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Hi my name is Lee Ann. I am 29 years old and Graduated from Bethany college obtaining a bachelors of music. I am a happily married woman with two kids, ages3 and 2. I currently have six books out on the market, all of which can be found on amazon. The first is called The Leaf: One fallen heart and a burning desire, my second is called Avengement of Glory, my third is called Spiral of Enlightenment, fourth one is called Prodigy of the Immortal, fifth one is called Augment in the Realm of Darkness, and my sixth novel is called Bond in the Spiritual Heart. I started this advice column to see if I could give good advice. Turns out I am pretty good, better than I thought actually. I enjoy seeing people smile when I give them good advice and they use it. It makes me feel better as a person to help people. I want to make the world a better place and I think that starting an advice column is the right way to begin. Writing is a huge part of my life, without it, I wouldn't be able to function properly. After seven years, I think I have done pretty well as an advice columnist.
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ok yall i need some help.ok the thing is that i like this guy but he is in the 6th grade and im in the 8th.he is as tall as me not imature so--- sweet cute and possibly likes me to.i think he does cause he always flirts with me but no one else.i dont no if i should or not. i think he is 12 or 11 and im 13.which isnt that bad .but the thing is if we do become bf and gf i dont want ppl thinkin i was just desprate or any thing like that.cause im not i just dont have alot of self confidence with askin guys.so idk wat i should do.plz help i rate high.
No one can think your desperate b/c lots of people date younger guys. I know tons of people who are doing that. I think you should at least give it a try. I am sure that he likes you if he is flirting with you like that. If you dont try and hook up with him now then you will regret it. You willwonder what would have happened if you would have done it.
ok this is REALLY about my friend..not me :)! anyway my friend Mag...is goin out wit this kid Andy..nd I'm friends with him too. Well they started going out when they didn't really know eachother like they werent friends or nething...now my friend is really confused because he's kinda boring..like he's really quiet...but sumtimes he can be funny...they don't really look lik a couple either..lik you kno how you can just tell when people are goin out..well you really cant with them... it's hard to expalin but anyway...my friend wants to know what she sould do..i'll pretty much rate 5's for naybody that gives a decent answer! thx!
If you friend isnt happy with this guy then she shouldnt be going out with him. I am not sounding mean. Maybe she needs a guy who is a little more outgoing. Some people who are shy like Andy are hard to show how they are. He is probably afraid to be himself b/c he is afraid she wont like him.
He probably figuares if he is shy then she wont have anything bad to say about him. I think that if your friend isnt happy then should find someone who makes her happy.
i really like one of my really good guy friends. He doesn't know. But im wondering if he could like me too or if he's just being weird because lately he's been teasing me a lot w/ his friends and he tells me he's always kidding and everything but i still cant figure out why they do it. Seems like they're looking for attention but what if they really don't like me ?? I thought he was still my friend!
Guys act like that and they dont really mean. Its seems like they dont like you b/c they tease so much but they are only kidding. Maybe he is rteasing you more than usual b/c he likes you to. He just doesnt have any other way of showing it. My brothers friends always tease me like that and they say i am kidding but they really are if they didnt like me they would tell they are not afraid to say it.
lately my boyfriend has had girls all over him or at least tryin to be. i dont go to the same school as him or get to see him all the time. i see him like once every two weeks. anyways here is my problem he used to like this girl be4 he meet me. he asked her out and she wanted to except she didnt because she thought he was a big flirt so didnt. and now she is going back to liking him and she trys to be around him all the time. (from what he tells me) and i know that he likes her still because he still talks to her and flirts with her. (i know guys are big flirts) but lately i have been getting jealous that she can spend more time with him then i can. one more thing on top of that i barely get to talk to him on the phone anymore. his phone is ALWAYS busy. and he has his own line so his parents dont use it. i know for a fact that no guy can talk to another guy for over 2 hours. i want to tell him how i feel except i dont want him to think that i dont trust him. because i do i just dont know or want to know her or trust her. someone help me out!! please.
