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Easily swayed?
Whenever I go shopping I'd first plan what I wanna buy. But the thing is, when I've happily picked out the thing that I want, my friends will say, "that's not nice, you should try this one" and then they'll take out some old looking mature tops/bottoms for me to try. And OK, I'll take both my choice and their choice into the fitting room.
After trying my clothes on, I'd feel that what I'd picked looks much better on me but I don't know why do I always end up buying what they tell me to buy. That's cos at that point in time maybe I got brainwashed by what my friends said. And its only after I get home and I try it on again that I regret not buying what i had picked out for myself. This is seriously wasting my money!
This always happens and I HATE IT!! I'd always tell myself - next time don't do it again- but I just KEEP DOING IT AGAIN!! ARGH!! someone pls help me !
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Losers.
When they start saying that interrupt them and say, "NO! I am buying what I want!"
Then begin singing this.
I used to think that i could not go on
that life was nothing but an awful song
but now i now the meaning of true love
i'm leaning on the everlasting arms
if i can see it, then i can do it
if i just believe it ,theres nothing to it
i believe i can fly
i believe i can tuch the sky
i think about it every night and day
spread my wings and fly away
i believe i can soar
i see me running through that open door
i believe i can fly, i believe i can fly, i believe i can fly
see i was on the verge of braking down
somtimes silence can seem so loud
there are miracles in life i must achieve
but first i now it starts inside of me
if i can see it, then i can do it
if i just belive it, theres nothing to it
i believe i can fly
i believe i can touch the sky
i think about it every night and day
spread my wings and fly away
i believe i can soar
i see me running through that open door
i believe i can fly, i believe i can fly, i believe i can fly
cuz i belive in me
oh oh oh
if i can see it then i can do it
if i just belive it theres nothing to it
i believe i can fly
i believe i can touch the sky
i think about it every night and day
spread my wings and fly away
i believe i can soar
i see me running through that open door
i believe i can fly, i believe i can fly, i believe i can fly
Fly......y.......y
Once you get to the last "i see me running through that open door" grab the thing you want, and run into the dressing room, try it on, and then if you like it, go buy it!
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Ask for their advice but tell them not to PICK the clothes out for you.
If YOU don't like what they pick then don't buy it. Its your money, not theres, its your choice.
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well obviously youre aware of it so why the hell do you keep doing it? just say that you like your own fashion sense better. its not excactly rocket science.
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try shopping with different ppl.
or you can ask them not to tell you their opinion.
or just to make everything easier ,
go by yourself
you can still have fun =]
hope i helpedd
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Try shopping buy yourself sometimes. Whenever you KNOW theres something out there you want to get already and don't want to be distracted by what your friends say, just tell them you'll be right back and run into the store and buy it, or just go by yourself and snatch it.
Whenever you go shopping with your friends and they suggest something to you, just be like,"Thanks, but it's not really my style" or "I'm not digging it, but it looks really cute on you though!" "Eh, I don't know. I'm feeling this shirt a little more. I think I'm going to get it." "I'll think about that shirt the next time we come here, but I MUST have this one!", etc. Try figuring out a few things you can say to them and choose which one you like best. My friends always try and get me to wear stuff they like, but I tell them thanks, but no thanks. Whenever I go shopping with my friends, I also like to point out alot of the styles I wear and everything so now when we shop, they know more what I like to wear and what they can imagine me buying and wearing, so when they pick out stuff for me now, I tend to dig it more.
And just keep reminding yourself while you're shopping that you're not going to listen to them and buy what they want you to buy and just grab the shirt you want first and immediately go and buy it so you're out of cash to buy anything else.
There is also a beautiful thing called return policies! Just make sure to keep the reciept, don't wash it or anything, and just keep it in the bag and return it to the store.
I hope I helped.
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Return any items you can and from now on shop alone! Friends mean well, but unless they are financing their suggestions, you are in charge of selections. You at least are aware of the pattern and so you can avoid it by going shopping by yourself, at least until you feel strong enough to say no. Practice saying no in various ways in front of a mirror until you are comfortable with it. Usually, people who are pleasers, have a hard time saying no in a lot of different situations. You don't want to go through life letting others dictate your decisions, so start practicing and then test it out. Some ways to say no are: "I don't think so." "Maybe not." "No way!" "Whatever!" "Definately Not Me!" "I'd rather get this." "Not this time." "Doesn't work for me." "Thanks, but no thanks." "I can't believe how much I like my choice better!" "You have got to be kidding." "I'd rather not have help." "Your style is so great for you, but I have to be true to my own sense of style." "We don't want to look like twins." "That is not the look I'm going for." "Nah, I'm going to go for my first choice." "I am so much more comfortable with my picks." "I have already decided what I am getting, now let's focus on you!" I know you can use at least one of these to start with, and you deserve to stand up for yourself and your mind.
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