about

"Now pull the knife from my ever bleeding heart.
Tell me now your words never meant me harm."

I'm Allison.
I don't really care too much about ratings. Either you want my advice or you don't.

I've pretty much been through it all. From internet relationships to broken hearts to divorces to bad friends.

Ask me questions in my inbox, and please leave me feedback :] Numbers can only help me so much.

Here's a little about me non-advice related;
-I'm from Texas. Where the heat never ends.
-I love music from the indie/emo/alternative rock genre.
-Reading and swimming are two of my passions.
-Music is number one
I guess you could say I'm a very artistic person.

advice

Tomorrow is my first day of school and i'm really excited. But I have to get up at 5 in the morning to get ready and leave for the bus stop at 6:20ish. Problem is my shower is broken and we can't get the repairs done till 10 in the morning tomorrow.. ughh. My mom is letting me use her shower in her room but I can't until her boyfriend gets up 5:45! I really can't wait that long because it takes me an hour to get ready. It's not like I can't do some things before I take a shower like putting on my make-up, clean my ears, and stuff. I asked my mom nicely if she could get up at 5 and so could her boyfriend just for one day. And it's only a half hour difference. She started flipping out on me too. Do you honestly think I'm being selfish? and how can I convince her?, I've already cleaned the whole house! thanks for advice.

I dont' really understand the problem.

Why can't you just shower while the boyfriend sleeps?

I don't think your being selfish. I love the first day of school. And I always have to look perfect. [:

Just propose that to your mom.
The boyfriend shouldn't be more important than you.

I don't know your mom personally, so I can't help you with the convincgin part, but I thought I might suggest that idea.

Hope all goes well. nn;

Yours Dearly,
LoveSucks[[♥]]

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Okay, so i had sex(in a pool) for and 6 minutes, and my bf did not ejaculate.

I haven't gotten my period, though, it should have started yesterday or today, and i'm very regular.

But ALSO! understand that i was not eating correctly for the past about 4-5 weeks, but i am doing a little better this week.

And yet, i'm still losing weight. I was 124, and now i am 114.

I checked pregnancy symptoms, and i have absolutely NONE of them.

Do you think I can be pregnant? or do you think my period is acting up because of the lack of eating correct, a month previous to getting my period?

I know none of you are doctors, but i'm so nervous, and i can't really talk to my mom about it.

Also, i am getting my normal signs of getting my period, i break out a little, and i'm bloated/gassy bubbles are in my stomache, just not nearly as much cramps.

What do you think?
Thank you so much.

If you have sex, there is always a possibility you are pregnant.

That's a fact.Get over it. [:

The only way you can surely know, is to go out and buy a pregnancy test.

Or if your too embarrassed, just wait to see if your period comes back.

Just always realize, the best way to avoid pregnancy, is to not have sex at all.


By the way, all women are differnt, just because you have no symptoms, doesn't nessescarliy[Spelling, yea I know] mean you aren't pregnant.

I strongly encourage to just go out and buy a test. It's really very simple. Well, you actually have to wait for the right time, I do believe, but that's not the point.

There's a 50%chance you are pregnant and a 50%chance your not.

But, as I see it, you have 2 options:

1.Buy a test.Use it.Determine your pregnancy status.

2.Wait for your period. If it comes, scream "Hallelujuah!"

Yours Dearly,
LoveSUcks[[♥]]

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i am 13, 14 on friday; about 5 foot; i weigh 110. i know that i'm not fat, but i'm self consious about my thighs and also, i have a pocket of fat in my lower stomach area. i'm looking to lose 15 pounds. anyone have any diet/excercise plans?

thanks in advance.

Running is the best exercise you can get.

I started running at 1 mile, and building my way up to 3[With a break at the halfway point]. Then I swam for 2 hours.

I did this for most of June, and my thighs trimmed down dramaticaly.

And for your stomach, I also did a 20 minute Ab workout non-stop, consisting of sit-ups,super crunches,leg lifts,normal crunches,pikes,and holding my feet straight out about 3 inches off the ground.

After that, I lost about 1 1/2 inches of my waist,and got a nice toned look.

But, none of this will work if you don't eat healthy. You must limit yourself of the junkfood/snacks.

You don't have to do such extreme things, as I did. Although I highly recommend running up to 4 miles. But instead of the full 2hours swimming[I had to, as I am on a swim team] You could maybe swim a total of 30 laps. And gradually go up. As for the ab workout, start out with 10 mins, and go up.

