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Hi, my name is Stephanie. I'm an average 18 year old from Southern Ontario who loves helping people and giving them advice on pretty much anything. I've been trough alot of things so most answers in the fields of relationships and life problems are based on personal experiences so I know what I'm talking about =]


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Your friend, unluckychick ♥

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is it possible to email myself a video from my phone or any possible way to get the video to my computer? cause when i try to send it as a message it won't let me.

It all depends on your carrier, but I have done so with the few I have had and they hves all worked. What I did is, I opened the video/picture I wanted to send, and I used the send option in the drop-down-menu, and instad of putting in a phone number, I put in my email address, and received it minutes later on my computer.

Hope it works for you =]

~unluckychick~

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F/16 (almost 17)

Last night I spent Halloween at a friends house with a bunch of other friends, and I had a great time until everyone decided they wanted to watch Nightmare on Elm Street. Now I've never liked scary movies. Ever since I was little particular scary images would upset me and linger in my mind for several days or a couple of weeks. I barely was even watching the movie , I had my eyes covered almost the whole time. I don't care that I'm still afraid of scary movies, I hate them and I try not to see them at all. My problem is that certain images from the movie that I did see bothered me last night and I couldn't fall asleep. I slept on my parents bedroom floor last night, until 3 am when I woke up and decided to go back into my own room. But I'm almost 17 years old, it was completely ridiculouse for it to have to come to that. I know scary movies aren't real and I know that nothing wold happen. But even thinking things like that don't help. The images continue to upset me and when I accidentally start thinking of them it's hard for me to think of something else that easily. I go on gigantic rollercoasters at Six Flags with barely any hesitation, but I can't handle these stupid scary images popping into my head? I don't know what to do to block it from my mind and to stop it from upsetting me, and telling myself that it isn't real doesn't help as much as it should. What can I do to make the movie stop bothering me in the next few days?

I have always been a big fan of scary movies, so Halloween is my favourite time of year beacause they are all on tv and they are usually on sale to rent. My point is, I love scary movies to a point of addiction, but that's because I like to be afraid, afraid of something that won't actually happen. It's like an adrenillin, it realeases endorphins, like when you run, or do any other physical activity you like. It's a way to detress. In other words, there isn't anything wrong with you, you just latch on to those images because they bother you more, not because you are more afraid, it just seems that way. I mean, me, the movie buff, is afraid to talk to the person who sits beside her on the bus.. Everyone is afraid of something different. Besides, who cares if you're scared of horror movies, that's the whole point of them isn't it, no matter your age, or the business would go bankrupt.


Hope this is what you were looking for =]


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So, I got a 75 litre backpack today, and I was just wondering, how do you attach a sleeping bag to the bottom? Putting it inside the backpack is not an option.
In the middle front(in the bottom) there's two stretchy ropes that are circles.
So yeah, can anyone help me?
Here's a picture:
http://i39.tinypic.com/2hn9cup.jpg

Thanks!

As mentioned before, you can use a few bungee cords or ropes to tie the sleeping bag onto those stretchy rings. Another option would be to roll it as tight as you can and put it in its stuff sack, and clip it in with the two clips that go over the pouch at the bottim of the bag. I have a similar bag, and that's what I always do.


Hope this is what you were looking for =]


~unluckychick~

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Theres this song I hear once and awhile that I really like..I always seem to hear it while I'm in a store.. the lyrics are something like I'm going to california.. or something like that.. Its kinda like James blunt style..but i already checked on him.. If anyone knows please please let me know.. thanks =]

I think the song you are refferring to is one of my favourite songs as well. California by Wave.


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ok i need a little help on figuring out on what to wear to prom. its my first year going. i have deep red hair, blue-grey eyes, and pale skin. im trying to find out what would look good, but im stuck..

I suggest you wear a long or a short dress, in a colour that compliments your hair. Depending on the shade of your red, I would go with either a dark emerald, a pale yellow or a blue. Do not get matching shoes (or purse), go with black or white depending on what suits the dress better.


Hope this is what you were looking for =]


~unluckychick~

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17/f

http://i29.photobucket.com/albums/c285/Alviii_/Picture12-1.png

Should I change my hair?

My hair is currently long and usually straight. It is light blonde (not quite platinum) with dark brown underneath and hot pink extensions. I have a cool skin tone (warm colors look awful on me).

I am considering:

- dark brown color all over
- long platinum streaks in the front underneath area
- hot pink extensions beside the platinum
- blunt bangs (straight across my forehead)

Would you suggest that? I am worried that I will regret the decision. I do not want to blend into the crowd or look tired/dull. I was naturally blonde for many years but my hair is now a dull, mousey brown.

