I go by Ahnee, to some. and you.
I live in Orange County CA, and it's not as great as it seems. it's just as shady as everywhere else but we're polite enough to keep it behind closed doors. Great.
I'm in highschool.
I have an opinion on just about EVERYTHING, but won't give it to you unless you ask.
I talk to people.
Sometimes i can just be a brutally honest bitch, don't ask me a question you don't want a real answer to. I refuse to coat my thoughts in sugar
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Alright. My boyfriend and I have thought a LOT about having sex with each other. I really want to and I'm ready but I'm only 15, and if I explained to my folks that I need birth control, they'd kill me. I know I'm ready because we've been dating for quite sometime, and I'm very in love with him and I want him to be my first. We've planned to stay together for a while and I'm not one of those girls who just blabber on and on about how I love this person so so so much. I take things seriously and I don't say I love you every 5 minutes because it's something very special to say. Not only do you have a healthy, good physical relationship with each other, we've got an amazing emotional one too. We're so open with each other, it throws me off guard sometimes. He's my best friend in the whole wide world and we even broke up with each other a few months ago but we never stopped talking like we do now and we didn't stop seeing other. He's amazing, I love him, and we can't ever get enough of each other. At school, we're together, and then after school we're on the phone until bedtime. Then on weekends we're together. Theres always things to talk about when we're together and theres always things to do. We get along amazingly and we have a really strong connection. Hes so practical and logical too. He's very smart with his decisions and he's helped me along so well. I've had a lot happen to me the past few years and I went off track but now my life is great and things are going smoothly. See now I want to have sex with him, and I already think my parents suspect that we fool around. Would fooling around be considered sexually active? Do I sound ready for sex? Someone please help me, I've talked to him about this as well and he doesn't know what to do. We need some clearing up!! (link)
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well the fact that you're asking other people if you're ready might put up a little red flag that maybe you're not. but you seem really into eachother and if you really believe you're ready then you should. just be safe, both of you. and I'm not sure where you live but there are states where you can get birth control without asking your parents (like my state..for example). Just don't rush thing because you're like "oh, we've been together for like 6 months...isn't it time already?" do it when it feels right. but i can't push SAFETY enough (condoms, the pill, etc.)
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Hello, I dated someone for 6 years of my life... little did I know it would be the best 6 years of my life. We broke up for a variety of reasons but mostly because neither of us was in the right place for the type of relationship that was required. About 6 months later, perhaps less, my partner decided she was ready to move on, and started dated someone else. I was completely crushed but still wasn't ready to date her again. So I sat back while she dated this girl whom I knew was totally wrong for her and I kept trying to improve on myself. In the meantime they were up and down and finally I decided to disclose how I felt. That seemed like a great idea at first because she was receptive to the idea so I thought and said she'd give us a chance only for me to come to find her not really giving any of her heart to me. She put in what was necessary to appease me but no emotional feedback. Sex was inadequate at best, and it felt more like having a relationship with your worst enemy then it did the person you've loved with all your heart for years. I was hurt but tried to move on and have been dating an incredible woman. Only this woman lacks one things, she's not my love. Now, my ex is newly single and I can't help but feel everything for her still. She says she was still hurt by our break up when we tried again and hadn't yet got passed that. She says she has forgiven me now and loves me but doesn't know if she'll ever feel the same for me. It's painful yet I don't run away, I stay and endure. So what do I do? She's the love of my life, do I walk away and just hope and pray there is more for me? Or keep trying because if she is the love of my life how could you just give up on that? (link)
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we've all heard it, "you can never go home again". im afraid you'll have some heavy expectations that won't be met if you go back to this girl. Some things you just have to leave as a good memory. Just look to the future and don't concentrate on finding something "better" just what makes you happy.
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So I went out with this guy for over a year.
I was hung over him for quite some time. I let him hurt me numerous times. For several months now, we are friends. Sometimes it's like friends with benefits.. without any sex attached.
I no longer want to be in this situation.
I'm interested in this new guy now. He has an interest in me too.
**I'm asking for some advice on how to get closer to this guy.**
I don't want to ask him out because I don't know him that well.
But I will ask him to go on a date. Ya know?
