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Who I am is of no great consequence. I am a traveler of the Way. Having only seen a glimpse of the great and terrible storm that lingers around us, I can help anyone who wishes my help; all one need to do is ask. Every so often, the winds will change this message giving a new insight on the misfortune that lingers in days to come in our departure from the harbor we commence our voyage.
Some will not understand wisdom that hides in these words, for them I must say in time it all become clear. To understand these words one must have patients, experience, an open mind, and a willingness to learn. If you have these traits (in one form or another), and desire these words of wisdom, then ask away.
Love my friends, is a cherished treasure. Those who find in it purest form, will desirer nothing else. Those who do not will have an emptiness that the world can never fill.
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We all will love something in our time, it is inevitable. However whether we chose to act upon that love is another, we can let it go by as it passes in the river of life, or we can pluck it out when it comes into reach.
Furthermore what we love is also is up to us. Whether we chose to love our mates/partners or what they can do for us, money, power, fame, or whatever else we worship is entirely up to us.
Since the dawn of time, weâ??ve all sought to understand it, we can never fully grasp the power of it, but here are some people who have tried help us better comprehend the Supremacy of our Heart.
"You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams." Dr. Seuss
"Love me when I least deserve it, because that's when I really need it." Swedish Proverb
"Most people have a harder time letting themselves love than finding someone to love them." Bill Russell
"Since love grows within you, so beauty grows. For love is the beauty of the soul." Saint Augustine
"Love comes when manipulation stops; when you think more about the other person than about his or her reactions to you. When you dare to reveal yourself fully. When you dare to be vulnerable."
Dr. Joyce Brothers
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Till the winds of your choices bring you back,
~Teen Guru~
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((13 female)) there's this boy that i met 2 years ago and we never really talked to each other because we don't live in the same town than i went out w/one of his friends and we started talking again..but me and his friend broke up and i fell for him..we went out but we didn't last very long but we still continued to care about each other..finally after we hung out at his house, basketball camp and stuff we started dating agin about 2 months later..once again we broke up..i know that we should just stay friends but it so hard cause we still both like each other (well he says he still likes me)..he says he broke up w/me cause we don't see each other enough but it doesn't matter to me cause i'd talk to him everyday on the computer and phone and every chance we could see each other we'd do that. i called him everyday but he called me like once. we fought all the time over the dumbest things. when the 4th of july came i went to his town for fireworks because my town doesn't have them. he was there and we kinda hung out but not really..he was w/his friends and i was w/mine. but there was one thing that bugged me so bad and it hurt me..his x girlfriend was there and he hung out w/her. i was so devestated..all i wanted to do was sit and watch the fireworks w/my boyfriend. about 2 days later he broke up w/me. i still love him. i know i should forget him..but i've tried to move on. there was someone out there that liked me and treated me soo good but i can't love him. my x boyfriend (ethan) was my first true love..and here i am still caring about him. my friends tell me to give up but they don't understand how i feel about him. i still love him more than anything in this world and no matter how long and hard i search there will never be anyone that i can care for at this age like i care for him. he's my best friend and my first true love. he was the first person i actually liked cuddling with and watching movies with. he was the first person i ever got butterflies when i was in the car on the way to his house. he was the first person i could look into his eyes forever. he was the first person that i could talk to on the phone who i never got tired of. he was the first and only person who can make me laugh without me even wanting to smile. i could have the worst day but when i'd talk to him somehow everything was perfect. please help me. what do i do if i still love him? (link)
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Dear Still in Love
On one hand I agree with the others that you should talk to him. How ever have you ever thought, that maybe it wasn’t your x-bf you were in love with, but the idea that you had someone to love and to love?
You spoke of him being your first “True Love”; first of all, as romantic as it sounds to me that it is slightly misguided. I’m sorry if it sounds rude, but it’s the truth. Love, “True Love” (as you worded it) is something that can’t be found as easily as you describe your relationship had. Love will not just wait for you to come, nor will it show up on your doorsteps. Love is something that requires work (on both parties). You search for the right man for you. As painful as it to be alone, know this your still young (WAY YOUNG). In my personal opinion, (don’t take this the wrong way, I meant no disrespect) you should stop worrying about the whole bf/gf relationship you have going. Find a hobby or two, hang out with friends, and stuff like that. The teen years are for discovering WHO YOU ARE. It is ok, however, to dream about the your “True Love”, but don’t waste you life away one things that you want to happen, or that already have.