I know how you feel. I have been there plenty of times. I know that you trust him you just dont trust her. I think that you should talk to him because if you dont you are just going to continue to be miserable. I know you dont want him to feel like you dont trust him. You should tell him that its not that you dont trust him you just dont trust her and ask who he is talking to for 2 hours. If he has the internet does it affect his parents phone or his b/c if has a computer he may be on it for 2 hours.
So is it true what they say, that once you are friends with a girl you are trapped in the friend zone forever, and it will never grow into something more? or is it just a myth?
It is not a myth. Most people who end up together were friends before they got together. Each relationship grows into someting more and stronger. Its different for everyone but there is hope for every couple.
I need to get over this guy. I have liekd him for about 14 weeks and I finally decided that I have waited long enough. How do I get ovre him? Please respond quickly, I rate high for GOOD answers.
Find something to do that will keep your mind off of him. Suggestions like getting involved in a school activity. The band or FFA or some kind of club. Or you could learn how to make smething. Learn to sew or evern learn how to play guitar. The best thing to do to keepp from thinking about him is to occupy yourself with something
My homecoming dance is on Saturday and my dress is black, just plain black with like a ruffle around the waist. I want to add more color to my dress so i was thinking of buying a ribbon to tie on my dress or something. Does anyone have any good ideas what color ribbon i should get to match my black dress? And where could i get a ribbon that i can wear? I rate high for good answers.
Pink is looks really good with black and you can purchase them at either walmart or even Jo An Fabrics. Any fbric store would have it.
ok I am talking to my X Boyfriend and we are thinking of dateing again cause we cant really let each other go...and my mom dosnt like him at ALL!! she calls him a jerk and all that....I have been asking her to give him another chance cause he really has changed....and my x boyfriend (might be boyfriend) he keeps talking about how I hurt him and he tells me that he was heartbroken for a month or 2 and he feels better that we might be dateing agian...but how can I get my mom and dad to approve of him again???
PLEASE HELP ME!!! I will rate all 5's I just really need ADVICE!!
If you prove to your parents that he is trustworthy then maybe then they will learn to. Maybe you guys should become b/f and g/f right away b/c you parents dont approve but you guys can go out. If shows that he can be a friend and a nice guy when your not dating then there is a chance they will see that he can be good as your b/f. If that makes sense.
i like this one guy named tyler. ive never actually really talked to him but i think he is really cute and i really want to get to know him. i have 2 classes with tyler and i dont sit near him in any of them. any ideas on how to talk to him without going too far out of my way?? thanx
You could write him a note and seeing how he is. Or if you need help in a class who could ask him if he could help you with it. Invite him and some other friends to hang out somewhere where you guys can talk.
Hey...my roommate (20/f) was in a horrible relationship recently and she's kind of afraid to start dating again. There's this guy that really likes her and he seems pretty nice. However, he's shorter than her, which she doesn't like, and he's pretty clingy. They've slept together before, they didn't do anything, so she was totally leading him on and everything. She hangs out with him still sometimes, but she always complains to me about how annoying he is. I know that she liked him at one point, but I'm not sure if she still does, it's really hard to tell. I know that it makes her feel bad whenever I say something about my boyfriend because she's lonely. Should I encourage her to date him and if so how? I really want her to get over her new phobia of relationships! Any advice would be great!
Well there is nothing you really can do. She seems like she isnt really ready. Maybe you should wait until she is comfortable enough to date. If you force she will just push away. Her phobia will go away when she meets the perfect guy. Dont worry your friend will fine him. I think that it is cool that you care about your friend so much.
Well, there's this guy, omg where do I begin....I love him sooooo much, and I know this for a fact because in the past I've had two bad relationships, and I vowed to myself that I can never love a man again....until I met, well let's call him Jack. Jack and I work together, and we've actually gotten alot closer throughout the time we've worked together. I've liked Jack now for 7 months now. I found out a while back that Jack liked me too, but I never really believed the people who told me because I've been rejected quite a few times. So yeah, I'm like deeply in love with him, and where I work @ we're about to get laid-off, but he said we're gonna keep in touch and besides we live close to eachother. So should I break the ice? Our management staff (cause we're both on it) has this blog thing, I write on it how I feel about a certain someone being jack, be he dosen't know it. But everyone thinks we date, we act like a married couple, and we just basically enjoy eachother in eachothers presence. We're almost like best friends, cause he's been there through alot... so I want him to know how I care about him but I dunno how, and i'm afraid that I'll loose what I already have with Jack. Do yall think there's a possibility that we could date?
