Hi, my names Melanie.
I'm fifteen years old.
I love fashion, hanging out with my friends,
and drawing and writing along with a bunch of other stuff.
I used to have an old account here that was quite known for awhile,
but I sort of just lost touch with it,
so I decided to make a new one.
I'll try and help you the best I can,
just hopefully I didn't lose touch with my good advice, haha.
And feel free to IM me with your problem too.
I also put my myspace in a link down below,
if you ever want to add me & talk.
But incase you don't see it or something, it's:
www.myspace.com/themelinat0r
Website: my myspace!
E-mail: melledisko@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: Pittsburgh
Occupation: student.
Age: 15
AIM: mel le disko
Member Since: July 2, 2006
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Okay, I got asked out online. Tomorrow I'm supposed to tell him my answer (which is yes). But when I tell him my response, am I just supposed to smile and walk away, hug him, kiss him, or what ??
Oh, and when we start going out. How many days should I wait to ask to hang out with him over my house? (link)
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Just walk up to him tommorrow and be like,"I was thinking about what you asked the other night, and I'd love to go out with you!" and just give him a smile and if you want to hug him, hug him.
There never really should be a certain time to invite someone to hang over your house. If you want him to go over your house tommorrow, invite him tommorrow. If you want him over in four days, invite him in four days.
I hope I helped.
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i heard that if a condom was used properly it would work like 98 per cent...i'd just dont know how to use the condom properly since iam goin to have sex wiz my girl next week...so can give me some tips perhaps a site where i can see a visual scene to show me how to use properly coz i am afraid of gettin broken and my girl get pregnant.
tanx for help
justin R5'' (link)
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Well, whenever you buy a box of condoms, there are usually already instructions somewhere on the box letting you know how to put them on, but if you want to look at this site:
http://www.coolnurse.com/malecondom.htm
Also, even if you do correctly put it on, it could still always break, or something could go wrong and your girlfriend could still wind up pregnant. I would suggest her going on the pill before you guys do anything to increase the chances of her not getting pregnant.
I hope I helped.
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My family and i had 2 dogs. my mom found a cute puppy and asked us [my sister and me] if we wanted one. i said no because the 2 dogs that we already have get no attention and are always chained up outside [my mom makes them, so don't point fingers at me] and i said that the puppy would end up exactly like the other dogs: with no attention and always chained up. we got another dog anyways. and what i said is what happened. what do i do? i feel bad but i never wanted that puppy because i knew what would happen (link)
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Since they can't be inside I'm assuming, just give them attention outside. Bring out treats for them and toys and run around with them and play catch and just pet them alot and scratch them behind the ears, wherever they loved to be scratched. Maybe even take them for daily jogs [ fun and exercise! ]. Even though you can't ALWAYS be outside with them, I'm sure they'll appreciate the love they get from you every now and then every day. Or, you could always suggest selling the puppies and giving them new homes where they won't be chained up. I don't understand why your parents would keep dogs if they're just going to give them no attention and keep them chained up. I hope I helped.
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Hey i am a 15 year old girl!
Well on our school camp i told this guy that i liked him and then found out he likes my best mate. on top of this my other mate now likes him to....so there are 3 girls that all love the same guy! it is just so hard coz i want him so bad i have liked him for a year now and the other 2 have only just started liking him! i also found out he liked me 2 years ago for ages! I need help......how can i make him like me but not hurt my friends? (link)
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Well, if he's single, he's fair game. But you can't really make anybody like you ; they need to like you for you. I would just keep talking to him and flirting with him a little [ don't be really flirty with him infront of your friends though ] and show him the great person you are. Then, I suggest you tell him how you feel. Maybe once he realizes you like him, you never know. Old feelings could return. But if he really does like your best friend, then you just have to learn to live with it. You can't steal guys away from people, especially one of your best friends. If you do, there's no way for your other friends NOT to get hurt. You just need to talk about it and how much you like him and how long you've liked him, and hopefully, they'll understand. I hope I helped.
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so yeah, this os probably going to end up being really long so you can just leave now if you want...so yeah, some little background.