An even Wiser One than showed me this “Remember the PAST, Look to the FUTURE, & Live in the PRESENT. When one sacrifice one of theses or carelessly misuse them, he or she will never discover their TRUE IDENTITY,…”
I hope I helped, and I’m sorry if I offended you, that was never my attempt. I simple (as I could) try to show something that may help you. I could never give you a strait answer on what you should do on this matter, you are not a puppet (or at lest I don’t think you are) you must figure this one out on your own, all I can do is to try to guide you to a desirable path.
May you find what your desired aspiration. I leave you with this quote from a wise man who I have came to know. (I hope it helps); “To know all things, all one needs to do is ask One Who Knows”
Best of Luck.
~Teen Guru~
P.S. let me know if I helped in anyway.
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I'm 16 and I have recently gotten mixed up in the dating scene again. I've been staying single for a few months to try and sort out my priorities so that the next time I decide to start dating again I will end up with a guy that will treat me right. Well that day has come but its certainly not as easy as I thought it would be thats for sure! One guy I've known since I was a little kid, my mom knows his parents and she likes the idea of me dating him. Plus we've liked eachother for over two years and have both are single now. We've talked on the phone alot and hung out almost every other day. We've kissed and we have so much in common and he is really sweet. But some things about him I'm unsure of. I don't trust him that easily because some things he says seem like lines and he hasn't ever brought up the subject of us dating or anything so I'm not sure if he just wants to mess around, cuz I'm not up for that. The other guy I've met a few days ago. He just recently moved here and the minute our eyes met we clicked. We have alot of things in common, his parents already met me and love me, my mom knows about him and is willing to give him a chance, and we've already talked of dating and he's all up for it and so now it is my desicion. And there lies the problem. I like both guys and I have major chemistry with both. My mom wouldn't mind me dating either and now I'm stuck in a tricky situation. The first guy is from my school and I really want to give him a chance cuz I like him and if I turn him down and date the other guy he might feel played. And visa versa. Please help me. My heart is torn between these two guys and I have no idea which way to go!
~Hopelessly Torn Apart (link)
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Dear Hopelessly Torn Apart:
Are you familiar with the story of “The Phantom of the Opera”? Well if you haven’t the main charter, Christen has a similar the dilemma you are having. Christen must choose, Go with the one she has known for while and cared for a long time [Ralph], or the one who came into her life when she needed him [the Phantom]. In the story, her two lovers’ true characters come out. She then chooses the one she felt most comfortable with. Why did I tell you this? Because I’ll give you what she did to make her final dissension.
–First; she waited, during the time she was torn, she gave much though who was the one she really loved. –Second; she observed them, she saw what they BOTH did, during that time. –Third; she stilled cared for both of them, but in different ways (on as a lover, & one as a dear friend).
You may use any of theses as you wish to find your answer. Keep in mind though some variables will be involve. Those variables may effect the outcome. You must be the judge in deciding your decision. You must consider the personality of each of them. (Keep in mind one of them may be hurt no matter what you choose.)
I hope this helps, so I leave you with this; True love comes with Time.
Please let me know if I helped in someway. And also if you further question drop a line.
Best of Luck
~Teen Guru~
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I need a few EXCELLENT pranks to pull on a group of around 6 or 7 girls. My friend and I are doing them together on the rest of the group. We would like to have a prank to scare them, but any type of prank would be alright.
Thank ya!
P.S.---we can't be too harsh! (link)
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Here’s a tip I got form one of the Masters; it is called PSYCHO AT THE DOOR
(1) Ask another friend(s) who is not invited, (or even a parent) to help.
(2) If your parents help you with this prank, have them leave for some outing. Before they leave have one of them casual say (but make sure it sounds serious “be careful there has been some weirdo hanging around, If you see him call us.” …. If it’s just your friend, just work it in sometime when the scary things happen.
(3) Once you alone have your friend cut the power (if possible). Have one of them get some flash lights. Have your friend (s) run by the window (but not to close) and then get out of sight.
