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I Miss my mom :(
Hey I'm Amanda. I'm 13 and Children and Youth just took me and my 2 year old brother from my home because of my mom's drug use of a pill Oxycotin. It is an addictive drug and the Doctors keep giving it to her so it's really not her fault because she thinks it's okay. I am staying at my dad's and his girlfriend and their all lovey dovey all the time and I'm really not used to it because my mom doesn't have a boyfriend. I can only have supervised phone calls and supervised visits. I miss her so much and I'm not even allowed to go to my friends house because my mom can "possibly" go there even though she doesn't even leave her house.I'm really mad at Children and Youth and I wanna tell them how I feel but I'm just a number to them. I hate my life and I dont know how to deal with this.Can you help me?
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Hi, I kind of know what your going through. My dad is in jail right now for drinking and doing drugs. Since I can only send him letters right now till my mom gets back from Scotland (my gram lives over there and is sick, its been really hard. My only was really to get through it is just to remember that he is ok and is off the drugs and alcohol. Since they are giving them to her the only advice I can really give you is just to tell them what you think even though they might not listen and try to see your mom more. I'm sorry if this isn't really good advice but there is nothing to really do in this kind of situation. Sorry if I'm not much help.
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Any change is difficult. I know that you are hurting right now, but Children and Youth doesn't make mistakes about things like this. Whatever the circumstances were surrounding the Oxycotin, your mom has an addiction that she needs to get over. While she is doing this, she can't take care of you and your brother. I can understand why you are angry with Children and Youth, but I think that you should direct your anger toward the real problem - the drug. It has totally messed up your mom's life. I'm sure she misses you just as much as you miss her.
Dealing with this is going to be hard. What you need to focus on is that being away from your mom is the best thing for her right now because she needs to get better. It sucks that you can't see her at all, but drug addictions can be a very dangerous thing. Who knows what she will do if her brain gets all screwed up from not having the drug. You wouldn't want her to hurt you would you? She would feel terrible about it for the rest of her life because it would have been the drugs that did it, not her. You need to be strong right now and you need to do it for your mom. In other words, get through this for her.
If your dad and his girlfriend's intimacy bothers you I think that you should tell your dad. I'm sure he wants your stay with him to be as comfortable as possible. He probably has no idea that what he is doing is a problem at all. Just tell him that you're not used to it and you'd really like it if he tried to tone it down. The supervised phone calls and visits probably aren't just to invade your privacy. I think that Children and Youth probably said to do that in order to protect you in case you tried to meet up with your mom or something. It's not that they are targeting you, but I'm sure that in the past that they have had problems with other kids trying stuff like that. It's just a precautionary thing. It sucks, but there's really nothing you can do about it. It would be good to tell your dad that you're having a hard time dealing with all this. Having a closer relationship with your dad may be just what you need. Tell him everything. It will help a lot. I hope that your mom gets over her addiction soon and I wish you the best of luck in adjusting to your new situation while she does. :)
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