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Oh, don't worry, he totally likes you. In fact, he likes you so much that he's going to propose to you (even if you're only thirteen) and you guys are going to get married, and live together happily ever after forever and always and have ten children in the country with the best jobs ever until you die at an old age together in your sleep!If you know that's not how life works, and you want some real advice, you have my undivided attention. Ask me anything, and I'll try and figure it out for you (unless it has anything to do with geometry).
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13f. tommorrow is 4th of july. YEAH! i'm going to watch fireworks somewhere pretty far away from my house. (like an hour drive) so i invited a friend to go with me. she and all of my other friends cant because they're going to a party i wasn't invited to. so i'm bummed... right? I have a friend Tom who lives in that town. he's had crushes on me on and off and has told lots of my friends that he thinks i'm hot. he has a huge reputation as a player. but i dont want to be his girlfriend and/or do anything sexual with him. but he wants to hang out that night, and take me wakeboarding that same morning. if i go with him is he gonna make a move? will he think i like him if i agree to go? and if you think i can go and just have a good time with him as friends ... how do i convince my parents to let me spend all day with him (they do not like him at all)?
thanx for reading this!
If you don't want to do anything with him, then don't. If he makes a move, blow it off, or be cold. Show him that your just friends.. and will, in all likelyhood, be nothing more than that. Don't hug him, and try not to do/say anything that could be misinterperted as flirting. And just because you agree to hang out with a friend doesn't mean that you like him.
As for your parents, tell him that you and Tom are just friends, and you would never let him do anything with you. It's more about your parents trusting Tom, rather then your parents trusting you. Just try and convince them that the two of you are just friends. Or pick whichever one you want to do (wakeboarding, or watching fireworks) more, then just do that one thing with him... hope I helped.
i have a bf of 2 weeks..for the 1st week we talked all the time on the phone and stuff but then we just stopped..we talk ocasionaly on the computer and stuff but not alot like most couples..i still like him but going out with him isnt as great as i imagained..he always seemes irrated by me and i dunno if thats just his guy tone..i dunno if i should break up with him and see what else is out there..im just scared b.c i love the idea of having a bf and dunno if ill find some else
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You have to stop comparing your relationships to other relationships, or I'm warning you, you will NEVER be happy with it. And it's only been two weeks, so give it some time... relationships need patience to truly develop.
And if you're not satisfied with the way things are going in your relationship, try to change it. If you make an effort, he could start trying to make one too. If not, you could ask him to.
There will always be someone else out there, and when you're meant to be with someone, you'll be with them. If not, well, then you can live without a boyfriend for a while. Being single is usually a temporary thing, and you've got plenty of time to date and have boyfriends. Don't limit yourself to a guy you don't really like just because you don't want to be single.
Ok My Newest Question Is This: I liked 2 boys. They are both younger than me and me and the one started dating. Too many people had stuff to say about it and I got scared because I felt something different for him than I had anyone in a long time. So I broke it off. We continued to like kiss and stuff and the whole time I could feel it. Well this other one started to call me and stuff and then he asked me out one night and i said yeah because i thought i liked him more. the next night he said he was really tired and he liked me but he didn't think it was enough to go out with me so that ended. and then i sat and thought about it and realized how stupid i was for dumping the other kid because i realized i loved him. so i went and told him and we started going back out and then like later on when i was talking to him he told me that he didn't feel the same way for me anymore and broke up with me...Right now i feel like shit x100 tell me what i should do. THere's another boy that likes me...but Idk if i should do anything about it or not.
If you and the guy you think you love (or you know you love?) are meant to be together, then you WILL end up together, somehow. In the meantime, stay friends, and who knows what could happen? If you feel it's the right time to make a move, go for it.
In the meantime, you could either date other people, or you could wait for someone you like to come along. It wouldn't hurt to give this guy who likes you a try, but waiting it out wouldn't be so bad either. Dating is really only worthwhile if it's with someone that YOU like...
Yesterday, one of my guy friends kept bugging me to know who I liked. I finally told him the one person and after a while told him he was the other person. He said he knew that I liked him or something like that. Now I don't know what to do because I like won't act the same around him. What can I do?
I've gone through that before. Many times. With my best guy friend. So my advice is to just act like it never happened that is, if the other person doesn't like you back.. it'll keep you both from being embarassed. If you act like everything's okay, he'll do the same, and that will make everything okay.
