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My boyfriend and I have been dating for a short amount of two weeks, and only two weeks. Last time I saw him he tried to touch my chest as we were kissing and I pulled his hand away and I got extemely uncomfortable around him that night. He knew I was too. Here I am a week later and he tried to do the same thing again tonight. I let him for a second then just stopped kissing him and got very quiet after that and just continued to watch the movie. We kind of have this joke about how I don't like my stomach so he was laughing about it and he kind of pulled my shirt up just so you could see my stomach just a little bit. So I pulled my shirt back down, but he put his hand under it. I laughed cause he was tickleing me too, but then he moved his hand up. I pulled his hand out right away and luckily my mom came to pick me up after that happened.
I live off the moto- "forgive and forget" I'm forgiving him, but it makes me feel really degrated and small that he'd try that two weeks into this realationship. He's really sorry and he knows it made me uncomfortable, but I don't know how to act now. I want to show him it's alright, but I don't want him trying again... what do I do? Should I feel uncomfortable?

wwhat you do so you arent caught in a situation where he tries this again...is you tell him before you start messing around that your not comfortable with him going up your shirt and you dont want him trying it until you either tell him or place his hand therre..make it extremely clear. if he tries to touch you again, then there is a problem.
should you feel uncomfortable? yes ..if you dont want him up your shirt and he tries it anyway then i would feel uncomfortable as well. people move at different paces..and its perfectly fine if you dont want him up your shirt

i hope this helped
-meliss

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Ok...my cuzin like loves me a lot and i love her too but she's like really attached to me...i mean shes fun to be around but sometimes shes really annoying....i dont wanna say that to her but wut do i do!?!?!?

next time she wants to do something say something to her like :
' we've been hanging out a lot lately..how about you find something to do with a friend? i was thinking of hangin out with (one of your friends name) for awhile'

she should get the picture..hopefully she does..but be careful because you dont want her going toooo much the other way and end up never hanging out with you..soo just be careful of that also

-melissa-

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ok so there's this guy *Tim* and I have been talking to him alot on IMs but everytime we talk I somehow end up flashing him on my web cam. I mean I have dumps two of my boyfriends(now my exs). I really like this guy so don't tell me something like stop talking to him. I just wanna know if there is anything sneaky or something like that so that I don't end up flashing him!

I Really Need Some Help!

you can
-say your cam is broke
-tell him to flash you
-tell him you want to do it in person (hehe)

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I know this might not sound like that big of a deal but it is for me!

Well my mom and me have been fighting a lot lately..........almost like every day. But its never my fault like i would say " Mom there's no more laundry detergent." the she would blow up and say " Of course we dont because you have to use so much" and then she would start yelling at me bacause i ask for so much stuff and that she has no money to spend and i hate! I really dont want to hear about her problems then when i say that i don't want to hear it then she starts yelling at me again! please help me and tell me what to do! im going to start school on tuesday, and i dont want this to mess with my head so please help !

yeah i think everyones mom gets a little crazy and moody like that..when my mom gets that way i try to give her space and usually shes a lot bettter in a little while. so try just not fighting back and doing something like going outside,watching tv, just anything but away from her, ya know?
and if you want to brighten up her mood a little bit...offer to help out with something..let her knoww that you know shes had a rough day and you want to help.

hhopefully my suggestions will help..let me know how it goes
-melissa-

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13/m. me and my girlfriend have been going out for two months now. but im a pagan which most people think is devil worship but thats really not the case. but the point is shes christian and i dont want her to think im a devil worshiper, cuz im not, and break up with me so should i tell her about my religion or keep it ro myself?? plz help me

ok two months is long enough for you to be able to open up to her and talk...so maybe start a conversation about religion and tell her what you are but also tell her the myths about devil worship isnt true..she shouldnt let religion get in the way of your relationship

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ON the last day of school my best friend told me she would be going to private school next year. I really had a tough time making friends the whole year and she really was one of the only friends i had. She's away at sleepaway camp for 8 weeks and I can't see her!!! She didn't respond to any of my letters either. I'm scared to go through a year of school without her. I'll be so lonely!!! What can I do to make the best of the school year???

