? make him feel good? when we have sex its not a good moment when we get into it you know yeah but since i feel nothing and i think he doesnt either it kinda sucks i wanna pleasure him i just dont know how i suck at sex BLAHH!.
At least act like you're interested. Moan or something. Touch his body. Don't just lay there like you're dead, and definitely don't act like you don't care. How would you feel if he just stopped wanting to have sex with you? I think you're taking this for granted.
right ill make this real quick. there's been 2 girls iv liked and maybe even loved alot in the past 2 years the first one did me no good at all, completly ignored me and basically does not give a shit and i want to hate her but i still like her... the other girl is my best friend who i think iv recently started liking again, shes really really and every now and then i fall in and out of love with her but only because i know it wouldnt work and for this simple fact that she is a sex-a-holic and i wouldnt be able to trust her at all, i man for gods sake who cheats on everyboy friend they'v ever had??? ill admit that she cheated on her last bf with me and i felt so guilty that i had to tell her not to see me anymore untill we had gone off eachother. but shes just been dumped by him because he dosnt love her anymore he still doesnt know what we did (Which wasnt alot but enough for me to get depressed and feel ashamed of my self)
but why do i allways like the wrong people? every person i'v ever liked has either cheated on me or broken my heart and i just take it like a little bitch because oh yea im the nice guy... as they put it
my first realy girlfriend which we dated for 9 months 5 years ago still loves me apparently. she cheated on me so i wont take her back, but besides her every other girl i'v liked has been the exact opposite of everything i never want to be. I suppose its like that saying of all the good ones are taken... but were's mine? or am i really that bad? or am i really that different that i become an immediate reject to other people? everyone i know is like a clone of the next person, no body wants to be different any more. its all designer labels and hannah montana and lady freeking gaga and lilly alan. what can i do to meet people who are who they want to be? who are different because they want to have choice? i snowboard, skateboard, love art and photography i also play guitar and a little drums. i dress normall enough, clean cut, apparently have a great personality and a nice smile.
is it me or them? or am i becoming impatient with waiting to be interested in some one enough who will be right for me that its turning me into my dad (who near enough everyday finds somthing to bitch about and keeps on at it)
whats your take on it? am i bored of waiting? or is it another thing that i havent even considerd yet? its a rainy day so iv been thinking alot in front of the pc sorry for the mindless babble in the middle needed to get it off my chest :)
You're going for the wrong type of girl. Honestly, that's all you can expect out of sluts. Obviously you're not too good of a 'nice guy' if you date sluts. I'll admit that I used to like and want to date players, but I soon got over that. I looked for different types of guys. There's so many different types of people out there. Just stop going for the sluts. You say 'nobody wants to be different anymore. it's all designer labels and hannah montana and lady freeking gaga and lilly alan' Well, that's only like one group. People like me don't like that stuff. I don't really know how to explain this, but you'll find out someday. There ARE girls out there that act like normal human beings, but once you get to know them, and get them to trust you, they can give you all the things that slutty girls give you. (But in a better way haha) People like me just realize that you don't have to post all kinds of things on myspace about which guy you slept with. Lots of girls don't realize what they're doing and you're just getting caught up in that one type of girl. Girls like that make us look bad. Please, open your eyes and look for other girls. Someone that's got common sense and doesn't just care about boys. I care about boys too, ..a lot, but I know that there are other things in life. I hope that explains it..
Edit: No, maybe you shouldn't get offended so easily. Just 'cause you're in a bad mood doesn't mean you should take it out on me.
Yeah, karma will get you. Jerk.
My dad is about 50.
recently (within the past 2-3 months) he's just been so pessimistic.
but.. it's something more than that. He's always getting onto my brother, he yells and gets angry pretty much once a day, if I'm around I get to be a target. It's getting worse and worse, his bouts of anger then sulking. I couldn't sleep and caught him up at like midnight and he seemed all sulky/angry then too.
I know he's had trouble sleeping, so yeah... It's so hard to explain. just that he's always getting angry, he does have a chronic disease so that is always on his mind too... I just.. I don't know anymore.
I'm not hurt directly by his comments, none of my family is, because we know it's not true. But, nothing kills a happy mood like having to hear a bunch of yelling.