**And how to break away from my ex.
I'm afraid he would kiss me or something, I'm TIRED of being used.
(Recently, he had a crush on some OTHER girl and he doesnt like her. He's sad about it.)
He's still a friend though, and he's nice. I just don't want to do that anymore and his birthday is coming up in 3 days. I think he might want to kiss me. I really dont want to make him sad on his bday. (link)
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this is really one of those situations where you have to say all this to the guy. explain how you like this new guy and how your guys' situation just isnt practical or working anymore. explain how you still want to be friend, normal friends, and that you really do value his friendship but it's time for everyone to move on.
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ok so this guy that i REALLY like likes me back, and at partys and dances and such i will look for him (discreetly) then i will start dancin, my friends see him and they can tell that he watches and wants to dance with me, but he never does and keeps his distance...whats goin on and wut do i do?!
and its not that im not a good dancer, cuz im pretty much known 4 takin over the dance floor, and i dont think hes scared of not "measuring up" to me, because when i c him i try to dance a little simpler and more i guess u could say easy to dance with (link)
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just go up to him and ask if he wan't to dance. you can't wait on boys to do things sometimes ha
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Hello. I lost my lighter, would it be okay if I lighted my ciggarettes with matches instead? Please let me know. I know this sounds dumb but I just need to be sure! Thanks! (link)
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yeah. its fine...
but i have a feeling you're young-ish and i wouldn't suggest smoking early. then again...I'm one to talk. But who cares about lungs anyway?
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i've been getting acne lately ( the little red bump kind) and its sooo annyoing!! what are some really good medications- and i'd like to know....does proactiv really work ? is it worth buying? i have oily skin and this just started happening. thanks in advance! (link)
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Yes proactiv does work, as long as you use it every day twice a day. if you stop using it for about a week your skin goes crazy. but it does work really well and pretty quick.
and by the way, don't use regular hand soap on your face for this, it'll just dry out your skin like crazy.
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Three different people called me emo because I was scratching myself with a tac. No I am NOT trying to be emo because I am way to terified that I will die if I even come close to any razor, or knife, or whatever. But I was just bored I wasn't like trying to be emo or anything. So now those three people are spreading rumors that I am emo. At my school if you are called emo then you suddenly are part of a group of people who die their hair jet black and cut their wrists. I saw that group and I don't want to be apart of that even though I am gonna die my hair black. (i've been trying to get my dad to let me die my hair since I was 7!) also i listen to all the same stuff the emos listen to just because i like it i cant help it if we like the same stuff. what can i do to stop the rumors? (link)
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ok this emo kid crap is getting fucking ridiculous. can i say fucking in here? oh well.
I guess i don't get why you're so offended for a few random kids to think you're "emo". and cutting is a serious thing, not something to just be thrown around and laughed at.
Music is music, listen to whatever the hell you want. or if you're really just so concerned about what people you don't even know think, put highlights in your hair, get extensions, wear pink, get designer everything, walk around school like you own it and be a Prep. everyone loves those but punks and im sure you don't want to be a punk either so who cares.
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I'm torn and at a loss. I'm very close friends with a married couple. The husband has become like my brother. He's very protective of me and has been there for me more than I could ever ask for. I go to church with him, his wife, kids, and his parents. Well, a little over a year ago me and my fiance broke up and I got into the whole partying scene with his wife. One night, this guy was over at their house and she was prancing in front of this guy in a short tshirt and thongs. I ignored it. Then at this party a month or so later, a bunch of us were playing poker and it turned into strip poker. I quit, but she continued playing (she was the only woman playing). She was sitting in a guy's lap and the only thing she was down to was her thongs and cowboy hat. I felt this alone was cheating. Well, things went a little further that night and she told me that her and him kissed. But I feel it may have went further than that. They continued calling each other for a week or so after this happened. I urged her to stop. She'd admit that it was bad, but she would continue. So, I backed off and got back in church. This summer we started hanging out again, and before I know it - I'm pulled right back into the same situation - knowing and seeing her mess with this guy. I've recently found out that she's been with a few more guys that I know. It's so hard for me - I want to tell her husband so bad because it's unfair to him. But I've vowed to stay out of it.
