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there is this boi that is my bro's best friend and he's 17 im just 13 and the other day he was like all over me and when my brother was there he act normal and then when my bro left he would do something freaky with his tounge before i thought it was cute but nows its annoying i dunnon how to tell him plz go away but dont get me wrong he's hott he really is but i dont see him the way i guess he does me but he's a FREAK!!! well ya i dunno if i am annoyed by him or im trying to avoid likeing him. (link)
Yeah, a lot of people have been through this problem.A guy starts to like you, and then you sorta kinda like him back, and then he gets too attached to you.Yeah...that's a total turn off.Just tell him straight up that you don't like him, and then tell him why.I think you're annoyed by him, and you're trying to avoid liking him.Good Luck, 'n Hope I helped!
-tori


ok see all the girlz are lie acting like bitches to me and im so sick of it like 1 point there att my house then the next day the acting like there all that and like i deont no there just mean so help! (link)
Ask 'em why they're acting like that.If they give you a really stupid crappy reply then be like "Forget you" It worked for me when I went through that problem.Hope it works for you too! Hope I helped, 'n Good Luck!
-tori


See I was goin out w/ this guy for lyk 2 months then one day he broke up w/ me...but the thing is i don't kno if he really broke up w/ me or if it was his brother that i think likes me to (they r the same age...my bf/x bf was adopted) but idk if my bf did break up w/ me or not my friends said that in his profile it still says that he loves me n i kno that he doesn't forget to take things like that out of his profile...but idk wut am i suppose to do i dont want 2 call him bc it will b to awkward n he is like never on IM so idk n if he did break up w/ me i want 2 kno why but i just feel way to weird tlakin 2 him on the phone n askin him that...plz help me wut should i do???? (link)
Call him!Have confidence, and don't feel awkward, 'cause it's not weird at all.If you wanna know, then find out for yourself! lol, It looks like he didn't really break up with you.Find out!lol, Good luck,and Hope I helped!
-tori


Im 21 and female. I broke up with a guy about 2 years ago and ive had feelings for him ever since. I basically broke up with him because of another guy and regreted it after. Weve kept in touch and im pretty sure im in love with him and have been even since we broke up. I recently found out he is going to propose to his girlfriend. This really upset me and i dont want him to marry her. I guess my question is, is it wrong for me to tell him how i feel about him since hes planning on marrying this other girl? Should i tell him or should i just leave it alone and try to move on?
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I say you should totally tell him!I mean, what if you end up telling him that you love him,'n then he tells you that he also loves you.You never know."Life is full of little surprises!" And even if you end up telling him, and he doesn't feel the same way..then you learn from the mistake and you get over it.But you should tell him, cause you might regret it for the rest of your life.Good Luck, 'n hope i helped!
-tori


well i really need help ..well theres this boy nd lets call him "carl" so i started likin this guy nd i told him nd i found out he felt the same way but longer for him so we talked nd he was so great so we finaly wen out nd omg he was so great nd i realized i was fallin for him nd then a rmor went around that he had cheated nd he said it wasnt tru but all the signs are right there nd im pretty sure he did it but i think he relaized it was worng nd didnt want to hurt me nd then the day i found out i was cryin in skool for the rest of the day .. so i call ready to break up nd he gave me this crap bout bout he didnt do it nd i sorta beleived him nd it took a while to put it together but that same day i found out .. this girl had been tellin him i had been flirtin wit other guys .. but i didnt .. i got him to beleive me then his firned told him i broke up wit ihm nd he beleived it .. we atill talk nd he tells me how much he loves me nd he wants me bac nd then one of my friend kary was akin if he was goin to ask me out nd if he did i dont kno wat to say .. i really love him but theres one problem .. i moved nd he lives 15 minutes away which isnt that long away but we go to different skool nd i dont kno wat to do if he does cuase i really love him wit all my heart .. please help me ..

i rate goood!! (link)
If you two still really like each other..then give the relationship another chance.I mean, why not.You have the rest of your life to go.Take chances, make mistakes, and learn from 'em.Good Luck, 'n hope I helped!
-tori


ok well there is this girl, but she has a boyfriend named who knows what. and yet i am totlly in love with her and i don^t know the right words that will influence her to wanna have second thoughts about this guy. i know it is wierd but i am basiclly in love with her. but i am nbot scared to tell her i have told her and it seems that she just kinda well moves subjects when i talk to her.

so i need a way to sit her down and tell her how strong my feelings are for her. cause when i tr all i get is somthin like. " what do u wanna do know" so it is startin to annoy me in a way but the more i see her or talk to her the more love i have for her.

if anyone can help it would be great.

