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he made another mistake
ok so my exboyfriend whent on a trip this weekend and he got drunk and went skinny dipping w/ his friend and her sister and ended up having sex w/ both of them cuz he liked both the girls. he told me because he has some feelings left for me but i cant trust him i know i cant ive been trying to get him to stop drinking for ever and its reasons like this that make me try to get him to stop so he doesnt do anything stupid which he already did. he feels bad about it but he already did it! what can he change now? and i had a really strong feeling the night that it happened that he had done something he would regret. lately ive been missing him and considering taking him back but what do i do now? i odviously cant trust him. please help!!
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You cannot be serious.
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You can't trust this guy. Forget about the idea of taking him back, unless he actually changes. However, make sure he has -really- changed and is not just doing it to get you to go back out with him. Make sure he stays that way for a while first before you give him another chance. Otherwise, just forget about it. Would you really want him having sex with people you're related to while he's drunk? Or even your friends?
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You're absolutely right-you can't trust him again. Not only has he cheated on you, he's done it repeatedly. He still has "some" feelings left for you- not good enough to be with you. Plus he's not even making an effort to get back with you. Harsh as it sounds he probably knows tha you'll come running back to him and takes you back more as a convenience measure until some other girl he wants to screw comes along. You deserve much better than all of that. Perhaps being with this guy has sapped your self-esteem so much you can't see it.
Keep busy and don't let yourself miss this total waste of space who almost certainly doesn't truly miss you. Find people, girls and guys, who treat you with respect and loyalty and concentrate on having fun without the worry that someone's out cheating on you. Let your friends help you and be there to reassure you when it gets hard and make this summer all about you being free and happy.
Good Luck
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You're right, you can't trust this guy because he gets drunk and does stupid things, which is a good enough reason to not ever be with him again.
Missing him and feeling like you love him isn't a good enough reason to get back with him either. You can't stop a guy from drinking, you don't have that much power over him, if he wants to quit drinking that's his decision and he is the only one who can make it happen. And that's ok because you have the power to decide for yourself if you really want to be with a guy who drinks or does drugs.
You should make the decision right now to call it quits for good. It isn't about what he did in the past, the present matters. And in the present he gets drunk and does stupid things which is why you should get him out of your head.
-TheTeenGirl
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I think he is dead to you... dont take him back because he already hurt you real bad... Even if he sobbers up i think you should still stay away from him...Find a new boy and good luck...
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hey! you guys broke up for a reason, and the reason is pretty evident in your question. you can't trust him, so the relationship can't work out. if there is no trust, then what is there? nothing! it's normal to miss him and want him back, but deep down you really don't want that so don't let it fool you. trust me, been there done that. if you get back with him now, you will break up again soon for the same reasons that made you break up in the first place, and it will be even harder to get over him then. just STOP TALKING TO HIM completely, 100%! it will be hard at first, but it will make your life soo much easier! it seems impossible but it is not. once you get him out of your life, you will slowly stop thinking about him and you will get over him. this usually takes 2 months! after that, you guys can become friends if you want or maybe persue a relationship in the future when he is more mature and ready to settle down. but for now, the best thing is to forget him or he will cause you a lot of pain! hope this helped! :)
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It's hard for a person to change they way they are. He made a huge almost unforgivable mistake. Even if he was drunk that's no excuse for cheating on you. Which is what he did. Who's to say it won't happen again. I say try to be friends with him and see if he can make a change and stop drinking. Then see if it's worth giving him your trust back. But that doesn't mean I think you should take him back as a boyfriend just as a friend. Take some time for yourself. Good Luck. :-)
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Dont take him back.
Thats the best advice you'll ever get, and you may not agree with me, but sweetheart, when you find the guy you deserve, you;ll understand.
This guy sounds like trouble anyways.
And since you cant trust him, then theres really relationship.
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