Here are instructions for each Ab workout:

Super Crunches: Lie flat on your back, and bring your chest and knees up at the same time then go down at the same time;Repeat many times. It is much like a sit up, but your lifting your legs off the ground and up to your chest.

Leg Lifts: Lie on your back, have your hands underneath your butt for support, and lift your legs up and down[Don't let your feet hit the ground]. Try to use your stomach as much as possible to lift your legs up. It helps if you lift your head up and look at your feet.

Pikes: Start off on your back, and lift your arms and legs up, at the same time, trying to make your body into a "V" shape. Your arms and legs must must be straight. Your feet may hit the floor on this excercise.

Hope all goes well!

Just drop a question in my inbox, if you are still confused about some of the excersices. [:

Yours Dearly,
LoveSucks[[♥]]

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How do you delete songs on your ipod? thanks.

You uncheck them on your iTunes.

They shouldn't show up on your iPod.

Cause your iTunes can hold more than your iPod.

[:

Yours Dearly,
LoveSucks[[♥]]

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im 13,about 5'5, and i weight 184 pounds.i know i am much over weight.im not exactly sure how much i should weight.

before i go back to school, i want to have lost a good amount of weight(i go back to school around the end of august).what are some workout plans, without using any machines, that will help me?i want something high intensity, something that will deffinetly give me good results.

also, does anyone have experiance with the Cross Crunch Abdominal Exerciser, or the Zone Pilates?do these really work?i am interested in buying either one or both of these, but i was wondering if they really do work.would they help me loose weight?what other things help like that, but dont cost too much?my friend reccommended a yoga or workout ball.dothose help?

i really need help, and i am tierd of always being "the fat girl".i want to look good and show everyone when i go back to school.it is also something that i want to do for me personally.i've struggled with this for a long time, and i want to put an end to it.
thank you to anyone that can contribute!!

Running is the best exercise you can get.

I started running at 1 mile, and building my way up to 3[With a break at the halfway point]. Then I swam for 2 hours.

I did this for most of June, and my thighs trimmed down dramaticaly.

And for your stomach, I also did a 20 minute Ab workout non-stop, consisting of sit-ups,super crunches,leg lifts,normal crunches,pikes,and holding my feet straight out about 3 inches off the ground.

After that, I lost about 1 1/2 inches of my waist,and got a nice toned look.

But, none of this will work if you don't eat healthy. You must limit yourself of the junkfood/snacks.

You don't have to do such extreme things, as I did. Although I highly recommend running up to 4 miles. But instead of the full 2hours swimming[I had to, as I am on a swim team] You could maybe swim a total of 30 laps. And gradually go up. As for the ab workout, start out with 10 mins, and go up.

Here are instructions for each Ab workout:

Super Crunches: Lie flat on your back, and bring your chest and knees up at the same time then go down at the same time;Repeat many times. It is much like a sit up, but your lifting your legs off the ground and up to your chest.

Leg Lifts: Lie on your back, have your hands underneath your butt for support, and lift your legs up and down[Don't let your feet hit the ground]. Try to use your stomach as much as possible to lift your legs up. It helps if you lift your head up and look at your feet.

Pikes: Start off on your back, and lift your arms and legs up, at the same time, trying to make your body into a "V" shape. Your arms and legs must must be straight. Your feet may hit the floor on this excercise.

Hope all goes well!

Just drop a question in my inbox, if you are still confused about some of the excersices. [:

Yours Dearly,
LoveSucks[[♥]]

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Hey.. does anyone know of any good calf or quad exercises? I have really skinny legs and I would really love to build up my calves and quads so thanks for any feedback!!

Oh, I was bonr to answer this question [:

They are called, calf-raises.
What you do is:
Stand on a ledge[Stairs etc.]with only the top of you foot[the rough part under your toes], and hold onto a railing, then lift yourself up and down with your legs, do about a 25-30 or so.

You can do these anywhere there are stairs.

I'll look around for a site to show you, and if I find one I'll put it on here later [:

Hope I helped
Yours Dearly,
LoveSucks[[♥]]



Found one with a good description [:
http://www.wikihow.com/Do-Calf-Raises-Correctly
And here's a picture :D
http://www.building-muscle101.com/images/standing_calf_raise.jpg

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My friend broke up with her bf just a few hours ago. She wanted him to be in tears, but he was happy. So she got revenge on him, and asked out this guy she knew would say yes! I felt horrible for the ex bf. I really want to call her new bf and tell him to break up with her, but I know that the new bf will tell her what I said and she'll get in a fight with me. I really don't want to fight with her because i'm the type of person who goes crazy when somebody is mad at me! Please tell me what I should do!