to make the best of the school year..
-make a lot of new friends..its not that hard just ask them if they want to study sometime at the library..then if you get along well while studying ask if they want to see a movie this weekend
-join a sport..sports are great ways to have fun and meet new people
-join a club

i hope this helps

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ok, i just got off the phone with my bf and...well....he asked me to make out with him and i said yes bc i really do want to make out with him. but he has never made out before and either have i. but i told him that i have...i know i know..it was wrong and ive learned my leson about lying..blah blah blah ok i just want to know how to do it and stuff. i will rate a 5 to whoever gives good advice and doesnt give me a name of a website. PLEASE HELP ME!

ok important advice about first kisses
RELAX! neither of you will be perfect because its a FIRST KiSS! so just relax and keep in mind that
-good breath is a good idea
-the momentt is better when you or him isnt ASKING to kiss the other person..just lean in when it feels right and do it
-first kisses are best kept short and simple until you get better
-first use lips ..then start with the tongue
-dont jab the tongue violently..kiss softly and passionatly

i hope this helped..inbox me if you want more advice...websites..etc

-melissa-

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alright. this will be long.
me and my boyfriend have known eachother since kindergarden. we went out in sixth grade, and broke up after 4 months of seeing eachother.
i am in love with him, and he knows it, because we have been going out again since the 2nd. last night he told me he loved me as well.
my parents do not approve of him though. i think it is because my mom thinks he lies to me (which he doesnt) and my dad never liked any boy i went out with (because that's just how dads are) my sister doesnt like him, either, and i dont know why she doesnt.
how can i get my family to approve of him?

hm this will be tough .i think eventually invite him over for dinner with the family..but not now
for now, keep talking about how he makes you happy and how great he is..maybe have your bf meet your parents..have your parents meet his..and eventually arrange for a nice dinner with your family and his

family approval is hard and they might not ever approve, but the important thing is that your happy

-melissa- :)

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well me and this guy were together.. but i never kissed him bc i didnt think i was ready.. now i just found out that he was playin with my head the whole time and that he has a gf... i wanna forget about him but he just stays in my head! all the things he told me and everything is stayin in my mind! i cant stop thinkin about him even though hes a scumbag! wat do i do??

man i know how it feels to not be able to get a scumbag out of your head..ive been there done that.
what really helped for me was going out with friends a lot because we always have the funnest time together and we bump into some new interesting people...this could be exactly what you need. hang with them a lot...get into something new like a new sport or making videos of you and your friends doing stupid and funny things..keeping busy will help a lot and you will begin to not think about him as much

i hope i helped you out
-melissa-

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I babysit a 6 year old girl. Is there any fun activities we can do that we will both like to do? Thanks for your answers. I rate good!!

well im 16 f and i think if i were to babysit a 6 yr old girl i wouldnt mind playing barbies and that kind of stuff..i think it could be fun haha but i dont know what your into..so i will list activities that are "babyish" and "fun for older kids"

-play dressup! take pictures
-play with barbies
-listen to music and dance
-watch tv
-go for a nature walk
-play basketball if she has a hoop thing
-write with chalk on her driveway
-hopscotch, jump rope
- go in the sprinkler or play with the hose
-dig in the dirt

i hope this helped..have fun!

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A couple of weeks ago I was invited to go to the NJ shore with one of my best friends, Sam. I was very excited...each of her siblings is bringing a friend, and she chose me to go for the week with her & her family! The date is August 13th-20th. Just today, however, she called me and was like "I just found out Catherine is coming too, is that all right?" Obviously I said yes...I wasn't going to be rude & tell her no. However Catherine is Sam's friend (their families are good friends too) and she does not go to my school. I have met her before, & she is very nice, but I really don't know her well. To be honest, I am not sure that I am so psyched to go anymore, because she is going to have Catherine there too. I know it sounds mean, & I have nothing against Catherine, but it just seemed rude that Sam never mentioned she would be there before. I am not sure if it is just her, or her entire family comeing (it is a very big house) so I don't know if it was like her mom who invited her or what. I honestly don't know if I want to go for a whole week anymore...I mean I am sure it would still be fun but it is just not the same. Do you think it is silly for me to be upset? Should I just go, or should I decline? I mean I still want to see the NJ shore & go to the beach & be with my friend, but it is just confusing now. Should I talk to her? If so what exactlu do I say? Sorry this is so long!