(4) When they return, take one and head for breaker box, and bring a friend (who is not in it). Leave the rest of them alone. –If your breaker box is in a room with a window then have your Psycho by the window (but can’t be seen through it) when you enter have him/her start taping/scratching the walls (or window, which ever can make a sound) so you can hear it. Go to the window and look out and see nothing. –If the breaker box is not in a room with a window, have your Psycho do it to the rest of the group. –If breaker box is outside, have the Psycho make a sound like something being kick, and go investigate.
(5) After returning talk about it, trying to figure out what is going on. Have the Psycho, start again in the room you in. this time let him be seen run off.
(6) Act like you don’t know what to do, and then (if your parents are involved) try calling them, but don’t have them answer. (If they are not) unplug the phone sometime before and have your one of your guest try calling on it. (Don’t do that though if there is someone with a cell phone with them!)
(7) After have fun with them have a knock at the door. Don’t answer it. Then have the psycho come in from the door (leave one unlock for him to enter) and then when have him sneak up and scare them.
Tips.
Have some of your guest be involve on it have them not return after sending them out. Also be careful, that the neighbors or your guest don’t call the cops. Also have a hidden camera(s) you video tape the whole thing. Have the Psycho take a picture of you guys before the jock is over. You can make it as long or as short as you want. Shorter ones are easier, but long ones are more fun.
I hope this helps, Let me know if helped you, and how it goes.
Good Luck
~Teen Guru~
PS if you like some more drop a line.
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I made the cheerleading squad this year and i love it.. but our coach said any girls that argued or talked about each other behind their baQs or caused drama were going to be kicked off the squad.. and there is a girl on the squad that is so mean to me.. she makes fun of me but says she is just pickin but it bothers me and she says rude stuff that makes me mad.. but i havent said anything to her about it because i'm afraid it will make her mad and start a fight but i'm rele tired of being treated like that... wut should i do?!? (link)
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There are couple things you can do to help this situation.
(1) Try talking to her. –Ask her why she is doing this, see if there was something that you did to upset her, (keep in mind that could have been a while back). You would be amazed on how much that could help.
(2) Second, if talking doesn’t work, try talk to your coach. Tell him that you’ve tried to make right between two of you, but it hasn’t worked. That will make it seemed you’re not trying to start something but looking out for the team.
I hope these subjections help you in your dilemma. I wish everything turns out fine.
~Teen Guru~
PS Let me know if I helped anyway.
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i watited on the gurl cause every 1 told me to wait 4 the gurl and she ended up going out with some 1 else so do i keep on waiting on her??? to get to know her or just forget her cause sh takena nd i wont know when she breaks up (link)
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My dear young friend.
Not knowing all the details I can't say one thing or another.
but in my own oppenion is for to search inside yourself. how well do you like this girl, (or think you like). is she worth waiting, or not. also conder the age. if you two are in your early teens boy could wait beacuse it wount last long, they rarly do!
I hope I helped in someway
~Teen Guru~
PS let me know If I helped?
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ok i have a really close guy friend that i like a lot. and he likes me to and he is always telling how he wants me to be his girlfriend and that he wants to be with me except we wont hook up until we find a way so that we could see each other more often.(he lives 20 minutes away) but anways most of the time when i call him he says i am going to call you back and he NEVER calls back.. what should i think of this? should talk to him and be4 he says anythin be like "if you dont want to talk to me all you have to do is say so" can so one please tell me what to do. i dont want to hurt i just want to know he never calls back. (link)
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In the Matters of the Heart, such a question can not be answered easily. This however may be able to help you find you answer.
1st consider how long has this gone on. –If it has gone on for a long time for like Weeks to months, then you should probably give the talk {if it would be close to Year (s) I can’t help you} if not it most likely nothing.
2nd consider how his schedule. –He may be very busy
and....
3rd consider when are you calling. –you may be calling at awkward times (10am till5 pm). That could have an effect.
I hope this helped you. There are more questions that must be asked, but you must find them out 4 yourself. Please let me know how it goes and if I helped any way.
~Teen Guru~
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I would like to know from you guys; what is a fast sure fire way of making some quick cash. And please no-one say get a job because i am trying i just need money now and fast.. All help appreciated and rewarded.
