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does anybody have any suggestions for auditiioning for a musical? our school is holding audtions for beauty and the beast and i really want to make it. or any general ideas to become a better singer in general. thanxs

Enthusiasm and practice. If you show up prepared and maybe even have some of the songs or lines memorized already that will show that you are very dedicated. If you are enthusiasic, that will show how excited you are and how much you would contribute. You can't become a better actor or singer, but if you go in with the right attitude, you should get an awesome part. Good luck! :)

How do you have sex and can u tell me all of the risks and such cuz i cant talk to my dad and i dont live with my mom.

Check out these websites. They will answer all of your questions. :)

http://www.coolnurse.com/sex_stuff.htm
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_intercourse

If you do decide to have sex, make sure that you take all of the proper precautions and know of all of the possible consequences.

Ive seen alot of like basketball players who have this like.. thingie on their foot. its like a brace but like.. i have no idea what its called, but theres a little hole where their knee is and its like from lower thigh to upper calf. whats the name and what are they for? also do they cost alot of money.. and what sports do you wear them for? thanks!

It's a knee brace. It's not really for style even though they do look pretty cool. Basically, you wear it if you have a sore knee for support so that you don't injure it.

http://shopping.yahoo.com/s:Braces%20%26%20Supports:7608-Type=Knee%20Braces

There's no reason why you wouldn't be able to wear one even if you don't have a sore or injury prone knee. I have seen them for sale at WalMart and one will probably cost less than $20. Good luck. :)

I smoke pot, and cigeretes and today he asked why my jaket smelled like smoke, my friends arent on aim (litteraly no one) so i want to know if i should keep lieing of if i should hold my balls and tell him i smoke. PLEASE HELP!

He knows. It would be the mature thing to confess. You made the choice to smoke knowing that he wouldn't approve, so you need to be ready to deal with any and all of the consequences. Trust me though, you will be better off if you tell him than if you don't and he finds out for sure, which he will. He'll be looking for it now.

I am also going to make an attempt in convincing you that you need to quit smoking. Most teens that begin smoking say that they will quit sometime, but for the majority, that time never comes. I am very against smoking, now more than ever before. I have a very sad and true story that I want to share with you about my uncle. I grew up knowing that he smoked and it bothered me a little, but I never really understood the possible consequences. To make a long story short, at the age of 50 he had a heart attack. It wasn't the heart attack that killed him though. Because he was a smoker, once he passed out from the heart attack he stopped breathing. He was rushed to the hospital, but in the 20 minutes it took him to get there, his brain hadn't gotten enough oxygen and had died. He lived, but as it is commonly referred to, he became not much more than a vegetable. You see that stuff on TV all the time and you think that the actual possibility of it is small, but when it happens to someone that you care about so much that is so close to you it hurts like nothing else ever could. You don't want to do that to your family. I think about my uncle every day and wish that I had put more of an effort into getting him to stop smoking. It could have saved his life. The high that you get from smoking does nothing for you in your life. It feels good at the time, but if you want to feel good just go masturbate or something. There are many more healthier things you can do. Smoking is pointless and stupid. If it's a friend thing, maybe its time for someone to be the mature one and say you know what, this sucks. You need to do the right thing not only for yourself, but for them, your family, and your future family. Please get whatever help that you can to quit. You don't want your family to have to decide whether or not to pull the plugs and let you die or keep you alive when all you can do is blink.

okay well yesterday i was at JCPenney and i know this is really really really stupid but my friend stole a bra and she told me to take 2 of them so i did... we took off the tags and everything and we put them in out purses.

now i feel soo soo soo bad. i seriously don`t know what to do. please don`t say anything about talking to my mom or to someone about it or also don`t say take it back to the store or anything related to going in the store. i swear i never want to go into JCPenney's again. and it`s not my friends fault, it`s my fault for doing it. i am religious and a catholic and i was wondering if i went to church (not confession) if i prayed do you think God forgive me or not ..? will anything bad happen to me?! ugh please help. i`m so confused about what to do. thanks so much.

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This is a tough situation. I think that the only way you will feel better about it is to try to fix it. Bringing the bras back to the store is a very noble idea. Yes, God will forgive you, but that doesn't mean that He doesn't want you to make it right. Your guilt is God's way of telling you to do the right thing. You made this mistake and only you can make it right. Sure God will forgive you for it, but that isn't going to make you feel any less guilty until you make an honest effort to correct what you did. So, go in the store, say that when you got home you found the bras in with your stuff and you were returning them because you didn't pay for them. None of that is a lie, it won't embarass or humiliate you, and it will solve everything. The people working there will assume that you just made an honest mistake. Their assumptions aren't your problem. Good luck! :)

Okay, so I have a penpal in Germany. I live in Virginia, United States and this kid lives in Weismain, Germany I believe. Keyfact is that he lives in Germany.

