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Idiotic friend
There's this guy that I know and he keeps commenting on the way I dress. LIke for example, when I had my nails painted black, the moment he saw it he said "Hey your nails look rotten".
And there was once his dog stepped on my toes and I was like "OUCH". And then he just said "Good boy" to his dog without even smiling ! It was like as if he has something against me.
And he'd always say "hey how's life? Any lesbian friends? Got hooked up with any girl ?" And I'd say "NO!" .
I mean he's really making me mad with all those comments. I didnt do anything to offend him. Really. And I've heard of things like whenver a guy does that to you it means he likes you. BUt well I really don't think that's the case here! Cos there was once when we were crossing a really dangerous road and he didnt even bother to help me or hold my hand to cross the road. So this really shows that he doesn't give a shit bout me. And so, that proves he doesn't like me as a crush or something. So can someone tell me what's the matter with that guy?
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Guys are crazy. Well, some. My friends comment like that to me. I typically take it playfully and comment back. But from what I'm hearing in your question crosses the line. He shouldn't be commenting like that. I mean, I know people have their dislikes but they ought to respect people differences.
I can't really tell why he does this because I don't know him. But I have an idea.
Guys tend to present themselves as being "rough" and maybe he thinks he's superior to you and that he can't show fear. Maybe the reason why he puts you down is because he's insecure with himself.
To know the real answer you need to ask him. Talk to him and ask him why he feels it's necessary to bring you down like that. EVen if he is joking around he needs to know what's appropriate and what's not.
-Shannon
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Yeah, I know how you feel. This guy from New Jersey who was visiting my friends called me a lesbian and pushed me into the pool after I got my hair highlighted, which caused it to turn green. I hate that kid more than anyone I know.
But, that guy needs some help who you're talking about.
With the nails thing, is he blind or something?
Why the hell does he care if you have lesbian friends? That kid is a freak.
If he said good boy to his dog after it hurt you, the guy is insane. I would suggest some counseling.
"Just don't let it bother you!"
God I hate when people say that, don't you? It drives me crazy. I know you can't ignore it, so I'm not going to say that. But, what I am going to say is GET BACK AT HIM!
His mission in live is obviously to piss you off.
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Well, obviously you're right with the fact that he doesn't like you cause that's going overboard if he's trying to get your attention.
I know you're asking ME a question, but I have one for you. If he's being such a jerk and not giving a crap about you, why would you hang out with him? I think you should just forget about him, I mean if he's not going to be nice, he shouldn't be worth any of your time. Talk to people who'll care about you and actually LIKE you. So I would just forget him, ignore him, and move on. If he realizes what you'd do if he acts that way ever again, maybe he'll straighten up his act and apologize.
But, if you're really curious, try asking him if you've done anything to offend him or tick him off and ask him why he's such a jerk to you all the time because you've never done anything to him. And it offends you whenever he makes dumb comments about your wardrobe and everything because if he was a real friend he wouldn't be acting this way towards you.
I hope I helped.
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Ok Im not sure anyone here can say why this guy is acting this way towards you. I agree with your conclusion that he does not fancy you (if he does, then avoid him anyway since that would make him totally nuts).
So, going from the assumption that he dislikes you for whatever reason, the question is, why on earth do you bother to hang out or communicate with him?
If you dont offend anyone and they begin to harass you, you really only have three options in my opinion. 1. Stay away from them- this doesnt mean that you dont answer their questione etc, just minimise all contact 2. Get back in their face- Not neccessarily the best choice. Depends how comfortable you are with conflict. 3. Try to talk it out with them. Just sit him down and calmly ask him why he treats you like dirt, and why he feels offended by you. Depending on his age you may get some immature response though. Either way, you have nothing to lose in my opinion.
Whatever you choose, dont sit there trying to figure out why he acts like an ass. Its not worth your time. Either get him to tell you, or move on and hang out with other friends who dont treat you like dirt.
Good luck.
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