I think you need to try to not get your hopes up too much, because if he turned you down right now, you'd be heart broken. I'm not saying he will but there is a 50% chance because its between two girls. I think you need to act the way you always do around everyone else instead of creating another person that never existed in you. But, remember, don't get so excited, I've been there, it really hurts when something else happens.



-TheTeenGirl

I have a friend just like this, you are overreacting with her. Lots of girls don't grow interest in love for a while like most girls do. But we know shes not a lesbian, shes not into dating yet. But now shes had her first boyfriend, and shes getting into it now. So you should wait instead of being curious of her sexuality.



-TheTeenGirl

Yes, you did, that is your own fault. Making out with complete strangers that you aren't close to or with is not smart. Thats how people get used, you throw yourself at them without falling in love or bonding. Now you did everything with someone who didn't even love you, theres something you can look back at.


-TheTeenGirl

A suggestion would be to not even go. I'm not seeing a point except making out with a guy you hardly know or just watching your friend. Shes obviously not a good friend of yours if she ever thought you were a loser over something like not having a guy friend. I don't have any guy friends because I know I could never bond with guys, but I know I'm not even close to being a loser. So, I think you going to just lock lips with some guy friend sounds like a loser thing to do to be honest. Your friend just sounds like she'll make out with any guy who comes her way, so in this situation, you aren't the loser. You're what I call lucky, but don't go and ruin your reputation by just making out with some guy! I think you know way better than this.



-TheTeenGirl

This isn't overreaction, this is a bad reaction to betrayal. Arielle should have brought Erin in the picture with Britt so they can all be best friends that go to the mall together. I think Arielle should be left alone with her new friend and start getting more involved with Erin. If Arielle wants to be rude, and not be respectful of Erin's feelings, who was suppose to be her best friend, then that is her big loss. I don't think you can save it by begging to be Erin's hanging out friend again, I think she should come crawling back when she starts to miss Erin. Besides, shes not worth it at the time now, she lied, and afterwards she never made it up to her by hanging out with her again. And now she fights with her like shes done nothing wrong. You're a much better friend to Erin than Arielle because you write this question like you care about her a lot, you feel her pain, and you've been there for her, so go for being her friend. Assure Erin that right now shes better off without someone whose done these things to her. Have you and Meg invite her to your frienship, it will make her feel better, invite her to the mall with you guys and let her in your life, she needs that right now.




-TheTeenGirl

Usually when a guy wants, "time-out" it sounds like he wants to see other people, or theres a girl he might like and doesn't want to kiss you in front of her, in other words, this is hardly innocent. Hes the one who said all of this, so I think hes the person to ask. Tell him, "listen, I need for you to explain what you mean by time-out, when you say you don't want to kiss in school, it just sounds like you're covering up that you don't want to see me anymore or want to be seen with me anymore, so if thats the case, tell me, because I don't want to be slowly brken up with, if theres another girl, then tell me." I'm telling you to tell him this because it just sounds like he doesn't want to just get it over with and break up with you. You don't need to worry about acting, you need to start talking, and then you'll know how to act. He owes you an explaination of what he said to you.


-TheTeenGirl

ok, thank you. I need for you to ask your friend to help you get serious help, because you're serious about wanting this drug habit over. I know you're scared, but I also know that you won't regret it, just bare with me on this, ok? If you start feeling bad, nervous or scared, you can always tell me, but I know that you will need a friend to help you, thats why, I don't want you to feel like you are alone.

I'm not sure of what you mean by this isn't a question. But, I do believe that you can do this, I won't give up with you, I will help you. It is hard for you to get help because your parents let you and they do it too. I want to help you with this, so are you willing to take my help and at least try this for me?