i can understand how your feeling upset a lil but you shouldnt let this ruin your trip. the three of you will have a blast and im sure your friend will do her best to make both of you feel like your getting attention..keep a positive mind because i bet what will end up happening is you and your friends friend will end up being cool and you two will click. have fun! dont pass this up because i know you will have fun!
-meliss

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ok...there's this guy that i might hook up with but i'm still not sure that i will but he was asking me if we hooked up if i would ever have sex with him and i said i didnt know...i dont know what to do because i dont think im ready for sex yet and honestly im scared...i want to tell him that im not ready but i dont know how he will react..

hun you really dont need to worry how he will react. this is your choice..BAM lay it out and tell him. if he has a problem with it...then hes a loser because that means all he wanted was sex from you..
if hes cool with it then good sign! he passed the test

but you cant be worrying how he will handle it
-melissa-

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I have another week left of summer before I go on holiday and I have nothing planned. I fell out with my best friend 2 weeks ago. We are in the same group of friends, but I haven't heard from any of them, and if I see them I see her. I don't mind putting up with her for a bit, but if I arranged anything she would have to come along.
I have another friend I have been seeing quite a lot of, but I think we are getting a bit sick of each other. I was meant to be going to a music festival today with her, and some of her friends, but I couldn't go because my mum didn't want me to travel on the train by myself. I've just been sitting around all day with nothing to do, like I probably will the rest of the week. Please give me some advice, I'll rate ya high.

well i dont see how she would have to come along. maybe you can pick your friends up and go somewhere like the mall,beachh,amusement park,movies, have a bonfire, etc. and just dont pick her up!
dont sit around the whole week with nothing to do...maybe get tickets to see something, have a big bonfire party, go to the beach, hang at a friends house, enjoy summer because school is going to stink!

here are some websites with suggestion on what to do in summer

http://www.funattic.com/game_summer.htm


http://www.mcps.k12.md.us/curriculum/pep/teachingideas/summer.html

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im not happy where i live. all people want to do here is drink.smoke and act fake. im not like that. i feel like im losing all my friends because they are all either moving or turning like "them" (only wanting to drink.
smoke + act fake) i want to move. but then again i dont. but i need to meet new people and be in a new place.. i feel so helpless.. i may be moving anways but do you think that will help? i just dont feel happy.. i dont know what i need but theres got to be more to life.. the only thing i want to do is move away.. become famous and seek love.. untill then im dying here... does any1 have any advice on that.. and thanks!!

i think moving will do you a lot of good..because the town you live in doesnt sound so great..a new and exciting start with new people can be just what youu need.
advice for now: stand your ground and dont do anything stupid.

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i dont feel comfortable telling my mom i got my period...how do I tell her? what do i say so i dont feel so embarassed?

i agree that period talks with your mom is most definately weird..but just gather the guts up to talk to her..this will be the only period talk you will have to have with your mom. i mean now that your menstruating your mom should know so she knwos to buy supplies for the two of you, this way one day you dont get your period and your stuck with nothing. that would suck

so if you two are in the car you can mention
"mom i finally got my period.."
its not like she will be "eeew" lol every woman gets it and she will probably be all happy about it
no worries!
-meliss

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Okay well yesterday was my first day of a new school. I didnt know anyone but I met this guy and we kind of walked together and sat with each other at the schedule place. He's so cute and really cool, i dont have any classes with him...how do i get to know him? I dont have his number or intantmessanger.

well it sounds like you should really ask for his number or instant messagner so you two can make plans to hang out on the weekend..dont be shy he sounds great and your at a new school so its all about meeting new people ..maybe have him show you around on the weekend to his friends so you can meet even more people. it could be fun

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I will be freshman this year. And I'm so scared and nervous. My curent friends are like family, but I can't really be myserlf around them. They are too much into guys. But I've been through alot with them in middle school. And I don't really have any other close friends. So what should I do? Should I find new friends, or stick with the ones I got?

definately keep the friends you have now but at the same time make a lot of new friends. your going into high school which is the perfect time to meet new people and really fit in somewhere.

