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I fell and got a big gash on my leg when I was 11, and I didn't get it stitched, but now I have an indentation about 3" by 3". Does anyone know any ways to get rid of it. I'm small framed, so i'm very embarrased about it because to me it looks like cellulite. please help.
Well I know about big scars,
I have one on my back on my shoulder blade that curves around really far to almost my side,
since I had heart surgry when i was little...
so yeah i hate scars,
well big ones that are noticable.
get mederma for scars,
you put it on your scar, and it should make it feel softer, and look lighter and yeah.
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ok so my exboyfriend whent on a trip this weekend and he got drunk and went skinny dipping w/ his friend and her sister and ended up having sex w/ both of them cuz he liked both the girls. he told me because he has some feelings left for me but i cant trust him i know i cant ive been trying to get him to stop drinking for ever and its reasons like this that make me try to get him to stop so he doesnt do anything stupid which he already did. he feels bad about it but he already did it! what can he change now? and i had a really strong feeling the night that it happened that he had done something he would regret. lately ive been missing him and considering taking him back but what do i do now? i odviously cant trust him. please help!!
Dont take him back.
Thats the best advice you'll ever get, and you may not agree with me, but sweetheart, when you find the guy you deserve, you;ll understand.
This guy sounds like trouble anyways.
And since you cant trust him, then theres really relationship.
I'm desperate for help. My friends are useless, they just keep telling me to move on and I CAN'T. Well, I guess I should start with the problem. My boyfriend, or I guess "ex" boyfriend...stopped talking to me completely while we were still together. Didn't answer my calls or texts, wouldn't talk on AIM...nothing. So eventually after two weeks he sent me a text message that said he wasn't talking to me because he thought it would be easier if I didn't like him anymore, that he was leaving and after next year he wouldn't be able to come back home, that I should move on and please forgive him. Oh yeah, he's in the army so he's leaving for nine weeks for basic training this summer, starting June 5th. And then he's coming back to graduate high school and then he's leaving again for more training stuff. The problem is, I cannot move on. It's been about three weeks since then and I really want to know exactly what's going on with him because he hasn't talked to me since that text...completely ignoring me and I just don't understand it. It's so hard to move on when I hardly have any closure on this. The thing is, I don't mind waiting for nine weeks for him to come back, and if he can't come back here after next year, then I would just go to wherever he is after I graduate (I'm a year younger than he is...I'm 16 and he's 17, going on 18 June 20th) I know it sounds ridiculous and you'll probably tell me to move on and get over it, everyone gets their heart broken....but I don't know, I just really know he IS the one for me. I'm not mad at him or anything, I'm sure he's just nervous about the whole army thing and leaving his home and blah, I dont know. We really love each other, I can't explain it. I can't imagine that he just STOPPED loving me, so I don't think it's that. I think it's that he's leaving. But I don't knowwww...I just want him to talk to me, you know? Nothing good can come out of not communicating, and I'm trying to give him space and time, but I don't want to let him think that I am moving on in case he decides he does want to talk...but I don't want to be obnoxious. If we can't be together then I at least want to be his friend. I hate that he's completely blocking me out of his life. It's hard too because we don't go to the same school...So any advice? I'm really dying here. (Sorry this is so long!)
Oh dear,
I know exactly how hard it is to get over a guy.
Everyone is like .. "well eventually you'll get over it.." but its so hard! Because people dont understand how much of your heart that guy has.
Well I think he stopped talking to you, because maybe it hurts him a lot, the fact that he has to leave you for such a long period of time.
Its wonderful that you want to wait for him, and I agree completely, I'd probably feel the same way, and I'd also be scared of the danger he could come in contact with.
Anyways, well you know I dont really know why he isnt talking to you either, and your right, you should have some closure on this, I know you dont want the relationship to be over..
I woudlnt either, your sound head over heels for this guy, and he seems to make you happy. And you love him so much that you are willing to wait for him, maybe he doesnt realize how much you adore him, how much you love him, and that you would wait for him.
I agree giving him space is a very smart thing to do, but something I suggest you doing, is writing him a long heart filled letter, explaining all your feelings, just so you can get them out.