Thanks
anthony
ps 16 (link)
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Get a loan from you parents (or your friends but try your parents 1st). Tell them you would like to have some money and would pay it back ether in Cash or labor, and if that doesn’t work tell them you'll pay with INTEREST (that is where you pay the money you owe with some extra)! That makes you sound smart and make it look like you are growing up because you want to take responsibility for you actions.
I hope it works out 4 u. Let me know if it helps.
~Teen Guru~
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I’m a high school senior, and I’m playing a principle character (but not a lead or supporting character) in this year’s school musical. For most of my scenes, I have a microphone. There are only a few microphones so the principles have to share. All through rehearsal, I had enough time to swap microphones with my designated partner. However, on opening night, I didn’t, and I couldn’t get my microphone on in time. It fell out of my dress while I was onstage. I pretended like it wasn’t even there, and this angered my director.
What should I have done? Is it better to break curtain, or to break character? And what should I do if it happens in subsequent performances?
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Well my friend, you are not ALONE. This has happen me countless of times, the thing is to (according to my Theater instructor) NEVER BREAK CHARACTER! Things like that will always happen; you can’t avoid imprecation in a performance. I mean that what makes Live Theater so Fun. This is what my friend told me about performing, “when the inconceivable happens, Improv your character (make it up). Then get back as fast as possible, just don’t let the Audience know that you did it” If your microphone doesn’t work learn to project your voice. It’s really good if stage is design for that, if not sorry dud. Anyway just do the best you can nothing more can be expected.
I hope it works out for you. And in this case break a leg.
~Teen Guru~
PS Please let me know if this helps.
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ok so my guy friend lives around the block. directly behind me. so i just hop the wall and go through his back yard and im at his house lol..well ive had feelings for him FOREVER. and last time we hung out...he later told me he thought about kissing me...when he said that i didnt want him to know i liked him cause i had a bf at the time so i was like um ew kyle..thats gross. but now we havent really hung out for a while..and i hope he still likes me. hes always busy hanging out with his friend..who happens to be a girl.he NEVER IMs me anymore, i always IM him now. whenever i ask him to hangout..he says umm...maybe. i might hangout with my friend..but ill let u know after i call her. he used to always ask me to hangout..ive already asked him if hes mad at me..hes like no not at all..so i donno whats going on..advice? (link)
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Ok keep in mind this may not be the case, but it sounds as if your friend is avoiding in the hope of the feeling for you go away. Try talking to again. Tell him you want to be his friend, tell you didn’t want to hurt him, but if you both engaged in such action in the current scenario, you both would be living a lie. (Only tell these things if they true!) Guys can be a little extreme in such matters (at lest the guys I’m familiar with).
I hope it works out
~Teen Guru
PS Let me know if how helpful I’ve been
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okay so there's this girl i've found myself quite infatuated with. and things seemed to be going jim dandy and the world seemed to be turning right for once. and then to my shock and dismay it comes out that she has an eating disorder. she refuses to eat, refuses to do anything but excersize and sip water. and she is slowly killing herself with this. i try to tell her that it's not good. i try to tell her of the damage it can do to her. and i try to tell her that it hurts me too (it can send me to tears.. and i never ever cry) and i try all that i can to let her know that it's terrible but nothing will ever work. i feel so useless and worthless and like she's gonna slip through my fingertips and i wont be able to save her. and well i really have no idea what to do or where to go. and i need some help from somewhere in order to help her. this is not good. yet she feels that it will make her feel better about herself. i just don't understand how slowly killing yourself makes you feel better. agh this is so saddening. someone please help me, somehow. (link)
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I'm afraid my friend there is very little you can do. It is her body, it her life, not yours. This may seem not to help but trust on this, you can not live her life.
There is good news however. I said there was VERY LITTLE you can do, not nothing.
Here are you options. But beware, these tips may (and I emphasize MAY) save her life, but (and I emphasize MAY) may destroy your relationship with her also.
Now you know them I will tell how you may help.
(1) First talk to your parents (or a trusted adult). They may be able to share some new insight as well and help you to present it to her parents.
(2) Talk to her parents (if they are a sensible parents then they will help your friend).
(3) If that don’t work, (or you are sure it wont) then tell an adult the SHE will respect.