Well I want to reply his letter but I don't know what stamps to put on there...do I put on a stamp that says Air Avion Air Mail on it along with stamps?

Could you give me the exact name of the stamp (like the Air (Par?) Avion Air Mail) and the amount of each stamp and how many of each amount? Thanks

This website will tell you exactly what you need if you don't want to go to the post office. :)

http://www.usps.com/tools/calculatepostage/welcome.htm?from=home&page=0061calculatepostage

how do i restart my computer like its brand new? i've done it before but i forget how.

It's called reformatting. Basically all you need to do is turn your computer off and restart it with your Reinstallation CD in it. After you go through all of that, load all the drivers and programs from the other disks you have. There are a ton of instructions for this on the internet. Just search for "how to reformat hard drive" and print one of them out in case you get into trouble. Good luck. :)

yea so i just got dumped yet again theres something seriously wrong with me ok but yea on to the question

ok well she dumped me cuz she said she thinks might be a better friend then a bf but like an hour before that we were laying in my bed making out but she also says that she is still gonna call me and stuff like everyday and she still wants to be friends

1)is this an excuse

2)if not an excuse do i still have a chance at getting back together with her ...i really really like her

3)what should i do?

please please help

You could try giving her an ultimatum. Tell her tha tyou care about her so much that you wouldn't be able to be just friends with her. If she doesn't want to try to work things out you two are going to have to stop talking altogether because you will just keep fighting to get her back. It might work, it might not. In any case, for awhile at least (a year), even if she won't get back with you, stick with the plan. Don't talk to her at all. It'll help you get over her and it might make her miss you so much that she'll want to get back with you. There's nothing wrong with you. Relationships tend not to work when you're a teenager for everyone. Good luck. :)

ok well me and my gf just broke up and i just really want to be sad right now every one is all like u need to get happyer or w/e but i just really want to lay down and listin to sad music

so dose any one know any sad songs i could get

for instanse
tonight i want to cry-keith urban

kinda stull like that

thanx

"All Out of Love" by Air Supply is a great sad song.

I hope you feel better soon. :)

ok well my gf has let me know politely that i am not that good at making out.
so dose ne one have ne tips for me on what to do while im making out to make it better or to make her think im better
??

The best thing you can do is ask her what you are doing wrong. You can look at all the tips in the world, but the only thing that's actually going to help is practice and direction. It takes some time to become a good kisser. It'll go a little faster if you just ask her how you can improve. Good luck. :)

Hey I'm Amanda. I'm 13 and Children and Youth just took me and my 2 year old brother from my home because of my mom's drug use of a pill Oxycotin. It is an addictive drug and the Doctors keep giving it to her so it's really not her fault because she thinks it's okay. I am staying at my dad's and his girlfriend and their all lovey dovey all the time and I'm really not used to it because my mom doesn't have a boyfriend. I can only have supervised phone calls and supervised visits. I miss her so much and I'm not even allowed to go to my friends house because my mom can "possibly" go there even though she doesn't even leave her house.I'm really mad at Children and Youth and I wanna tell them how I feel but I'm just a number to them. I hate my life and I dont know how to deal with this.Can you help me?

Any change is difficult. I know that you are hurting right now, but Children and Youth doesn't make mistakes about things like this. Whatever the circumstances were surrounding the Oxycotin, your mom has an addiction that she needs to get over. While she is doing this, she can't take care of you and your brother. I can understand why you are angry with Children and Youth, but I think that you should direct your anger toward the real problem - the drug. It has totally messed up your mom's life. I'm sure she misses you just as much as you miss her.

Dealing with this is going to be hard. What you need to focus on is that being away from your mom is the best thing for her right now because she needs to get better. It sucks that you can't see her at all, but drug addictions can be a very dangerous thing. Who knows what she will do if her brain gets all screwed up from not having the drug. You wouldn't want her to hurt you would you? She would feel terrible about it for the rest of her life because it would have been the drugs that did it, not her. You need to be strong right now and you need to do it for your mom. In other words, get through this for her.