He'll bitch about something just to do it. He'll find any little thing. It's more than just being a bastard. It's different. My mom says he's crazy, my brother says he's crazy, I say "Someone help me figure this out."
He wasn't always like this, and he's NOT always like this. But it's getting closer and closer to it being that way. I've noticed something just different about the way he looks recently, not bad, or good, but... different..
Just the other day he said, "Everything from the government killing my freedom, the rain killing my crops, and me.. killing myself." (he was referring to smoking, etc. but it's still worrisome.)
I just don't know.
Sorry for it being so long, but I can't explain it right.
help?
Just be nicer to him. Lots of families are like this. You say he's only like this once a day, well my dad is like this everyday all day. He didn't used to be so I don't know. Things are probably just hard for him right now. Don't go talk to him because that will just push him away. Just ask him to go out to eat with you, or to go fishing or something that he enjoys. Get your mom and brother to do the same. Don't listen to them calling him crazy and stuff. It's not true.
is there a website where you can like..edit your skin in a picture??
like make it look lighter..darker..get rid of blemishes..? and is it free??
thanks!
http://www.picnik.com/
Is this a joke, or is it real?
A friend told me that a graduating senior at bonny eagle high school had his diploma taken away because he blew a kiss to his mom in the audience. Can tis really be for real? Is bonny eagle high school the most retarded place of earth or something? Someone tell me that no school would take away someone's diploma and not let them graduate over this?
This can't be real, can it?
Yes, it really happened. It's a shame, I know.
okay well i'd like snakebites.
some people said id look gorgeous with them, some said i would look not as cute.
this is 40 dollars id be paying, so i need to know what piercing would probably look good
and if snakebites are for me :D
here is my myspace profile.
http://www.myspace.com/toxic_paper_flowers
I live in Texas too haha. Anyway, yeah you can totally pull of snakebites and I don't see why people are telling you that you can't. One looks great on you so I think two would look even better.
If my cherry didn't pop the first time I had sex, am I still considered a virgin?
Virgin isn't really a technical term, it's something you decide yourself. Even people that have been raped consider themselves virgins. But since penetration was involved, it pretty much means that you are no longer a virgin. Maybe your cherry didn't pop because it was already popped-- from exercise, horse-back riding, gymnastics, tampons, etc. Ever think about that?
I've liked my supervisor for a few months now. We started hanging out, and it was a lot of fun. All of my friends kept insisting that he liked me, and we finally admitted it to each other that we did. He went to prom with me, and told my best friend he was getting frustrated cause I kept getting distracted and wandering off from him. Then today we went out, and afterward he walked me to my door and leaned in for the kiss. I was shocked at first, and stepped back, and then tried to lean back in. I don't know what happened... but it didn't work out. I feel soo stupid, I really hate my life right now. What should I do?
I did that too. I was with a guy I really liked and I'd been wanting to kiss him for so long, but when he finally tried to kiss me, I jerked away and spun around haha. I felt stupid but I apologized once and said something like 'I don't know what I was thinking' and acted like it was no big deal, then the very next time I saw him, I ran up to him and kissed him. You should try that!
When I was 6 my older brother accidently shot his wife, and then he committed suicide. My dad was effected so much by his loss that he started drinking, and ran out of control and became an alcoholic. Soon after, my parent's divorced and my dad moved away. In August of 2005, hurricane Katrina hit my house in New Orleans and almost destroyed everything. My dad quit drinking and moved back to New Orleans and helped my mom rebuild our house that September. My parents fell inlove and my dad didn't touch a drink. Two months later, he got very sick and he went to the doctor and we found out he has very bad liver cancer. My dad died April 1, 2006. I was just in 6th grade. I developed bad self esteem issues.
April 2008: I had devolped a lot for my age, I looked so much older. I started hanging out with older friends and got myself in a lot of trouble. I started drinking and smoking weed every weekend. One night in April I snuck out of my house with a boy that called me and told me he was by my house. I needed a cigarette really bad and my mom refused to buy me any, and I was punished so this was the only way I could get one for a couple days. I figured it was worth it. I snuck out and we went behind a school down the street. He started to kiss me and we made out, and then he kept trying to take off my pants. ( I think he was 16 and I was 14. ) I kept moving his hands so he would stop but he wouldn't, so I stopped kissing him and pushed him away because I thought he was using too much force on me. Then he held me down against the wall and pulled my shorts and panties off of me. I was so shocked. I was a virgin. He let go of me and I had the worst feeling I just knew something was going to happen. He pulled out a condom and a knife. He didn't do anything with the knife but he like showed it to me. I let him have sex with me. I was crying the whole time. He raped me. I told him no over and over again and he wouldn't listen to me. I was raped.
