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my boyfriends has been hurt by his ex girlfriend he really loved her and she told him that she loved him too but she went out and had sex with another guy and that tore him up how do i get him to see or convince him that i won't hurt him? i do know what its like 4 your ex to cheat or something so how do i get him to understand that i won't do what she did?
(please help me)
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Time, and not giving him reason to not trust you. Don't allow your conversations to dwell on the subject, and if it comes up, just tell him that you're going to prove him wrong on this (if he says that he thinks it's going to happen with you), or tell him that you're not worried about it, and that both of you need to move on with your relationship.
He's having trouble because she hurt him so bad, and part of him probably misses her. I say that because I had the same thing happen to me, and even 2.5 years later (it was a 3-month relationship), and knowing that she's not worth having a relationship with at all, part of me still misses her.
So just be there for him, let him be able to just talk to you and have you listen, and keep your arms and ears open to him.
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You can't make him trust you. He has to let go of his ex and her mistakes. As long as you don't do anything to make him not trust you or something, don't worry about it. What'd I worry about is if he still loves his ex-- if he's hurting over it, he probably still has some kind of feelings for her... and if he actually likes you, he'll try to get over it if not for his own sake, then for yours.
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Honeestly I dont think you need to convince him you wont hurt him. I think you need to get his mind off of her. It sounds to me he is still hurting. Ive seen these kid of relationships. He will end up wanting her back But Ireally hope you staytogether. To get his mind off of her and to show yourtrust, all I can say is to keep ashuring him. Treat him with all the love you have for him. Dont let him talk about her because it will bring him farther down. Show him you are better and you can have a better time. i.h.i.h.
B.B.
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You just have to let him know that you would never do that to him and you'll never brake his heart. Let him know that not all girls are like that. I'm sure he knows that your not like her but he has it in the back of his head that you might do something like she did. Good Luck!
~Brina~
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Show that you care and won't hurt him. Comfort, but don't rush, him into things.
I hope I helped!
~passionate
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Well im sorta going through the same thing that you are. My boyfriend was dating his ex girlfriend for a year and she had him believing that she was pregnant with his baby he did everything for her. He payed for the doctor bills everything for that baby then when she was up to nine months pregnant she finally told him that she cheated on himand that the baby was not his he was so hurt and when we started to date it took a while for him to just open up to me and for him to finally say he loved me .It took a while for him to do it but you just have to take it slow with your boyfriend let him know that you are always there for him to talk to about his problem and sooner or later he will open up to you.. Sorry i cant be of anymore help but the least i can do is help a little because i know what your going through.
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