More bad news...I've fallen for her husband hard. Feelings I've never felt before, I'm feeling for him. Sometimes the way he looks at me and talks to me - I feel he may feel the same way. My mom believes he feels feelings for me also but he's trying so hard to make his marriage work. His mother has made comments to me and my mom before that she wishes he would have met me before his current wife because he would date me in a heartbeat. I've backed off from him because I know I don't need to feel the way I do. But he'll call me or will come see me and I just break down b/c it hurts so much. I just dont know what to do. Can someone help me and steer me into a direction that's right? I don't feel I'm in a position to be a homewrecker... (link)
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ok i guess ill just throw my opinion out there.
you need to tell youre friend that she either needs to tell her husband or you will. this may sound messed up but he seems to be a close friend, someone you would even say is as close as a brother. I'm sure he would do the same for you. If you do tell him and they break up I don't suggest throwing yourself into a relationship with him for quite a while. You know when children are involved it just makes things that much more difficult. but you can't let a friend go on hurting like this, it isn't fair to anyone.
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Hello, I am a fifteen year old female. In the past I have dated two guys but broke up with them after a very short time because the relationships seemed boring, and I was (obviously) not ready for sex to "spice it up."
Now I feel like I do not want to date anyone again. I am unsure of the reason, it may be stress, nervousness or the fact there is no one whom I like. In the past I have been hurt a lot by guys, despite only dating two of them, and I do not trust anyone with my feelings. Nor do I think that anyone should be burdened with them.
I am wondering if I should try to look hard to find a the right guy, or if I should continue on as I am, basically avoiding relationships.
I want to have a good relationship and find someone who makes me happy and who I can make happy in return, but I also fear it. I know I feel lonely often, though.
How do I let myself trust / search for someone? Do I feel like this because I am young, haven't found the right person or what?
If you have any words of advice at all that relate to something I have discussed, I would really appreciate hearing it. Thanks so much. (link)
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well yeah you're young but you need to work on yourself a bit before you try to be in any kind of serious relationship or else the next boy will just be paying for every jacked up thing the other guys have done to you in numerous ways.
i agree with the other person about stopping looking and stopping avoiding to. be open to whatever comes your way. don't go search for a boy you aren't ready for. someone will just get hurt
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okayy. So is it possible for a guy 2 years older than you to like you. Last year we went to the same schoool, this year, we go to different schoools. Last year, he was like "well ill go out wtih you in like 3 years" just like randomly as im talking to him online. And at that point, i had no feelings for him so i thought it was kind of odd. then through the year, after talking to him, i really started to like him. And now that we dont go to the same schools, i barely talk to him. And i dont know if im wasting my time and should move on? Or if i should really consider going out with him. Last year some of his friends would be like yeah i think he likes you. But i always am like "no thats too good to be true" I just want to know some other peoples opinions on this. Thanks so muchh! :] (link)
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ok first of all yes it is VERY possible. my "boyfriend" is 4 years older than me and more than likes me. but I'm the not the point.
If it's love he'll make time for you but really, if youre still in highschool and he's doing the college kid thing it's gonna be really difficult. First you should see if he's even seriously interested. if not it doesn't really seem worth it.
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does anybody know a site where you can get cheap uggs? dont say ebay thanks (link)
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well i don't know about cheap ones but if you go into a skate shop they're lower than regular priced ones
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Last summer, this boy that was my BEST FRIEND. Came to my house in the middle of the night, to do it with me. In the beginning when we were on the phone, I played along, I thought he was kidding, I even asked my friends.. i was like.. hes kidding right? & there like oh yeah. So i went with it. Then he told me he'd be at my house later. He doesn't live really close so it was about a 3 mile walk. When he came, of course I said no. Ever since, he got mad at me & hasn't spoken to me since. I miss him, he was my best friend. Was I wrong? I mean at the time, I felt so, so smart & all. That I said no. Now, I feel like I messed up something, I messed up the friendship & its all my fault.
Am I wrong?
