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FAMILY: DAD PROBLEM (ABUSE i think..)
hey,
well you know how my sis and bros are always getting me into trouble even with things i don't do,my dad always hits me for no reason and sometimes my sis does something bad and blames it on me and my dad hits me,sometimes for no reason..there's never one day were he doesnt.. he hits me about 4-6 time a day for things i didnt even do..i tell him i didnt do them but he doesnt believe me he believes my sis and bro cuz they are younger,i try talking to my mom but she doesnt listen or believes me anyways she is never home so she never sees how my dad treats me,i want to talk to someone in my school ,a counsulor(w/e its spelled) but i'm shy and scared i dont want my dad to go to jail or anything but i just cant stand it anymore when he hits me like mad for absolutly no reason..and also bosses me around i understand thats his job but...i mean he tells me to pick up my SIS OR BROS OR HIS stuff but its not fair why cant he boss my sis and bros around i mean its there mess sometimes i tell him 'why should i its not my mess why would i need to pick that stuff up'..but he just hits a bunch of time and i csnt defend myself cuz he might keep hitting me harder and that hurts....what should i do? (i sometimes think about cutting but thats not the way out of a problem so i dont i just hold in my anger?
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I to have came from similar situations. My father was very abusive to me and my siblings. How ever it seems to me that there is more than one type of abuse being done in your situations. The fact that you are being hit is defiantly abuse and no parent has any right what so ever to hit there children, however it seems that your siblings are also being abuse. Not so much physical but emotional and psychological abuse is being played here (and those will be harder wounds to heal, especially the longer it is being done Trust me I Know).
You are a victim just like so many others, how ever there is hope. I have only one thing I can say in this matter (for the final chose is yours) if you do nothing you father will most likely continue to hit you. The founding fathers put it best in The Declaration of Independence of the Thirteen Colonies, “When in the Course of human events, it becomes necessary for one people to dissolve the political bands which have connected them with another…” though it talks about separation of a country from another, it also applies to any type or form of units. The family is no exception to it.
So my friend if you choose to do nothing, nothing will happen and nothing will change. Yes it is scary and difficult, but when in life were the things worth wile easy? I hope it works out for you and best of luck. I’m sorry I can’t say more but in this matter I can only show you the door, you must open it yourself.
Farwell my friend.
~Teen Guru~
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hey. Persoanly i think that is abuse. knowone even your own father has the right to hit you or anyone else without a very good reason.You should defenitly talk to your conseler. It is not right for your father to hit you. Oh, if talking to your conseler doesn't work out,contact the police or find a way to contact someone who can stop it. -dont cut your self. That will lead you to so many more problems- I wish you the best of luck .
Hope i helped <3 love *~Michelle~*
PS: Let me no
how it goes.
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DOn;t cut that could lead to so much more problems in your life. YOU should deffinitely go to a consoler and talk to them but dont tell anyone else. Then if that doesnt work then contact the police because that is child abuse and who knows? things might get even worse then juss hittin. you could read a KID CALLED IT and maybe that will help because he got abused way more and then turned out perfectly fine. that may help you a little more then i am.. you can IM me or talk to me any time at XxPatsGirl1992xX or Email me at XxPatsGirls1992xX@netscape.net
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go to a counsellor. dont be scared. its not your fault. he deserves to go to jail. no man should be able to get away with beating an undefensless girl... especially a 'father'. get help and get out of there. it will only get worse. if you think he's gonna all of a sudden think 'oh, i'm doing the wrong thing. i should stop.' it wont happen. get help
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Ok, honey, going with the counsulor thing is a really good idea! Don't be shy or scared, ok?! Get courage baby! I mean, just freaking stand up for yourself, ok?! If you didn't do anything then scream it at his freaking face! If he tries to hit you, then freaking scream your lungs out and make sure someone hears you or just freaking hit him back and then run out of your house. I mean, like hitting ou is like serious child abuse. A small spanking is all that is allowed here in the US! If he's hitting you 4 to 6 times a day for no reason then that right there is child abuse. That can affect a child's brain. He has no freaking right t hit his own child that way. Oh, if your mom doesn't pay attention to you then make her pay attention! If she's at work all the time, then go on over to her work or call her at work and make her pay attention. Like there's no excuse for your dad to hit you for no reason and for your mom to not pay attention to you. Oh, but they have time for your younger brothers and sisters! I'm going through that same thing. My parents and grandparents pay attention to my younger 2 brothers and not to me and my older brothers and sisters! Like we're outcast in our family. But we stand up for ourselves when we have to. So, just make your dad stop hitting you and to start believing you and tell your mom to start paying attention to you! Good luck my young child!
The Loner, loser, Lover...your dark lord and master...Jenny M
[jennymanzanares@hotmail.com]
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I recommend you talk to a trusted adult, perhaps a friend or granparents or a favorite teacher, although a counsellor would be the best choice, as he or she could take the steps necessary to help your needs the best! I know it's difficult to approach a stranger and discuss personal matters but just remember, these people are trained and have heard a lot of similiar stories to you. They won't judge you and are only there because they truly do care!
As for your dad hitting you everyday, even if it's not eneough to leave a mark, if it's as consistent as you say, that in itself is really self depraceating, and hence abuse in itself. Abuse takes many forms, from verbal to sabatoging another's self esteem, to physical. A counsellor may recommend that your dad himself get counselling and would be able to handle the situation so that your safe, that he won't go to jail (depending on how he reacts to getting help ...), and so that you can live the life your meant to live.
Don't let what he says or does demean you in anyway. Know that you have done no wrong, and are perhaps just the object of frustrations from your father that are not even related to you in anyway. Your a good person and you deserve to be treated in a fair and just, and empathatic way.
I hope this helped .. and please if you need anyone to talk to ... don't hesitate to e-mail me at aly_boschee@yahoo.com. I might not reply instantly, but do try to reply to everyone that takes the time to write to me :)
So to end this ... Happy St. Patty's Day ... hope some luck goes your way!
Alyssa
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You need to tell someone if he hit's you that much.Maybe try a grandparent first and if that don't work then a school counsler.
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Get help!!! you cant have your dad hitting you everyday. i know it might be hard to talk to someone but you need to tell someone before it becomes serious!!! hope i helped
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This is serious, definetly go to a counselor. I know you love your dad very much even though he hurts you, but you need to get to a counselor right away, and being shy is ok, they will still give you comfort, but all they need from you is the truth, and you can even ask them specificly what they are going to do about the situation, my guess would be, that they will call family services and come to your house and ask whats been going on. I am really concerned in this situation, if youb want to, you can tell me in my inbox what happens and I'll do anything to help you through it.
-TheTeenGirl
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YOU need to talk to someone.. contact anyone .. your teacher nurse or counselor b/c oviously your mom doesnt pay attention and you need help.
xox
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There is no reason you should cut. Just go to a counsler and tell them you want to talk to them. It isnt a big dea. Get over oyur fear, you have to sooner or later.
♥ Michelle
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