Mackenzie's advice column

♥[?]♥ i'm 14. i really really really like this guy. he's 13. we are friends, but not very close. he has a girlfriend that is two years older than him. i have one class with this guy. he flirts with me sometimes and i see him tons during the day. he is always nice to me and now more flirty than ever. my friends say that he is just going out with this girl to make me jealous but i don't know. does anyone have any tips for this situation? how can i flirt but not make a big scene? thanks in advance! i'll rate!

There are soo many ways to "flirt". I looked online for you, and came up with a couple websites that should keep you entertained:
- http://www.romantic-lyrics.com/flirtideas.shtml
- http://www.flirtzone.com/tips.htm
- http://www.adze.com/couples/love/flirting.html
- http://www.links2love.com/teens_flirting.htm
- http://www.ivillage.co.uk/relationships/dating/men/articles/0,,139_602486,00.html

♥[?]♥ i have been having recurring major problems with my boyfriend of a year and 4 months. were both 16, im almost 17. i love him but i dont know what to do. i will explain it to you if you IM me on AIM.... my sn is REOinyourletter thanks for all help.

I'll give this a try, sure. (=

♥[?]♥ Ok im 14, 15 in 2 weeks, is it normal that i still hwear a 34A? Everyone of my friends has bigger boobs than i do and when im around them i feel like i dont belong and when were around guys they arent looking at me just because i dont have big boobs. Are they just taking longer to grow. or have i stopped growing and this is how theyre going to stay?
Thanks. =]

I can understand how this might be a very hurtful thing to you, but there really isn't anything you can do at this age to enhance your breast size. I don't mean to sound insensitive, but I don't suggest you allow yourself to lose sleep over this. You're 15; I'm sure you still have many years left to develop. Your breasts don't stop growing until you're around 18 or so. While this may not be of any comfort to you, there are thousands of females all over the world feeling this same exact way. That being said, this honestly isn't too-too much of a big deal; you have plenty of time before you're done filling out. (=

♥[?]♥ Okay tonight i was suposed to go see a movie with my boyfriend and some of his friends. By the way Im 15 and hes 16. The movie was rated R and I told him to get his parents to go ahead and get them in advance. But he didnt take my advice we get there and we buy tickets to another movie. Well then the movie i wanted to see ... they were checking ticket. Now Im pissed because I really wanted to see this movie and Me & my bf were the only 2 who didnt get in. He should have listened to me right??

Should I really be this pissed?

I can definitely understand you being annoyed and bothered over this, yes. However, I don't see it as something that should haunt you. Okay, so maybe he should have listened, this is true.. but.. there are worse things he could have done in your relationship, ya know? So, ehh.. don't be "pissed", be "bothered" (if anything) for tonight, and forgive and forget in the morning. ;)

♥[?]♥ I have a friend that lives in my appartment complex. She's always phoning me and asks if she can borrow one of my DVD's. I always say yes because I own lots and she's pretty good about returning.
Well I just got two movies from my dad, Willy Wonka and The Fog. She asked me already if she could borrow them and I told as soon as I finished watching them.
She just phoned me about a half hour ago and asked if she could borrow one of my movies. I told her sure. When she came over I told her she could watch anything except for those two movies that I hadnt watched yet. Then she got mad and said" well then I guess I won't be borrowing anything because those are the ones I wanted to watch". Then she left!!
I felt angry, like she's just using me to watch my movies. If she was a true friend wouldnt she have at least stayed for a visit to chat?
Am I overreacting or was that down right rude?

I don't see how you were out of line, at all. I would have been outrageously pissed. :D

♥[?]♥ how do I change the background color for my picture page? like i want to add color to my background where my pictures are. thanks for the help in advance!

I suggest going here: http://www.mygen.co.uk/index.php?page=create It's a website that allows you to create your own background. If the only thing you'd like is to change the background color of your page, then ONLY fill out that tiny little part, and leave everything else empty. (=

♥[?]♥ i heard somewhere that when you have your period you could lose weight..is that true?? cus that'd be pretty awesome haha =)

thanks!!

I've never heard this. Maybe they might think that they'll lose weight if cramps kill their appetite, but if anything you gain weight because you might become bloated, and most women do become bloated..

♥[?]♥ My xanga icons are not showing up. They just show a little box with an "X" in them. I have tried clicking "Show Picture" but they still won't show up. Does anyone know what could be wrong?

The only thing I can think of is that you might be pasting them onto your blog when you have the little "EDIT HTML" checked. When pasting pictures onto your blog, do NOT have "EDIT HTML" check. But, if you can't get them to show up that way, then right click them (on the site you want them from) and go down and get the icon's "PROPERTIES"/"LOCATION". Then you can paste that URL onto the blog WITH the "EDIT HTML" checked, but only put the URL that you've just copied within this following code where I tell you: < IMG SRC="URLHERE" > Only, delete the TWO EMPTY SPACES (one on each side) that separates the < and > from the rest of the code. And, if you knew and have been trying all of this, then I'm not sure what to tell you. I guess the possilibity exsists that it might be the icon with the problem, but I don't see why that would be..