May 2008: I was talking to a boy before the rape and I really liked him. We started dating and he was my everything. He was mean to me like my dad was but I don't know, something about it made me like it because he was just not letting me fuck up and get so drunk and mess up and stuff. He cared a lot about me and I let him have sex with me. After we had been dating for a while, I told him about the rape. He helped me through EVERYTHING. He told my mom, which I got really mad about, but he just wanted to do the best thing he could do. I had to talk to millions of people about the rape and I was video recorded, had to explain the rape in EVERY DETAIL, photos were were taken, and my body was inspected head to toe. That made my rape even worse. The cops and doctors treated me like I was the criminal.
August 2008: The boy that I had was at a party and got drunk and made out with his ex girlfriend. We broke up. It was the most devestating thing that EVER happened. I still cry my heart out.
September 2008: I found out the boy I had just broken up with got a new girlfriend. I took 12 asprin to just make me feel "better" and I told my friend and she freaked out and made me go to the emergency room. I told the people in the emergency room about how I just didn't feel good, and they claimed I was trying to kill myself.
They made me go to a mental hospital. IT was the scariest thing I've ever had been to. They FORCED ME there for two weeks, my mom was not allowed to get me out. Our insurance doesn't cover much mental health and they took like ALL of our money. They held me just for the money. I DIDNT EVEN TRY TO KILL MYSELF. I WAS JUST UPSET AND THOUGHT IT WOULD PUT ME IN A BETTER MOOD.
November 2008: My mom would not let me out her site after everything we went through. The first night she let me sleep out, me and my friend went out and got drunk. I drank too much not realizing and ended up in the alcohol level of 0.47 and that was after I threw my heart up. They thought about sending me back to the mental hospital but THANK GOD THEY DIDN'T.
January 2009: A girl that is friend with my rapist (he coudln't go to jail because of lack of evidence :( ) claimed I was LYING about being raped. She got me so upset and so embarassed. She came up to my face and claimed if I really did get raped then I would throw a punch at her. She was being really loud and I couldn't take it and I hit her. She got me arrested and pressed charges. It was all part of her plan to get back at me. I WENT TO JAIL. THEY HELD ME LIKE A CRIMINAL
I got kicked out my catholic school. It was the same highschool my mom went to and it was her dream that I went there but when I got kicked out I got her SOOOO DISSAPPOINTED. I MESSED UP EVERYTHING. I JUST WANTED TO DO WHATS BEST.
Now we don't have much money anymore. The boy who raped me never stepped a foot in jail, but I DID. Only one income. No dad, no brother. My mom does not trust me. I have been through hell and back and I still miss my ex who helped me through everything. He's with his girlfriend still and I wish I could let him know how much he meant to me.
What can I do? I'm just 15 years old and I'm lost. I had talking about my problems to therepist because I JUST RELIVE THE EXPIRENCES EVERY TIME.
sorry for the grammer, i'm just too upset to even go check on that stuff :(
THERES NOTHING I CAN DO
I still have dreams about that mental hospital too. it ruined my life. The rapist ruined it. The girl ruined it. My ex ruined it. Why do I not have any control?
Just because your friends drink and smoke weed doesn't mean you have to. If you feel like you do, then they aren't good friends. But you're probably happy with your friends so I'll just leave that alone. It seems like the alcohol is ruining your life, like it ruined your dad's. Think about everything. It all leads back to the drugs and alcohol. If you want to turn your life around you're going to have to keep a positive attitude. Hang out with your friends just to have fun. Fun doesn't always mean drugs and alcohol. Some people, like the girl who got you arrested, are going to try to start drama with you. You just have to ignore it. Know that you're better than that. You're fifteen years old and you have so much life ahead of you. Just because you messed up a few years doesn't mean that the rest of your life is messed up. First off, you definitely need to apologize to your mom. She's already been through all this with losing her son and her husband, and now she's having to deal with all of your partying. Your mom deserves an apology. And maybe after that, she'll start trusting you again. Once you turn sixteen you'll be able to get a job and your life will straighten out. Trust me, don't give up. Everyone has bad times in their lives but things change all the time.