How can I make it better?
or realize, i wasn't wrong? .. if i'm not. (link)
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ok, lets just remember this. guys are lead by their penis. offending a guy this way can be like stabbing him in the heart. the male ego is very very sensitive and must constantly be stroked.
explain to this guy you honestly thought he was kidding and didn't expect him to actually do it. tell him you still want him as a friend and that you miss having him around. make him feel like he's still wanted
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hey guys :] im in this really hard situation! so id like to tell you what happens and it might be kinda long but you need to know the details to know what im going through! so anyways..there is this really adorable sweet guy and ive liked him on and off for around 4-5 months. he never knew and still doesnt because he is one of my good friends and i see him alot, if not every weekend. because we go to different schools and my cousin is his neighbor. anyways before he got a girlfriend about 3 months ago me and him flirted like crazy i mean we would wrestle and get close, never KISS or cuddle or anything. but now that he has a girlfriend we dont do it so much anymore. sometimes i feel that he does have feelings or is still somewhat attracted to me. like tonight it was me and him and my two cousins together and like we were going to his girlfriends hockey scrimmage and so then we had to park far away because it was busy and my cousin forgot her cellphone in her car so hes like come on we'll meet her in there. and then hes like your my date come on! so he stuck his arm out and we like linked arms and then my feet hurt so i was like can you give me a piggy back ride :] and hes like yeah get on and so he did. and it was cute i was like aww i dont want this to end! and then like when we got back into the car he got really close but he was laughing and hes like ahh im cold and stuff! but then he moved back because we were both in the back seat and then his girlfriend came and she was with us for the rest of the night. one time we were playing football and then he like would give me the ball to throw because i wanted to but he would always like kind of hug me from behind and give me the ball. its like to ME he tires to flirt, without being too obvious and sometimes it feels like he likes me too! but doesnt want me to know or anyone else because he likes his girlfriend, but could there be a chance he likes me too? its like when i dont see him for a little bit im like good im getting over him i dont like him he has a girlfriend there is no point! and then right when i see him and we talk and like flirt all my feelings come back. im not going to stop being around him he is my friend and im soo happy when im around him. but then it kills me to know that he has a girlfriend and loves her not me...and me and him always joke like tonight i was coming home from work and they were coming to pick me up and im like i have to change first! and hes like okay you can just change in front of us ;) and started laughing! and then me and him both had to go to the bathroom bad so we pulled to the side of a road and my cousin was like go you two, you guys can have a quickie and then i laughed and then hes like alright lets go and smiled (but hes joking, obviously) but those kind of things come up all the time! like "sexual" but jokingly. and its like i dont know what to do because i dont want to be like nooo! ewww! because i know i wouldnt mind being with him but then i dont want him to know and be like okay! ahhaha. so i always just laugh about it. its sorta awkward but its cute how he answers. i dont want to tell him i like him because it would be soo awkward afterwards and woould pretty much ruin our friendship! and i try to deny to myself that i like him because i know i dont have a chance and that he loves his girlfriend but i just LOVE being around him. im always soo happy when i hear that im going to be seeing him :] i know i shouldnt put myself through this but i dont know what to do!!!! i love getting his attention and have him look at me and be around me but then i think. shoot he has a girlfriend :[
well here are some quotes that tell how im feeling if this helps any..
you tell me about her and i smile and say "thats great" but you know me and by the look in my eyes you should be able to see that i want to be in her place..
people constantly ask me, "are you two going out?" but they have no idea how much it hurts to say "no we're just friends".. (link)
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ok let me just put the fact out there that if i was this guys girlfriend and i knew he was doing all this with you i'd be pissed. so how about first taking that into consideration and thinking about it as if you were in her shoes. apparently you want to be.
anyway, now that that's out of the way, you should bring it up when he's playing around with you and be like "what, you don't have a girlfriend anymore or something?" mood killer? maybe, but who cares. if you really wanted to get this settled you'd bring this up to him.
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1. how old do you have to be to buy diet pills?
2. what is the best and fastest working diet pills?
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any age
but first let me mention most of them don't work. yeah the speed up your metabolism but as soon as you go off them it freaks out and your body will eventually just spazz out. it leads to heart problems of course. and most of the time these diet pills are nothing but rely on your stomach filling up with water when you take them (ie; you must drink this much water when taking this pill) resulting in you feeling full.
but i guess, go ahead.