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Hi guys.
Sorry if this is really long...i rate high.
Alrighty.
Well i have a boyfriend and i love him to death. We've been together for over 3 months and ever since ive knwn him he never EVER talks about his problems.
If i know somehtings wrong he'll say things like.."Its not important" or "Its nothing" when i can seeeee that its bothering him a lot. I want him to know that he doesnt need to act all tough around me. And i need him to know that he can talk to me about anything. I just dont know what to say to him.
Ive tried the usual..."you know im always here for you" and all that and he says he knows but it doesnt change anything.
Do you guys have anything i could say or do that would get him to know that im always there...and ready to listen?
Any advice is great advice!!
Thanks...
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maybe if you open up about something first, he will open up as well. like talk to him about family problems you used to have, a divorce if your parents are divorced,friend or ex bf problems, etc.

if you get on a serious topic and you open up, he might do the same

-maybe have a romantic candle lit picnic thing at the park, that could set the mood for a serious converstation

i hope this helps

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Hello. I don't really know how this works, but I am taking a crack at it. Lately, I have been reading many sites that teenage girls like me have been making about anorexia. Most often then not they are praising it, but I have found few who tell me to look away. I am about to be 15 years old in a month. Soon, I am going back to school. I weigh 204lbs. Everyone tells me I don't look overweight, but its not just the way I look. I feel heavy. I feel sick and digusted, but I when I read these websites I get inspired to lose weight. Though, never to such an extreme as to starving myself. Are there any diets or tips out there that can help me? I'm feeling really inadequate.

aw sweetie dont feel inadequate or anything..you are beautiful..love yourself! i know we all get down in the dumps sometimes..so if your gona lose a little weight..do it for yourself!

-excersise daily...go for a walk in the neighborhood , a bike ride, play your favortie sport, swim, go to the gym, jump rope, anything!

-eat healthy foods ..include more veggies,fruits, proteins, ...dont go fanatic though you know? trust me im verry overweight and i love to indulge in eating junk..so treat yourself by eating some dessert 2 times a week ..(if your excersising enough you can actually eat one a day)

i love to eat trust me..if your burning off my caolories than your taking in , you can eat more


***the following is from a website***********
join a track team and train for sprinting and jumping events. You can also start inline skating every weekend, and swimming once a week (any kind of stroke will work).

As far as exercises that will help, karate kicks are a very efficient way to tone your thighs. To do a crescent kick, stand with your left foot slightly in front of the right. Swing your right leg up into a 90-degree angle and angle it slightly to the right. Kick your right leg out and across your body in a semicircle, then return it to the 90-degree angle. Do three sets of 10 kicks for each leg. To do a back kick, start with your legs slightly bent and shoulder-width apart. Raise your left knee to chest level, keeping your upper body straight. Lean forward as you kick straight back, then return to your initial standing position. Do three sets of 10 kicks for each leg.

Also try sprinting, skipping, adduction and abduction (squeezing your thighs together or apart, using props like balls or bands, or exercise machines), and lunge walking.



i hope all this helped~!

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i usally do arounf 100 sit-ups everyday( not at once, but like 20-20-20-20-20) and i was wondering, how long will it be untill i see resultes?!

ok well i remember a while back i did like a bunch of situps like you have been doing and within a week when i poke my stomach i could feel it getting harder and i could even feel the burn

so keep it up and eat right and you will see results soon! little things like your stomach getting a litte harder and you feeling more energized, etc.
-melissa-

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