The reason why you need help from adult, is that you’ve tried to reason with her (Her Peer/friend) , but it didn’t work so you need to get an adult, they may be able to reach her in to getting PROFESSIONAL HELP. I hope it works out please keep me updated and let me know if I helped.
~Teen Guru~
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Well my X gf and i are still good friends. But in the past 3 months i have been talking to her best friend online a little. Cool chick. Then i met her one day like 2 weeks ago, at night. Me and all my friends always sneak out so yeah thats about the only time i get to see her. So me and her started hangin out at night, alot. Sometimes just us. Im not tryin to push things, i've only made out with her. But shes such a awsome person i always have a blast when im with her. But recently i got cought for sneakin out and got my car taken away lol. I get it back june 21, and my parents go outa town for a week on june 21. So yeah house to myself.. But see the girl i like also got caught sneakin out so shes now grounded to. Except she doesnt have a car, and got her cell phone and computer taken away so i have no way of getting in touch with her. I dont want this period of us not being able to talk, affect the progress we've made. But yeah i know she likes me because she has a boyfriend, but shes in the same situation i am, cuz i have a girlfriend but i like thsi other girl alot better. So yeah she had the opportunity to sleep over at her boyfriends house with like all her best friends but she choose to sneak out with me. Ok well anyways myu question is, is there any way to keep the "silence" from keeping us to drift farther appart. And basically whats the final step in making her mine once we do hang out. Ill rate high for any reasonable advice, and basically for reading this whole thing. (link)
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I’m afraid there is no real way how your love for each other with out it backfiring, trust me. I know how it feels like to be betrayed. And that’s what you will happen if you keep this up. Your friend will feel deceive (because they have been). By hiding this from them it will only drive ill fillings toward you and them. And there is no reason for it. Just tell them that this why you feel this way (though you might want to start it off gently). Be honest with yourself. Is there anything wrong with feeling the way you do? Of course not! I hope this helped. Let me know if this helped.
~Teen Guru~
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I'm 17, and I am in my first serious relationship (with a guy that is) and things are starting to become sexual. I have no problem being sexual, because I am not timid at all, I've done stuff, just not with any guys. He has touched me and stuff, but I haven't done it to him, even though I want to. I guess I just dont know how to go about it, what to do durring, or what to do afterwards (like with the possible mess) Any advice? (link)
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I think you might be making a mistake. Such relationships should be done in Holy Matrimony. I know this may sound like a sermon, but just here me out. Do you remember your first kiss? If so why? Because it was meaning full, that was something that can never be taking back. It was meaningful. When you have sex with more then one person (your spouse) then it is like I like you but just as much as these others. When you are married and engage in sexual actions it is giving your spouse the one gift that no one else can ever give him. It will make him seam more special, and that you cared so much for him you waited all this time just for him. And now think about how you would feel if your spouse saved his virginity just for YOU. Words can’t express how that would feel. Now think if you kept your self true but he did not. It would be like you some sort of trophy that he got! I don’t know how you would like that. (Who knows maybe that’s what you want) May you make the right decision for yourself my friend.
~Teen Guru~
PS Let me now if this helped you.
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ok i babysit almost 24/7. my sister has cancer and she just found out sh eis pregnant, she has to give the baby up.well she's going home to her family in texas and she's leaving her kids that i watch all the time anyways with me. my frinds tell em i should tell her to watch her own kids because i never have time to be a kid, wat do ya'll think? (link)
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Before I give my opinion on the matter I'll make something quite clear. The answer you seek has been in side you the whole time. The final decision is yours. I don't know the details, but from what you told me, I can give what I believe.
Did you force your Sister to have the children? If you said yes, you’re far greater than I could imagine and I can't help you. If you said No then it all reality not you’re responsible for the children. Believe me I deal with something very similar all the time. Your sister is the mother not you. She needs to take reasonability for the children. However I’m not saying you shouldn’t help her out from time to time, but from what I gather your still a kid, and believe me you should enjoy your childhood while it last. I can say this is, that you throw your childhood away, you will regret it for the rest of your life, trust me, I know. I hope this helped. I wish you good luck and that you will find your answer you are looking for.
~Teen Guru~
PS Please let me know if I helped in anyway.
