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Two Girlfriends?
17/M
so yeah, this os probably going to end up being really long so you can just leave now if you want...so yeah, some little background.
...so up untill like the beginning of this year (senior year of highschool) i have always been reeeaalllly shy. i only had a few best friends (granted, they were mostly girls) but no one that ever LIKED me. then, as soon as i hit senior year, i changed, a LOT. its like my whole outlook on life changed completely, i figured that this is my last year in highschool so i might as well go all out. ive gotten really involved in school clubs and all that, im a LOT more confident, ican actually talk to my peers without being too shy...and i think people are starting to notice it...so far this year ive had three girlfriends, and ive flirted (which i NEVER did before) with tons of other girls...so now i have my girlfriend of three months nd i KNOW im not gonna leave her, i love her to death....but at my work (i work for a city park so i only have 7 coworkers, including my boss) but yeah, at my work theres these two girls that i talk to more than any others, and i flirt with them like crazy....their both kinda cute, but i couldnt really see myself going out with one of them...but the other one...thats where the confusion starts. so yeah, me and this girl flirt more than anyone else, including my girlfriend...it gets really bad. i know im not going to leave my girlfriend for this girl, but id still like to get to know this girl better and see what happens with that...is that normal? i mean me and this girl really kinda just "clicked" nd it seems to me that she really likes me. she knows that i have a gf, but shes always sayin that that doesnt matter. so the question i pose to anyone willing to answer...is it incredibly wrong to flirt with this girl? i KNOW that theyll never meet eachother because the ONLY way theyd meet eachother is through me, and im not about to let that happen...so is it okay that i keep flirting with the other girl? what should i do? keep in mind id like to hear arguments for both sides, to keep flirting with and to stop....so yeah, thank you sooo much in advance...
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I think that as long as you and this girl are only flirting than w/e...but if things start to get serious you need to either tell your girlfriend or leave her because it isnt fair to her for you to cheat. but yeah...do what you want because you still have your whole life ahead of you and it's not likely that you will marry either of these girls...
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im going to be honest .. i flirt with guys even though i have a boyfriend but we go to different schools and i feel like i need male attention but the other part of that is that the boys i flirt with dont mean ANYTHING to me .. i think that it is alright to flirt as long as both of you dont want anything except the flirting. if you care about this girl and you like her than it isnt fair to your girlfriend and you need to choose. if it harmless flirting than dont worry about it .. its not that big of a deal because you are her boyfriend and you love her.
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Well I feel like you are being completely dishonest to your girlfriend. Flirting is already a form of cheating especially since you are totally over doing it! And how would you feel if your girlfriend was flirtatious around tons of guys behind your back and practically being all over them? I'm pretty sure you would be pissed and want to dump her. You said you "love her to death", but consider this: If you really cared for her so much, than no other girl would matter. You obviously know that what you are doing is wrong or you wouldn't be questioning what you are doing in the first place. Bottom line is: You have no right to treat your girlfriend like that. So if you love her you have two options: Let her go or let the other girl go. If you aren't ready for a relationship because you are getting used to your new personality change and the fact that girls are starting to like you alot, then I sugget flying solo for the time being and let go of your girlfriend and experience the single life for a while. Or if you really are wanting to stay with her, make it clear to these girls that you feel that them flirting with you and visa versa is wrong and you don't feel comfortable with it because you care about your girl. If these girls can stick with being friends with no flirting than that is a good situation. Just because a girl looks good, does not make her a good person. Keep that into consideration. Plus that girl telling you that you flirting with her is alright even when she KNOWS you have a girlfriend should be a red flag to you... So she is willing to help you cheat? So if you guys got together, how iwll you know she won't cheat on you, since cheating seems to be something she is good at? She doesn't care if you have a gf so she is willing to let you cheat and possibily try and steal you away. I was the unlucky girl in this scenario. My bf of now almost a year and a half had done the same thing to me. Our first 4 months of dating were fine, until a girl he was friends with at school tried to get with him. Him and her would flirt all the time and he felt like he made some sort of a connection with her. So he dumped me for her, just as she said he should. They worked for maybe a couple days, but he started to regret his choice. And who did he call back? Me. I gave him another chance, but your girl might not give you another one if you screw it up. And beleive me, it won't be worth it, if you dump your girl for another girl or continue this flirting escapade. Choose one or the other. But be warned: Think hard before making your choice, because lying and cheating are not the right choices to make when starting all these new friendships and relationships. So best of luck and if you need any more advice note me back. ~Sherah