If your dad and his girlfriend's intimacy bothers you I think that you should tell your dad. I'm sure he wants your stay with him to be as comfortable as possible. He probably has no idea that what he is doing is a problem at all. Just tell him that you're not used to it and you'd really like it if he tried to tone it down. The supervised phone calls and visits probably aren't just to invade your privacy. I think that Children and Youth probably said to do that in order to protect you in case you tried to meet up with your mom or something. It's not that they are targeting you, but I'm sure that in the past that they have had problems with other kids trying stuff like that. It's just a precautionary thing. It sucks, but there's really nothing you can do about it. It would be good to tell your dad that you're having a hard time dealing with all this. Having a closer relationship with your dad may be just what you need. Tell him everything. It will help a lot. I hope that your mom gets over her addiction soon and I wish you the best of luck in adjusting to your new situation while she does. :)

i have shoulder length hair and was considering getting a very cute hairstyle i saw in a magazine which is a little below the chin with side swept bangs, but i've noticed that no guys seem to like short hair... everyone i've asked says they only like long hair on girls so i'm just curious why this is and if i should still cut my hair?

Guys do tend to say that they like long hair. What they say they like and what they actually think looks good is different. When talking about hair people usually stick with the extremes - long and short. A lot of the time though, someone's hair will be in between. Pretty much what this means is that anything that isn't really short is fine. I think that if it looked good in the magazine and if you want to do it, that you should. A guy isn't going to not ask you out because of your hair. You are the one that decides how you want to look. If you like it, that's all that matters. Liking the way you look will give you confidence and self-esteem which will attract a guy much more than the look itself will. Good luck! :)

Ok well me and my friend Nick have been going out for ever and i realllyyy like him, and well hes broken up with me twice for other girls, and about 3 weeks ago he broke up with me for this girl named brook, and so me and my friend derick started talking alot and we started to realllyy like eachother and i went to one of his wrestling meets and we kissed and stuff and that night nick wrote me a 2 page note about how he feels and how he broke up with brooke for me, and i didn't know what to do because i knew nick was gonna ask me out and derick really wanted to ask me out but his best friend likes me, so he didn't know if he should, but i realllyy like derick and then nick asked me out and i felt really pressured so i just said yes and now im missing every thing me and derick used to do and i tihnk a made the wrong decision, but i dont know what to do because nick is like IN LOVE with me but i kno he will probably break my heart again like hes done in the past but i would feel bad for breaking up with him sense its only been like 3 or 4 days....HELP!

If Nick really cared about you he wouldn't repeatedly leave you for other girls. He is using you. He goes back to you in between his other relationships because he knows you will take him back. My advice to you - NEVER DATE THIS JERK AGAIN!
You need to have some respect for yourself. He is lying to you. He doesn't care about you at all. Don't waste your time or your heart on him. He'll just keep leaving you over and over. You can do so much better than him. :)

Good luck.

what is that song that goes:
rock your body, move your mody?

and its not justin timberlake.

i heard it at dance class and i never asked my teacher what the name of the song was, and i tried looking it up on iTunes and no luck =[

someone please help!

thank youu!

answers would be appreciated!

It could be "Backstreet's Back" by the Backstreet Boys. :)

i just started running this year, and it's become something that i really enjoy. i ran cross country and i didn't do so well because, i`m built to be a sprinter. but anyways, during the cross country season, i had some problems with shin splints. they only came every once and a while, and they weren't a major issue, so i just worked through it.. now i`m doing indoor track. we practice on our outdoor track because we don't have an indoor track. our outdoor track is illegal. we can't even hold meets at our school because of it. its uneven and one of my friends broke her foot on it. we've been having sprinting practice out there, and my shin splints have gotten worse because of it. i have them the second i stop running, and they don't go away anymore. i ice them every night, and i stretch properly, but nothings working. my coach also has us running in the hallways at school. i never thought sprinting on tile was such a good idea either. thats the only way we can practice though. i don't know how else to get my shin splints to go away. i`m doing great in track, and quitting is definitly out of the question. if you have any ideas on minimizing shin splints please help!

See a doctor. I got shin splints really bad when I was in high school. They made me see the athletic doctor that visited my school every week and he gave me a whole sheet of stretches I could do. They worked so well! I'll tell you the stretches that worked best for me.

The first is to find a staircase with a railing. Stand on a stair with your heels hanging off the edge. Stand up on your tippy toes, then let your heels fall below the stair. Do this all in one motion and keep doing it until your shins really start to hurt. Repeat this two or three times.

The other stretch is what helped me get through the rest of the season. Kneel down on one knee so that you are sitting on one of your feet with your toes pointed straight back behind you. Lean all the way back so that your upper back touches the ground behind you. It's amazing. Do it with both legs.

This stretch didn't work for me, but I have heard that it worked well for other people that got shinsplints. Lay a towel out on the floor. Stand at the end of it and try scrunching the whole thing up with your toes.

The reason that I believe I got the shinsplints was because I was using old sneakers. Sometimes if you buy a new pair of sneakers it will solve your problem.