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I'm 17/f and and I am having trouble finding a new job in my area. I have cashier/phone/front counter and customer service experience, so I was hoping i could get a new job with those skills, just not quite sure where. I want to work at a laid back place, nothing involving TOO many people. I prefer not to work at any typical teen place like.. food places, grocery stores, or movies. I want more of an office job, but im not sure what businesses hire people my age. I can type pretty fast (140+ wpm) and i know more about computers than most people. Any suggestions? (link)
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Well I must admit I admire your desire for an office job, my suggestion is to put your office skills and abilities in a résumé, and go to a privately own business (they always need some one with good office skills), or any other business around where you live and ask for an internship. Be sure to look professional when you do. Don’t give up if you don’t get it on the first try. Best of Luck
~Teen Guru~
PS Be sure to put down your wpm speed on your résumé. Let me know how it works out.
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i have been singing since i was able to talk. unfortunately, i live in a place where things like theater and singing arent that important. how would i find a way to get my voice out there to producers? any ideas?
MizzNiceGirl (link)
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Never Ever Give Up, That is the Secret, if this is what you want then follow it like thunder to lightning. Keep trying and practicing, and eventually you will be found. It may be in high school or collage, or some other way. Also get in talent shows, choir, acting class, etc. and perform in front of others. The audiences could be family, neighbors, friends, etc. just always perform. That’s what I’m doing with my acting/singing. I hope it works out for you.
~Teen Guru~
PS Let me know how it turns out!
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im a normal girl. but i want to go preppy
i need some websites to help me be more popular cause friendz arent that helpful in these kinda questions. ill rate high for tips and websites and good facial ingredients.. i already know ALOT of Facials but i want to try something new so please help me out.
REMEMBER: i want websites on how to be preppy and popular, and i want gr8 facial ingredients, and lots of tips. thankz in advance. (link)
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Dear normal Girl,
I can't give you a direct website but I'll show you how you can find one,
(1)go to www.ask.com,{or any other search engine}
(2)type in Websites on being Popular, Latest fads, etc.
(3)Browse though till you find what you are looking for,
I wish you luck on you quest for popularity, It is neither a not uncommon path nor an easy one, yet is a possible one. But be warned, though sometimes the thing we want most may be the thing that leads us to sorrow. search your inside yourself if you really want to become popular then I'll give you 3 secrets to become so.
(1) DON'T CARE WHAT OTHERS WILL SAY OR THINK at first, it is very important to show that you are happy with yourself, Trust me that is very important!
(2) ALL WAYS REMEMBER YOUR GOAL(S) that will help you to reach your goal.
(3) DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT be A FENCE SITTER!, you can't truly become popular if you follow someone else footsteps all the time. Take a chance and may be it could be the next beigest fad.
(4)BE YOUR SELF. It is very important you are not true to your self you are living a lie. Friend you only like you because what you act or dress like are never your friends.
I sincerely hope you find the path you are searching for. Best wishes
~Teen Guru~
PS. Please keep me informed on the matter I like to see how things turn out.
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R.I.P Pope John Paul II Karol Wojtyla
Now that he has passed away, how does everyone feel? What do you think is gonna happen? Is the world really gonna come to an end? - xglam0urx (link)
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The world will not end with the death of a pope. True Pope John II will be greatly missed; however the world did not end by the death of any of the Popes before, nor after the death of prophets.
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My best friend is 16 now but she has been getting abused by her dad since she was old enough to walk. I saw him punch her in the face one time and bang her head against a wall. I am really scared for and her sister because I have seen him hit her too. She's asked me not to tell but Im scared that if I keep quiet that one day he might really hurt her. We tryed calling the police on him one time but they wanted to press charges against us and not him. I dont know what I should do and I dont know how I can help her. (link)
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Dear Good Friend:
I will tell you what I have told others. My father was very abusive to me and my siblings. No parent has any right what so ever to hit there children, the wounds of abuse do not heal easy especially the longer it is being done Trust me I Know.
Your friend is a victim just like so many others, how ever there is hope. I have only one thing I can say in this matter (for the final chose is yours) if you do nothing your friend will must likely be beaten by her father. The founding fathers put it best in The Declaration of Independence of the Thirteen Colonies, “When in the Course of human events, it becomes necessary for one people to dissolve the political bands which have connected them with another…” though it talks about separation of a country from another, it also applies to any type or form of units. The family is no exception to it.