Maybe if he realizes how you feel, you guys can work something out, but he has to want to, and if he insists things wont work out, then slowly start taking the process of backing down, and moving on, I emphasize slowly, because it will take time, and it will hurt your heart a lot.
I'm not saying get over him, beacuse you never know after you send him that letter, things could work out! You never know.
And Him blocking you out of your life, I'm pretty sure thats his way of coping, he thinks if your not in his life, that he wont think about you, but the truth is, he's probably hurting deep inside, and he most likely thinks about you as much as you think about him.
Its fine that this was long, its really hard to explain things with out them being long right?
If you have any other questions, or anything else you need to talk about, send me another message in the inbox, or feel free to IM me @ kaylehmae on aim. take care hun.
I don't know why every girl seems to think that all men are controling ass holes. I know that most women have had bad experiences, but that's not excuse to totally rat on guys just because you've been hurt once or twice, because in the end that just gives you a worse imagen, and more of a reason for guy's to think that they actually do have more power then you. I'm a guy, but to be honest I'm not a normal one. I'ma girly man to be honest. But I do hate how all my girl friends complain to me about how guys are asses. I may not like a lot of people, but I still do find it offencive, and I'm tired of it
I myself dont think that about guys.
Its not fair to judge another person, by the way someone else treats you.
So just because a guy treats a girl wrong, doesnt mean ALL guys will. So you have a right to feel the way you do.
Um you cant classify yourself as "not normal" because no one is normal. Because there is no definition of a normal person.
We all are who we are, you know?
If your hate how your girlfriend complains about guys like this, you need to talk to her, communication is the best way to deal with this. You need to let her how you feel, rather than keeping all this bottled up inside of you.
If you feel so strongly about it, then like I said earlier, tell her, if she doesnt get it, than obvoiusly you two arent for each other.
I know I'm anorexic and leaning towards being bulimic too. But that's not my problem(yes I know it's a problem but not the one I'm concerned with right now), but my problem is that I need to tell someone but I don't know how. I'm too afraid of what their reaction will be to tell someone. I asked my friend if she's read my online journal where I talked about it as kind of a hint for her to look at it but I don't think she got it. So should I just ask her to read my journal so that she knows and I don't have to come out and say it? (as you can prob tell...I have confrontation problems) Thanks! I rate high!!
Well you should tell a counsular at school, because they will understand, they know how to help you with these kind of things. You cant wait for someone to find out, you need to get help yourself, especially if you know better.
I know its going to be really hard, but schedule a time with your counsular and tell her, telling your friends wont help, they arent trained to know what to do in this very serious situation.
They could just end up telling a parent, who will tell your parents, and make the situation worse. The counsular will have to tell your parents, but its just easier when another adult explains it to another adult, rather than a chid trying to. If that makes sense.
But for your friend thing, I wouldnt have her read it, if she doesnt get it, she doesnt get it, and what is she going to do if she gets it? tell a grownup? and make the situation worse? That very well could happen. I suggest you tell a school counsular, or a parent. Its going to have to be done,if you ever want to get better..
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ugh. My boyfriend hasn't been talking to me lately. He called me this morning,but he never even says he loves me anymore and he always seems to be going somewhere or doing something. Do you think there is another girl in his life ? What should I do ?
14/f
No, most likely you are just growing apart, and he is too busy for a relationship,
theres really nothing I can say to help this,
but communication is the key.
So you should try talking to him.
14/f...i'm so confused and have no idea what to do. i recently found out that my friend likes the guy that i like. but the problem is that she told some of her close friends that she likes this guy and i haven't told anyone. so if i tell people they'll think that i'm copying my friend or they'll be like she liked him first. then i used to think that this guy liked me back but now i think he might like my friend. and if he does like me and ask me out then how would i tell my friend.
oh and this girl isn't really my close friend. we used to be close but now were just friends.
Well, you know what, this isnt really a huge issue, dont worry about it.
Neither of you are dating the boy, so its not like you have dibs, and you shouldnt treat him like property. Am I right?