Thanks

Leave it alone.
It's not your place.
You will start some majorrr D-r-a-m-a

Your friend will learn on her own time, that you have to be nice to everyone, or else karma will just comes back and hit her in the face.

Just leave it alone, definatley don't say anything.

Hope I helped [:

Yours Dearly,
LoveSucks[[♥]]

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I want to shave down there. I need exact instructions on how to do it. Tips on how to reduce irritation and burning.

I don't shave. I use Veet for my bikini line.

It doesn't leave those ugly ingrown hairs, and razor burns.
But you have to make sure you follow the directions exactly, because if you leave it on too long, it will burn you.

Yes you can trim with scissors.
As for the other parts, go with exactly what the person below me said; that's t he best I've seen it explained.

Hope I helped
Yours Dearly,
LoveSucks[[♥]]

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ok so a few days ago i caught my almost 16 yr old brother looking at porn on the internet...and he caught me spying on him. and i promised to him i wouldnt tell cuz god only knows what my parents would do... so idk what to do like is this normal .. it probably is but what should i do its just kinda freaky ....
help!

Yea. That is definatley normal.

It's weird but he's a 16 year old hormone-ragin guy.

Don't worry about it.

Yours Dearly,
LoveSucks[[♥]]

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hey what song is being played here: http://www.albinoblacksheep.com/flash/blockedme.php

like i know that thats not a song, but it is an actual song, but the words are just CHANGED. what is the original song?

She Hates Me[Puddle Of Mudd]

Song[Artist]

Yours Dearly,
\\♥LoveSucks♥//

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i have the sims 2, the sims 2 university, and the sims 2 nightlife i also have the sims 2 out for buisness but its in a different language but i can still download it and i have sims 2 holiday
ok well i have the sims 2 holiday and i went to go install it in and it said that i had the rong cd in the computer and i needed to put the sims 2 out for buisness in first but i didnt even download the holiday one yet and it wont let me install it help me please i rate 5s

Ok, From one Sim Lover to another.

I had this problem. I bought The Holiday Pack, thinking it was an expansion pack, but actually it was a whole new Sims game with the holiday stuff in it.

Check the box;what it includes.

What I had to do, was go to thesims2.com and install directly from the website to my computer. I don't know if you can still do that. But I had to pay for it.

But it loaded everything on my game, and I can use it.

If thats not the problem, then sorries. :]

Yours Dearly,
\\&heart;LoveSucks♥//

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ok so 2 of my friends got in this BIG fight and they started getting really personal. they both were like commenting about looks and weight and stuff... and now 1 of the girls is becoming bulimic. shes lost 4 lbs in 2 days and its getting serious and i keep trying to tell her its not good and stuff but she denies that she is bulimic. its getting scary and i dont know how to help her... any tips?

You really need to explain to her, that she shouldn't let what other people say effect[affect?] her.

It really is dangerous. Tell her that you're not accusing her, that you really care, and people could die from being bulimic.

Encourage her and give her comments; but not about her weight, because that would encourage the bulimia.

My friends sister has this problem. Perhaps show her, some pictures of VERY skinny people, and ask her if thats what she wants to be.

If that doesn't work. Maybe alert her parents and they can help her.[Rehab,therapy,counseling,etc.]

Yours Dearly,
\\♥LoveSucks♥//

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I want to get a new digital camera. I dont want anything to fancy just a simple one thats easy to take around, and I can transfer the images I take and put them on the computer.
Does anyone have any ideas? websites would be helpful.

Wal-Mart has plenty of them.
Also look at Best Buy if you want a nice quality of a camera.
I recommend Circuit City.

Just browse their websites.

Yours Dearly,
\\♥LoveSucks♥//

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After sex what do most people do? Like, get up and dressed? Isn't that awkward though?

They spoon.

You know cuddle up next to eachother, in a "spoon-like" position.