I'm a 15 year old, pansexual, girl. I told one of my friends that i think this girl is absolutely gorgeous and seems sweet, i don't really know her but i wanted to get to know her. so my friend messaged the girl her telling her that i think she's gorgeous, she answered back, "this valid", and my friend never answered back cause she's never online and i tried calling and texting her but she's grounded, so my friend can't respond back to her reply. My friend sent that message a DAY before she got taken by this guy. I really, really wanted to get to know her, but it's to late and i feel like a fool. what am i supposed to do now?
Yeah, one day you'll grow out of your 'pansexual' stage. Don't say we don't understand, because we do. Anyway, for real...you don't even know her. It's like trying to win back an ex, but if you don't even know him. Don't chase her, just leave her alone. She already knows what you think of her, and if she wants you, she'll come find you. Did you make sure she was gay or whatever first? If some girl said that to me I'd freak out.
I've been talking to this girl for over a year now. I'm 29 and she is 19 and we talk for hours! We talked for 11 hours straight Saturday even. We haven't talked on the phone or anything like that yet though. She lives in Canada and I live in the states. I suggested that we could call each other but she can't because she is afraid of what her parents would think of me because her mom pays her cell phone bill and she looks at who she calls. We have talked about meeting some time but I told her that I'm not in too big of a hurry because she is definately worth the wait. She is afraid that her family won't give me a chance because of one she met me off the internet and two of my age being so much different than hers.
So do you think it's okay to ask her, possibly, to get a webcam and a microphone so we can talk for some different form of communication?
Another question is, well, I want to do something special for her but I don't want to send her something and she would have to explain where it came from. I know this sounds silly but we love each other we have been there for each other in the past year. :\
You could mail her letters, and put a fake name on the return address, but tell her ahead of time.
You COULD ask her to get a webcam but don't be creepy about it, haha. Just bring it up and be like -- since we can't talk on the phone, what do you think about using a webcam? Or something. Just get her opinion about it.
But honestly if she thinks her family isn't going to approve, how will ya'll ever get together? Maybe she's trying to drop a hint or something..
Is it bad to do stuff with family members...brothers, cousins, etc.
Yep.
I am a 52-year-old woman married to a 54-year-old man. Last year we "semi-retired" from well-paying corporate jobs to become long-haul truck drivers. The intent was to see the country, spend time together, and sock a lot of $$ into our retirement fund. Over the course of the past year my husband has stopped bathing, dental care, etc. He is attractive, witty and the love of my life, however, I am finding it revolting to be near him and he thinks it's my problem. Am I missing something here???
He's your husband, you should be able to tell him these things. He probably thinks you don't care, since you haven't said anything to him about it. Either that, or it's the complete opposite - maybe he's so comfortable around you that he doesn't think you'll mind. Whatever the case is, tell him if it bothers you. Or maybe you should stop bathing for awhile and put him to the test, haha.
This is going to sound a little stupid probably, but my boyfriend has lied to me about something small and now it's totally made me wonder if I can really trust him.
Basically, he told me that he couldn't really afford to go crazy and all-out on our one year anniversary day, which I was completely fine with, but then he kept going on about wanting to buy this Playstation 3 game that was something like $70. Anyway, I found out that he bought it a couple of days ago, but he told me it was only $10 because he had traded in some games at the same time; however, he accidentally left the receipt for it in the living room, which showed that this was not the actual case--that he had actually paid full price for the Playstation 3 game.
Now, before you think I'm crazy or something, my boyfriend and I have had problems in the past and have been working on getting our trust back for each other. (He had a wild night out with the boys once that totally crushed our relationship for awhile) It bothers me that he couldn't just be honest with me about this, I guess. I mean, it wouldn't have been a big deal at all...why lie?
Do you think I'm overreacting?