ciao

and thnx

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If I were you, I'd get her, sit her down, and say "Hey,don't change the subject, but I really like you, maybe even love you, but I really wanna know if there's a chance between us." Say something like that.I know how you feel.Good Luck, 'n Hope I helped!
-tori


do you think that it is weird that a 24 year old guy is dating a 16 yr old girl? i do but i need other opinions, the girl is my best friend and i dont like it. I need help on how i can be more open about the situation. please help!!! (link)
If they really like each other..then it's not weird to them.Maybe to you 'n other people, but not to them.Just talk to her, if she's your best friend, she'll listen to you.Good Luck, 'n Hope I helped!
-tori


Well. I'm 14 and I have been madly in love with my neighbor ever since I moved here when I was 9. We write each other e-mails and we sometimes talk on the bus and stuff. He's 18 and he's going to be a senior this year and I'm going to be freshmen, many people that are freshmen date seniors so I don't think its the age. My mom said that he's probably just waiting until I'm older cuz I'm young but I dunno. He knows I like him because my friend would always yell out the window to him that i was in love with him. He asked me last year if he wanted to get a ride to school with him everyday this year, and I said yes. I really like him alot. Should I tell him? Or should I get a friend to ask him stuff?! I dunno what to do. PLease help!! I rate!!

*amy (link)
Be brave! Go tell him yourself, in my opinion, I think guys respect that fact in a girl that they go and tell them that they like 'em.So, go for it, and tell him how you feel.And it seems like your mom is cool with it, and you don't get that a lot from a mom.Go girl!I don't think you should get a friend to ask him stuff.Good Luck, 'n Hope I helped!
-Tori


hehe welll okay.. i get horny like alot, im a girl tho and i just i know theres like masterbation and stuff, but it just doenst cut it for me, and i KNOW im too young for like a vibrator or anything.. and like ive tried masterbating, cause one time i got fingered and it felt SOO good.. so like what do i do to give my self pleasure? (link)
okay, well, how old are you? If you're on right now IM me at StarAngel12675, maybe I can help if I actually talk to you.If you don't want to IM me, then feel free to ask somone else.Sorry...
-tori


I'm a freshmen and during my first three weeks 3 guys have showed interest in me. I really like the personalities of all 3 but theyre all so different! Okay..guy #1...he is also a freshmen, he's hot, and hes a good christian and everything, but ive never seen him get really crazy and i do that sometimes and i like to not be the only one ya know lol....guy #2 hes a sophmore...hes funny and really nice to me..he doesnt make good grades though...he is susposed to be a junior..or maybe even a senior im not 100% sure, he rides my bus and hes not the hottest guy but hes DEFINATELY not ugly...hes kinda like eminem..he doesnt look ANYTHING like him but hes on the same level of hotness...guy #3...hes a senior..it would be really cool to go out w/ an upperclassmen..i could probably meet new upperclassmen that way as well..well, neways, i REALLY REALLY REALLY like his personality...hes a good guy..but he isnt very good looking...i know that sounds shallow and i dont mean it to be im just trying to give pros and cons here...hes not incredibly bad but hes got dark brown hair and glasses..hes not very "built" and he doesnt really have the same style as most of the people i hang out with...so if you were in my position what guy would you choose? can you give me your reasoning too? also, i was wondering if you all could put them in order like "this guy 1st, this 2nd, and this 3rd"...sorry this is so long!! you deserve a 5 just for reading this!! lol so i will definately rate you good! (link)
okay, well, I think guy #1 is best for you.He's hott,smart,'n he's your age.Guy #2, doesn't seem..right.. because he smokes pot..'n that's NOT cool.'N you're gonna want a boyfriend that gets good grades.Guy #3 just kinda seems to old..but, that's just my opinion.It's kinda between guy #1 'n guy #3...but personally,..I think you should choose Guy #1.Good Luck!~'n Hope I helped.*rate*
-tori


Okay, I like this guy, he's 20 and I am only 16. No he's not a rapest. He's got alot of respect for me and my father (he's afraid of him) and also he won't date because I am too young. But he said he likes me back... what should I do... I know he's 20 but I've cared about him for about a year now... and he knows I want him.... so do yall think there's a chance for me in the future? Tell me what you think! Be honest Plz! (link)
Yes, there's a chance for ya'll in the future.Wait 'till you get 18.Good Luck,'n hope I helped~*rate*
-tori


hey may name is kate ! i have a huge crush on this guy well call him "bob" and i have for a while hes just soo sweet and a super nice guy and hes hott! but i dont knoe if im in love whwen i see him my stomach like flips and i get sweaty palms and my knees get all week! and i think he feels the same way cuz hes always smiling and stuff and winking and starring but ne ways do i sound like im in love ! by the way im 15 if that helps ! please help me quick im seeing him tontie and i need to knoe wether to tell him how i feel ! plz help !
kate (link)
I definately think you are.But don't be all nervous, be yourself.That's what's most important!Good Luck 'n hope I helped!*rate*
-tori


okay so, i have an inny penis, and my girlfriend wants to get into my pants, i do not want her to be disapointed with my problem, what should i do? (link)
Hey, if she really loves you, she won't care.Girls are different.Hope I helped,'n Good luck.*rate*
-tori


heyy i just got my first bf about a month ago but i broke up with him in lyk 4 days! i did not feel lyk i was ready for a relationship and even though my parents said it was ok i knew that they were not thrilled about it! He got mad at me a i felt really bad! What do i do not?