...so up untill like the beginning of this year (senior year of highschool) i have always been reeeaalllly shy. i only had a few best friends (granted, they were mostly girls) but no one that ever LIKED me. then, as soon as i hit senior year, i changed, a LOT. its like my whole outlook on life changed completely, i figured that this is my last year in highschool so i might as well go all out. ive gotten really involved in school clubs and all that, im a LOT more confident, ican actually talk to my peers without being too shy...and i think people are starting to notice it...so far this year ive had three girlfriends, and ive flirted (which i NEVER did before) with tons of other girls...so now i have my girlfriend of three months nd i KNOW im not gonna leave her, i love her to death....but at my work (i work for a city park so i only have 7 coworkers, including my boss) but yeah, at my work theres these two girls that i talk to more than any others, and i flirt with them like crazy....their both kinda cute, but i couldnt really see myself going out with one of them...but the other one...thats where the confusion starts. so yeah, me and this girl flirt more than anyone else, including my girlfriend...it gets really bad. i know im not going to leave my girlfriend for this girl, but id still like to get to know this girl better and see what happens with that...is that normal? i mean me and this girl really kinda just "clicked" nd it seems to me that she really likes me. she knows that i have a gf, but shes always sayin that that doesnt matter. so the question i pose to anyone willing to answer...is it incredibly wrong to flirt with this girl? i KNOW that theyll never meet eachother because the ONLY way theyd meet eachother is through me, and im not about to let that happen...so is it okay that i keep flirting with the other girl? what should i do? keep in mind id like to hear arguments for both sides, to keep flirting with and to stop....so yeah, thank you sooo much in advance... (link)
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I would just think of it as this way. Would you want your current girlfriend off flirting with other guys behind your back and everything? Probably not. It's not fair to her. I mean, I guess you could continue on with her a little more and see what happens [ nothing like kissing or anything, though ] and if you feel more feelings for her then your girlfriend, I know you don't want to, but you should leave her. If you really loved her you wouldn't be sitting there flirting with other girls behind her back and liking other girls. You'd like her and only her. Especially if you loved her. It seems to me like you want to really enjoy your last year of high school and make it special, and maybe you shouldn't be tied down to anybody - at all. Just go around, have fun, flirt with all types of girls. You can still love your girlfriend just as much if you two were friends. That way you can flirt with whomever you want and nobody gets hurt.
Oh, and belive me. Even though you THINK she won't find out ; girls always have a way of finding out things. I can't guarantee you she won't, but all someone has to do is be somewhere at the right place and at the right time, and bam it'll come back to her and she'll hear about it, and be crushed.
So basically, my advice: You want to flirt with other girls? Break up with your girlfriend and go enjoy your last year of High School. OR, stay with your girlfriend and stop flirting with other girls.
I can't really tell you exactly what to do, it's your choice, your decision.
I hope I helped.
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WELL heres the thiing
theres this guy he gets mad easily like i say somwething and he tells me off he says im childisha dn i doitn say anything bad like i act normal he gets mad really easily ill ask one thiing and he gets into a bad mood i have tried talking to him but he turns it into a fight please help what can i do or what conversation can i start with him not to annoy hiim (link)
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Believe me, I've been there. Whenever friends are in a bad mood I always find it's best NOT to talk to them whenever they're in it unless you want to get snapped at. I would suggest just backing off or ask him what's wrong and let him rant on and on and on until all his feelings are let out. That usually makes people feel better when they know they can talk about it and have someone to release all their thoughts and feelings to. Just tell him,"I don't want to fight with you. I'm just trying to talk to you. If you want me to leave you alone for a bit, I will." And if he needs some time to himself, give it to him and just tell him he can call you whenever he's in a better mood. Also, while you're talking to him, if you notice he's starting to get mad at whatever you're talking about, change the subject and don't linger on about it, cause that'll only make him more upset.
If nothing works and he continues to be rude, just let him know whats up and how you're feeling. Tell him you can't be friends with him if all you're gonna do is get snapped at by him and everything, you can't take it and it really hurts your feelings. You want to be friends, and you've been trying to talk to him, it's just really hard. So if he's in a bad mood, can he at least warn you before you guys talk? Or talk to him about what it is [ like i said before ] that's making him so mad all the time and what doesn't he like talking about with you and everything, so you know what topics to avoid.
Some people are just really emotional, and I know, it is really hard to deal and talk with them. I just try my best to catch them in their good moods, and when they're in their bad, back off.
I hope I helped.
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Whenever I go shopping I'd first plan what I wanna buy. But the thing is, when I've happily picked out the thing that I want, my friends will say, "that's not nice, you should try this one" and then they'll take out some old looking mature tops/bottoms for me to try. And OK, I'll take both my choice and their choice into the fitting room.