♥[?]♥ i need some cute love quotes for my portfolio for school. it's a project on what we love most about life..and of course...i chose love..but the thing is i cannot find any cute love quotes..please help..
i rate 5's for good quotes or sites to the quotes

thanks =]

You're bound to find what you want at these websites:
- http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=xx____qu0tezz
- http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=x_emo_quotes_x
- http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=quotes_4_yeew
- http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=flip_x_flop_quotesz
- http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=SiMpLe_SwEeTqUoTeS
- http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=love_quotzx3
- http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=SO_CUTE_CWOTES
- http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=AwesomeQuotesx
- http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/keywords/popular.html

♥[?]♥ what is the program like everyone uses to edit their picsture really cool on myspace.. i know 1 of the is psp and i have that but are there any others that are really good?

It's either an option that comes with the camera, or it's probably Photoshop, which can be downloaded at http://www.download.com/Adobe-Photoshop/3000-2192_4-10401295.html?tag=lst-0-2 or Picasa, which can be downloaded at http://www.download.com/Picasa/3000-2193_4-10356847.html?tag=lst-0-1

♥[?]♥ Im having trouble making my BIO. What is the code for:

* spacing inbetween lines?
* making font bold
* underlineing font
(ex.) * heart - ♥

please ... lol Im just new to this whole site!

To underlie:
texthere

To make bold:
texthere

To insert line breaks:
 at the end of each sentence.

Only alteration you'd have to make is to delete all EMPTY SPACES WITHIN the < and >, make sense?

♥[?]♥ ok im making a myspace and i dont know how to get a layout on the thing LOL anyone who knows please help me and fast!!!

all the love
kylee shae

Well first you have to have your selected layout first. So, if you want a PREMADE layyouts, check out:
-- http://myspace.nuclearcentury.com/
-- http://www.xanga.com/MYSPACELAY0UTSXD
-- http://www.myspacelayouts.org/Blue-Layouts.php
-- http://www.xanga.com/MyHawtSpace_LayOuts
-- http://myspaceforum.proboards35.com/index.cgi?board=layouts
-- http://www.myspace.com/hey_lyts
-- http://www.myspace.com/x_dollfacelayouts

However, if you'd like to make your own, try:
-- http://www.mygen.co.uk/index.php?page=create [the one I recommend most -it's wayyy easy, and it'll look great!!!]
-- http://www.carrierawks.com/myspace.php
-- http://www.strikefile.com/myspace/editor.htm
-- http://www.stylemyspace.com
-- http://www.chasebadkids.net

And to actually GET it on your site you simply copy the big long HTML code, and then you go to http://www.myspace.com and SIGN IN. Then you go to EDIT MY PROFILE. Then you'll see where you can edit your stuff [like your interests, movies, and all that] Just under the ABOUT ME part, you'll see a little link labelled EDIT. Simply PASTE the ENTIRE HTML code inside the ABOUT ME box, and it should all work just fine.

I have a MySpace too; so if you need more help, know that you can always, always, come back here for additional assistance!! I'd be honored to do what I can to help!! :D

♥[?]♥ Im 14 years old and i want to get a job I live in Kansas City, missouri and im going to work at worlds of fun in the summer but i want a job before that and i couldnt find any online so does anyone know any jobs that a 14 year old can have? nthatnk you so0o much i will rate 5 and leave really good comments!!!

Ah, 14 is going to be tough. The best thing I can suggest would be delievering news papers, and maybe you could do some work at a library or animal hospital - though they may see that as volunteer work and you wouldn't be paid.. However, you'll never know until you ask! Also, you should check with any little local antique stores or Mom & Pop pizza houses. Also, I know Wendy's and Subway hire at *15, but I suppose that's not help to you, is it? Aside from that, there's babysitting. Try making a bunch of fliers and distributing them on the bullentin boards at your closest couple of grocery stores; free advcertising -- that's what it's there for. However, baby sitting is a serious matter. Make shore you know exactly how to perform CPR on infants and toddlers in case of emergency, and once that is all settled, you can add that to your resume. Call them crazy, but parents are more likely to give you their business if they feel their child will be safe with you... How about selling things on EBAY? Also, lawn mowing! BIG money to be had there; generally $10.00 - $30.00 per GOOD sized yard.

♥[?]♥ im 14/f and i want to get a job but i dont know any. i tried looking it up on the internet but i didnt get anything ill rate 5! and leave good comments! thanks so much!

♥[?]♥ okay. well this kid goes to my school and hes a year older then me. i found out he likes me, and ive liked him for a while also. the problem is, the guys kind of known for cheating . . . and i dont know what to do. he was going to ask me out [ he asked if if he had any chance ] and i dont know what to do. i really like the kid but ive never had a boyfriend before. what should i do ?

