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Last night, my boyfriend of over 7 months broke up with me. I dont totally understand why. We were madly in love with each other. But now he has some feelings for this other girl. Our families loved each other;we did evrything together. I dont know what set him off. But last night at a big festival, he dumped me. He was kinda nice about it but i still sobbed. I dont understand how you can break something like that off. The thing is, I want him back. I know that the girl that he likes would never go out with him because she only likes him as a friend. How do I win him back? How can i descretely show him that he belongs with me.
Please guys, I love him so much and im hurting so much right now.
Thank you so much!
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I'm sorry, but there really is no way to "win" a guy back. If he has feelings for another girl, then he has feelings for another girl. Just think of it this way. At least he wasn't dating you and wanting her at the same time, at least he honestly broke it off.
I know it hurts and everything, but the most you can do to try to get him back is just keep talking to him. Show him how amazing you are and how stupid he was for breaking up with you, and how you're there for him. If he makes an attempt at this girl and he gets denied, then comfort him and make him feel better. Then hopefully, he'll realize what a moron he was for hurting you.
Also, just be open about your feelings. Let him know you still care for him a great deal, and you'd really love to be with him again, and that the ball is in his court.
But like the advicenator said below: tend to yourself also. Cry when you're sad ; smack pillows when you're angry ; write when you need comfort ; eat ice cream, watch movies. Just cheer yourself up and go out and have some fun for awhile.
But if you want my real advice, I would think long and hard about him and your possible future relationship and if you really would want to have one. I mean, he broke your heart and just dropped you after a real happy and loving relationship for one girl? Even if you two did get back together, what's to say he wouldn't do it again? And it'd only hurt more and more probably each time. I'm just saying be careful and think about it, because you could be just as happy without him and being single and living and loving life, and you two could always still be in eachother's lives - as friends.
But, I hope everything works out for you and him though, and I really do hope I helped.
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I can understand your feelings of hurt and confusion. After all, it sounds as if you were fully committed to the relationship - and happy.
The thing is, your boyfriend wasn't. He had feelings for someone else and decided to act on it. Whether or not this other girl wants to be with him, he has these feelings - and that's the bottom line.
He has probably been thinking about this for a long time, as if your families are close and you spent a lot of time together, he's risked upsetting people he cares for. It's obvious he cares about you and respects you as he tried to be kind while ending the relationship.
This might mean he would be open to a conversation about things. Your job is to be open and honest about your feelings; once you have shared that you want to be with him, the ball is in his court.
While you could manipulate or charm, it's not going to help you in the longterm.
In the meantime, be kind to yourself. Cry when you need to, be angry when you need to, love though it hurts. It takes a lot of courage to be honest about who you love and what you want from them, but whether you end up wit him or not - you will be in a better place for trying to be genuine about your needs.
Best of luck.
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