P.S. I am goin to a party later this week and ik he is goin to be there idk what to say to himeven though he knows my reason for brekin up with him! plz help me!! (link)
Talk to him, 'n if you're ready to have a relationship at that time, then ask him out again.If he still acts all mad 'n stuff, then leave him, he doesn't deserve you.Hope I helped,'n Good Luck~*rate*
-tori


ok...my boyfriend isnt that great of a kisser. hes not bad, hes just not...great lol. should i just let things move along and see if he gets better at it or like...i dunno? lol, advie please! (link)
Just wait.He's probably just not experienced.He'll end up getting used to the way you kiss, so give it some time.(Kissing doesn't determine where a relationship goes.)Good Luck, 'n hope I helped!*rate*
-tori


i am dating my mom's brother's cousin's grandpa's son's daughter, are we related? (link)
Yeah~ you two are related.Don't continue with that relationship.Hope I helped.*rate*
-tori


15 female..been dateing for bout 3 months
me and my boyfriend fight almost every nite! n sometimes they get pretty damn bad! mean we love each other more then anything in the world...and almost all the fights are started by me...and we hate fighting i mean we hate it more then anything in the wrold! and i'm so scared that were going to get into one fight and that will be it! i mean me and him have been trough so damn much! and i'm jst terrified that i'm going to lose him...but he tells me that no matter wat he want leave me...but sometimes the way he gets mad at me makes me think his bout to break up w/ me...but he tells me that he has never got that mad at me....wat can i do to stop us from fighting so much...cuz we hate fighting (link)
If you say you start most of the fights,then before you ever bring one up again, think about what you're about to fight over.If it's something silly 'n stupid,then I suggest you don't bring it up, but if it's something important that you two need to discuss, then go ahead 'n talk to him.See if that helps.Hope I helped, 'n Good luck!*rate*
-tori


I hear all these 13 and 14 year olds asking about sex and i am 13/f (almost 14) and i think they are too young but i kinda feel weird cause i am still prude. i dont understand y they wanna do it with all them std's and stuff out there arent they worried? cause i know that condoms dont protect you from std's and sometimes not pregnancy. well i was just wondering... does anyone feel the same way i do? (link)
A lot of people feel the same way you do.However, I'm kinda 50%-50%.If 13 'n 14 year-olds really love someone, 'n feel like their ready, then yeah~ that's their choice if they wanna have sex or not.'N then there's the other side, where sex can be harmful for 13 'n 14 year-olds.Hope I helped.*rate*
-tori


there's this guy that i've been good friends with since the 2nd grade. but this year we've gotten closer (prob. cause he was dating my best friend for a while) now i seem to be feeling stronger feelings for him. more then friendship. it was a month after i started feeling this way when i told him how i felt. he gave me the "i'd like us to be friends" line. of course, i broke out in tears. and for about two weeks, i cried myself to sleep every night. we still talk normally but idk, i guess i really thought he might actually feel the same. i'm 14/f and i'd like to know what i should do. should i get over him? should i try some things to attract him? -- if so, what? idk...please help me. i'll rate quick!
-Head-over-Heels- (link)
Well, he told you that he just wanted to be friends with you.I think you should get over him.It'll be hard, 'n it'll take some time, but you'll get through it.Hope I helped, 'n Good luck!
*rate* -tori


idk what to do, today i was riding around my town on my bike to see if any of my friends wanted to hangout, and i met up with my friend lets call him tony. So we started to hangout and wen i went to go give him a hug he grabbed my booty. and i figured he was kidding around. Cuz we're madd tight so we started hangin out kidding around like making jokes and crapp like freinds doo, but then we started sitting down next to each otha and stuff and he started puting his hands all ova me, i told him like to stop where it came up to the limit like if he were tryin to go near my chest or between my legs. but although i stopped him from goen there he still patted my tush like it was a dog or cat or sumthin like that, i didnt mind itkind of was nice. Then he would start massaging my thighs making all these funny yet sweet comments. But then tony startted getten nasty askin weird questions like if i would ever give him a hand, jo*b, or blow. and i was like uhhhhhh idk. cuz i really didnt, then he started asking me if he would french me, i kinda wanted to but then i didnt. i really dunno what to do. im kind of a afraid to kiss him cuz i kinda dunno how. if someone could explain or help me with wut should i do IT WOULD BE GREAT. o yah and once after he kinda slid his hand against my chedt i got up and said i hadd to go.
thanxx
confused girl (link)
If you don't feel comfortable with him feeling you up, then tell him straight up that you just wanna be friends 'n friends ONLY.Good Luck, 'n hope I helped!
-tori




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