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What do you think of a girl in her young teens(say 15,16) starting a relationship with someone thats about 11 years older then her. Say, this guy really does like the girl and the girl totally loves this guy. What are your thoughts on this? They've kissed and really do feel for eachother, but the guy lives a couple hours away, and how would this girl tell her parents if they were to ever start a relationship?
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EWWW whats does this guy want with a lil GIRL.. ♥ Dez
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Okay, I agree that age shouldn't really matter with love, but this is kinda weird. This is against the law first of all, and think of it this way: When he was 11 years old you were born. When you think of it that way, isn't it kind of odd? Actually, my dad just got remarried to a 30 year-old and my dad is 42, but it isn't a big problem since they're both ADULTS and able to make their own desicions (and it's legal). I know you don't want to hear this, but it can't really be love if he's that much older then you. You should want until you're 18 to have a boyfriend that much older.
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well i do not think that this girl should even bo in a relashionship with this guy who is like either 26 or 27 because that is ileagle in alot of states. so i am not going to suport her.
hope he doesn't end up being arested
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At this time, it says that you haven't read any of the answers you have gotten about your question. That tells me that you already know what the answers will be. You already know that this is a BAD IDEA. First and foremost IT IS AGAINST THE LAW. He can be arrested even without the young girls consent. And NO her parents are not going to like the idea at all. If your friend lived in the Middle East (IRAQ, IRAN, or SAUDI ARABIA) That is exactly what would have happened to her. But she would have been married off to some old guy by her parents, by the time she was 14, and they would have sold her for the money, and she would have no say in the matter. Many young girls in those countries end up committing suicide rather than be married to someone who rapes them and beats them. Thank God in this country, our parents don't sell us as brides as soon as we become teenagers.
This is a horrible idea, and the gentleman involved KNOWS it, he is just hoping that the young lady will not know any better. But when you read all these answers,and tell her what we all advised, then she does know better. I pray she makes the right decision.
Michele
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I would never do that, and I don't think they're in love, but think of it this way. If they are actually in love, would the girl really risk him going to jail by dating him illegally? If she truly cared for him, wouldn't she want to wait, and stay out of jail? And if he truly cared for her, he would wait, and not pressure her, am I right?
On top of that, they live hours away from each other... long-distance relationships at 15 and 16 don't last. And if she's looking for a 'mature, responsible guy' she should look in her own age, because this guy is obviously not mature to be dating a 15 year old girl, and is not responsible about keeping himself out of a bad situation.
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my friend,
im sorry but without even starting with the age difference, the distance apart is a big deal. when you dont get to see them for a long time you want to be with someone so you feel far apart from them and sometimes go to be with someone else. then, on top of that, if you get caught then he could be arrested. its illegal. and in my opinion its very wrong. good luck.
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that is ridiculous....he is way too old and just trying to get some pussy...im really not trying to be mean but it would be embarassing for a 26 or 27 year olf guy to be dating a 15 or 16 year old unless he is getting laid...he wouldnt go through the embarassment for nothing. im really not trying to be a bitch but that is definately whats up
and your parents will FLIP!
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i think its fine but before you get into anything serouce i would wait until shes legaly an adult. How her parents will react i don't know, but i'm sure they have to ecept it if you two are in love, they can't do anything about it. But like i said wait till shes about 19 or so.
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this is what i think Girls shouldn't date guys that are more than a certain amont of years older than them, but anyways i'm 14 this 21 year old guy was/is interested in me the thing is though i felt like he was just physically attracted to me because he really didn't try to get to know me, this is what i think you should talk to to your friend and see where his heart is, he has already explored life and been threw things you have 2 go threw.you have your whole life ahead of you ,so i say end it with this guy and you won't have to tell your parents, but if you end it you have to worry about his reaction
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that's illegal in most states. And it could be detrimental to your mental state. A guy who is eleven years older may use you for one thing:sex. And he may want you to go further than you're willing. Plus he may be arrested for child molestation/pedophilia. In most states, the age of consent(having sex with someone not your age) is 16-18. Which means that at some ages (under 18), if someone goes out with someone else 3 years younger, they could be arrested. Its called statutory rape.
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there is too much of an age gap...thats what i think..i also think the guy should be looking for a woman in his age group..why is he hanging around a young teen girl? i would conclude he wants sex because a girl 11 years younger than him is more vulnerable because she will look up to him..even idolize him. i dont think its a good idea and i would not put myself in that situation because of what i just said and the fact that MY PARENTS would kill me.
so..there is my opinion..if the girl doesnt care what i say and wants to tell her parents...she should say
"i met this really great guy and we're planning on going to the movies .."
parents: "oh...tell me about this boy.."
you: "well..hes really great..(describe him) and hes 26.
dont you think her parents would flip out right when she says his age? i dont know.,.maybe they wont...they are her parents afterall
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Hmm, I don't think they should start a relationship because of the age difference if they ever had sex it would be rape. Telling her parents would be really hard and they more than likely would not approve. It's okay to have a casual relationship, and just kissing, but it should not go further than that.
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No, that is a real bad thing for someone to do. If you say that the girl really feels for this guy, but with her going with him can get him put in jail if the girl isn't over 18. And if her parents find out that shes dating someone way older then her they might get made at the guy for going with someone that young and they'll get made at the girl for going with someone that old. There are alot of young sexy boys that are 15, 16 so there is no need for no 15,16 yrs. old going with someone thats old enough to be her dad!!
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The first thing is if the girl isn't 18 the guy is probably going to be in trouble. He can go to jail for dating someone under the age of 18.
I personally feel that if a 27 year old man can't find someone his own age to mess with there must be something wrong with him. Not only does he pray on young girls but girls his own age must not like him for some reason.
I think your parents may feel the same way. They might call the cops and have him thrown in jail. Or at least have a restraining order put on him. Sorry, you asked. :)
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