You've got the added bonus that he already pretty much knew, and that didn't change your friendship. Just because you confirmed his suspicion shouldn't change it either.
alright i have 2 best friends ( girls )and i love them with all of my heart. now i am currently goin out with a guy but he isnt what i want i mean he is nice and all but i just dont feel the connection but anyway there is another guy i am crazy about but i have two problems with being with him #1. 7 months ago one of my bestfriends went out with him for 3 months and they broke up for a stupid reason she is still in love with him and a month ago she went " crazy " she cut her self and they were bad she went to a place to get help and she has been doin great but she is still deeply in love with him.. now problem #2. my other bestfriend is currently goin out with this guy and other bestfriend is okay about it but then she tells me constantly she hates it and she gets sooo upset over it now we have all been hanging out a lot together and the other day my one bestfriend that is goin out with this guy wasnt there it was just my other best friend my boyfriend this wonderful guy and another one of my friends.. we were at one of my friends house and me and the guy i am crazy about were upstairs alone and we were just hanging out and listening to music and all of a suddenn he kissed me i was like wow and my mind went blank now this was just a peck on the lips but it was the greatest thing in the whole entire world ahh im so confused i just wanna either be with him or just let it go like nothing happened but that would be hard because he is on my mind like all the time so please help me im stressing over this like crazy *sigh*
- Confused
If you think losing your two best friends is worth it, date this guy you're so crazy about. If you want to keep your friends, (and your boyfriend) don't let him kiss you, and don't date him.
If you don't like your boyfriend, break up with him, because that's not fair. As for this other dude, just stay away from him, unless you want to lose your best friends.
(im 14 and a girl, btw) Ive written to you before. like 8 months ago and im doubting youll remember my problem, so ill sum it up. I went out with a boy(clay) last summer through october, i had a hard time getting over him and this girl always tried to get me out of his life because she still liked him, then we broke up, she was happy, i was sad, and it took me like a month to get over him... (basically; its THE cliche)...anyways, now its like a year later and i have a new boyfriend of a month. were sepreated for the summer and we dont have any ways of talking. i cant call him because it costs like a dollar a minute, and he cant go online because hes at his summer house and theres no computer there; and then hes going to camp, and he doesnt get email, and i dont have his qddress there! so we wont be able to talk til september énd when i get back home! meanwhile though i keep remembering how i felt about clay. because im in paris now, and he told me he liked me in paris; and then he asked me out in israel; and im going there tomorrow! and i know everything will remind me of him...this stinks for me because now ive started to think well what if eli ( my current bf) doesnt like me? what if he just wants action? i mean, he hasnt made an attempt to talk to me; so maybe he doesnt really care about me and he just wants action...ya know? ahh please help me! you helped me SOO much last time...
Keep yourself occupied in Israel-- so occupied, you won't even have time to think of him. Nights are the worst, but if it all works out to plan, you'll be too tired to think of Clay.
About Eli. You're seperated for the summer, because you have no way of contacting each other. If he really just wanted action, and couldn't see you for three months, why would he still be with you now? Why would he wait all that time to be with you if he was just after one thing?
Im going to the movies with my boyfriend on Friday, all we do is hold hands and a couple times before he put his arm around me. How do I know if he wants to kiss me but is too nervous?
He'll keep leaning in close to you, then he'll pull back, changing his mind. That's from my experience, but yeah, I'm sure there are other signs. If you want to kiss him, you should just lean in and go for it. He's your boyfriend, so he does like you, and probably has thought about kissing you... so go for it.
My guy friend is seriously considering breaking up with his girlfriend. I really like him & he told my friend he would date me if he broke up with his girlfriend. The only problem is that my best friend likes me too. What should I do?
If you like your guy friend, and he breaks up with his girlfriend, you should date him. There's a chance that you could just be a rebound girlfriend, but wouldn't you regret it if you had a chance to date him and didn't take it? (From experience, YOU WILL MOST LIKELY REGRET IT.)