Personally, I wouldn't date a known cheater. You also have to consider the fact that I am seventeen years old. I'm not saying I've seen it all; I haven't even seen a quarter of it. But like millions of teenage girls around the world, I've seen the broken hearts, and the tearful nights, and the pathetic lies. None of which is any fun. None of which is anything I was willing to deal with then, much less now. Some people might tell you that people can change, but I believe "once a cheater, always a cheater". So, I see this move as a mistake, but the beauty of life is to live and learn. If you see a good opportunity in him, then go for it. After all, broken hearts are inevitable; it's BOUND to happen - I just don't see any reason why you'd bother to set yourself up for one!! Here is what I'm begging you to think over: why do you like him? Is it because he's "hot", "hott", or "hawt"? Is it because he's "popular" or the "big man on campus"? Do you even know him? How long have you known him, and exactly how much do you know about him? True, the point of relationships is to share happiness with another. And while you will never know EVERYTHING about a person regardless of how long you have known them, I feel that you must know a fairly good amount before jumping into a relationship with the individual. Here's a question: why do you even have to jump into a full blown relationship right away? Why not hang out for a while and get to know him. You should first see what you're getting yourself into. And lastly, you claim that you've never had a boyfriend, correct? Well alright, now tell me: is it HIM you want, or is it just the feeling and thought of HAVING SOMEONE that you're after? You think about that last question, and I believe you will find your answer.
♥ Mackenzie ♥

♥[?]♥ I used to be able to sing "okay" But then I became a cheerleader for 7 years and now I sound like a man when I sing. I'm afraid to sing in the car to the radio or when I'm goofing off with my friends because I hate my voice and no one else likes to hear it. Is there anyway to make my voice any better? I love singing but I hate my voice!

If you Google this, you will come up with an endless response:

♥[?]♥ Alright, Im 13 and a girl, I weigh 100 lbs, and I am about 5'6. My question is, am I overweight, underweight or average?

"You are emaciated. Consult your doctor or dietitian!", is what you would see if you went to http://www.am-i-fat.com and clicked on "Am I Fat?". You would see that (according to http://www.am-i-fat.com) your BMI (Body Mass Indicator, which is the percentage of your body that is made up of fat) reads 16%.

If you didn't know, "emaciated" means "wasting away". To answer your question directly, you are not overweight. You are underweight. The website is telling you to pack on some pounds, before you plummet too far down the hill.

For some tips of motivation and getting on track to a healthy weight gain, I'm suggesting the following websites to you:
- http://www.primusweb.com/fitnesspartner/library/weight/gaining.htm
- http://davedraper.com/gain-weight.html

♥[?]♥ What are some REALLY good tips on flirting? Like I want to start to make my boyfriend really interested in me. Like I already know he likes me but i want him to show he likes me. So I need tips on flirting and stuff like that. Thanks in advance! =)

♥[?]♥ can you get stds from giving oral sex? and if you do have oral sex, even if your sex partner doesnt have stds, can you still get them??

STDs are possible from oral sex, yes. However, if your partner is not infected, you will not be either. Simple as that. (:

♥[?]♥ I am 13. 128 pounds and 5'4. I want to go on a food diet, but I'm hesitant on giving up all of the foods i enjoy for a long period of time. Can anyone help me? - thanks. Jacki

You don't neccessarily have to give up all of your favorite foods. You just have to eat appropriate sized servings in moderation. That being said, you also need to establish some selfcontrol. Just take it easy on all of the extremely unhealthy foods, such as cake products, white bread [substitute it with wheat], soda, ice cream, and chips. Yes, these foods may be delicious, but they're not suitable for every day consumption. And they're most certainly not the key to weight loss. Cut back on [if not eliminate them all together], for two weeks. Challenge yourself. Prove to yourself that you CAN do this. So, accomplish a two week stand off with the sugar, and then go celebrate one night with an ice cream sundae - just keep it at an acceptable size! It's okay to treat yourself, that's exactly what you need; a system. Let this be your plan of attack!! You CAN do this.

But as you probably already know, it's best to eat several small portions a day; but this does not mean to "starve" yourself. Say, have an apple and a piece of cheese, two hours later have a few crakers, and an hour later have one piece of wheat toast, and so on and so forth, ya know??? And those are just some snack ideas. When it comes to solid meals, you don't really have to cut out much. Just take in moderation. Little intakes of food like that gives your body time to digest it properly. You see how that's better than eating one or two huge meals a day?? Because then it would take too long to catch up, and your body will not be able to burn the calories quickly enough; so it just quits, adding body fat.

You can find lists of healthy foods at:
-- http://www.fit4free.org/healthy%20foods%20list.htm
-- http://www.whfoods.com/foodstoc.php
-- http://bellaonline.com/articles/art1862.asp

Of course you must realize that weight loss takes time. I can't really say how long it will take; I suppose that differs from person to person. It really just depends on how much weight you're looking to shed. I'd say you could lose 10 to 20 pounds within the first month; that's very possible [seeing as how a good portion of that 10-20 pounds will be water weight].

You just have to stay committed, and strive to keep up the drive. Some tips: just try to keep yourself busy, and sleep as often as possible. Those things keep your mind off of food.

Sure it seems like you're giving up so much, but think about what you will be gaining if you feel better about yourself! That's the best damned grand prize you'll ever find! (=

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