Personally, I would die it all to match your eyebrows (they looked rather dark in the photo) and then experiment with the foils.


I would start with blonde first, before platinum, and possibly stay away from the pink. You don't need to have flashy hair not to blend it.


Hope this is what you were looking for.


~unluckychick~

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Okay so i'm in advanced photo and to be in national art honor society we need to come up with community service projects..I HAVE NO CLUE WHAT TO PUT! Some people have already done stuff like take pictures with like elementary school kids and make holiday cards with those pictures..and i cannot think of one thing! Please help ASAP!

Okay so I have a few ideas that I can run past you. First of all, you mentioned using the photography for the service project. If this is the idea, here are some suggestions.


1 - You can do the age old "calendar fundraiser". Take 12 (or more to choose the best from) photographs of similar things and make a calendar and sell them at church or a bazar or any other community activity. Ideas for themes could be nature, people, holidays, or simply something random that makes you think of that month.
-> maybe having a 365 day picture calendar like the ones with the daily quotes.


2 - Do something within the community, such as photographing different landmarks and events specific to your area and making a "discover __town name__" poster or simply getting someone who's technologically inclined (if you're not) to help you set up some sort of slide show of the pictures for the town website (if one exists).


3 - Another good one would be to do something for the hospital residents during the holidays. Christmas is comming up soon so perhaps if each person got a card, they would feel better (for the moment anyways) and touched that someone cared enough to send/give them a card regardless of their friendship. This is somewhat lik your idea in the question but with a slight twist which gives you the opportunity to choose whatever you'd like to photograph (obviously something to do with the holidays but not religion specific).


Hope this is what you were looking for =]


~unluckychick~

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So here's yet another "what song is this?" question. I have googled, youtubed and facebooked this for hours and i can't seem to find he right one. The only part of the lyrics i know is "raise your head up" or "raise your hands up". It's a clubbing song and I think it is a remix. There is a part in it where it's like a bunch of girls signing the lyrics (as mentioned above) and yeah, that's all I know.

Many of you might be thinking of the song "raise your hands up for detroit", it's not that, I checked.

Thanks =]

I think the reason you haven't been able to find it anywhere is because you actually have the lyrics wrong. The song I believe you are looking for has the lyrics "where's your head at". It all sounds the same in the song so maybe that's why you haven't been able to locate the proper song. The song is called "Where's Your Head At (Klaas Remix)" by Jean Elan


Hope this is what you were looking for =]


~unluckychick~

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im 17 and i havnt had a proper bf before. ive had one lousy kiss. no lad has ever called me pretty/cute/beautiful etc. i leave for university next year. i have no prospects for a bf before then but i really really dont want to turn up at uni an inexperienced virgin. cos i just know everyone else will have done everything already. all of my friends have lost their virginity and have boyfriends. i really hate it but im not sure if im confident enough to do anything about it. :(

(The following may sound religious and pretentious but that's not my intentions.)

There is no reason why you can't wait until you know you are ready and have found the right person. Just because you are heading to university does not mean you have to be experienced, you can remain a virgin as long as you need to be until you are ready. I am 18, in uiversity, and am still a virgin. I also only had my first kiss a few weeks ago, and the guy totally understood that I didn't want to do much that nihgt. It doesn't change who you are whether you are a virgin or not so you need to ask yourself if you're just going to have sex to not be a virgin anymore or are you going to because you love, or at least like the person alot. As for confidence, just go to parties (clubs/bars when you are of age depending on where you live) and just go free. Dance with guys, maybe even a few make-out sessions (they're quite easy you just go with the flow) and just proving to yourself that you are capable of doing it will give you confidence. Then all you need is the right guy.


Hope this is what you were looking for =]


~unluckychick~

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how do I tell a girl I like her even though she has a boyfriend?

Not to be harsh, but you don't. The fact that she has a boyfriend cancels out any possibility of you saying anything. As much as you may like her, she will not appreciate you telling her at that moment. What if she DID like you, do you know how complicated that would be!? She would probably stay with her boyfriend. Maybe even out of guilt, even if she really likes (possibly loves) him. She will never get over the mixed feelings she is dealing with. It is best you wait until the relaship ends (a couple weeks after as to not overwhelm her or get her on the rebound) to say anything because that would be the best time; for you AND her.


