|
bad dad
hey the other day my dad made me feel really bad i didnt say anything to him and we talked about ppls death and if I died I asked if he would cry forever like my mom said she would think about me every night and cry but all he said was no i can't put my life away just because u died i would need to move on i feel really bad and my dad has always been caring for just himself. Whenever I try talking to him he starts yelling for no reason. What should I do?
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Families?
aw...thats sad..i knwo how u feel though..my dad left me and my mom when i was about three and he only comes around when he wants something, and when he does hes usually mean to me..he use to hit me alot and i just stood there and took it..and it use to hurt me really bad..not just physically but mentally too, and one day i decided that i wasnt gonna let him get to me anymore and thats what i did..he stopped hitting me because i didnt do anything back..he got tired of it i guess..so i guess what im tryin to say is just tough it out and youll be ok in the end i promise!
]
Mom answered you like a mom. Dad answered like a dad! They both would feel bad if you died. Mom and dad would both cry for a long time. Dad's (for some reason) think they have to be tough guys! They aren't always but it makes everyone feel safer thinking they are!
Dad answered truthfully. Whenever we lose someone we love, we feel really bad and cry for a long time. But, like he said, life does go on. He still has to feed the rest of the family and everyone still has to get up everyday and do their thing. He probably sounded a little harsh but he told you how it is. You will understand it more as you get older and when you experience it firsthand.
Dad's are also sometimes under a lot of stress at work and stuff that can make them yell a lot and sometimes seem selfish. Next time he starts yelling for no reason...ask him why. He might have a reason, you just may not realize what it is. If he's in a bad mood, just kind of steer clear of him until he's in a better one. Hope that makes you feel a little better! :)
]
I think you need this confronted with a therapist or a school counselor, thats really horrid to hear. I mean, you at least need to know that he loves you or feel like it, or talk to your mom about it. You can't change him, but you do have the right to know that he loves you at least. Maybe you could ask him for some father and daughter time with each other, go out to eat maybe, I'm very sorry how you felt after hearing that, especially to hear, "just because you died..." he said it like it wasn't a big issue, but he has no idea that it would be a huge issue for him. He does not know how much he would miss you, and then to hear himself say what he said to you over and over again in his head. He honestly wouldn't know what pain it would cause him.
-TheTeenGirl
]
Well may b u should talk to your mom and see what her input is and if she does not no then... you should b like crying n go up to your dad n b like daddy we reelii do need to talk hope i helped at least a lil! love ya! <3 buh byez
]
Maybe you should ask your dad wat's on his mind and talk to him about stuff he likes! Then ask him why he keeps yelling at you... or you should forgive him, i mean i don't think he really wants to think about you dying! hope i helped!
]
More Questions: |