So my friend if you choose to do nothing, nothing will happen and nothing will change. Yes it is scary and difficult, but when in life were the things worth wile easy? I hope it works out for you and best of luck. I’m sorry I can’t say more but in this matter I can only show you the door, you must open it yourself.
Farwell my friend.
~Teen Guru~
P.S. try going to an adult you both [your friend and yourself] trust. (a teacher, a parent, or who ever else) and also no one can't press charges on you for reporting abuse.
Please let me know how it works out.
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hey,
well you know how my sis and bros are always getting me into trouble even with things i don't do,my dad always hits me for no reason and sometimes my sis does something bad and blames it on me and my dad hits me,sometimes for no reason..there's never one day were he doesnt.. he hits me about 4-6 time a day for things i didnt even do..i tell him i didnt do them but he doesnt believe me he believes my sis and bro cuz they are younger,i try talking to my mom but she doesnt listen or believes me anyways she is never home so she never sees how my dad treats me,i want to talk to someone in my school ,a counsulor(w/e its spelled) but i'm shy and scared i dont want my dad to go to jail or anything but i just cant stand it anymore when he hits me like mad for absolutly no reason..and also bosses me around i understand thats his job but...i mean he tells me to pick up my SIS OR BROS OR HIS stuff but its not fair why cant he boss my sis and bros around i mean its there mess sometimes i tell him 'why should i its not my mess why would i need to pick that stuff up'..but he just hits a bunch of time and i csnt defend myself cuz he might keep hitting me harder and that hurts....what should i do? (i sometimes think about cutting but thats not the way out of a problem so i dont i just hold in my anger? (link)
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Greetings
I to have came from similar situations. My father was very abusive to me and my siblings. How ever it seems to me that there is more than one type of abuse being done in your situations. The fact that you are being hit is defiantly abuse and no parent has any right what so ever to hit there children, however it seems that your siblings are also being abuse. Not so much physical but emotional and psychological abuse is being played here (and those will be harder wounds to heal, especially the longer it is being done Trust me I Know).
You are a victim just like so many others, how ever there is hope. I have only one thing I can say in this matter (for the final chose is yours) if you do nothing you father will most likely continue to hit you. The founding fathers put it best in The Declaration of Independence of the Thirteen Colonies, “When in the Course of human events, it becomes necessary for one people to dissolve the political bands which have connected them with another…” though it talks about separation of a country from another, it also applies to any type or form of units. The family is no exception to it.
So my friend if you choose to do nothing, nothing will happen and nothing will change. Yes it is scary and difficult, but when in life were the things worth wile easy? I hope it works out for you and best of luck. I’m sorry I can’t say more but in this matter I can only show you the door, you must open it yourself.
Farwell my friend.
~Teen Guru~
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(16/f) I've been going out with my boyfriend for 6 months now and I really do love him. Its just that he doesnt trust me at all. Just because of things people tell him. People dont like the fact that we're going out because we're in an inter-racial relationship. So they make things up to try to get us to break up. I know that they're lying but he doesnt. He just doesnt trust me and I'm constantly telling him not to believe them and " No I didnt flirt with so-and-so today." Im so sick of trying to get him to believe me. He also makes me feel guilty for things I did before we started going out. Im tired of it and I try telling him this but he just doesnt stop. It's getting to the point where we're fighting most of the time instead of getting along. I love him so much and I dont want to have to break up but I want to be happy instead of being sad all the time now. I just dont know if its at the point where I should end it or not. Please help me out I dont know what to do... thanks in advance. (link)
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Well before you do anything rash, have a serious talk with him alone. Talk to him about how he (not his Friends) feels about the relationship. Tell him how you feel about him not trusting you. Trust is very important in a successful relationship. And give him a chance to explain why he don’t trust you, commutation is very important and needs to be two way.
After listening to each other and expressing each of your opinions and view. You may find the answer then, other than that, I can give you very little more. I can say this though, inter-racial relationships are tough but it is possible to have them. If you and he are both willing to accept the fact that you and he will be facing problem like decimation and pay the price, then go for it.
But be warned, that if you two chose to face it, remember you must also pay he consequences for that action in other words, everything comes with a price, it all comes down to are you willing to pay it?
Best of luck to I hope it works out for you –Teen Guru
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