~unluckychick~

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Ok well, I have a crush on this girl who is my friend. We don't talk a lot at school, but often do on Facebook. To me she is like so awesome. When I see her I get so frickin' scared or nervous. Anyways I don't know what to do. I wanna try to talk to her more but the chance never comes. We don't have any classes together either, but we do see each other in the hall way sometimes. We say hi sometimes, but now it sort of stopped now. Plus sometimes I don't think she likes me. She has this guy friend whom I'm assuming must be good friends with her. Sometimes they would sit next to each other on the bus after school and talk and stuff. Sometimes I hardly get a chance to grab a seat near her or something but she's always talking with friends and yeah. Anyways today I saw that she was leaning on his shoulder and stuff. Sometimes when I see that kind of stuff makes me sort of sad, confused, and hate myself for failing. But I'm not sure, could be that they are just best friends or maybe that I'm running out of time or I'm too late. I'm like so mixed up right now. She's just one of those casual girls, but to me she is like the greatest, she like became my true second friend and helped break out of my shell in highschool. I just don't know what to do I'm like love sick lol. Do you think I should send a message to her on Facebook about this situation except instead of saying it's me having the trouble I could pretend it's my friend and see what her response could be and maybe I could plan out my move?

First things first, do NOT message her on facebook about your "friend's" problem. It's tacky and impersonal.


You says you talk alot on facebook and less at school then maybe you should confront her one day at school and just say hi, initiate one of your
"facebook chats" but in person. After a while if you start to talk more in person then you know the friendhip is genuine. If you must know now, message her on facebook like any other time. Although it would be better if you did it in person but to continue with what you've been doing for a while, in this situation facebooking is alright. Make sure it's personal and not hypothetical. Tell her it IS you, and not a friend. LEt it sit for a few days and then get back to her,in PERSON.


Hope this is what you were looking for =]


~unluckychick~

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what do you think of this?
im a skinnyish girl with butt and boobs.
so i was wondering if this costume would look good.
[brown hair blue eyes too if that means anything]
f/13


If your question is whether you can pull it off, then yes. A girl at my highschool a couple years back wore this costume and it looked cute on her, despiter her size 12 figure. Just be aware that you should probably be wearing shorts underneath and possibly tights rather than knee-highs. Based on your age, you may want to go woth something a little longer to avoid the unwanted comments or jugements. Just a heads up from experience.


Hope this is what you were looking for =]


~unluckychick~

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Okay, so I just recently moved into my dorm room and there are cum stains on my walls. How can I get them off?

I did try the usual soap and water with no luck.

I cannot re-paint, or damage the walls in any way because I am renting so paint friendly solutions would be best.

The easiest thing to do right now would be to use either a MisterCleanMagicEraser or a rag/sponge with a diluted solution on it and scrub away. If it doesn't come off with that I don't know what to tell you other than to try just covering it with a poster or pictures.

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My girlfriend is really great and nice, but she's been acting weird lately? She's really wanting me to have sex with her. It surprised me but now she's asking me constantly. My answer Is always not yet? What should I do?

I suggest that you have a sit-down with her and explain that you are not ready for sex yet and that it doesn't mean you don't love her. You need to tell her exectly why you don't want to, make her understand your point of view. If she loves you she will wait. If she gives you the cold shoulder, let her be, she will come around.


I had a friend who was always pressuring her boyfriend to have sex with her. Her boyfriend was so fet up with it after a couple months that he said he loved her but he wasn't ready and that he would have to break it off if she were to continue. Not becase he didn't love her but because her actions showed no respect for him and he didn't want a relationship like that. She was mad for a few days but finally clued into what he was telling her and stopped trying to pressure him. They are still a happy couple today, so let this be a symbol of hope for you two.


Hope this is what you were looking for =]


~unluckychick~

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I like this kid he is funny but how can i show him how i feel?

Your question is rather vague but I'll do my best to answer it in as much detail as I can.


First of all, you need to figure out exactly how you feel about this guy. Sometimes we get the feeling we like someone because they're new to us and sometimes our natural instincs kick in to have a man to love. So figure out your true feelings and make sure ou really do like him and it's not just a fling. bOnce you've done that you can move onto the next step: giving subtle hints.


These hints include:
- smiling alot at him, but not in a creepy staring way
- talk to him alot, but don't bore him or gossip about people
- when you are talking, laugh reasonably at his jokes, keeping a nice big smile on your face
- also, if the situation permits, touch him when you say something or when he says something funny (by touch i don't mean grabbing him i mean say he tells a funny story you could say "thats so funny" and gently put your hand on his leg/knee when you say that but immediately take your hand off otherwise you may come off too foreward)
- find things you both have in common and discuss them, maybe even asking him to to it with you provided it is an appropriate activity (ex: the gym or running or volunteering)


If all goes well, after a few weeks or however long you need to figure out where you stand, you can either tell him how you feel if he hasn't clued in or you can be a little more blunt with your actions so he catches on. Peronally, I would wait long enough so you prety much know how he feels about you, and if it's in any way possible for it to work out, tell him how you feel. It may seem really hard, but trust me, once it's done it's done and you won't have to worry about it anymore. Who knows, it may be the best decision you've made.