I think there is a good chance that you could date and it work out. You dont want to end up with someone you dont know. It seems like you are getting to know Jack. I think that if you dont take a chance an tell him you will regert not saying anything. You should try it at least. If it doesnt work out then you go back to being friends.
how do i let him know i want to makeout with him? how do i talk to him and how do i know if he wants to be kissed. if he didnt want to be kissed would he be mad? if i see him in the hall at school what should i do. I RATE 5'S ALL THE WAY
I think that you guys should go to the movies. Its the best way to talk to a guy about making out. Its seems like you two are quite alot alike he is probably thinking the same thing. I suggest writing him a not and telling him how you feel. Or go to the movies and afterwrds you should just kiss him. Ifhe likes it then you are all set.
ok so my boyfriend and i have been dating for 4 months, but we've been close friends for about a year. when we first got together, everything was great.. we were so happy together!!! but then over the summer i went on a family vacation for alomost a month (i kept in touch with him as much as i could while i was gone, but i was overseas and it was hard) and when i got back (on his birthday! wouldnt think that was a good present? lol) he acted like he didnt care about me anymore. and it gets worse.. im a senior and he graduated last year, and he works two jobs, so it makes it hard to see him. when hes not working he "forgets" to call me and goes fishing or some other manly thing with his friends. now, i dont have a problem with his friends, but for some reason, his friends dont like me. whenever my boyfriend is with them, he acts like he doesnt like me either. for example, the other night he called me when i got off of work, and then in the middle of my sentence i could hear his friends come over and hes goes "look b!+
I think that you should dump him. He is treating you very badly. No person should be treated like that. I know you love him but i bet there is a bigger part of you that hates him. You will find someone else that treats you the way you want to be treated and this guy is not the one. He is never going to change. If you has been constantly like this for a awile chances are he will going to stay that way at least until he gets rid of his friends. Friends have a way of influencing you to not be yourself.
sorry it's so long, and please look at this in an open-minded manner, and i'm not looking for answers that say you're waiting for marriage so i'm a slut. i'll rate high if you tried, and low if you're ignorant.
my ex-boyfriend broke up in august and aren't dating exclusively, but we still hook-up from time to time. hooking up meaning having sex. we had sex today, and then i went to the movies with one of my close guy friends. we went back to my guy friend's house and we had sex. i really want to forget it ever happened and not tell anybody, though. the guy promised he wouldn't tell, and i trust him. the thing is, if it gets out somehow, and my ex-boyfriend finds out, he'll hate me. should i tell him or just let it slide? by the way, i'm on birth control and i only have sex with a condom.
I think that you should tell him. It is better that he hears it from you and not someone else. He might take it better if you tell him than some random person he hardly knows. Trust me information like that travels even if you dont tell anyone. I dont know exactly how it does but it does. You shouldnt hide it b/c every time you see him you will think about what you did and act differently and he will notice some change in you. You will feel better if you tell him.
What do you do when you've got two people that really like each other but they are both really shy?
The guy that I like ( and he likes me back) is really shy. We've done things together as friends like played tennis and gone to hockey games. But he's never tried to kiss me or even go to second base with me. The most we have done is hugged each other. I'm really shy too so I've never tried anything with him, but I'm worried that if I keep waiting for him to make the first move it will never happen!
I want to break out of character and make the first move the next time I see him.
Does anyone have any advice on how I could do this without freaking him out!
I think you guys should go to the movies. That is the best scenary for at least a kiss and holding hands. When you are watching the movie kind of look at his hands to see if he is moving towards them if not it is all you. If you are really shy then maybe you could write him a note and tell him how you feel. I am very shy and the way i can hold hands is if i am in a movie theater. Maybe you could drop your candy or something and if he grabs for it then you should to that way both of your hands go for it. Its not weird that you guys both end up getting it.Sometimes when things like this it kidn of happens in the moment if you are both shy.