Some people think that boys are just boys and you can't change them, but that is not true in my opinion. Don't stay with a guy that lies to you. A nice, respectable man wouldn't lie to you. He's immature and now that he knows he can get away with this, who knows what else he'll try to get away with? There's nothing to talk to him about, you're just dating a guy that isn't ready for a relationship yet.
alright. i think that i was sexually abused by my dad. ive heard that when youre younger you can block out bad memories without knowin that you did.
i remember certain things, like him stickin his tongue in my mouth when i kissed him. and i didnt think it was bad so when i kissed my mom i did that and she was like 'dont ever do that!'
and he told my mom 'wow her boobs are gettin big!'
and he'd also come in to the bathroom while i was takin a bath until i was 8 or 9
ever since i was maybe 4 or 5 my vagina lips have been pretty stretched out, and i have no idea why.
so my parents got divorced for their own reasons, and i was always scared to be with older men even with friends (like my youth group leaders from church or other friends dads) and i could never find a reason why.
plus, when i saw my dad for the first time in a year recently he was like 'wow youre hot, but im just an old man to you.'
i finally got in touch with my half sister from his side that i havent talked to in years. and i asked her what he was like with her, and since her mom and my dad got divorced she doesnt remember livin with him but she said, 'i visited him sometimes, but i think that that story should be left between him and i...'
and she hasnt messaged me back yet. and now shes a lesbian.
does it sound like i was sexually abused as a child? because for some reason i really feel like i have been
Woah, yeah. All this stuff COULD be understandable in someone else's point of view...but in mine, that's not right. My father would have NEVER told me that I'm hot. And he would've never commented on the size of my boobs, and seriously...what kind of man would stick his tongue in his child's mouth? Definitely not a respectable man. I think he's a child molester. Tell your mom, please. BUT, when you tell her, be HONEST. You don't want your dad getting in trouble for something that isn't true. Even if you can't remember the details, don't exaggerate it.
I'm 16 years old and when I went to go to the doctor's (the gynecologist) office for birth control, she asked me if I was sexually active.
Why did she ask me if I was having sex? Is it really necessary?
Yeah, what they said. But just to let you know, she can't tell anyone. It's personal information and your parents will not find out. It just has to do with your health and safety.
Does it feel pressure on ur teeth or does it hurt wen u get braces tighttend.
Yeah, it's just pressure. It doesn't really hurt, it just feels tight. Like if you just push down on your teeth with your hand..that's what it feels like, because that's all it is..your teeth moving. And it doesn't last long at all.
josh decided he would choose between me and kelsey but he would need a couple days because he liked us both. i finally talked to him and he said he was sticking with kelsey...so once again he led me on and broke my heart! its so hard to find the right boy, should i just give up on him?
Of course you should give up on him. You shouldn't have been waiting around and being the other girl and letting the guy decide. Next time, you tell the guy to make up his mind because you're not gonna wait around on a guy. You have to stand up for yourself or you're always going to get pushed around and chosen last. He didn't 'lead you on' he was probably just needing a push in the right direction, but you didn't give it to him. You waited around for him.
Okay, I'm a 17/f. I started having sex the summer before I turned 16. But I was in a long term relationship when I lost my virginity, we were together about 3 years. After we broke up I was depressed for quite some time, and then I eventually sucked up my shxt and got over it. I started dating my best friend and i gave him head for the first time; it wasn't weird or anything after. We started dating and eventually ended up having sex.. alot. I thought the only reason why we were together was because he wanted to have sex all the time. It really freaked me out, so I got out of the relationship and thankfully, we're still best friends. After that relationship, I just started partying all the time and I've had about 8 or 9 drunk hookups. Which weren't bad, all the guys I hooked up with I trusted and I was friends with them so it didn't bother me.. It wasn't like a one night stand each time.. we talked and had a crush on eachother for a while and then I just moved on. I stopped drinking, for the better and now I just keep having feelings for my guy friends and we eventually... alwaysssss hook up and I love it.. but then I hate it at the same time. I don't know how to stop hooking up and having sex with all these people. It's like a serious compulsion. I'm 17 and I started having sex when I was 15 and I've had sex with about 16 different guys. I've gotten tested for HIV and all that good stuff and I'm fine.. I just want to stop doing what I'm doing.
Any advice/tips for saying, you know.. like.. no?
Wow, all I can say is think about your reputation. And don't you have morals? I mean, you obviously don't want to stop, or you would. All these guys that you 'trust' are most likely just spreading rumors. Even the guys that I thought I could trust more than anyone would 'slip' things to their friends. Word gets around. You don't want that....or do you?