Drug habits are hard to get out of, so I understand this problem. At the age of nine is very sad to hear, usually nine year old kids don't have stress, so it just makes your childhood worse, too. I can tell you that being nervous about changing is a normal feeling, you just want to be left alone in your misery/habits/and spot you're in right now because you fear change. You fear that you already think you're in a hellhole, and are afraid that you be worse and stuck. I'm here to tell you that this fear and nervousness is temporary, meaning its not a permanent feeling. As soon as you get off of drugs, you'll feel better, healthier, and I can guarantee happier than you are right now. You might have one regret, but most likely, you're going to come home feeling happy with yourself. The stress with your home and outside of home with drugs creates negativity, which is what feelings you are experiancing when you think about getting out of your drugs and drinking. You think to yourself, "are you crazy, why would I even think about taking this away, it relieves my pain!" Right now, you aren't getting away from life by using drugs, you aren't relieving pain when using them, and you definetly aren't happier using them. You have actually made your situation and stress worse, but you can get out of it. Your abuse from your dad is a big issue, its bigger than you think, because thats what causes your stress, and low self-etsteem, causing you to use drugs and drinking. So, I'd consider that a huge deal on you. Your friend is very concerned, I know you understand this, but you have to have him help you with this, help your parents and your family know that you need help, I'm not sure where you got help, but it couldn't have been the right place, because they would have gotten you help in a snap knowing you are only 15 years old. So, I'm going to need to ask you where you've gotten help, because I will help you make the right decision in this, I will lead you and tell you why it is the best choice for you. I need for you to tell me who you've asked, and if your parents know, I hope you inbox me again with your answer, because I want to help you, I will be here for you to guide you through this.


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-TheTeenGirl

I understand your confusion. But maybe everyone likes her because they may not be judging by how annouying she is, they probably go for her and thinks shes very pretty. I actually used to be in your shoes. I had a best friend, every guy picked on her and I never understood why. She wasn't prettier than me, I was skinny, tall, I loved everything about myself except the fact in my mind that I never got a lot of guys. I really didn't care, but I was sure curious about it. But then, after a while, I noticed something. My best friend was always loud, and spoke to every popular girl even if they knew nothing about her. She was out there, talkative, funny, laughing with everyone, making her voice be heard. That was the key to being known as a person rather than just that quiet girl. You may not have to be pretty, annouying, and rude, but if you are out there to where you are heard, you will be noticed. Besides, I truly don't think its important to be noticed, if you can't be noticed for the person you are, then you shouldn't make yourself change uncomfortably into something that you aren't capable or wanting to turn into. You can be loud, but never try to go further with yourself.


-TheTeenGirl

He needs to break up with his current girlfriend. You said that he told you hes loved you before he even got with this girl, so either he still likes you, or he is getting over you as hes falling in love with his new girl. If you don't know the answer, ask him. You already told him you liked him, so find out if he likes you back enough to let her go. But, after you ask him, you won't be confused anymore, simple as that. But it sounds to me like hes wanting to be with this girl, because I think he would have left her right after you told him your feelings. But yes, basically talk it out, don't be his best friend struggling with what might and might not happen.




-TheTeenGirl

I think that he probably likes it when you call, everyone gets shy about calling a girlfriend/boyfriend a lot. So, I guess lots suffer from 'phone-phobia'. But, maybe you could have him alone, and say, "hey, I really like you, but sometimes I'm not sure how much you like me, could you tell me, I really want to know, I won't laugh because I know you get shy, but as long as I know you like me." Its only over a month, so it takes lots of time to communicate your feelings well. But, keep calling him, don't hesistate thinking you're just bugging him, I think guts really like it when they get calls from girls a lot.



-TheTeenGirl

Its time to stop walking around the neighborhood alone. You don't know what the chances are that this, "hot guy", won't take no for an answer. You need to start bringing a friend, or doing a different activity aside from walking around. You can't get them to stop, but you can get yourself out of the situation so it won't happen as often. You don't sound sick of it like you say, when you say that you thought one of the boys were hott, it sounded like you wanted us to say, "oh babe go for it! Get in his car and go!" Well, I'm only here to say that you need to think about how much danger you are in walking around. You never know what will happen to you.


-TheTeenGirl

Ask your friends to stop dwelling on the bad part of their lives and that every girl goes through just what everyone else is goung through like you. You and your friends' problems are no different than normal teenage girl problems and you basically know what its like because you can't even do somethings they can, every girl gets sad that a guy doesn't like her, it happens, you're right, your friend getting into fights is all her fault, she has a choice to put her fists up or walk away. That doesn't need to be put on you with a , "you don't know what its like man, so back off." The next time she says that, ask her why shes even talking to you about her, "bad" life in the first place. Bring up that time when that guy friend supported you, and make your point clear that you don't need to keep rambling on about how life sucks, you need to be able to just work out problems together instead of hearing it over and over and getting annouyed. You're living proof that you don't need a man by your side to be happy to your friends. But don't try telling her about your life and how bad you have it, just tell her that you've got it slightly worse and you're fine.


