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army guy :/
I'm desperate for help. My friends are useless, they just keep telling me to move on and I CAN'T. Well, I guess I should start with the problem. My boyfriend, or I guess "ex" boyfriend...stopped talking to me completely while we were still together. Didn't answer my calls or texts, wouldn't talk on AIM...nothing. So eventually after two weeks he sent me a text message that said he wasn't talking to me because he thought it would be easier if I didn't like him anymore, that he was leaving and after next year he wouldn't be able to come back home, that I should move on and please forgive him. Oh yeah, he's in the army so he's leaving for nine weeks for basic training this summer, starting June 5th. And then he's coming back to graduate high school and then he's leaving again for more training stuff. The problem is, I cannot move on. It's been about three weeks since then and I really want to know exactly what's going on with him because he hasn't talked to me since that text...completely ignoring me and I just don't understand it. It's so hard to move on when I hardly have any closure on this. The thing is, I don't mind waiting for nine weeks for him to come back, and if he can't come back here after next year, then I would just go to wherever he is after I graduate (I'm a year younger than he is...I'm 16 and he's 17, going on 18 June 20th) I know it sounds ridiculous and you'll probably tell me to move on and get over it, everyone gets their heart broken....but I don't know, I just really know he IS the one for me. I'm not mad at him or anything, I'm sure he's just nervous about the whole army thing and leaving his home and blah, I dont know. We really love each other, I can't explain it. I can't imagine that he just STOPPED loving me, so I don't think it's that. I think it's that he's leaving. But I don't knowwww...I just want him to talk to me, you know? Nothing good can come out of not communicating, and I'm trying to give him space and time, but I don't want to let him think that I am moving on in case he decides he does want to talk...but I don't want to be obnoxious. If we can't be together then I at least want to be his friend. I hate that he's completely blocking me out of his life. It's hard too because we don't go to the same school...So any advice? I'm really dying here. (Sorry this is so long!)
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Oh dear,
I know exactly how hard it is to get over a guy.
Everyone is like .. "well eventually you'll get over it.." but its so hard! Because people dont understand how much of your heart that guy has.
Well I think he stopped talking to you, because maybe it hurts him a lot, the fact that he has to leave you for such a long period of time.
Its wonderful that you want to wait for him, and I agree completely, I'd probably feel the same way, and I'd also be scared of the danger he could come in contact with.
Anyways, well you know I dont really know why he isnt talking to you either, and your right, you should have some closure on this, I know you dont want the relationship to be over..
I woudlnt either, your sound head over heels for this guy, and he seems to make you happy. And you love him so much that you are willing to wait for him, maybe he doesnt realize how much you adore him, how much you love him, and that you would wait for him.
I agree giving him space is a very smart thing to do, but something I suggest you doing, is writing him a long heart filled letter, explaining all your feelings, just so you can get them out.
Maybe if he realizes how you feel, you guys can work something out, but he has to want to, and if he insists things wont work out, then slowly start taking the process of backing down, and moving on, I emphasize slowly, because it will take time, and it will hurt your heart a lot.
I'm not saying get over him, beacuse you never know after you send him that letter, things could work out! You never know.
And Him blocking you out of your life, I'm pretty sure thats his way of coping, he thinks if your not in his life, that he wont think about you, but the truth is, he's probably hurting deep inside, and he most likely thinks about you as much as you think about him.
Its fine that this was long, its really hard to explain things with out them being long right?
If you have any other questions, or anything else you need to talk about, send me another message in the inbox, or feel free to IM me @ kaylehmae on aim. take care hun.
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