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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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Ive had millions of gfs. More than most and know more about girls than just about everyone. I have millions of friends come to me about of advice on how to get a girl and my advice always works, but im with this one girl and i cant seem to figure her out. Shes so quite. i mean like ive had plenty of shy gfs before and ive been a talker and im funny so its always been easy to open them up and get them talking but this girl is impossible. We kiss and make-out but Even i (btw im an actor so i have to know how to talk well and come up with stuff on the spot) am having trouble on finding things to talk about. She only shakes her head and shrugs. I think shes afraid she might say something stupid or immature cause im older and shes not used to dating older guys. I'm not used to dating younger girls although shes not that much younger. Im 15 and shes 13. She sure don't look 13 though. She beautiful beyond words. Ive dated chicks that were scared cause they don't think there good enough for me cause they know ive dated around a lot and think my previous gfs are better than them but this is beyond that. She has no interests and is very shy even though shes says shes not. ive never asked for advice on this kind of matter before and in a way feel embarrassed of asking for it now cause ive always given this kind of advice, never received. If anyone has any ideas please share or email me. My adress is
actor.ajthedford@gmail.com. Thank's

You guys just might not have anything in common, and that's completely okay. Another thing is the fact that she's 13 years old. You may not be new to dating, but she more than likely is. I'm not sure if you're her first boyfriend, or if she's had others before you, but she's young. You probably make her nervous. I'm sure she will open up eventually. Maybe she's scared of saying something you'll find stupid. Maybe she doesn't know what to say to you. I'm sure you guys will find something, and if you don't, then you're not meant to be. Don't try to force it though. If she is going to open up, she will do it on her own. Just give her some time. If she doesn't end up opening up, stay her friend but end the relationship. Not everyone is compatible.

Okay well i live in the lake county , cook county area and i have been searching for a dentist thats in my budget for almost a year. Im a teen and i have NO medical insurance but i need atleast three of my teeth pulled or worked on because they are extremely in horrible condition. What do i do? Please help this is serious!

What's best to do is to call around. Look at the dentists in the phone book or online. Call every single one you see. Ask how much they charge for dental procedures, see what their process is for those who aren't insured, and whatever else it is you're curious about. Sometimes it can range from $50 to around $100 for something as little as getting your tooth pulled without insurance. I would definitely do it one tooth at a time because the procedure may be quick, but it is definitely pricey - especially if you are the type who needs surgery to get one pulled like I am.

But yeah, definitely call around and make sure you compare prices and maybe see if these dentists have reviews so you know what you're getting yourself into before you go there.

Okay today is friday.. Sunday I was very nauses, Monday Nauses with a headache that night I threw up and started having terible stumoch pain, Tuesday I started terrible diareha several times a day and its just like water. I had to call off work that day, I have been having this problem all week and it doesnt seem to get any better at all i have cramps with it and stumoch pain. My stumoch also makes funny noises and i have a lot of gas. I know this it gross but I need some advice its noon and ive been in the bath room 7 times

I would say you definitely have some sort of stomach virus and it's best if you just lay in bed. Drink lots of fluids (though try to stay away from juices and most sodas) and eat saltines. Ginger Ale and Sprite are the best things to drink when you're sick because they have no color and are soothing. Sodas like Pepsi and Coke are horrible to have so definitely stay away from those.

I would give the doctor a call and see what they think. Take some immodium in the mean time so you can stop making multiple trips to the bathroom and just try and stay hydrated. All of the throwing up and going to the bathroom is going to wear you out, so definitely keep yourself with lots of fluids in your system.

me and my girlfriend have been seeing each other for a while i dont want to find a new girlfriend but the one i have doesnt want to have sex but u am always horny so i was wondering if there was anything around the house i could use as a fake vagina because i do not want to go bug one or anything the are expensive?

Using a girl solely for sex is wrong. Girls are not your sex toys, and you shouldn't treat them as such. If you are horny, masturbate. Stick your dick in a pie if you have to, but don't use some innocent girl for your own selfish pleasure and then dump her after you've gotten what you wanted.

You should be happy you've found a girl who respects herself. She's the one to keep around. If you pick a girl who's a whore just to have sex with you, she'll probably have a number of diseases. But, if you're the type of guy who uses girls for sex, then you probably deserve to catch something.

Masturbate though, dude. Your girls not gonna give it up, and you can't possibly make her.

im 18..me n my bf we r planning to have sex and i really want to do it2 bt i am afraid wat if i get pregnant? sometimes condoms are not fully the protection and i waz just thinking whats the good thing to do?

