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the absolute wrong person for me and i know it.
right ill make this real quick. there's been 2 girls iv liked and maybe even loved alot in the past 2 years the first one did me no good at all, completly ignored me and basically does not give a shit and i want to hate her but i still like her... the other girl is my best friend who i think iv recently started liking again, shes really really and every now and then i fall in and out of love with her but only because i know it wouldnt work and for this simple fact that she is a sex-a-holic and i wouldnt be able to trust her at all, i man for gods sake who cheats on everyboy friend they'v ever had??? ill admit that she cheated on her last bf with me and i felt so guilty that i had to tell her not to see me anymore untill we had gone off eachother. but shes just been dumped by him because he dosnt love her anymore he still doesnt know what we did (Which wasnt alot but enough for me to get depressed and feel ashamed of my self)
but why do i allways like the wrong people? every person i'v ever liked has either cheated on me or broken my heart and i just take it like a little bitch because oh yea im the nice guy... as they put it
my first realy girlfriend which we dated for 9 months 5 years ago still loves me apparently. she cheated on me so i wont take her back, but besides her every other girl i'v liked has been the exact opposite of everything i never want to be. I suppose its like that saying of all the good ones are taken... but were's mine? or am i really that bad? or am i really that different that i become an immediate reject to other people? everyone i know is like a clone of the next person, no body wants to be different any more. its all designer labels and hannah montana and lady freeking gaga and lilly alan. what can i do to meet people who are who they want to be? who are different because they want to have choice? i snowboard, skateboard, love art and photography i also play guitar and a little drums. i dress normall enough, clean cut, apparently have a great personality and a nice smile.
is it me or them? or am i becoming impatient with waiting to be interested in some one enough who will be right for me that its turning me into my dad (who near enough everyday finds somthing to bitch about and keeps on at it)
whats your take on it? am i bored of waiting? or is it another thing that i havent even considerd yet? its a rainy day so iv been thinking alot in front of the pc sorry for the mindless babble in the middle needed to get it off my chest :)
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Hey there,
okay firstly i just want to say your totally not alone in feeling this way trust me.
i feel the EXACT same from time to time.
like i completely attract all the kinda wrong types of guys and bay boy types,and get screwed over.
ive question myself,wondering if it was me that was the problem was I good enough surely their must be something wrong with me?that type of stuff.
then i realised that was ridiculous,and that i had to stop letting myself get walked all over.
you are just drawn to the wrong types you have to break away from that its hard,but do-able trust me.
start going out more with friends and look for a girl thats just got that something special,different as you describe they are out there one that isnt afraid to stand out and that shares some of the same interests as you its not nessecarly always good to have an EXACT clone but someone who you have a balance with and have some things in common.
join some like clubs or something to try meet new people.
another thing you need to do is show confidence in yourself let all your great qualities that youve mentioned (nice guy great smile,your interests etc) shine through stand up for yourself remind yourself of all your good points.
someday you WILL find a girl who aprciates you and respects you and that will treat you right,
your probably thinking "ugh when everyone says that"
but believe me its true for the meantime dont waste time thinking about when your gonna find someone just concentrate on living life and having fun and thats when someone comes along when you least expect it =]
I mean your probably still young too youve got looads of time to find someone.
I hope I helped and made some sort of sense?!
heh,but I can completetly relate to you and if you ever need anything drop me an inbox question,
good luck
much <3
Jess [15/f]
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You're going for the wrong type of girl. Honestly, that's all you can expect out of sluts. Obviously you're not too good of a 'nice guy' if you date sluts. I'll admit that I used to like and want to date players, but I soon got over that. I looked for different types of guys. There's so many different types of people out there. Just stop going for the sluts. You say 'nobody wants to be different anymore. it's all designer labels and hannah montana and lady freeking gaga and lilly alan' Well, that's only like one group. People like me don't like that stuff. I don't really know how to explain this, but you'll find out someday. There ARE girls out there that act like normal human beings, but once you get to know them, and get them to trust you, they can give you all the things that slutty girls give you. (But in a better way haha) People like me just realize that you don't have to post all kinds of things on myspace about which guy you slept with. Lots of girls don't realize what they're doing and you're just getting caught up in that one type of girl. Girls like that make us look bad. Please, open your eyes and look for other girls. Someone that's got common sense and doesn't just care about boys. I care about boys too, ..a lot, but I know that there are other things in life. I hope that explains it..
Edit: No, maybe you shouldn't get offended so easily. Just 'cause you're in a bad mood doesn't mean you should take it out on me.
Yeah, karma will get you. Jerk.
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