Hope this is what you were looking for =]


~unluckychick~

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I just want to get some people's opinions on this: What do you think about girls asking guys out?

ANY AND ALL OPINIONS ARE GREATLY APPRECIATED :)

As far as chivalry goes, it should be the guy who asks the girl out. But as far as modern day goes, who cares who asks who out. If the guy does it, it's romantic because it's what was the norm. If the girl does it, it's sexy because she has enough confidence to do it and defy the old ways.


If you like someone that much, stop being hard on yourself and just ask him out already!


~unluckychick~

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OK so I'm going to buy a remedie for acne and i was wondering what anyone suggested.And does anyou one have any home remedies for breakouts under the skin in the chin area? Thanks in advance!

If you are planning on buying something I suggest either pro-activ (my friends say it wors wonders) or cydoxyl gel. My doctor prescribed the gelto me and after just a few days of overnight application my skin was visiby clearer, and that's a big deal for me because my skin was always grossed with different types of acne so some prodycts would help areas while making others worse but this is the first product that helps everywhere.


As for a home remedy, I suggest brown sugar, lemon juice and warm water. 'Wash' your face with it before you go to bead and wash it off the next morning with warm water. (make sure you cover your pillow with a towel, it tends to get sticky)


Hope this is what you were looking for =]


~unluckychick~

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I've posted something like this before but I guess I didn't make it clear that I'm having my birthday party at my house and I won't be able to go anywhere else. I'm turning 14 and I am gonna have the most of 16 friends at my house. I need ideas on things to do at my house. We do have a wii, trampoline, some board games and twister. Some of those aren't the funnest things to do at a party. I want to have a fun birthday and I don't want anyone sitting there bored. So please help me find things to do. There will be boys there so sleepover isn't really an option and I am doing stuff the next day. So please help! And thanks so much!

You seem to have alot of different things to do that don't last very long before someone might get bored so try this: Make the evening a challenge of some sort, make different "stations" and have different things you have to do. For example, at the trampoline station there could be a card saying you have to jump for 3 minutes without falling. (Obviously you would think of something better but I'm just naming things off the top of my head here.) You could also have some sort of championship thing going on with the bored games, and the winner gets paper money, as well as any other challenge. At the end of the night they can trade in their funds for a prize package(like a loot-bag). The wiinner getting a bigger one and the rest all gettting a smaller one, that way there is no fighting. But if you know your friends like I know mine, the competition could go to their heads so make sure they all know it's just fun and games.


You could also decorate your own cake at the party, I know it kind of defies the law of "secret birthday cakes" but it could be fun, and then it gets you excited about eating it.


Hope this is what you were looking for =]


~unluckychick~

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im 17 and in a longdistance relationship. the relationship will be a year in november, but has been long distance since july because i moved. any advice on how to keep things together more easily and make it work from someone whos been there?

I can only imagine what you are going through because I've never been in a long distance relationship per say but I am going through something similar with all my best friends because we all moved away to university. Just keep the contact by texting every once in a while and if phone bills permit, give them a call. Sometimes you can plan it, but others, keep it spontanious. You could always send emails every couple of days to eachother and if you're in the mood for something a little more personal, write one and mail them back and forth. Maybe even go on webcam every once in a while just so you have tha sense of closeness. Buuut! I cannot stress this enough, DO NOT result to webcams for anything sexual of any kind. This has been a mistake of many. The reason behind it that is if and when you break up, if there are any hard feelings, these videos will end up on youtube or another video sharing site. Keep the privae moments for when you visit eachother.

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I constantly break out but I am not asking how to manage acne (although if you have some home remedies that would be a bonus, aka 5 stars) but I am asking how t get rid of scarring. I have such bad scarring that it looks like I have acne there all the time!! Any home remedies, or products you've tried?

ThANKS!

I always had dry, dry skin growing up but recently I have been attacked by the 'curse of acne' and my doctor prescribed me "clyndoxyl gel". It works wonders, you just put it on before bed an voila, my face was amazing after just a few days. I'm not sure how well it would work with scars but it would prevent any further scarring. I reccomend asking the doctor about something different for that. Seriously, if it is really something that bothers you, a doctor or dermatologist can help.

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