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Ok so this may sound like bullshit to anyone else who hears it because i have only been going out with my boyfriend since October 25th, but i'm forreal when i say that i love him. I dont think he knows it but i want him to know it. I just dont want to say it and freak him out or anything. Its like you look at your relationship as if it could never last...you kind of just cant really see you guys breaking up. Do you know that feeling? So how do i tell him that i love him? I think hes said that he loves me before but i dont really know because he kind of said it quietly then when i asked him what he said hes like "nothing, i didnt say anything." so i have no idea what do you think? (link)
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i'd suggest saying it in a joking but serious way. like do something and be like "of course i did, i love you ha" but try not to stare at him and wait for an answer right after, it might freak him out. but his reaction will tell you something
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why do people put x's in there screennames does it mean something? i used to do it but i dont know why.. im just asking because theyres like TOO many x's insome girls sn like hxxcLOVER
LOVEXXXXXXME55 BUT WHY?! (link)
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ok keep in mind
hxc=Hardcore
x=times
or sometimes its just a space filler (ex. xxRazor_Wirexx)
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how do you tell if a louie vuittan purse is real?
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my cousin's girlfriend was just explaining this to me. there are a few random super detailed things you can do but here are 2 major basics. the LV should perfectly aligned throughout the whole purse. and the LV never falls on the stitching. or sometimes things are raised on the purse that shouldnt be
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I am 26 years old female...My boyfriend is a great guy the best boyfriend ever when he is SOBER....when he drinks hes a different person...hes mean to me and throws me around when i dont wanna deal with him....he has never hit me but he gets real rough with me and hits the door or will smash something...I'm scared i dont know what to do...he always says im the mean one or i hurt him but when hes on top of me i have to push him away he pins me down...i have talked to him about this but i really dont know what to do...i just got a place with him just 3 months ago and now i feel trapped...what should i do...does this happen to anyone else...how can i help him? (link)
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ok first of all you need to tell this guy he cannot be getting that drunk anymore and explain what happens when he does. If he can't do that you need to leave. No matter how difficult it will be on your heart or budget trying to move out. You always hear stories like this from women who are continuously abused by their husbands, and you have to realize you don't have to put up with it.
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hey, I'm 14 years old and i really really realllllly like this boy i met this year at my new highschool. He's super nice and sweet and funny, but rather shy and softspoken if he doesn't really know you. But we've gotten to know eachother over the past 2 months and we are now friends. Recntly it seems to me as if he is prehaps showing some signs he likes me. We have 4 classes together one after the other so often we walk with eachother to our next class and he jokes with me the whole way. Also, i've caught him staring at me a few times, but whenever i catch him or he catches me we hold eachothers gaze for a few seconds before continuing what we were doing. I smile and laugh alot when he's around and he smiles when i talk to him and we always joke with eachother. But besides from school, we don't really hang out much or talk out of school, unless its a school function like a dance which we've had one and he said hi to me and we talked for a few brief moments. I don't ask much, but when i do ask he does favors for me and i do favors for him if he ever asks ( which he doesn't that often)
Now we talk comfortably in school quite often, but does he like me back? thanks for your help.
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well it's obvious this guy doesn't dislike you. Little cutsey things like that actually do mean alot. You should bring up hanging out very casually, or bring up a subject you both are interested in and see if you can do something having to do with that. overall he seems like a nice guy and i think you should go for it. goodluck
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I usually wear some abercrombie or american eagle type clothes but I want to have some more individual clothes in my wardrobe too. So I was wondering if 2nd hand stores like goodwill, value village, or places like that are good places to find unique shirts and accessories. I'm trying to fray away from preppy clothes, but I still want to be girl. Also are there any stores that aren't 2nd hand that have the things im looking for? thanks for you help! any advice at all is greatly appreciated (link)
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ok so it's true that alot of random thrift stores have crappy oversized clothes that make it obvious why theyre in a thrift store in the first place. But my friend JT used to be obsessed with those places and she's one of the girly-est people i know sometimes.
Then again, you can always go into a regular preppy kid store and buy things that look old and used and cost $300...whatever floats your boat.
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