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Am I wrong?
Last summer, this boy that was my BEST FRIEND. Came to my house in the middle of the night, to do it with me. In the beginning when we were on the phone, I played along, I thought he was kidding, I even asked my friends.. i was like.. hes kidding right? & there like oh yeah. So i went with it. Then he told me he'd be at my house later. He doesn't live really close so it was about a 3 mile walk. When he came, of course I said no. Ever since, he got mad at me & hasn't spoken to me since. I miss him, he was my best friend. Was I wrong? I mean at the time, I felt so, so smart & all. That I said no. Now, I feel like I messed up something, I messed up the friendship & its all my fault.
Am I wrong?
How can I make it better?
or realize, i wasn't wrong? .. if i'm not.
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ok, lets just remember this. guys are lead by their penis. offending a guy this way can be like stabbing him in the heart. the male ego is very very sensitive and must constantly be stroked.
explain to this guy you honestly thought he was kidding and didn't expect him to actually do it. tell him you still want him as a friend and that you miss having him around. make him feel like he's still wanted
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You were not wrong at all. You didn't give into pressure, and you said no because you didn't want to do it. You did the right thing. Never give in to somebody just because they want to do something with you that you don't want to do.
I personally think it's a little immature and somewhat sad of him to stop talking to you. I mean, if you guys were best friends, you'd think he'd value your friendship a little more and try and resolve this issue with you and continue being friends.
I would just go up to him, call him, write him, whichever way you feel most comfortable and let him know you're sorry, but you thought he was joking. You didn't mean for all that to happen, but whenever you guys were on the phone together, you thought you guys were just having a laugh, so you played along. You didn't mean for him to walk so far, and you're really sorry for all of that, and you know he's mad, but you really miss him and you guys were the best of friends, and you'd hate to see that get ruined over this huge misunderstanding.
If he's willing to be a mature person and handle the situation, he'll want to resolve this issue and forget about it, and move on and continue being best friends with you, like you both should be.
If he's not, then he's being immature and stupid and he's missing out on a great best friend, and he should realize that.
I hope I helped.
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well if you said no than that was the totally right thing to do. you shouldn't feel pressured to do something you don't want to. but if he's not talking to you, personally i think that's kind of pathetic. i would somehow tell him that i thought he was kidding so you can't blame you for saying no. also tell him that you don't want to ruin your friendship over this.
he seems like a nice guy but a little freaky that he would actaully come to your house.
well good luck and i hoped i helped.
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Sounds like he might have only wanted sex from you. Maybe he thought you were being serious and was embarrased he walked all the way to your house and didn`t get anything. I think you did the right thing. Just give him time. And after a while just try to have a conversation with him and maybe talk about what happend. Just be careful he doesn`t try to do it again. ♥
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