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friends who dk when to stop
can someone help me? my friends always say how sad they are and depressed bc they are alone and don't have a bf, or they say how their life sucks when they have one. Or they just brag on how much they love him...and ect...and it pisses me off...bc my life is worst then all their's compared basically...and my friend always saying how she is fighting and getting dention (sp?) amd shit and it annoys me...bc its her choice to get into fights not mine...and also i never had a bf...im not allowed till im 16 which is next year...and they always say how their parents never let them do things..when mine are much more strict then theirs..and my life is much worse then theirs or just as bad...and i dont have a bf to courage me to stay strong like they do!! plz help me :-(
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i can relate to this alot.. and its because we're teenagers.. we just go through this stage and theres not much you can do except realize the fun in life.. but if you think about it.. your life isnt that bad.. your parents are strict because they care about you and dont want you to get hurt. i know thats not what you want to hear but its the truth. we all think that our lives suck but the truth is. they really dont.. we have it lucky..
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You need to tell them, upface and boldly, "you guys need to stop complaining, you dont know what some other people have been through, and alot of people have it way worse than you and i really think you should shutup, in comparison with other people, those arent really problems", you know? well..work off of that. ive done that alot of times before and they were just shocked because they knew i was right and they just stopped to think about it and i guess they stopped..well not entirely just not so much. good luck!
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You cant control how mean people are going to be about their lives. You just have to understand that maybe their lives arent as bad as yours so little stuff that goes wrong means a lot to them; and they arent as strong emotionally as you are because they havent had as much hurt in their lives. I know it can get annoying at times, but just try to understand. Or maybe just dont listen to their crap.
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Ask your friends to stop dwelling on the bad part of their lives and that every girl goes through just what everyone else is goung through like you. You and your friends' problems are no different than normal teenage girl problems and you basically know what its like because you can't even do somethings they can, every girl gets sad that a guy doesn't like her, it happens, you're right, your friend getting into fights is all her fault, she has a choice to put her fists up or walk away. That doesn't need to be put on you with a , "you don't know what its like man, so back off." The next time she says that, ask her why shes even talking to you about her, "bad" life in the first place. Bring up that time when that guy friend supported you, and make your point clear that you don't need to keep rambling on about how life sucks, you need to be able to just work out problems together instead of hearing it over and over and getting annouyed. You're living proof that you don't need a man by your side to be happy to your friends. But don't try telling her about your life and how bad you have it, just tell her that you've got it slightly worse and you're fine.
-TheTeenGirl
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