Even though your best friend's feelings should be important to you, it shouldn't stop you from dating someone else. The truth is that you don't feel that way about your best friend. He should accept that, and accept that you're going to date other people. It sounds harsh, but there's a good chance your best friend will understand... and possibly move on.
ive been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years now,and things are starting to get tough. he goes out when he likes and tells me just before he leaves, however he expects me to ask him in advance when i want to go out and even when i do he gets angry and calls me all the time when im out to see when im coming home, i feel trapped and we have spoken about all the time which leads into big arguements in which he is rotten to me and hurts me realy bad. i feel silly because i love him but want to get out, why cant i leave, am i an idiot? we are both 19.
If he's treating you like crap, and you've asked him to stop, but he'still not listening, then you should definently leave. All abusive relationships are not just physically abusive, they're mentally and verbally abusive, too. If you let him get away with abusing you, then it's just going to lead to more abuse... which could possibly be physical.
You may love him, but he obviously doesn't love you if he's treating you like that. (sorry, but it definently doesn't sound like it..)
what are some ways to tell if a boy likes you?
1. He pays more attention to you than other girls
2. He does small stuff for you
3. He likes talking with you, or hanging out with you
4. If you tell him about another guy, he gets jealous or protective (look for a negative kind of reaction from him)
5. Hug him as 'friends'- what his reaction?
Those are some pretty good ways to tell, I think, if you want more, just inbox me.
What do you think of a girl in her young teens(say 15,16) starting a relationship with someone thats about 11 years older then her. Say, this guy really does like the girl and the girl totally loves this guy. What are your thoughts on this? They've kissed and really do feel for eachother, but the guy lives a couple hours away, and how would this girl tell her parents if they were to ever start a relationship?
I would never do that, and I don't think they're in love, but think of it this way. If they are actually in love, would the girl really risk him going to jail by dating him illegally? If she truly cared for him, wouldn't she want to wait, and stay out of jail? And if he truly cared for her, he would wait, and not pressure her, am I right?
On top of that, they live hours away from each other... long-distance relationships at 15 and 16 don't last. And if she's looking for a 'mature, responsible guy' she should look in her own age, because this guy is obviously not mature to be dating a 15 year old girl, and is not responsible about keeping himself out of a bad situation.
well me adn this guy have been pretty close. ive been out of town for quite a while and i got back a few days ago. we went and hung out and did some things... but now it seems like hes not interested anymore... we usually talk on the phone for likie hours but last night we didnt even talk for three mins. hes like im tired im going to bed... so what should i think?? pleas help!
If you've spent a lot of time not communicating with him, you can't just expect to get back where you were when you first left (if that made sense...) Give it some time, and your friendship will be back to normal. Obviously, you don't want this to remain just a friendship, so if you really want a relationship you should tell him how you feel, or show him how you feel.
Just because he's talking about his ex doesn't mean he likes her or anything. Unless he says flat out that he likes his ex, it's probably just something random... and keep in mind, he could be trying to make you jealous.
(13/f)Well I really like my friend Jesse....Were like really good friends though, but we go to different schools but I see him a lot. I don't want to tell him I like him but I want him to kind of try to figure it out, like I don't want it to be so obvious. He has a girlfriend but I think shes gonna dump him soon....Well what are some good ways for him to realize that I like him a little.
One word: Flirt. If guys think you like them, there's a pretty good chance they'll like you too. You have to kind of put the thought of you liking them into thier head, and that's the purpose of flirting.
But I wouldn't try anything until he and his girlfriend are officially broken up. Because chances are, if he likes her he's not going to go after you. But it's possible that she will. With some horrible form of revenge.
my boyfriends has been hurt by his ex girlfriend he really loved her and she told him that she loved him too but she went out and had sex with another guy and that tore him up how do i get him to see or convince him that i won't hurt him? i do know what its like 4 your ex to cheat or something so how do i get him to understand that i won't do what she did?
(please help me)
You can't make him trust you. He has to let go of his ex and her mistakes. As long as you don't do anything to make him not trust you or something, don't worry about it. What'd I worry about is if he still loves his ex-- if he's hurting over it, he probably still has some kind of feelings for her... and if he actually likes you, he'll try to get over it if not for his own sake, then for yours.
Ok, so i like this guy, but he said he likes my friend and he told that friend he likes me. Whats going on!?
Plus, my friend and i are nothing alike.
He could be a player. He could actually like both of you. He could be trying to make one of you jealous. He could be trying not to hurt one of your feelings. Those are about all the excuses I can think of for this dude. Either way, I say you both confront him and ask him what's up. That way, he probably won't lie.