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I think it's normal for you to want to flirt with this other girl. However, if you really love your girlfriend I think you should either stop flirting with the other girl or break up with her. It's not fair to her. If you wouldn't act the same was with your girlfriend their, then don't do it. If you feel that strongly about wanting to flirt with the other girl, then tell your girlfriend that you think you should see other people and pursue this thing with the other girl. If you just want to be friends with the other girl, then keep being friends with her, as long as she knows that you love your girlfriend and that your girlfriend does matter to you. How would you feel if your girlfriend did find out about everything? You wouldn't want to hurt her would you? Also, how would you feel if your girlfriend did the same thing to you? If you don't feel that seriously about your girlfriend, then just have fun being young. It really depends on how you feel about your girlfriend and how serious you are about your relationship with her. I hope this helped and didn't seem too confusing. <3 Dana
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I would just think of it as this way. Would you want your current girlfriend off flirting with other guys behind your back and everything? Probably not. It's not fair to her. I mean, I guess you could continue on with her a little more and see what happens [ nothing like kissing or anything, though ] and if you feel more feelings for her then your girlfriend, I know you don't want to, but you should leave her. If you really loved her you wouldn't be sitting there flirting with other girls behind her back and liking other girls. You'd like her and only her. Especially if you loved her. It seems to me like you want to really enjoy your last year of high school and make it special, and maybe you shouldn't be tied down to anybody - at all. Just go around, have fun, flirt with all types of girls. You can still love your girlfriend just as much if you two were friends. That way you can flirt with whomever you want and nobody gets hurt.
Oh, and belive me. Even though you THINK she won't find out ; girls always have a way of finding out things. I can't guarantee you she won't, but all someone has to do is be somewhere at the right place and at the right time, and bam it'll come back to her and she'll hear about it, and be crushed.
So basically, my advice: You want to flirt with other girls? Break up with your girlfriend and go enjoy your last year of High School. OR, stay with your girlfriend and stop flirting with other girls.
I can't really tell you exactly what to do, it's your choice, your decision.
I hope I helped.
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alrigh first off...if you seriously loved your girlfriend to death you wouldnt look at any other girl so much as flirt with another girl......or even leave her for another girl so you prolly love her but as a friend....and it was wrong for you to flirt with a girl besides your girlfriend....it lets the other girls see how much you really care for your girlfriend which right now to them...its not that much... but if you get with the other girl emagine she is going to remeber how you flirted with other girls while you had a girlfriend and left your girlfriend for another girl she is going to think well if he did that with his ex girlfriend then he can do it to me...so theres one of two things she might do she might just say hey if he is flirting and crap then i should to ...or she will feel your unfaithful and hard to trust and leave you....and if this girl seriously said that it doesnt matter that you have a girlfriend and she still flirts with you it will show that when you get together with she will flirt with guys and say to herself...wait i have a boyfriend...it doesnt matter....and if you seriously dont care for your girlfriend like this leave her before you hurt her...but dont tell her becus of another girl...that is just a slap in the face and it will make her feel like she wasnt good enough of a girlfriend
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You are seventeen years old, unless you are determined to marry and settle down with your current girl friend, GO FOR IT. You need to play the bases why you are still young to see what you really want in a relationship. I know this is looking far into the future but lots of young marriages don't work out because one of the party or both have not had enough experiences and they suddenly want to have them before they are committed to only one person for the rest of their lives. If I was you I would go for all three. :) And remember love hurts. You have to go through the mistakes to find the right one for you.
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