I suggest you make a trip to your local Planned Parenthood. You can make an appointment (which I suggest because they definitely get busy) and tell them what you're there for. You'll go in, they'll probably take a urine sample, and you'll eventually see a nurse. She'll ask you questions, and she'll determine if they have to examine you further. They might have to, they might not, I don't know because this process can be different for everyone. If they do examine you, it's a pretty quick process (about 5 mins, maybe 10 at the most) and then you're done. They'll give you birth control pills (sometimes a years supply) and they send you off. If you have questions, ask them while you're there. You might actually have to wait a little bit to have sex because they don't work immediately.

I do think you should always use two forms of contraceptives because you can never be too careful. Birth control pills and condoms work great. If something goes wrong with one, you have a back-up method to fall back on. And there is always the Plan B contraceptives should you get even more nervous. I'm glad you're thinking of your safety though (whether it be pregnancy or diseases) because most girls don't take these things into consideration and end up forgetting that there is a place to get free contraceptives. Be smart about your body. If you're going to have sex, use protection.

But in all seriousness, hit up Planned Parenthood. They are amazing.

Hey
i dont get if im insecure or not.
I mean i am pretty confident @ talking to people
and just being myself really. But i feel so down sometimes. Like, i look around and see all these people that are so happy, and im not. and they're so proud of themselves over everyhing and im not. especially these; theyr all skinny, and pretty .. and im not. and everyones in a relationship..and im not. i get so sad about it! i feel like a loser!

Sounds like a mix of insecurity and jealousy. You are jealous because people have things that you do not, but you're also insecure because you do not feel good about yourself when you look into a mirror.

These are all things that can be changed, but change starts with you. If you really want your life to go in a positive direction (though you don't really need to be skinny or in a relationship to be happy) then you need to take the initiative and change those things yourself. It's a new year, so take up a gym membership. Buy make-up. Talk to people, scope out guys, go out. Do your thing. Once you start taking a different direction with your life, you will feel happy, and you will be proud of yourself, but you have to be motivated and stick with it. Doing things half assed is not the way to go.

Good luck!

i'm 5 days late, and i have all my normal period symptoms but i took a cheap 8 dollar test and it came up positive . i live in florida so you have to be 18 to get an abortion, am i pregnant ? or should i take another test cause i heard of false positives . please help asappp!!!

If you want to know for sure, you need to see a doctor. If you don't want to go to your family physician, you can go to your local Planned Parenthood and they will give you the test for free.

If you do happen to be pregnant, you have 3 options. You can either keep the baby and take responsibility for your actions, or you can take the somewhat easy way out and either place your child up for adoption, or you can have an abortion (with parental consent, I'm assuming since you are under 18).

I suggest you get that pregnancy test at Planned Parenthood and go from there. You've got some hard decisions to make.

what does I'll let you know something mean after a job interview?

It means exactly what it sounds like. If they've got a position, they'll contact you. If they don't have a position, they'll still probably contact you in some form to let you know.

"I'll let you know something" can be vague, but it always means exactly what it sounds like.

I am 20/m. Recently, a 16 yr old dude I work w/ told me he had a female friend that had a big problem and needed advice from someone a little older that wasn't like parents old, and he thought I was nice and smart both. So I said sure, and this girl and I met to talk through her problem...except what she said shocked me and now I don't know what to tell her. She had just gotten her license and the first week she had it she was driving w/ a friend of hers when a motorcyclist hit her car. When she got out to check on the guy, his head was on one side of her car, but unfortunately the rest of his body was on the other. What on earth do I tell this poor girl?

This is a really tough issue. Unfortunately, you're going to have to tell her to report it. If she left the scene of the accident, she can get in trouble for a hit and run, so that's no good but she has to be honest.

I'm unfortunately not a licensed driver, so I don't know much about how some of it works, but she should definitely report it. If she goes along with her life without saying anything, it'll haunt her and eat at her. She's best just speaking up and telling people the truth, no matter what the consequences.

Ok so my mom is freaking out becuz I told her i want to be emo she is telling me "why would u want to do that you aren't being emo over my dead body" I'm 13 and my mom is still ruining my life... I told my friends and they told me to just do it, so I did and I painted my nails and sarted to wear heavy makeup.... my mother then took away my makeup and black clothes and replced I with pink and purple...how do I tell her I want to be emo in a way so she will understand me and tgat this is what I want to do, I cry,I'm shy,and I cut but i did all tgat before I even knew about emo....so how can I expkain that to her???

Okay, first of all, just because someone is emo doesn't mean they need to cut themselves and be depressed or shy. I know people who have been 'emo' and have actually been very outgoing.

Have you somehow forgotten that you're 13 years old? You are not an adult, and you're not even old enough to wear make-up. Paint your nails, do what you want, but you don't need to look like a fucking raccoon, and you don't need to wear all black. It absorbs heat anyways.