It doesnt matter who liked who first, its really who the guy likes. If he likes your friend, so be it, and if he likes you, your friend will get the picture, she may be upset, but its just a guy. And since your only 14, you have a long time yet in your life to find a guy.
Because I'm 100% positive that if either of you guys start dating this guy, its not going to be permanent, things dont get "serious" until you are older.
So dont worry, you have the rest of your life :)
16females
Can you fined a certain amount of money if you moon a trolley?
Me and my friends want to as a joke but if we get caught we were wondering if you have to pay money?
Please and thanx
x0x0x
I dont think you will get fined,
because if they dont know your names or who you are, they cant really send you a bill or anything.
But then again, if someone knows you, and they catch you, you probably wouldnt get fined, but your parents would probably be notified, and they would let your parents deal with the punishment.
Hello. My exams are coming up this week, and my two hardest exams (history and english) are both on thursday!! Can you help me with study techniques and staying calm and alert during the test? thanks-
(10th grade)
Ahh exams!
Mine are coming up soon too!
The best thing I would do, are dont wait until the last minute, so I hope you were studying before this, use note cards, and rewrite what you have to know, on paper, over and over again,read it out loud, the more you have to say it, and think about it, the easier you will remember it.
Okay, I dont get nervous about exams, but to be calm, take deep breaths before the test, breath deep, and slowly exhale. Eat a good breakfast, and just focus.
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Last night I was at a party and I smoked skunk 1 (its supposed to be the best weed ever) well it was my first time smoking (that type of weed) and it had a BIG effect on me but NOT in a good way!
I literally thought I was going deaf (I heard a ringing in my ear and it got louder and louder) and then we went outside and I couldn't see anything, like I was losing my eyesight. My friends and I were so scared (but then 2 seconds later they forgot about it) but it lasted for 4 hours!! So does anybody know why this would happen to me?
Has this happened to anybody else and should I not smoke this kind of weed anymore?
I've never done any type of drug, or smoked any substance. I dont suggest you continue doing that, beacuse obviously its not good, it didnt have a great effect on you, now did it?
There are so many things that could have happened to you. I dont think you should smoke any type of weed, not just this one, and i say that in your best interest.
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I'm emotionally unstable...well that's wheat I'll call it. If someone tells me something I swell up with tears and then when I'm alone I just cry and cry! Today I was in school and I had to drop off a paper in spanish and teacher asks me to speak spanish...I'm not good at spanish and to make it worst when I get scared I figget. then she jus said put it here and I went by another teacher and I cried and cried. I know it'll give me a depression..that's y i'm askin for help..I need to be calmm and be me! And I don't want the title...the wet soock or soomething. What can I do to make myself stronger?
Okay, I hate to say this, but its probably a phase. If your a girl, its normal for them to be pretty emotional, I've had that a few times too, emotional breakdowns, but you gotta not let little things make you upset. Its your choice to be upset, no one elses. Because "no one can make you feel inferior, without your permission."
It wont neccasarily give you depression, if you do want to get better, you have to not let the little things bother you, you have to remind yourself that its not that bad, and there are people worse off, who are actually really depressed, and their view on life, is much worse than yours, they feel so bad, its hard to even imagine, especially if you are a relativley happy person. Just remember that.
I suggest you go talk to a counsular or someone, you can get some help with, and you can talk about things, it feels so much better after you vent, or release feelings.
Hope things get better.
heyy
(f-13) well i don't really know why, but everything's been going wrong lately. I like hate a bunch of people because they pi** me off, poeple call me stupid, fat, and ugly for no reason. It all makes me depressed and there's so much pressure because we're graduating in a few weeks. I have no date to our dance (its a big thing to have a date in our school) and i need to do well on finals. i don't even know what to do at this point. I want to fix things before i graduate because i dont want to leave things messy and be depressed thinking back on my graduation. please help! thanks bunches. xoxo
Well you must be really sad, I would hate to be called stupid,fat and ugly for no apparent reason, and even so, its not nice to say.
