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More than Friends?
there's this guy that i've been good friends with since the 2nd grade. but this year we've gotten closer (prob. cause he was dating my best friend for a while) now i seem to be feeling stronger feelings for him. more then friendship. it was a month after i started feeling this way when i told him how i felt. he gave me the "i'd like us to be friends" line. of course, i broke out in tears. and for about two weeks, i cried myself to sleep every night. we still talk normally but idk, i guess i really thought he might actually feel the same. i'm 14/f and i'd like to know what i should do. should i get over him? should i try some things to attract him? -- if so, what? idk...please help me. i'll rate quick!
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I think that most males do not like girls to seem overly eager to go out w/them. A lot of guys like a challenge. When you take the challenge out of the equation you take out the reward. Pursue other interest, do your own thing, show him what a great catch you are w/o throwing yourself in his general direction. He will notice, unless he is still hung up on your friend. Also, you may want to make sure your pursuit of this guy is not going to ruin your friendship w/your best friend because guys will come and go but it is hard to maintain real long term friendships especially for girls and mainly because of guys.
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Well, he told you that he just wanted to be friends with you.I think you should get over him.It'll be hard, 'n it'll take some time, but you'll get through it.Hope I helped, 'n Good luck!
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i think you need to get over him...easier said than done i know...but you probably are better off friendsif you broke up could you really still be friends??? sometimes a friendship is better than a relationship
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I know how hard it is to find out someone doesn't feel the same way about you. It can be quite easy to convince yourself that they're attracted to you, and it can take a long time to recover when you find out they're not. This is why it might be difficult for you to accept that if he doesn't feel this way now, you can't force him to. But what you can do is attempt to save your friendship and try to move on. I know its a cliche but there are plenty of fish in the sea, and wasting your time on someone who's not interested will destroy you. I should know, because I spent 2 years obsessing over a guy who didn't love me. Anyway, my point is, keep this guy as a friend and wait for the one who does feel the same way. You can't change his mind for him. Hope this helps a bit. x
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Ok, the first thing you shouldn't do is push him to have feelings for you. Don't try to attract him. For the most part that will do one of either two things, push him away, or make him date you just to shut you up. The a guy, who has a friend that likes him, wants to know that even though you like him, that you are willing to be just friends. I mean a guy wants to know that the person likes him so much that she would be friends just to be around him. And most of the times that helps him to develop feelings for you. And being a guy I would know that for the most part that works. We don't like girls that try to hard to get us to like them. So, just be his friend and let him know from time to time, not too much, but every now and then, that you like him. And he might develop feelings for you. If not then you two might not be ment for each other. Hope I helped.
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MAybe you should get over him..if he just wants to be friends just be friends..there are more guys out their for ya...
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