Your mom is your mom. She is the boss. You live under her roof, so you must live by her rules. You don't get to just do whatever the hell you want and think it's okay because you're a teenager. If that's your train of thought, you've got a long way to go and your teen years will be quite miserable sweetie.

I'm all for self-expression, but there's no need to be stupid and whiny about it. Wear your black, but not all at the same time. Wear your dark make-up, but do it naturally. Emo doesn't mean clown.

My daughter will be 21 in February and is planning a trip to Las Vegas with her best friend and a few other people in March. I have several problems with this mainly because of the area and what goes on in Vegas. Along with that is a little bit of mistrust with my daughter from previous mistakes. I gave the option of her being able to go it her father and I went but stayed in a separate room from her and her friends. Not to mention her friend's mother is paying for the room. She does not think this is fair and I am looking to hear opinions on wether I should allow her to go parent-free or not. Is my option fair?

Not really. Your daughter is 21 years old. She is a big girl, and old enough to make her own choices. She may have made mistakes in the past, but that is no reason not to let her go out and have fun with her friends.

Maybe make a deal with her: Let her go with her friends parent-free, but have her call you when she gets there. As long as she calls at least once a day, you have no reason to worry.

I'm sure if you let her go without you, she will agree to call you once a day. Other than that, you really have no reason to not let her go. You have to remember she is 21, not 12.

Is sperm dead when it dries? I get really paranoid about this everytime my boy friend fingers me. I get my period everytime though. I just think its because in this life style we hear about 16 year olds getting pregnant. Im never going to be like that. I never had sex and i will not till i am older. I think that, if he touched himself by accident or before we saw eachother and he fingered me i could get pregnant. I always think that everytime. I know its not true because like i said before i get my period everytime. I get really paranoid when i dont have my period because i always get thouhts in my head and it really annoys me. Can you please help me and tell me what to think about this situation? I may sound wack but i am just wondering. Please HELP! I am a 14.

If your boyfriend is masturbating before he comes over, as long as he washes his hands thoroughly (underneath warm water, for 20 seconds with a good amount of soap), you should be fine.

I don't think you have anything to worry about. Just try and keep it safe if you're going to do anything sexual because any slip up has consequences.

I had sex with a guy on sept. 28, 2010. we use pull-out or withdrawal method. we did it again on october 9, 2010, and october 18,2010. until now i don't have my period. am i pregnant?
The last time i had my period was september 20-25.

You might be. Go to the doctor and get a pregnancy test done. The store bought ones can sometimes give a false negative or a false positive. If you want to know for sure, go to the doctor.

um i was just wondering what a prostituet is cos im aparently one and it doesnt sound very nice.
thanks
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also, am i a prostituet?

A prostitute is someone who has sex for money. If you're not having sex for money, then you are not a prostitute. If you are having sex for money, then you are a prostitute.

okay so ive been with my boyfriend for a year now and i always think about sex but im scared that if i lose my virginity before marriage then i will go to hell.. is that true? btw im roman catholic

No, it's not true. You won't go to hell if you have pre-marital sex.

Do guys get turned off if a girls never made out with anyone?

Nope.

my boyfriend fell in love with a girl that was my best friend and he also likes a girl in school. Both girl are in the same class with him and im get angry when he talks about them when he's with me. What can i do to make our relationship be better? Im 16 years old, female

If your boyfriend is falling in love with other girls while he is in a relationship with you, why would you even wanna keep him around? Falling in love with other people while in a relationship only says that he doesn't have feelings for you anymore and that he is trying to get you to break up with him by talking about them constantly.

Honestly, you should dump him. It's insulting.

I have this friend who cant go to the mall alone. I offered my BFF and her to go to the mall, but she said that she would go if her mom with us! I can tell I cant be myself or buy the things I would regularly buy with her mom around. UGHH! How can I tell her I dont want her freakin mom to come to the mall with us!

If your friend can't go to the mall alone, and you knew that she couldn't go by herself before you asked her, why would you ask? You know what the rule in her house is, and if it's something you don't agree with, you shouldn't even ask her to hang out.

To be honest, her mom doesn't have to be with you guys the whole time. There's this thing called a cell phone, and you guys can split up. Her mom can go one way, and you and your friends can go the other and whenever you're done, you can call her mom & then hang out time is done. It's really not that hard. That way, she can go, and the rules won't be broken and her mom's feelings won't be hurt.

when me and my boyfrien fool around sometimes it goes farther and he eats me out adn hes asked me to blow him but i refuse and tell him that i think it is gross, but the truth is i dont know how to give one, ive sucked on condoms before but nothing for real, can someone help me?????

If you don't want to give him a blow job, tell him that. If you don't know how to give one, tell him that. He will give you answers.

If you need tips though:

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Thanks! =D

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