I'm not going to say there isnt pressure, but your going to highschool next year, if you think theres a lot of pressure now, wait until next year.
First something is, dont let people piss you off, its your choice and decision to let them make you feel the way you feel. I know ignoring people is hard, but if you let it go, you;ll be okay, because holding on to little things, it just doesnt help.
Dont worry about not having a date to your dance either, because once again, its the end of the year, make it fun with your friends, you have the years to come with dances to find a date, but enjoy being a kid.
Just spend your graduation with friends, and arent depressed your just at a sad moment in life, depressoin is so much more deeper, and hard to comprehend if your a typical happy person.
& I wouldnt worry about next year, and looking back, because we all have bad times, but in the end we can look back on them and think, oh, how silly that whole situation was.
Trust me, it will all be okay.
:)
Ok well this year i've had quit a few boyfriends and like i mean ive kissed them all and i was never really nervous about it but my current boyfriend im kinda like nervous or i just get wierd feeling about kissing and idk why it diffrent and tommrow i think he is going to make the first move and i mean im not saying i wouldnt want to kiss or anything it just i fell wierd doing it with him and idk y =/
sincerly,
help me pls
aww maybe its because you really like him!
They say the real love is when he makes you nervous, and yet completely calm at the same time ;)
I think you just like him a lot, or your really not comfortable with him.
I'm not really sure from what you said.
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I am from Ontario, Canada
I used a Herbal essence red hair dye, and I want to go back to a lighter shade of red I usually tint my hair, but the last dye was so strong, a hardresser told me she would have to do a bleach/shampoo coctail to strip the dark red, before I could use my usual colour. My natural colour is medium brown with a slight auburn tint. What I would like to know is how can I do this at home to avoid the high salon price?
Paul Mitchel Shampoo 3 - cleanser
it takes out all impuritys in your hair,
like dye, it strips the old color,
and it takes like chlorine out too.
its not that expensive either.
hope i helped.
Lately I've been having real trouble eating. When it gets to dinner time (I live in a University residence, so all our meals are provided at set times) I'm hungry, and I go and get my food - there's soup, somekind of main meal like roast pork, or pizza, or curry, and then dessert. I eat the soup fine but then when I start on the main course I gradually feel like I can't swallow, and it feels like a huge effort to eat. I can only take really small mouthfuls every few minutes and eat them really slowly. I don't have any trouble swallowing liquids though. Later on, I'm hungry of course, because I haven't managed to eat anything. Any ideas what could be causing this? And any suggestions what I can do about it - I only weigh 50kg as it is, so I can't afford to lose weight, plus not eating is making me feel weak, and I need to study!
Thanks! x
sweetie, i suggest you go see a doctor,
because I'm sure a doctor would know more than any of us on advicenators :)
hope you feel better soon!
ok so a little while ago i accidentaly told this perverted-big-mouth kid (we will call him "p") about my rapes..(yes rapes) ON TOTAL ACCIDENT!! and he told his buddy.."m"..and "m" has an even bigger mouth..now i already know that "p" told people..but "m" was being especially nice to me..we used to be friends until this incidint..now my question..what do i do when they tell the whole school about my rapes?and how do i get "p" to stop talking to me!?
IM CONVO BETWEEN ME && "P" (i changed his sn around)
Buccaneeirs ATW: HORE
CutiSammy: yeah
Buccaneeirs ATW:HAHA YOU WERE RAPED!
Buccaneeirs ATW:AND THE WHOLE SCHOOL NOS!
CutiSammy:who was raped?
Buccaneers ATW:dont play that game i got the convo.
Buccaneeirs ATW:HAHA
CutiSammy:coolness
Buccaneeirs ATW:dont try to hide it i saw u cryin and mark told me wat happened.
CutiSammy:WTFFF??
Buccaneeirs ATW: haha
CutiSammy: ummm byee
like ive TRIED denying it but hes not stupid..so anything at all would help!!
thats extreamley horrible, I dont even understand why they are laughing, and calling you a whore, thats absolutely wrong.
Sweetie, I suggest you let a counsular know at school, and she can speak to the principal and they can be suspended or something worse.
