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Stay or Go?
Hello, I dated someone for 6 years of my life... little did I know it would be the best 6 years of my life. We broke up for a variety of reasons but mostly because neither of us was in the right place for the type of relationship that was required. About 6 months later, perhaps less, my partner decided she was ready to move on, and started dated someone else. I was completely crushed but still wasn't ready to date her again. So I sat back while she dated this girl whom I knew was totally wrong for her and I kept trying to improve on myself. In the meantime they were up and down and finally I decided to disclose how I felt. That seemed like a great idea at first because she was receptive to the idea so I thought and said she'd give us a chance only for me to come to find her not really giving any of her heart to me. She put in what was necessary to appease me but no emotional feedback. Sex was inadequate at best, and it felt more like having a relationship with your worst enemy then it did the person you've loved with all your heart for years. I was hurt but tried to move on and have been dating an incredible woman. Only this woman lacks one things, she's not my love. Now, my ex is newly single and I can't help but feel everything for her still. She says she was still hurt by our break up when we tried again and hadn't yet got passed that. She says she has forgiven me now and loves me but doesn't know if she'll ever feel the same for me. It's painful yet I don't run away, I stay and endure. So what do I do? She's the love of my life, do I walk away and just hope and pray there is more for me? Or keep trying because if she is the love of my life how could you just give up on that?
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I agree with illdomybest. Very good advice there.
6 years is a long time to be with someone.
Have you been with this incredible woman for long? She will never amount up to the 6 years you had with your ex. Until you create better memories with this woman you are dating.
Continue with your self improvement. It sounds like it was working. You attracted an 'incredible woman'. She deserves all your attention. Stop focusing on your ex, or you may end up running this other woman off.
Just think of the last encounter you had with your ex. She has given her heart to someone else. She feels she has to forgive you for something. Not good, even if she says she has forgiven you. Anyone can get past anything they want to, bottom line. She just doesn't want to get past it.
Why can't she get past it?
I wouldn't sign up for that class. Why does the earth orbit the sun? Why does the sun rise in the east and set in the west? WHO CARES!!
The earth will orbit the sun no matter what.
People change and they move on. There is nothing you can do except learn and continue to move on.
I was with my husband for 8 years. I died when we divorced 6 1/2 years ago. I have this gorgeous little boy as a result of my marriage (photo on column).My boyfriend, who I love 100x more than I ever loved my ex, and I have been together almost 5 years now. Yes, you can love another as much if not more than you did the last woman. It is possible to love again and more passionately than you did before. I am living proof!
My advice to you:
GO. Do not stay. Make the next 6 years better than the last 6 years. Make new memories and soon you will see there is more for you!
Good luck!
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ok she may have been the love of your life but that doesnt mean you were the love of hers.sorry if that hurt. and even if you were and she doesnt feel the way that more then its not going to work and you need to move on. theres plenty of other people to love you dont need to waste time being hung up on her if you cant handle being just friends then leave her alone because she has the right to live her life as much as you do.
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well you should not go back with her
she just wants to get back with you because
she is single and lonely
and wat if she breaks up wit you agin
find a new girl
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It's okay...Your ex could have moved on after about a week like I did after a three year relationship..Ouch, I know..but..just remember that there are other people out there that can make you feel good as well..
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we've all heard it, "you can never go home again". im afraid you'll have some heavy expectations that won't be met if you go back to this girl. Some things you just have to leave as a good memory. Just look to the future and don't concentrate on finding something "better" just what makes you happy.
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