-TheTeenGirl

I think you need this confronted with a therapist or a school counselor, thats really horrid to hear. I mean, you at least need to know that he loves you or feel like it, or talk to your mom about it. You can't change him, but you do have the right to know that he loves you at least. Maybe you could ask him for some father and daughter time with each other, go out to eat maybe, I'm very sorry how you felt after hearing that, especially to hear, "just because you died..." he said it like it wasn't a big issue, but he has no idea that it would be a huge issue for him. He does not know how much he would miss you, and then to hear himself say what he said to you over and over again in his head. He honestly wouldn't know what pain it would cause him.



-TheTeenGirl

Your friend sounds like she won't be with Tony any longer. She sounds like a girl who moves from guy to guy in weeks, so maybe they will be over soon. But, be careful when you flirt with him, its wrong to your friend. You could try talk to her into dating Jake, and maybe talk to him about how much he likes her and tell Sammee about it, and maybe she'll drop Tony. But until then, you could tell Sammee how you feel, it wouldn't be wrong and you probably wouldn't regret it, but she may tell you that shes into Jake anyway. But, its your choice, I think she'll be ove with Tony soon.



-TheTeenGirl

The perfect time would be when its later in the relationship and you feel like you can make a move, so if you're only wanting to make a move to impress your girlfriends, you're making a move when you aren't ready and for the wrong reasons. You're 13, so you should wait to "make moves" until you're a little bit older. For now, stick with hand holding and kisses. You don't want to make moves when you feel like you have to, to keep this girl. I think that you're feeling tempted to make a move, but don't let that pressure and tempt take action.





-TheTeenGirl

I think you and your dad are impatient with each other, but you are more impatient, being a dad and knowing your child has done drugs and grounding them for two months isn't going to fix the trust problem. It takes a long time, and for the way you were talking to him, "UHHH ok good] fuckin luck faggot!!!"] sounds terrible. That doesn't help either if you really did say that. Don't call him every 15 minutes, if you aren't doing anything wrong, then don't worry so much, because thats a sign that you are doing something if you keep saying you don't and bugging him. You should sit back and relax because obviously hes not going to find out if you say you've done nothing wrong. I think your dad is stressing about 4-20, because its a drug day basically, and hes probably thinking that you're up to something knowing you have done drugs. Parents are here to save you from a horrible life basically, thats what they are suppose to do. Every child always says their parents are ruining their life, but they are mking things the way they are now so you can thank them and the way you are when you're older later. I know you want to plug your ears or close your eyes seeing that, but its true, yes, even I've had times where I think my parents ruin my life. But you need to calm down about your dad and keep waiting until he trusts you again.




-TheTeenGirl

Have your band let her know that shes a very important part of it even though she has lots of thoughts and applies them with no one elses' consideration. Tell her it would be better if everyone sat down and discussed ideas for the band and if any one has disagreements to step up and tell them why you aren't agreeing. That could be another problem, its rude at the same time to let her decide without saying anything until she does it a hundred more times. Your friend is probably offended because she feels ganged up by all of you, tell her you like some of her thoughts, but there are times when you disagree, have only 1 of you tell her this, because the whole band is like being hurt with an audience. Tell her that you all need to decide group-wise because everyone gets to decide for everyone in the band. Also tell her its nothing against her, if anyone else was doing this, they'd be confronting it to them, too, but its her.




-TheTeenGirl

DO NOT HAVE SEX. And do not date this guy, he wants to date you, and use you for sex, which is the last mistake you want to make in your whole life, you will regret it. I can promise you that, you will look back and regret it. You say you aren't ready, then don't do it! You do not need to date this guy either, he keeps asking you to have sex and you still don't get it that hes pressuring you big time? Your title says Pressure, but if you knew it was pressure, you know its wrong and you'd know the answer to this question, please do not have sex with this guy or date him, hes not a good guy for you.


-TheTeenGirl

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