Yours Dearly,
\\♥LoveSucks♥//

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On saturday, this boy Chris asked me out. I liked him a lot, so of course I said yes. We only got to talk online, but he said he wanted to hug me after school, kiss me, and he invited me to his hockey game. I fell for him as soon as he said he wanted to hug/kiss me. I felt like this was the right guy for me. And then on tuesday morning, he randomly broke up with my online. I was really sad that he didn't do it in person and I thought it was low of him to tell me he'd NEVER break up with me but then 2 days later, break his promise. I asked him why he broke up with me, and he goes " I dunno I just think we should be friends." I was really sad. I never even got to hug him or even talk to him in person while we were going out! He broke up with me in the next 2 days. And I couldn't believe it because I spent hours talking to him on the phone and flirting with him, I thought we would last forever. For the past 2 days I've been crying and telling him I still like him, but he said "I'm really sorry but I only like you as a friend." As soon as he broke up with me, he asked out my best friend who was his ex-girlfriend. She said no because she knows I still like him and he's mad at her for saying no. I still love him SOO much. And when I fall in love, it takes a long time for me to fall out. Do you think he's a player? And should I waste my time liking him? I need your advice, and what I should do.

I rate high.

And if this helps, when he was going out with his last girlfriend, he told me that he liked this other girl and he was going to break up with his girlfriend to go out with her, while they were going out.

Definate player.

Hun, boys don't deserve to treat girls like that. He is one serious jerk-off. Trust me, it would be much better to move on.

Any guy that would make you cry, isn't worth your time. He is usually either A.Shallow B.Cocky C. Just a plain old ass.[Pardon my language]

There are so many guys out there, and you have so much time. Don't waste it on this guy. The right guy will come around. Trust me :]

Yours Dearly,
\\♥LoveSucks♥//

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What's the difference between the Army and the Marines? Does one rank higher than the other? Which would you recommend to a girl that wanted to join either or??

thanx a bunch
xoxo

Ok so Marines are first class.

But since they are in the army; I believe that they are very high ranked.

It personally depends on your point of view on which one you want to join.
If you think you can make it pass, to actually serve on the marines, then go for it.But they are very strict.

But if you would just rather
join the army; as in not top notch and as hard work.

It's personally your opinion.
I would like to be a Marine though.
But that's just me.

\\♥LoveSucks♥//

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I'm 15 1/2, about 5'7" (172 ish cm) and i weigh about about 150 lbs. I know i'm not hugely overweight, and i'm not intending to become anorexic or anything, but i think i really do just eat too much. It used to be i could eat tons of food and not gain weight, but it's caught up. My friends grad party is in 2 1/2 weeks. I'd like to be down to about 135/140 lbs to look a bit nicer in a bikini (she has a pool). I know most of the weight is food, and when i excercise, i can loose weight pretty fast. Does anyone have any suggestions to help me stick to a healthier diet and keep a regular excercise routine? i love sugary foods, and i procrastinate horribly about exercising. My focus areas are the typical butt belly and thighs.

i'm really excited for this party, i'd like to be able to show off a little for it. I've got a nice figure when i take care of it...

any advice?

Panda

I have the same problem as you.

What I suggest doing is swimming about 30-50 laps, and doing some excercises[Running,crunches,sit-ups,and weights.]

But you must lay off the junk food. Sugar is the devil itself. Stick to fruits and meat. And then maybe after dinner you have a small dessert to tide you over.

Eating breakfast gets your metabolism working faster, so try and make an effort to eat a piece of toast and an egg or something.

But if you want to lose the weight, you must excercise, it will all be wasted time if you don't.

Maybe put little reminders up around the house to get you motivated.

\\♥LoveSucks♥//

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Is it possible for a 13 year old to stop growing breasts? I'm 32A, my mom is 32A, and I started growing when I was 9. They haven't grown since I was 11 or 12. My breasts are identical to my mom's, and she developed really late. Does this mean that I'm done growing?

Of course you aren't done growing!

Your body never stops growing until you are 18.
Don't worry about the whole big boob thing, it's fine.

And just because you can't tell that they are growing is because they aren't growing dramatically enough for it to be noticed.

But in a larger scheme, yes they are still growing.

\\♥LoveSucks♥//

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Shannon
I know this person and they like me but i don't like them and I don't want to hurt there feelings what should I do

Sorry it took so long,

Well it would be wrong to lead them on like that, and no one wants to be taken out on a pity dateish thing.

Everyone in the world has to deal with rejection, so don't feel too bad about it.

Just let them down easy, by saying the ever popular "I think we should just be friends." or "I really like you, but only in a friendly way." Or something along those lines.

Its not your fault, and leading them on will only hurt them worse in the future.

Tell me how it goes :]

\\♥LoveSucks♥//

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I'm the guy with the sister " problem ". Thanks for your input ....... She ended up telling me " not to worry about it" . And said to try and pretend it never happened. She did tease my a little and told me to start locking my door .

Your welcome :]

I'm glad it worked out.

That is what sisters are for. :P

\\♥LoveSucks♥//

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