After trying my clothes on, I'd feel that what I'd picked looks much better on me but I don't know why do I always end up buying what they tell me to buy. That's cos at that point in time maybe I got brainwashed by what my friends said. And its only after I get home and I try it on again that I regret not buying what i had picked out for myself. This is seriously wasting my money!
This always happens and I HATE IT!! I'd always tell myself - next time don't do it again- but I just KEEP DOING IT AGAIN!! ARGH!! someone pls help me ! (link)
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Try shopping buy yourself sometimes. Whenever you KNOW theres something out there you want to get already and don't want to be distracted by what your friends say, just tell them you'll be right back and run into the store and buy it, or just go by yourself and snatch it.
Whenever you go shopping with your friends and they suggest something to you, just be like,"Thanks, but it's not really my style" or "I'm not digging it, but it looks really cute on you though!" "Eh, I don't know. I'm feeling this shirt a little more. I think I'm going to get it." "I'll think about that shirt the next time we come here, but I MUST have this one!", etc. Try figuring out a few things you can say to them and choose which one you like best. My friends always try and get me to wear stuff they like, but I tell them thanks, but no thanks. Whenever I go shopping with my friends, I also like to point out alot of the styles I wear and everything so now when we shop, they know more what I like to wear and what they can imagine me buying and wearing, so when they pick out stuff for me now, I tend to dig it more.
And just keep reminding yourself while you're shopping that you're not going to listen to them and buy what they want you to buy and just grab the shirt you want first and immediately go and buy it so you're out of cash to buy anything else.
There is also a beautiful thing called return policies! Just make sure to keep the reciept, don't wash it or anything, and just keep it in the bag and return it to the store.
I hope I helped.
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There's this guy that I know and he keeps commenting on the way I dress. LIke for example, when I had my nails painted black, the moment he saw it he said "Hey your nails look rotten".
And there was once his dog stepped on my toes and I was like "OUCH". And then he just said "Good boy" to his dog without even smiling ! It was like as if he has something against me.
And he'd always say "hey how's life? Any lesbian friends? Got hooked up with any girl ?" And I'd say "NO!" .
I mean he's really making me mad with all those comments. I didnt do anything to offend him. Really. And I've heard of things like whenver a guy does that to you it means he likes you. BUt well I really don't think that's the case here! Cos there was once when we were crossing a really dangerous road and he didnt even bother to help me or hold my hand to cross the road. So this really shows that he doesn't give a shit bout me. And so, that proves he doesn't like me as a crush or something. So can someone tell me what's the matter with that guy? (link)
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Well, obviously you're right with the fact that he doesn't like you cause that's going overboard if he's trying to get your attention.
I know you're asking ME a question, but I have one for you. If he's being such a jerk and not giving a crap about you, why would you hang out with him? I think you should just forget about him, I mean if he's not going to be nice, he shouldn't be worth any of your time. Talk to people who'll care about you and actually LIKE you. So I would just forget him, ignore him, and move on. If he realizes what you'd do if he acts that way ever again, maybe he'll straighten up his act and apologize.
But, if you're really curious, try asking him if you've done anything to offend him or tick him off and ask him why he's such a jerk to you all the time because you've never done anything to him. And it offends you whenever he makes dumb comments about your wardrobe and everything because if he was a real friend he wouldn't be acting this way towards you.
I hope I helped.
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i asked y parents if they would let me get highlights and they said no and i have been trying for about 2 months and they still dont let me what can i say or do so that they will let me? (link)
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Talk to your parents and ask them why they don't want you getting highlights. If it's because they don't know how good they'll look on you, try finding some pictures of girls with them to show to your parents, or if you have friends who have highlights, have your friends come over and show your parents. I can't really help you too much, because I don't know why your parents are so against it. If it's for money reasons, tell them you'll do extra chores around the house or something to help pay for it, or pay for all of it. I hope I helped.
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okay so in 5th grade, i was the girl that had boobs. but now like 4 years later, i haven't really grown a whole lot. & i'm just wondering like what the deal is? is there something wrong or anything i can do to make them grow? thanks (link)
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There is nothing you can really do to make your boobs grow more. You just have to wait and see what happens with your body. I mean you're only in 9th grade which'd probably make you like, 14. Your body stops growing and developing whenever you're 18, so you've got a good 4 years ahead of you to grow taller, don't grow at all, grow boobs, stay where you are. So you just have to wait and see what "the good lord gives you", haha. I hope I helped.