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ok so me and my boyfriend have been going out 1 month this tuesday. but the only thing we've done is cuddled and like 1 kiss. it was just a peck too. :( he thinks i've made out before, EVERYONE does.. maybe because i told them i have. just because i didnt want to seem like a loser. so everyone thinks ive madeout before, so my boyfriend matt is really wondering why im not making out with him. well i just, dont know what to do. when i kissed him two wednesdays ago, i just like kept my mouth half open, because i never knew like, what i should do.. so then yeah idk tonight we're going to a football game, and football games are makeout central, and i know he wants to make out with me.. and i know hes gonna start to, but i dont know what to do!
HELP. ASAP
If you dont want to makeout then you shouldnt have to. Its your body and your lips and you do what you want to with them. He may want to makeout but if you dont then you shouldnt whether other people are or not. I know what it is like to have to lie to your friends in order to make you look like your not a loser. My advice is to do what you want and if he doesnt like it then you can persuade him to do something else. Guys are stupid you can persuade them to do anything.
Keep him mind off of it while the game is going on. Find some friends and talk to them and find some of his and talk to them that way he is not thinking about making out.
OMG!I told one of my friends (we just became friends this year) that I liked this guy. He is kind of a flirt but not too bad, and what happens the next day? She flirts with him more than usual and he didnt even talk to me once! Ugh how can I steal him back from the B-word!!!!!!!!!
Instead of waiting for him to come and talk to you, you should go to him and flirt back. Your friend has a problem with peoples happiness. Her way of getting rid of your happiness is to flirt with the guy you like. Ask him if he wants to hang out with you at the movies or something fun.
ok my boyfriend is about 20 and i'm about 16 and my supposelly home girl is telling him that im messing around on him with his best friend but im not and i guess he's believing this because he doesn't want to talk to me or his friend honestly i'm not the type to be doing something that bad and i don't want to break up with him because i liked him for three years and i dont wanna hurt him in ne ways
I have been there so your not alone. If he is accusing you of something like that then you shouldnt be with him. I know you have been with for 3 years but he doesnt seem to trust you at all. Why go out with a guy who treats you like that. He doesnt he believe you when you tell hi otherwise. I think you can do better and you can find someone who really cares enough to not have to ask whether you ae with someone else.
well i went out with this guy for 16mths and we broke up coz he cheated on me with alot of my mates i know its bad but were been broken up now for 6 mths and out of the blue i get this email i wana be mates and i still like you and all the rest of it i realy want to be mates but i know i love him to much to just be mates but i dont want to get back to gether with him coz i know ill only get hert agian and yet i also want to be mates im so confused i know i shouldnt go back but it realy herts deep down i dont know what to do please just help me i realy carnt deal with this on my own
I dont think you should go back to him. I know how you feel in this situation i have been there. If you get back together with him he will do it all over again and you will be in the same situation you are now. There is someone out there way better then this guy and if you wait he will come. You are a nice person from what i can tell. You dont deserve to be treated like that at all. I know it hurts and when you find that someone else he will actually make it go away. I suggest just taking it one day at a time and concentrate on something else like school or some activity you like to do.
I need some help from you woman only please. Some nights may husband is in the mood and we could go for a long time and other nights he just pushes me away and tells me that he's not in the mood. But when he's in the mood I better be. On fridays nights he'll stay out until 2:00am and that. I have asked him he's cheating and he tells me no.Should I believe him that he's not
cheating on me and let it go.
Hope someone can help.
I think that you should not jump to conclusions especially for the sake of your children. He may be and he may not be. My mom thought my step-dad was cheating on her and he wasnt even though she jumped to conclusions she found out he wasnt. I not suggesting you should follow him but knowing where he goes would help to figuare the mystery. If he works all the time then he may just need to get out and go somewhere where he can just sit and think. You shouldnt be with a guy who only wants to do anything when he is in the mood. You control your body when and where you want. No one can force. I think that even though you have children you should think about yourself and what you want. If your happy your children are happy but if you are not then your children wont be either. Bear with me i am only 18.