It is also important that you take it easy at practice. As long as you stay stretched out and do a medium amount of light running, you will stay in shape. Your times won't suffer. Tell your coach about this if they don't know already. Run on the grass on the inside of the track instead of on the track itself. That will be easier on your shins.

For the icing, freeze dixie cups of water and ice your shins in a circular motion.

I hope you feel better soon! Shinsplints are an awful thing to have. :(

Good luck!

are there any creams or anything of that nature that will help of riding of scars from acne. theres not many scars.

Don't just go out and buy a product. See a Dermatologist first. A Dermatologist is a doctor that specializes in skin. Anything that you buy over the counter is very general and isn't tailored just for you. It's made to work kind of well for some people. A Dermatologist will be able to give you a perscription for something that will actually work. Good luck! :)

My boyfriend's family invited me to dinner with his family tonight and I have no idea what to wear! I'm not sure how formal to be... would it be ok to wear a nice pair of jeans if I dressed it up with a nice shirt and a blazer?

I think I might be a little too late in answering this question sorry! Anyways, I'm sure that would be perfect. I hope everything goes well. :)

how do u make ur own advice colum

On the home page right below where it asks you to sign in, it says in very small writing, "Register for free". Click those words and it will bring you to where you need to accept the Terms of Service and confirm that you are at least 13 years old. I haven't registered in a long time so I'm not sure what happens after that. It should be very easy. Once you get your account, sign in. On the left hand column, there are two options that say "Profile Settings" and "Column Settings". This is where you would change the layout of your column, your profile, your settings, or your picture. To answer questions, click on any of the options under the "Give Advice" section of the left hand column. If you have any other questions direct them toward the columninst DangerNerd. Good luck! :)

i have a confusing situation, so this might be long. first of all, i have a boyfriend of almost two years and i love him a lot. things are great, and i could see myself with him forever. but i have a problem.. i've known this other guy for six years, and he was basically my first love. things happened, and we lost touch and grew apart. a few months ago, he came back into my life and we still love each other. now this might seem like every other love triangle, but the twist is that the other guy (not my boyfriend) knows me from the internet, and we've never met. so i need advice on who i should choose? should i stay with my boyfriend and leave it at that, or leave him and be with the other guy? don't say that the last idea is crazy just because i haven't met the guy, we've talked on the phone and we've had YEARS of history together. what do you guys think?

First you need to tell them about each other. You've been with your boyfriend for 2 years. He has the right to know about this other guy. The other guy should definitely know you have a boyfriend too. It's just unfair if he doesn't. Don't tell your boyfriend you're thinking about leaving him for this guy of course, but at least tell him that he exists and that you might have some feelings for him. From there see what happens. It depends on their reactions what you do.

My advice and opinion:
Stay with your current boyfriend. You are happy with him. If you leave him you are risking everything. You will not be assured of the same happiness if you try another guy. You have worked so hard to get your relationship to where it is today. Don't just throw it away. If you go back to him (if he even lets you) it will never be the same. Maybe you could be happy with this other guy. However, there's nothing wrong with the guy you are with. If you are seriously considering leaving him, you may have some committment problems. Not that you can't committ to someone, but that you are willing to break that committment for the excitement of a new, hot prospect. Never dump someone for someone else. That is a terrible reason. Your boyfriend is so good to you and has done nothing wrong. Someone else isn't going to be any better. Different maybe, but not better. People aren't all that different from each other. You will be disappointed because your expectations for the other guy are so high.

Whatever you decide make sure that it is a decision you can live with for the rest of your life. Good luck. :)

Alright well my bf and I had dry sex and I had only my underwear on and he only had his boxers on. He didn't ejaculate on me, then after that he jacked off and he lost a lot of sperm, then later on we had dry sex again except everything on me was off and he only had his boxers on. Then I wan't to stop and he said he didn't ejaculate at all on me or anything and his dick wasn't even inside of me. But he got a little cum where his dick was and I was really wet. Do you think that was my cum? Do you think there is any way possible I could be pregnant?
A lot of people that I told had told me it's really doubtful..

You are just fine. You're not going to get pregnant. There's no need to get a pregnancy test. Don't worry about it. If you skip a period it'll be out of stress and worry over this, not pregnancy.

The only risks of this kind of behavior are that accidents can sometimes happen and that irrisponsibility and "getting caught up in the moment" can happen. Don't have unprotected sexual intercourse for any amount of time for any reason. THAT can get you pregnant. My advice to you is that even if you aren't planning on having sex, bring a condom anyway. Don't even tell your boyfriend you have it. It's there "just in case".

Good luck! :)

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