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Last night, my boyfriend of over 7 months broke up with me. I dont totally understand why. We were madly in love with each other. But now he has some feelings for this other girl. Our families loved each other;we did evrything together. I dont know what set him off. But last night at a big festival, he dumped me. He was kinda nice about it but i still sobbed. I dont understand how you can break something like that off. The thing is, I want him back. I know that the girl that he likes would never go out with him because she only likes him as a friend. How do I win him back? How can i descretely show him that he belongs with me.
Please guys, I love him so much and im hurting so much right now.
Thank you so much! (link)
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I'm sorry, but there really is no way to "win" a guy back. If he has feelings for another girl, then he has feelings for another girl. Just think of it this way. At least he wasn't dating you and wanting her at the same time, at least he honestly broke it off.
I know it hurts and everything, but the most you can do to try to get him back is just keep talking to him. Show him how amazing you are and how stupid he was for breaking up with you, and how you're there for him. If he makes an attempt at this girl and he gets denied, then comfort him and make him feel better. Then hopefully, he'll realize what a moron he was for hurting you.
Also, just be open about your feelings. Let him know you still care for him a great deal, and you'd really love to be with him again, and that the ball is in his court.
But like the advicenator said below: tend to yourself also. Cry when you're sad ; smack pillows when you're angry ; write when you need comfort ; eat ice cream, watch movies. Just cheer yourself up and go out and have some fun for awhile.
But if you want my real advice, I would think long and hard about him and your possible future relationship and if you really would want to have one. I mean, he broke your heart and just dropped you after a real happy and loving relationship for one girl? Even if you two did get back together, what's to say he wouldn't do it again? And it'd only hurt more and more probably each time. I'm just saying be careful and think about it, because you could be just as happy without him and being single and living and loving life, and you two could always still be in eachother's lives - as friends.
But, I hope everything works out for you and him though, and I really do hope I helped.
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Last Saturday this boy gave me his phone number. Its now a week later and I finally decided I want to call him (after a week of trying to get over my shyness lol) but I'm not sure if its still appropriate since its a week later. Is it too late? (link)
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No, it's never too late! If he gave you his number, he's obviously wanting you to call him, and the wait might even make him more excited for when you actually do call! But I would do it soon, because he might be starting to get worried you don't like him or something and aren't interested. Just be like "Hey! Sorry it took me so long to call, haha. I had to work up the nerve." and just make a little joke about it. I hope I helped.
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okay soo a couple of nites ago i kindda ditched mi freind. i didnt want her to get hurt but the result came out to be that she did get hurt. i feel bad now and i think she hates me. wut should i do becus i rele couldn't imagine mi life without her. help (link)
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The only thing you can really do is tell her you were wrong to ditch her, and you know that now and that you're really sorry and you realize how important her friendship is to you, and you don't want to ruin it. And ask her if she'll please forgive you, and if she needs time to think about it, she got it. She may need to cool off and just think about things for awhile so just give her time. Then, if she does forgive you [ and hopefully she will! ] then just dedicate like, a whole weekend to her to make it up to her ; whatever she wants to do, wherever she wants to go. And just hang out and have alot of fun and let her know how great of a friend she is and how sorry you are. I hope I helped.
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What should I do? I have a bff and she likes a kid who i have been talkin to alot lately and she started to like him this year and he likes me this year along with 3 other ppl but she said it still matter tht i am in it. She throws it up to my face everytime she gets mad at me. And i cnt help it if he likes me. I mean im not goin out with him and i have a bf. but still she doesn't like it. Help! (link)
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Of course she doesn't like the fact that her crush doesn't like her and likes you. She's just all jealous and doesn't like the situation. Talk to her and assure her you don't like him like that and you never will because you already have a boyfriend that you like alot and she knows that. And let her know it hurts you whenever she throws it in your face whenever she gets mad at you, and you wish he didn't like you, and it's not your fault that he does. It's not like you WANTED him to just to spite her or something. Your friend isn't being a very good friend if she isn't trusting you. She needs to learn how to trust you and not get so upset at you. And whenever you talk to her, suggest to her that you can even try and talk about her more to him and try and get him to notice her better, and take less of the focus off of you. I'm sure she'd appreciate that you're trying and then really realize you're obviously not into him if you're trying to get them two together. I hope I helped.
