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my friend likes the guy i like
14/f...i'm so confused and have no idea what to do. i recently found out that my friend likes the guy that i like. but the problem is that she told some of her close friends that she likes this guy and i haven't told anyone. so if i tell people they'll think that i'm copying my friend or they'll be like she liked him first. then i used to think that this guy liked me back but now i think he might like my friend. and if he does like me and ask me out then how would i tell my friend.
oh and this girl isn't really my close friend. we used to be close but now were just friends.
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Hi There,
Sometimes it's easier to seethe in silence when someone does something to wind you up, but that doesn't make the issue go away. If anything, bottling up your feelings like this just makes the problem seem worse. It means you risk a situation where your mate steps just slightly out of line and you explode right in front of them - which doesn't solve anything.
Whether your friend's just being annoying without realising, or she's done something terrible that's totally wound you up, it's always wise to pick a good time to talk - preferably when you're feeling calm and there's nobody else around to chip in or stir things up for you.
Your aim here is to encourage this person to see things from your point of view. If your mate can see the upset they've caused for themselves, they'll be more likely to change their behaviour towards you.
Nobody likes to feel as if they're being attacked, or that somehow they have to defend their actions, so don't lay into them - it'll only risk a fistfight (or that slappy-scrap thing girls do sometimes).
You can't expect them to change their behaviour straight away, especially if you're both feeling a bit self-conscious after getting things out in the open. Instead, give them some time and space to process the problem and act upon it. If they value your friendship, you should see a new improved mate in no time.
Goodluck
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Ehmagawd i had almost the same situation!! Personally what i would do is not tell anyone that you like him too until you are sure he likes you. so just flirt up a storm, he'll say he likes u, then you can be like i guess i like u too! hope this works, chica!! xoxoxo Alicia
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Well, you know what, this isnt really a huge issue, dont worry about it.
Neither of you are dating the boy, so its not like you have dibs, and you shouldnt treat him like property. Am I right?
It doesnt matter who liked who first, its really who the guy likes. If he likes your friend, so be it, and if he likes you, your friend will get the picture, she may be upset, but its just a guy. And since your only 14, you have a long time yet in your life to find a guy.
Because I'm 100% positive that if either of you guys start dating this guy, its not going to be permanent, things dont get "serious" until you are older.
So dont worry, you have the rest of your life :)
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