And did you tell anyone that you were raped?
You should , it would be a good idea, ddont let that person get away with it.
let me know how things go.,
ok why dont i get a boyfriend ? im a big flirt.. im really nice to boys and im pretti.. i want one so bad because im always getting these feelings when around guys.. but i dont know i think im just scared or guys just think of me as another .. guy ..
Well, when people want things really bad, they usually dont them .. unless your a spoiled brat.. haha, but you really cant be like that when you want love.
So a guy will come to you when the time comes :)
youlll find the right one!
i went camping and met this guy. he asked me to dance and well i had a boyfriend at the time but i dont know what happened to me i dance with him. and after we went to this play ground were no one could see and sat on a slide and talked about each other. well we kinda madeout like every time we were alone and im going back there this summa i dont know if he will still like me but i have a bf again and i like him. i know i will end up making out with the other kid what should i do?
well if you like the guy you are with enough, you will make more effort to try to restrain yourself from making out with someone, remind yourself you will regret it, and your boyfriend will be very upset.
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haha your right, how would he know if you made out with him? Well theres always a chance he could find out, but haah if you dont think you like him enough, breka up with him before you go, and see how you feel then?
haha :}
Okay a while ago i was a cutter and i did cut myself for a while but now i stopped that bye myself and with the help of friends.... but i mean i have changed wheni wasa cutter and im ver emotional now and im not into rap anymore and my friends think ive changed... some people even steryotype me as "emo" i mean idk what to do like i dont like the person i am become but yet i do
Do u need to go to counseling to help me with the stress im going through??OR am i okay with what i am now
Please help
I would go to a counsular, and get some help, because you could be slipping into a depression.
Trust me i've felt like you have, but I'm bettern ow, and life is great.
I enver thought I'd ever be able to say that either, but its amazing :)
hey
im currently 13 and my boyfriend and i have been going out since i was 12. today in one of my classes, my friend asked my if this other person told me something. i said no and she was like, good because ***** didnt want us to tell you. i put enough pressure on her to finally get some words out. she said that he desperately wanted to make out. i mean, we've kissed before but not like SERIOUSLY seriously gone there. he has made out with some girls in the past but i havent made out with anyone yet. in my school, making out is a big issue for everyone. they say if you dont make out in 7th grade, you'll never survive in the school we're going to next year.
its not like i dont like him enough to do it, but i dont feel ready. i know im just thirteen but im a lot more mature mentally and physically than my peers. i have had the oppertunities to make out but none of them felt right so i didnt.
im going out with him to the movies on friday night. what if he makes a move then? what do i say? i dont want things to be awkward. i dont want people to think im a loser. and i definitely dont want him to think that i dont want to take things a step further. i do, but i dont... if that makes sense.
has anyone been in my position? please help me out.
Well, first of all its stupid to make out in the seventh grade, despite what the others say.
Your far too young to be emotoinally attachted to someone, well in my opinion.
Anyways dating in middle school, its kind of silly, because the marjority of kids who say they are dating, dont actually go out on dates. They see each other inthe halls and talk to each other online, alot of kids parents wont let them date until they are atleast 16.
So in highschool things get more seroius, and relatoinships have meaning, and they arent just oh .. lets go to the dance together, and you dont need to make out.
Dating is not just for making out if you know what I mean, its for connecting with another person, and loving who they are, and their personality! :)
but if you dont feel ready, dont make out, you are young, and you are mature for asking this questoin, but if you cant answer it yourself than your not that mature enough to be doing that, even makingout can lead to hot and heavy stuff, which can lead to sex, and you are pretty young.
If you tries to make a move on you at the movies, tell him your not comfortable with it yet, and if he gets mad, tell him to respect your decision, people shouldnt think your a loser for listening to your heart and the fact that you werent comfortable with it. I'm sure if they were in the situation you are in, they would feel the same way.
If you arent ready for him to take it "to the next step" .. well you sound like your not ready, like your scared maybe? nervous? yeah probably? right?. but okay, you want to, but your not sure, dont do it until you are comfortable with it.