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ok so i cant look at this one persons profile/away message. my computer always says "Please Wait..." does this happen to anyone else and do you know what's wrong? thanks. (link)
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Sometimes people like to be funny and trick people into sitting there waiting for their profile to load, so they write "Please wait..". Believe me, I fell for that once and wound up sitting there for like, 5 minutes haha. Other than that, your computer's connection might just be bad at the moment. Sometimes computers and programs get really whacky like MySpace. MySpace is always changing and slowing down and not posting bullitens. Sometimes programs just get glitches or are being slow and screwy. Just wait for awhile and see what happens. I hope I helped.
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Is it appropriate for my 12 year old 7th grade sister to wear a little makeup for when she cheerleads at football games. If so, what kind? (link)
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Yeah, I'm sure it's appropriate. All the cheerleaders at my school wear makeup and doodle our school initals on their cheeks and everything. What the girls in our school do is maybe put on some glitter eyeshadow and eyeliner. Nothing too heavily and overloading. I hope I helped.
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I will be 14 in 4days! Right now i am in 8th grade. I've had a boyfriend once, in 7th grade. He was in 8th grade (not the cutest guy, but he made me laugh) He asked me out on AIM during thanksgiving break. I said yes. I told my sister and shes like "you scored an 8th grader", and im like yes. My sister is now a freshman in college. So i dont talk to her that much. About this age is when i think is good to have a boyfriend, but i can't figure out the best way to tell my mom if i get one. I never told my mom about the other guy last year, because he was an 8th grader and it didnt last long. He moved wayy to fast so i broke up with him after a week. I am not officially allowed to go on a 1 on 1 date till im 16. but i can still have a boyfriend, and he can come to my house and i can go to his. The big question im trying to ask, is how i should tell my mom when i have a boyfriend. Im nervous for when that time comes. Please help me! (link)
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I would first bring him over your house and have him hang out and you know be kind to your parents so your parents can get to know him and get an impression of him. Then later that night whenever he leaves, just be like,"So did you like him?" [ Mother: yes ] and then just be like "Great!" or something and continue the conversation about whatever. Then, the next day whenever you're talking to your mom just be like,"Hey remember ____? Well, he asked me out today, and I said yeah. :)" Every girl is nervous whenever it comes to telling their mother they have a boyfriend, especially if their mothers a little iffy on that subject, but you'll feel less nervous after you tell her, and if you're allowed to have a boyfriend, then you know she'll be fine with it. I hope I helped.
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Hey I was wondering if you have like lime wire or something and if you can upload a song for me by akon called trouble nobody if you can that would be the graestest! my cmps stupid and the program i donwload music off of isnt working. my emails sacfever10@msn.com .
Thanks in advance. (link)
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I'll try.
My email's melledisko@hotmail.com.
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WELL i HAVE BLACK HEADS. AND IvE USED TH0SE STiPS BUT THEY D0NT W0RRK. i REALLY WANT T0 GET RiD 0F THEM. ANY iDEAS? (link)
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Well, I've never had black heads before, but I tried googling it up, and here are some sites I got:
http://ezinearticles.com/?Blackhead-Removal---How-To-Get-Rid-Of-Blackheads?&id=117624
http://www.cosmeticscop.com/learn/article.asp?PAGETYPE=ART&REFER=SKIN&ID=71
http://beauty.about.com/cs/blackwhiteheads/ht/DealwBlackheads.htm
I hope I helped.
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Well here's the thing there's this guy i've known for 4 years. Ever since the first time I saw him I had a crush on him. He's not the best looking guy but i like him because he has a good heart and he always helps me with all my problems. I thought he really liked me until a new girl came to our school this year and he asked her to the dance.I got soo mad because i'm soo much prettier than her and me and him are soo much alike. Everyone says we'd make the cutest couple. The dance is in 2 weeks soo pleeeeeeeaaaaase help me!!! (link)
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I would just talk to him more and try and put a little flirting in there here and there and make him laugh and just be cute, and show him how great you are.
Also, ask him if you guys can share a couple of dances at the dance [ both slow and fast ] so you'll be able to talk more to him there and flirt, etc.
Another thing, is if you've waited 4 years, I would seriously just tell him. You've already waited so long, do you really want to wait around another 3 years or so?
Just keep trying, but if he doesn't like you in that way, then I'm sorry, you'll just have to learn how to deal with it. You can never really make a guy like you, you can only help him notice you more and then it's up to him to realize how great you are.
But if he doesn't realize it, it's his loss. Just know that.
I hope I helped.
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