Even if he does like one of you, I probably wouldn't date him. Unless he actually likes both of you, then he's technically lying. And even if he does like both of you, he's not telling the whole truth. Liars are usually cheaters, sorry to say.
I like this guy who likes my friend... but she doesn't like him. What can I do to make him think of me that way?? =/ I'll rate high for quick effective answers, I'm hanging out with him and a few others tonight!!!! ThankSSSS!
Maybe try to look a little better tonight, or flirt more. Pay more attention to him than the other people. If you show him you like him, there's a good chance that he'll start to like you.
Guys' minds can be manipulated like that.
i want to ask this guy out but i dont want to ask him out directly or give him a note...i want to be creative with this...something he'll like...how do i do this??
i rate 5's for good answers
Okay.. welll, you could write it on his hand. Or pay to have it put on the screen at a ball game. Haha, write "I love you" on his fries with ketchup or something...
Stick a piece of duck tape on his back that says "I like you. Go out with me. -- (your name here)"
What's the best way to tell a girl how you feel about her? School's over so I can't tell her there. I could get her screen name from one of her friends and tell her over IM but I'm not sure if that's a good idea. Please help. I'm 14 and a guy.
IM could work.. but it would probably be better to be random and creative. Do something different, but of course, romantic, and that way she'll be sure to remember it...
Like, get someone to announce it over a speaker system when you guys are hanging out... or pay to have it put up at a ball game (not very creative, but I always wanted it to happen...) If she's on the shy side, DO NOT DO THESE!! Write it on her hand, or something...
If you don't like my ideas... my advice is to watch The Notebook. (DON'T HANG FROM THE FERRIS WHEEL!)
Okay,,,,,
I have this boyfriend(Kevin) that im madly in love with and hes in love with me. I am 13 and hes 15. We've been going out for 7 months!! Theres a problem though. My neighbor is the one i always hung with and i introduced her to him because he was my boyfriend and they have became close and she always im's him online and calls him on his cell phone. Latly i have been getting scared. Shes been saying maybe she will take him to the prom next year if she has noone to go with and crap though my boyfriend says he wouldnt go with her and i do belive him... and i think shes falling for him. Shes 16 years old too so shes closer to his age. She had alot of crap about him written in her profile saying stuff about there friendship. She doesnt have a boyfriend and im positive shes never had one. I know he wont leave me for her but i am afraid thats shes falling for him. How do i tell? Im scared because i dont want her too and if she does then i dont know if i can handle it. Shes been writing about a guy in her profile and she says she likes this one guy but i think she has some feeling for Kevin that are getting stronger. I think she flirts with him but im sure Kevin doesnt think so.... i donno please help I'm flippin out here!
♥ Meg ♥
*--.:*Thank-You*:.--*
That doesn't sound good... She wants to invite him to her prom!? And she TOLD you that!? ...It sounds to me like she may be falling for him, in which case, tell him IMMEDIATELY that you think she likes him. I've had my best friend go after my boyfriend, and I didn't even realize it until he told me!! Let's just say, this girl is not my best friend anymore... but when you tell people, it definently helps them understand where they really stand with other people.... and be more cautious.
There is nothing you can do to this girl without seeming like a psycho-jealous person. You can forgive and forget.. but trust would be an issue. Maybe you could try and set her up with one of Kevin's friends... if she's 16, and hasn't had a boyfriend yet, well, chances are she's lonely...
I have a bunch of guyfriends at school, but one of them I really like.
Unfortunately I have no clue if he likes me that way and my friend's ex-boyfriend talks to me and everything way more than her and he always did before too...so I'm a little confused.
Anyways he's moving soon so ya
Back to the guy I like- he hasn't had a girlfriend for a while now and I really like him but I don't want to be like every other girl in school who asks the guy out themselves.
It's like friggin' Sadyhawkin's everday in my school...-_-
Don't ask him out then. Just tell him you like him... if he hasn't had a girlfriend in a while, well, sounds like he's holding out for someone... you've got a good shot of being that someone. Unless he doesn't want to have a girlfriend.
I don't know about you, but I can't stand waiting around for someone to ask me to do something... Or to tell me something. But if you want him to be clueless, I guess you could ask one of your friends/his friends to find out for you.
If you don't want to do any of that, well.. waiting is the only thing you can really do.